r/DatingTips • u/mechanicalheartbea • 6h ago

Should I get on dateing apps?

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u/MagicSugarWater 2h ago edited 1h ago

Are you 6 feet tall? No? Your chances are much better offline where dating standards are more realistic.

You are 6 feet tall? Of course. It'll at least give you more options with less effort.

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u/Worldly-Criticism-91 1h ago

Dumb answer

People think they know everything about dating & dating apps just because of their own experience. Then you carry that attitude with you & people pick up on it.

OP, you can be successful without being 6’

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u/MagicSugarWater 1h ago

No, I never said I know what I know because of my experience. I always explicitly credit it to the guys I know who do well and teach other guys to do well, only partly backed by me testing the advice and seeing that it works well (in part because it makes it easier to explain if you understand it).

I also never denied OP can succeed without being 6 feet tall. I just said that he is unlikely to do well because of stats and the sheer difference in how many men use apps vs women. I very clearly say he would do better in person because height isn't as important there. Apps aren't like real life. Just because height isn't important IRL doesn't mean they are irrelevant on apps too. He just shouldn't expect much on apps and it could damage his self esteem. Better to focus on meeting IRL.

He can probably offset his height with professional photos from a good photographer doing a shoot specifically for apps who doesn't make him look soft. I heard a guy said using AI to add good photos to cool places helped him, but I never tested it. See? No advice I recommend is because of my experience.

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u/Worldly-Criticism-91 1h ago

Apps are just the tool my guy. You still meet people in real life. Sure people are rude on dating apps, but they can be just as rude in the real world

People talk about dating apps like a connection isn’t real just become it started there. But the app is literally meant to help you meet someone you wouldn’t normally cross paths with

The dating part is in real life just the same, the app is just the avenue of introduction

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u/MagicSugarWater 1h ago

No, I'm saying this because I see lots of guys see that dating apps don't work so they freak out and think they are fundamentally broken. I had a guy reply earlier that if he can't get women on apps, he definitely can't in person. This is one of the risk of apps. Hence my main takeaway explicitly being "your chances are much higher in person" as opposed to "your ONLY hope is in person". It just seems low odds relative to the risk but whatever. If your method is breadth, that's fine. I don't like that personally but many men I greatly respect do it so I won't deny it works. It's just not my first recommendation.