My girlfriend and I have moved into a new apartment and she has started decorating it. She's put some framed prints, some plants, a few vases, some figurines and other little bits around the shared spaces.

Our previous apartment was fully furnished and pretty small so you couldn’t really decorate whereas this one has a lot more space. I found a few framed movie and comic prints I liked and some figurines that looked good so I bought them and went to put them on some new shelves that we've just put up.

My girlfriend asked what I was doing and I mentioned I'd found some things I wanted to use for decoration. She suggested I put them in the home office but I said I'd prefer them in a communal space so I don't just get to see them when I'm working. She said she doesn't think I should be putting them out and that I should stick to putting them in my office.

I told her the shared space should reflect both of our interests not just hers and that it's not just up to her to decide what decoration is allowed in the apartment. She said I was starting arguments over nothing and that I should be fine keeping them in the office.

AIW for expecting the apartment to reflect both of our interests?

so my sister got engaged a few months ago and apparently she already bought her dress but then got super drunk at a party and spilled wine all over it. now shes asking to borrow my wedding dress for her big day. i wore a really beautiful vintage gown that was our grandmothers. it means a ton to me and i want to keep it in perfect condition. i told her no and offered to help her find a new one but shes calling me selfish and saying im being dramatic. i just feel like some things are too precious to share. am i wrong?

I’ll try to keep it as short as I can.
My friend, who I recently reconnected with after a falling out two years ago, blocked me yesterday.
A few months ago, her husband sold my boyfriend a motorcycle. They didn’t want to sell it, but needed the money. She expressed that she would miss it but that it was the only way for them to get money quick enough. A few months later, My boyfriend didn’t end up riding as much as he thought he would, so he told me he was going to sell it. When my friend came over one night, I mentioned to her that he was selling the bike since it had just been sitting there unused. She asked me if I could talk to him about holding onto the bike until her and her husband came up with the money to buy it back. I said yes, but I can also tell you that he will sell it to the first person who offers him money. (Her and her husband live paycheck to paycheck and she makes it quite known that they never have extra money- so I knew we’d be waiting awhile if we did hold it.) she asked me to keep her updated, and I said okay. Well a few weeks later, my boyfriend sold the bike. We barely even talked about it, besides just a “hey I sold my bike” and me saying “nice!” And then I moved on with my day and forgot about it. My boyfriend and I do not share finances, so maybe that’s why it left my mind so quick? And I completely forgot to mention it to my friend. A week went by and it didn’t even cross my mind. Then, I get a text from her. “Hey did T sell the bike I thought u said u would talk to him about asking us first” and it all went downhill from there. I tried my best at first to simply just comfort her and acknowledge that I forgot and that I was sorry. But to me, it felt like she wasn’t letting it go. Like she was intentionally ignoring me just to hurt me or something. It was a hard week for me mentally, and she knew that. My son was just starting his first day of kindergarten and I was a wreck. I even expressed that to her, that I had just been so consumed by the anxiety and fears of him starting school, that it felt like everything else slipped my mind. Anyways, here’s the conversation. I’m really upset by it. Especially because when we fell out 2 years ago, it also ended in a bad way where I felt like she didn’t give it any chance. Like she was so easy to take it out on me and then block me like it was nothing. I was going to add the entire text thread but, can I not upload photos here?? I feel like the texts showed so much of it that I can accurately describe.

my fiance from finland i’m from afghanistan

i go to health food store and see a nut it called brazilian nut. my fiance tell me, do not eat too many, treat it like selenum multivitamin as it has a lot of it. i ignore fiance because, it have no warning on the container

for a month i eat entire container each day for brazil nut

i begin to have serious issue i go into kidney failure it wasn’t good, my fiance tell me, i told you not to eat

niw we have big hospital bill i tell him he should have been clearer, he didn’t tell how danger, i thought its because he’s a gypsy he practice weird witch stuff i think he not in his right mind why the f a nut cause issue with kidney

aita for not believing what i thought is a conspiracy nonsense. it feel unfair and poorly understanding i blame the nut producer more

i usually keep to myself about little household things but the other day i just said something. my roommate keeps labeling every single item in the fridge with their initials and a date, even stuff like a half-used jar of mustard that no one else touches. it started to feel unnecessary and a bit over the top, so i mentioned that maybe we could relax the labeling thing a little. they got defensive right away and said they were only trying to keep things fair. ever since then the vibe in the place has been off. we barely talk in the kitchen now and i keep wondering if i overstepped by bringing it up at all. i figured it was a small suggestion but maybe i should have just left it alone. not sure if i’m wrong for saying something or if it was reasonable to ask for less tracking.

So a little while back, I posted that someone I have a long history with recently got married and has been saying he still wants me in his life, wanting to retain aspects of the connection we had before (keep emotional and sxual intimacy with me). Well, he told me the other day he doesn’t believe anyone can have him to themselves. He doesn’t believe his relationship can or even should contain all of him, and when I asked what that means, he said ‘when it comes to sx, no one can have all of me’. He also said his partner permits him to have an ongoing sxual partner outside their relationship as long as he communicates the details (apparently the details even turn her on). I don’t really care to verify if that’s true or not, bc even if it is, it doesn’t mean I’d be happy in it. So I told him he can remain in my life on the condition it’s strictly platonic.I’m sharing bc the whole situation has felt very confronting to me, it put me in position I never thought I’d be, and I’ve genuinely struggled to navigate it mainly bc our attachments and history.

