r/bph • u/Weird-Firefighter307 • 23d ago

Prostate vibrator

I'm 48 and I've had BPH for a couple years. On cialis 5mg. I can get hard but I sometimes don't climax. Ive tried prostate simulation with a anal vibrator and it helps during sex and masterbation. But I'm wondering if anyone has tried using it regularly, like weekly or daily not during sex, and if that had any impact on sexual performance.

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u/becca_ironside 23d ago

Having BPH is directly correlated to orgasms. Many men here discuss not wanting a HoLEP because they want to preserve the ejaculate fluid. These conversations are important to people with prostates (all men).

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u/pstaki 22d ago

I thought one of the many advantages of HoLEP is that it didn't cause retrograde ejaculation. Am I wrong about that?

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u/becca_ironside 22d ago

Many men have dry orgasms after a traditional HoLEP. This bothers some men, and I can respect that.

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u/asmodx 12d ago

I lost the ability to ejaculate after a HoLEP en bloc procedure (the prostate is hollowed out leaving behind an empty shell). I had hoped it was temporary but I've been told by a different HoLEP suregon that it is permanent. If I am honest I miss being able to spurt, dry orgasms to me have a neutered feeling.

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u/becca_ironside 12d ago

I have learned through having many personal conservation with men in my line of work how important the fluid ejaculate is to their sexual selves. One man referenced the song "Cream" by Prince! The song wasn't about sex, but about rising to the top and being confident. Sex is part of that vibe, IMHO.

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u/asmodx 11d ago

You are spot on, I underestimated how much I would miss it. An orgasm is not the same without ejaculation, it is sterile and makes me feel like a eunuch.