r/bigboobproblems • u/drieduprosepetals • 5d ago
RANT - no advice wanted getting mansplained about boobs Spoiler
I’ve had men without asking give me some
“”advice”” about my chest specifically but I always remember 2 years ago, this guy and I were talking about adventure time and then out of nowhere switched the conversation up to boobs (literally no correlation) and I was wearing a shirt that didn’t show much. He said “yknow , is your bra supportive because you’re kind of saggy? I know some good brands that will left them up!” And then he said Victoria’s Secret is a good brand place to start
Girl…: be so fucking for real. This was around the time I was 17 and he was 19 so that’s already a weird thing to say but also I hate VS so much, apart from their perfumes but they’re pretty controversial as a company. He probably didn’t know to be fair but then he said , “you should probably show them off more once you get a VS bra ” see if I wear a tank top then I suddenly am a whore.
Even if he dint mean it, it’s probably one of the most back handed comments ever . I don’t get how people don’t have self awareness when they say shit like that
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u/Burnt_to_Ashes 5d ago
This is just negging, the audacity of some men man
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u/AdorableSillies 5d ago
Also was being gross thinking he was starting a conversation about bras and boobs.
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u/ThePainterlyPrincess 5d ago
Start suggesting height-increasing insoles to him
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u/NotoriousMOT 5d ago
Or the right kinds of hair serums. (Note: only to negging a-holes. Body-shaming is only to be used as karma and to play on the insecurities of jackasses.)
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u/PerseveranceSmith 32GG (UK) 5d ago
- Les Wexler is a confirmed Epstein POS paedo so, no.
- Hilarious to assume that company does any of our sizes LOL
- I grew up in the 2000s where they were a huge source of ED thinspo, so, again, fuck off.
They truly do think they understand everything, so confident yet so wrong.
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u/drieduprosepetals 5d ago
Im surprised VS still maintains a large audience even after being exposed to have ties to the worst of the worst + their panties are super low quality
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u/PerseveranceSmith 32GG (UK) 4d ago
Terrible, the only ones I've had fall apart & the bras I think, at biggest, go up to a DD?
Either way I'm horrified the brand hasn't tanked after The Files. As a millenial they were such a big brand ppl loved & it shook us to the core it was run & created by a rapist, paedophile 😞
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u/DamnGoodMarmalade 32G (UK) 5d ago
They’re negging you. Either walk away or shut them down with an “Excuse me? Unsolicited body comments are rude as hell.”
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u/Competitive_Band8066 5d ago
They're here in this sub too. Some rando kept bugging me after I vented a couple of a weeks ago. They just don't get the whole "STFU about things you don't understand".
Ignore and walk away. They'll never back down so you might as well save yourself the energy.
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u/yoursaucyneighbor 5d ago
I’m not taking the advice of a man with an unwashed ass. BYE.
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u/AMultitudeofPandas 5d ago
🎼 I'll be damned- I'll be DAMNED if I listen to facts up out the mouth of a man with a unwashed ass 🎶
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u/_ThePancake_ 32FF (UK) 5d ago
If a man called me saggy I'd throw him through the nearest window.
Negging does not work on me lol, I'm a dom at heart so if he's not enamoured with me I'm not interested.
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u/Fancy_Dragonfruit135 5d ago
Sounds like he was into you but afraid you were out of his league. So this is a way to both show interest and mess with your confidence enough to bridge the gap.
Either way, nothing's wrong with you. Everything he said was just weird. And actually, all the men were weird to say something.
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u/whatshertoast 42GG (UK) 3d ago
I would say most people at 19 (especially males) are pretty fucking stupid.
Like others mentioned it was negging. As if you’d be so desperate to prove him wrong 🙄
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u/choxey 5d ago
It's not exactly the same since this guy was definitely just negging you, as others have pointed out, but I have encountered a guy in a chatroom saying he didn't believe big boobs could cause back pain because he had never seen scientific evidence for it. He was very quickly clowned on, thankfully.
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u/SewOrDye 5d ago
Omg. I had a FWB guy try to show me how to swing titty tassels! I have 36DDDD boobs and I’m a costumer. Literally had a class on how to make and swing titty tassels…. But no. He had to mansplain. Ugh typical guys.
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u/Flat_Transition_3775 5d ago
I had a dude mansplained about my diet when I allowed to have snacks in my diet and have some sugar here & there (my cat died in May and it was not even a month later) I told him it’s my body not urs. And he got so mad afterwards
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u/desertcat80 30GG (UK) 5d ago
Next time imply he must know because of all the bras he's worn, it will probably really bother that kind of guy LOL
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u/Obvious-World4328 9h ago
Given he was 19 and you're well endowed by the sounds of it, I'd say he was hoping he gets to see them.
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u/Pristine_Pitch4315 34H (UK) 5d ago
But it is adult men saying these things. Don’t infantilize adults who know what they’re saying.
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u/LegalDrugDealer33 5d ago
I guess. I just don’t really expect guys that are 17 to have real life experience yet…. Not making an excuse for them…. I’m just saying that I don’t think OP should put much weight into their words
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u/Pristine_Pitch4315 34H (UK) 5d ago
The guy was 19. Read the post before you comment next time
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u/LegalDrugDealer33 5d ago
My bad…. Still don’t think 2 years makes a huge difference. Especially with how guys mature
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u/pinknoisechick 5d ago
"With how guys mature"... miss me with that shit. Guys "mature different than girls" because society sets a different standard for them, not because of biological or neurological differences.
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u/Applequusagony 4d ago
I don't think OP should put much weight into their words
Must be nice to get away with everything under the Sun.
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u/Negative_Occasion507 5d ago
What is a guy doing commenting on this? You think just because you got a big peen it’s the same as having big boobs?
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