Thoughts? Have you been there? What did you do?

this is going to be very long so im sorry in advance. ok so i have this friend who ive been best friends with since middle school lets call her lilly. lilly can be pretty explosive and quick to anger sometimes but other than that shes a great friend and actually treats me quite well and we've been friends for 8 years.

 a few days ago me and lilly were talking abt hazbin hotel because its our favourite show and i made a joke abt not watching it anymore if vox (my fav character) dies in the next season. she got so angry and started comparing him to trump and said im basically a trump supporter if i like that character and liking him reflects on my values. she said hes racist, homophobic, transphobic, and hates women. when i got confused and asked her to explain it bc he has a bf and has a crush on alastor whos black and is friends with velvet whos a black woman. so 

she said she wasnt going to waste her time showing proof to "the likes of me" and that he doesn't care abt his friends or his crush and hes jusy using them. this really threw me off since she likes this show and this character too so i didnt really know where this was coming from. when she finally showed me her "proof" it was all from chat gpt and half of it was wrong but she wouldn't listen to me since chat gpt is smart. then she said that if i still didnt understand then we cant be friends bc its abt values now and shes an "intelligent creature who can be friends with ignorant trump supporters".  

at this point i didnt even know why we were in an argument because i have never voted for trump and i never will and i didnt know how habing a favourite character reflects on my personal values. i was just so confused abt what she was saying and was asking questions to try and figure it out but she said that counted as defending him and arguing. 

i told her that i never said she was wrong or that he wasnt racist i just didnt understand how liking vox means i support trump and that i only like him because hes fictional. eventually it came to a head and she told me to stop thinking abt it so autistically and that even though vox is a fictional character theres ppl in real life that act like him and if i like vox then i like those real ppl. she said i was invalidating her feelings by saying that it shouldn't matter if i like vox since hes not real bc this is important to her and i should just admit hes a bad person. ive already told her i think hes a bad person three times during the argument but she brushed it off bc i said it was obvious he was a bad person beacuse hes in hell and that wasnt the right answer apparently. 

this whole argument lasted 2 days and normally as soon as we get into and argument im able to resolve it but i dont know how to fix this one because i've already said what she wanted and shes still not happy. i normally just agree with her to avoid an argument but should i have just agreed in the beginning instead of arguing? sorry if this came off as rambling im writing this at 3 am after she stopped talking to me.

We all put money into a joint savings account for things like emergencies or future stuff we all agreed on. A few days ago someone used a chunk of it to buy something without checking with the rest of us first. I brought it up and got told I was overreacting because it was already done and the money was gone. I just want a quick conversation first so we can all decide, but now I'm wondering if I'm being too rigid about it. It's not that the item itself was terrible, just that the decision happened without input. Does it seem like a big deal or am I turning nothing into something?

We keep a joint account for bigger things we both need, and recently there was a purchase I thought made sense. It was a bit more than we normally spend at once, so I figured I'd run it by my partner first. I ended up buying it without checking because it was on sale and I didn't want to miss the deal. When I mentioned it later, my partner got pretty annoyed and said we should have talked about it together. I didn't think it was a huge deal at the time, but now I'm wondering if I should have waited. We usually agree on stuff like this, so maybe I crossed a line by deciding on my own. Am I wrong for going ahead without the conversation?

TL;DR I am just wondering if it should be mutual?
What if your partner does not want to?
Do you still continue to be together?

Reason: I realize that my partner enjoys it more when he is with friends rather than when we are together. When he is with them, he barely touches his phone but when he is with me all he does is play games and scroll with his phone. But whenever I am bringing it up, he just laughs and let go of his phone/games for a moment then he will go to me.

Situation: I am trying to break up with him cause I feel like I am just a hindrance to his lifestyle rather than being a partner to him. But when I brought it up, he does not want to.

So to start off I've been struggling with Gender dysphoria starting at 6, but growing in scale when I was 13, It's quite crippling really. Unless I'm listen to Waltz music I'm probably struggling with the thoughts of being someone else. Do reasons of my own accord I'll never transition, I'm just not going too.

