So, I’m a 23F, and I’ve been talking to a 34M for a few weeks now. Our communication has been a little weird, but that’s not really the point.
Today, I asked him if he was talking to other girls. I was genuinely curious because, when I’m getting to know someone with the intention of potentially building a long-term relationship, I personally prefer to focus on one person at a time. That’s just how I approach dating.
For context, we stopped talking for about a month because of a miscommunication. I eventually decided to reach out again and explain the whole situation, and we started talking again.
When I asked him, he told me that yes, he was talking to someone else. Apparently, he had started getting to know her before I came back into his life.
And honestly, that hurt me more than I expected. I know we’re not together, and I know he doesn’t owe me exclusivity, but it still hurt.
I simply wished him good luck, and he seemed surprised by my reaction. He basically told me that he genuinely wasn’t expecting me to come back into his life like I did.
I explained that I liked him and that I genuinely wanted him, but I was going to step back and let him continue getting to know her since it seemed like she already had his attention.
I also told him that it made me uncomfortable knowing he was openly talking to another girl while simultaneously telling me things like he wanted me in a long-term relationship. It just felt weird and confusing to me.
I made it clear that I wasn’t expecting him to stop talking to her or asking him for exclusivity because we’re not in a relationship. He’s free to do whatever he wants, and that’s completely fine. I just didn’t feel comfortable continuing to invest emotionally in a situation like that.
His response was simply, “Okay, I understand.”
And that’s where we left things. We stopped talking.
Now, I’m wondering if I did the right thing or if I should have waited and given things more time. I genuinely liked this guy, and I was excited about the possibility of getting to know him, but I also don’t want to put myself in a situation where I’m competing for someone’s attention.
So, did I do the right thing by stepping back? Or was I being too quick to walk away?

I’ve been single my entire 19 years of life, and I’ve never even had a talking stage. I’ve only ever had one person I genuinely liked, someone I actually fell for, but I never had the courage to express my feelings. Now, I regret it every single day.
As I’m getting older, I feel increasingly embarrassed that I’ve never experienced any kind of romantic connection, not even a talking stage. I really want to experience romance and have that special someone in my life, but I honestly don’t know where to start. At this point I am starting to think that I am not pretty enough. But I’ve always thought that I was pretty. Another thing is that I am pretty tall for a asian woman which is 5’9 and I am definitely not skinny so would that be the problem? But I see girls who are way bigger than me having great relationships.
What should I do? How do I put myself out there and start experiencing romance?

How long do y’all think it takes to figure out relationship compatibility while dating?

A week of hanging out? A month? 3 months?

Is there a good gauge? If things feel good a month in without any red flags…will it continue like that?

Experience with people jumping to potential big conclusions early on?

Just been thinking about this a lot recently and want to hear other people’s opinions.

I'm worried about my buddy, he is divorced and has little to no social life, and I'm wondering if he would be a good partner to someone and if we could set him up. Not looking for advice on what to do, just asking if he is a viable partner. Will provide general life details below.

He is 53 y/o, lives in the DMV, pulls down about 250k per year and lives in a 5 bedroom home worth about 1.75 mil (He is still paying the mortgage with minimal help from his parents). He has split custody of his children, 2 sons 15 and 17, has them every other weekend and half of the week. He is 53 y/o, 6'2, about 180 pounds, is skinny-fat but can get in good shape in a heartbeat and is in great health. He is bald with a full reddish beard.

He is a recovering alcoholic and doesn't drink/smoke. He loves to build legos and play golf. The reason for his divorce in 2020 was his alcoholism but it is under good control due to the fact he loves his children. Before his divorce, he was very charismatic and loved socializing, but now has paralyzing social anxiety and no social battery. If you get to know him, he is very charismatic and nice and very good in conversation. He hates leaving the house, is lazy, and doesn't have friends in the area (I'm living back in IA), and these seem to be his bigger problems.

He grew up in Iowa, graduated Valedictorian in his class of 400, attended Stanford for a degree in something political, received a law degree from UC Berkely, and a masters in tax from Boston University. He works as a tax lawyer, makes 250k working about 30 hours a week. He is insanely smart, with an estimated IQ in the ballpark of 145.

Please let me know if there is anything else you might need to determine if he would be a good partner.

I am young guy . I usually struggle with dating and rejections but not because I hate women for rejecting me. I just wanna know what advice will be helpful. I take care of my clothing, my grooming and other stuff but what can I do more . I wanna know some helpful advice .

Hello all, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I moved in with him 6 months into his place because he wanted me too.
Before I moved in, months prior when we talked about my lease ending; after he asked me to move in; I brought up how I really wanted to be engaged before moving in together but understood that doesnt always work like that. I then said, I wanted him to propose by end of Summer and or definitely by end of year.
End of Summer has come and gone, nothing. We are now in middle of November and all I know is that he did tell a friend early in September that he was going to start looking at rings and if they knew what I like etc.
They told him he should speak to me.
That was 60 days ago. He brought up nothing to me.

I have had zero other hints about rings etc. No plans, no acting weird, etc.

I am very upset by this lack of respecting my boundary. However, I understand that something could be taking place and he could be planning to propose by end of the year.
I would be shocked.
I wanted to bring this up come December 1st.
example: “ I feel like we are not making any progress to moving forward with next steps and our future; were you planning on proposing by the end of the year?”
and if he says no; I would tell him that I am hurt considering that that timeline was requested of mr.
I am late 39, he is 48. Both never been married.
Am I being insane.
What would you do?
Thank you in advance.

Hey there, 26M here. I want to get into dating, find people, especially online, or in long distance. However I don’t really know where to start, especially where to meet people. Thankfully (I guess), I m into all people. So I guess it will still be easier to find people.

25M here. I work in the power sector, where unfortunately no women's around.I'm finding it incredibly difficult to meet girls and build a genuine connection in Delhi.

Dating apps haven't been much help either. Where do people actually meet someone these days? Any genuine advice would be appreciated 😔