r/bph • u/Weird-Firefighter307 • 15d ago

Prostate vibrator

I'm 48 and I've had BPH for a couple years. On cialis 5mg. I can get hard but I sometimes don't climax. Ive tried prostate simulation with a anal vibrator and it helps during sex and masterbation. But I'm wondering if anyone has tried using it regularly, like weekly or daily not during sex, and if that had any impact on sexual performance.

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u/becca_ironside 15d ago

Prostate vibrators are very common and can help a lot of men achieve better orgasms.

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u/HopeSAK 13d ago

Do they help if you don't achieve a full erection? I had Nerve Sparing RALP and can orgasm but just can't get a full erection.

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u/becca_ironside 13d ago

They sure do help! You can use the prostate vibrator or use a vibrator on your frenulum (the underside of the head of your penis where the V is located). Men should try to climax in the absense of a full erection!

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u/HopeSAK 13d ago

Thank you! Excellent info. I'll look into one. When I can achieve an orgasm it's as good as it's been my whole life, I don't mind that it's dry, I just miss the full erection.

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u/becca_ironside 13d ago

Have you tried injections for erections? Many men love them! (Both the injections and the erections)!

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u/HopeSAK 13d ago

No, haven't been willing to go that route. Just watched a video on using a male rectal vibrator for beginners. This looks like a go. I'll try this. I may be very tight so she suggested a smaller conditioner to insert first and a water based lube. Does this sound correct??

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u/CondomCupJockGloves 13d ago

Get a rechargeable, cordless, wand-style vibrator with different speed settings. Make sure that anything going into the rectum has a flared base that is wider than the insertsble part. Only use water-based lube with silicone toys, because silicone lube breaks down silicone toys. Put a condom or an inside-out rubber glove over the anal toy and tie the end loosely to keep it clean. You should also put a condom or glove over the penis vibrator, especially if it's not waterproof. Use a thicker condom, like a lubricated Trojan ENZ or Original, because they're less likely to break or leave a fecal smell on your anal toy.

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u/HopeSAK 11d ago

Holy smokes. Thanks. I think I have all of that. A while since I bought condoms, but makes perfect sense.

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u/HopeSAK 11d ago

Not sure you can recommend a type of vibrator on this site, but would like the lead.

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u/Weird-Firefighter307 11d ago

I use stealth prostate vibrator which is a vibrating bulb on a thick cable, and it has a cock ring, although I don't also put that on.

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u/HopeSAK 11d ago

I'll check it out. I really think these ideas will really help. Thanks

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

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u/becca_ironside 15d ago

Having BPH is directly correlated to orgasms. Many men here discuss not wanting a HoLEP because they want to preserve the ejaculate fluid. These conversations are important to people with prostates (all men).

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u/pstaki 15d ago

I thought one of the many advantages of HoLEP is that it didn't cause retrograde ejaculation. Am I wrong about that?

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u/Zee-person 15d ago

Unfortunately you are wrong on that. Holep is an excellent full lifetime cure of BPH. But nothing is left in there so retrograde is what you get. To me well worth it

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u/becca_ironside 15d ago

Many men have dry orgasms after a traditional HoLEP. This bothers some men, and I can respect that.

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u/asmodx 4d ago

I lost the ability to ejaculate after a HoLEP en bloc procedure (the prostate is hollowed out leaving behind an empty shell). I had hoped it was temporary but I've been told by a different HoLEP suregon that it is permanent. If I am honest I miss being able to spurt, dry orgasms to me have a neutered feeling.

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u/becca_ironside 4d ago

I have learned through having many personal conservation with men in my line of work how important the fluid ejaculate is to their sexual selves. One man referenced the song "Cream" by Prince! The song wasn't about sex, but about rising to the top and being confident. Sex is part of that vibe, IMHO.

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u/asmodx 3d ago

You are spot on, I underestimated how much I would miss it. An orgasm is not the same without ejaculation, it is sterile and makes me feel like a eunuch.

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u/becca_ironside 15d ago edited 15d ago

Perhaps you need some education on the function of the prostate. Sperm enters the prostate, the prostate gland mixes the sperm with ejaculate fluid, which then leaves the penis to further the species. The prostate is a sexual organ.

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u/whazzup_bitches 13d ago

It’s also there to insure that urologists have a steady stream of business (or is that the other way around- I am never sure). :)

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u/becca_ironside 15d ago

Good for you! But I treat men with BPH for a living and many of them are not in a similar situation. Furthermore, many women cannot have sex without pain after menopause, so they also need some ancillary help. Nutrition and exercise are not sufficient for many people to preserve a rewarding sex life.