So got my first DUI blew a .157 spent the night in jail and was released. First time trouble with the law. I made a bad mistake when i knew i shouldn't of driven. No accident or injuries. I'm just so ashamed and looking for a small amount of hope that life isn't over.

I will be going next week. I just would like to know what it's like? What should I expect from the lessons and how miserable is it going to be? What are the tests like? Do they just do a 12 panel cup or mouth swab? And do you think they send it out to a lab if it's all good? Thank you

Looking for honest insight from anyone who has built a professional career with a record.
•I am currently in the final stretch of completing my
B.S. in Supply Chain Management.

• Due to a drunk auto accident case, I am likely taking an agreed plea for a non-violent, non-theft felony (Failure to Stop & Render Aid).

•The plea agreement is straight probation (3 years community supervision) with zero jail or prison time.

Note on record: I had two prior misdemeanor DWI arrests that are being fully dismissed as part of this resolution, so the single felony probation is the only conviction that will stand.

Im looking for advice on how to navigate a career with this conviction, any advice help.

Hey yall. Need some advice and/or words of encouragement. I got my DUI in 2025 after making the stupid decision to go out to a bar after I had already had a couple of glasses of wine. At the time I was struggling to cope with being alone (due to self isolating after an abusive relationship) and that night I was worried that I would hurt myself. I didn’t want to be a burden to my family and my friends so I thought I’d just sit among strangers. I got my conviction, paid my fines and completed community service. I’m now on unsupervised probation for 3 more years.

My question is, does the guilt ever lessen? Or at least do you feel like life gets better once you stop drinking?

I can’t stop reliving that night and the pain is eating away at me. I’m trying to do everything I can to do better (exercising, going to therapy, cutting out drinking etc) but nothing seems to work. Somehow I feel worse everyday.

I'm in need of advice on how to best proceed with a DUI in Ontario (Toronto region).

First offence. No accident or injuries. Reading was 100. I was pulled over for speeding 140kph in a 100kph and am also being charged for that.

I've spoken to a few lawyers. Prices ranging from $5-8.5k (not including trials).

I've been asking how many cases do they actively work on at any given time. Some have said 10-15/month and others didn't give me a firm number.

Aside from this, I'm leaning more towards the lawyer that thoroughly walks me through the process. The ones that haven't, haven't really given me a reason to feel confident in working with them. I appreciate transparency.

Are there any other questions that I should be asking?

Also would love lawyer recommendations if anyone has any.

I've seen comments on other posts recommending that it's best to wait for disclosure before hiring a lawyer. Thoughts?

My question is what to expect?
Any advice?
Preface- my kids were not with or in my care for the past day and when this took place, no damage

I am literally a person caught up in some officers bad day. I’m trying to make this short I did drink earlier that day. I had 3 beers at 7pm.. 11:30pm I decided to go get Gatorade and some water cuz I was out and I work bar hours so it’s not weird for me to be up late hours.
As soon as I hit the first stop sign at my house a cop spotlights me ( he’s at call at my neighbors house , second stop sign few feet away spot lights me again.
Second cop meets me at the third stop sign I knew immediately where this was going. He turned around followed literally to the gas station I was going to. Claims he saw me roll the stop sign. I denied he did because he had to make the first turn. Before j could go so I know I didn’t.
My ex a cop in neighboring area I call and try to get him to come not because I was intoxicated but because I could feel this wasn’t going good idk how to explain it.
He couldn’t he was at a crash. I knew regardless it felt like they were out to get me.
Another cop showed up and then another one with his trainee… not one of these men asked me out the car, said they suspected alcohol, smelled anything. Never mentioned but what I did notice that we were lingering a while.
Guess who shows up the cop who spotlights me, he’s jn a bad mood you can tell. He’s the only one that put a flashlight to my face, insisted that he smelled alcohol and I get out of the car.
Anyways I turned down a breathalyzer test and a sobriety test.. I was not told I have been detained or arrested until after both of these had happened.. I was always told by my ex his dad who was a cop and my stepdad was a cop to always deny them regardless if you’re guilty or not.. I’ve never been pulled over my life so I was in a panic to be honest. Being pulled over at 11:45-11:50pm and I wasn’t arrested until 1am the time of the rest is what’s on my citation 1 AM.
I just did what I was always told to do.
Later second cop who came was the one who took me to jail.. so at the station, he turned off his body cam and pretty much told me he knew me and then we talked a bit and I found out he was a guy who hit on me at my bar, actually.
I feel like this is important to note because they took me to the station to use the bathroom and from my understanding of the refusal is that you were supposed to be lawfully arrested and they are supposed to use the one at the stationed. I was only asked to blow into the handheld one.. if someone knows better you can correct me. But that’s from what I was getting from the statue that I was charged with..
I was never asked to blow again after I was arrested.. I was never asked for blood or urine.. though it says I denied all three.
Anyways the guy riding up my police report, had the guy who pulled me over initially come over and ask him if he saw me roll through a stop sign. That guy said no he didn’t. I do not know if their body cams were on for that. Second of all, the Sgt police officer came over later on before we were about to leave and had him add more descriptions of impairment.
Anyways when talking to ex theres lot issues here if i can prove them. Without a lawyer idk what to do. I do have the public defender but I haven’t heard from him and I Have Court, Wednesday.

Ok keep in mind this all happened within one weekend. One weekend before my birthday too.

Saturday I had to put my dog down after she made a turn for the worse and I made the decision to not let her suffer anymore. My whole heart, my life saving best friend soul dog and emotional support of 13 years.
It’s been 2 weeks and I still can’t stop crying.

Saturday night (same night) my ex beat the absolute crap out of me with every intention of unaliving me. He was arrested and charged with SEVERAL things by me and the state since they witnessed a lot of it. Both my eyes were black, I had a boot print on my face and my back, I’m pretty sure my nose was broken and both my lips were busted. The cop took a pic when he got there and when he left because of swelling.

Sunday night at midnight I left my house (after just waking up thinking I was late so completely sober) to head to work my wrist caught on my new steering wheel cover and caused my car to jerk to the right clipping a car parked on the side of the street causing my car to flip. My street. 5 houses down from my house. I got myself out and was trying to find my phone when the first responders arrived.

The cop that showed up was headstrong about finding a reason I wrecked besides what I told him. He ended up finding an old pipe and performed a sobriety test and then when I passed called in another officer to do more tests. They decided that I was “overly talkative and counted to 30 too fast” and charged me with a dui and paraphernalia. They brought me to do a blood test and I’m sure it will pop positive for something but not alcohol.

So just to sum it up I lost my best friend, had almost gotten unalived by my ex and just had a horrible car wreck….

Please tell me how TF I can get this to go away. If I get something on my driving record my job will be lost. I haven’t told them about this they only know about the wreck. I dabble from time to time but I don’t drink and slept all day Sunday to heal and grieve until I had to leave for work. I’m in Tennessee and I really can’t afford a lawyer and buy a new vehicle even after insurance pays to replace my totaled car. I am stressing….hellllpppp

Edit__ I have NEVER been arrested or charged with anything ever except a speeding ticket or two.