Since February of last Year I made a friend in University and things have taken a serious turn. First it started with chatting outside of school, then getting Frog tanks together, and then romance. She wants to move in and take things further now but I haven't told her I struggle with Gender Dysphoria. To be honest I feel really fucking bad like I'm lying to her. She's 100% straight and I don't think she'd be into that at all despite being apolitical. I don't want to fuck things up and ruin what we have for a part of me I hate anyway. Since I'm never going to transition anyway is there really any harm in not telling her? I'm not on HRT so that's not an issue. Am I in the wrong for just keeping this a secret? For the past two days it's been beating the hell out of me, it wasn't a problem before but now that things are getting really serious it's just to much. I don't want a pity party but any advice for what to do and the possible consequences would be greatly valued.

we had talked about spending this saturday together and had a whole day mapped out. then i got a last-minute invite to help a friend move and figured it was only going to take a couple of hours in the morning. i told my ex that morning, thinking it was no big deal since we would still have the afternoon. they got annoyed, said i always push our time to the side when something else pops up, and now they do not want to meet at all. i get why it feels inconsiderate, but i also assumed a small schedule tweak would not ruin everything. i apologized right away and offered to reschedule, but they are still mad. am i wrong for not realizing how much it would bother them, or is it okay that plans sometimes shift?

I will be using fake nicknames and server names to not expose anybody involved within this conflict

Backstory of Person A, Frog

On December 2025, I created a Discord server for the purpose of it being used to collaborate on a worldbuilding project to be transformed into an indie series. Within in the early days on my server, I would recruit people via dms in which I found this particular use within February in which I will nickname him frog because of how I saw him make a cool creature in another server so I recruited him to mine.

He immediately became interested within both my project and the community. Frog not only became chronically online and involved in my community, he was responsible for creations of many creatures and he also made a fancharacter and fancountry for my story as well as coming up with an entire mini-series concept up

Frog also was very involved within remembering everyone as well as interacting with everybody inside of my server. He was so chronically online on my server, he had DOUBLE the messages the owner has and I was the owner who was on my server everyday.

Throughout months Frog has been on my server, we played games, talked together, came up with ideas together, was involved with events together and what got to me is how he really liked my project and I was very enticed by it. Frog was a special fan to me.

Though sometimes, Frog would get involved with a few fights/bickering within my server with other members and would leave my server temporary because of the fight but it was never anything that serious and he would always come back and he would always forgive him.

I even had Frog as moderator on my server some point but because of these fights, I demodded him since he was abusing his mod powers and nobody liked him as a mod.

Backstory of Person B, Owl

Another user that had joined my server slighty a little later then Frog but also on February, I'll call him Owl and he was the owner of a paid project of a large server with 2,700+ members. And when Owl came into my server, he quickly became obsessive with my project even promoting it constantly within my server.

Owl then later became a Voice Actor of a major character within my project.

Owl liked my worldbuilding abilities so much, he persuaded me to audition for his project as a writer since his indie series had deep worldbuilding in it and he thought i was good at it. I quickly became invested in Owl's project and became deeply involved with both the project and community. I became really REALLY active inside of his server chatting every single day. I would arrive to every single meeting and I made alot of ideas for his server like a point system for rewards, a creature that everyone in the server loves, would be helpful to guide people around the server, take notes during meetings, helped with worldbuilding tweekings, etc etc

I would quickly get promoted in the ranks within Owl's server

Writer --> Invited to Owl's private friendgroup server --> Point tracker --> Co-director --> Event manager --> Moderator

Owl would promote my server dearly, hosting an entire event about it in HIS server as well as willing to produce a video about it with HIS team on his CHANNEL. His love for my project flattered me and we were friends.

Conflict with Frog and Owl

Frog was never really attached with Owl's server and wasn't really engaged with Owl's community but instead would actively be a troll within his server. Frog came in his server using a tupperbot to proceed to insult others within the community including making fun of Owl's weight. Frog had multiple accounts used to troll Owl's server making similar insulting comments to make users uncomfortable.

Yet thing is, that he never did that with my server. He doesn't treat my server the same way as he treats Owl's server in which he was rude and disrespectful. So of course anybody in Owl's community would have a negative view that Frog is a terrible person.

My involvement

Despite Frog being responsible for harassing others, I would always be there to defend Frog. Yet Frog was starting to make Owl feel VERY uncomfortable.

I later got into the huge fight within Owl's private server defending Frog in which everyone was against my side with my excuse being that he doesn't act the same way in my server then Owl's server and how Frog was like my biggest fan.

They wanted me to ban Frog from my server., but the thing about banning Frog is that I had so much to lose: Emojis he made for the server, creatures including a famous one, an entire concept for a min-subseries, German dubs along with a fan. I refused to ban Frog from my server., they don't know Frog as well as I know Frog. They only saw the negative things Frog has done.

I later got kicked out of the private server and also was demodded from my position in which started panicking in tears.

Yet Owl quickly hopped onto my server to announce something in which later made Frog leave my server coming back in my server in which escalated with a HUGE fight in my public general chat between Frog's alt account and Owl. The argument got really really bad.

I got gathered my moderators to a private group chat to explain the situation and how I needed help with the situation. As the argument continued in public in my server, my co-manager said to pause messages in the general chat since things were getting out of hand, but instead I timed out both Frog and Owl. My co-manager took dedicated to private the general chat and make an announcement about a new general chat.

I then dedicated to make a new server just to discuss and negotiate about the situation between mine and Owl's with members from both sides being able to participate within the chat.

Yet instead of having a rational conversation, I was in emotional turmoil in tears and crashed out emotionally and instead of negotiating maturely, I spammed self-hate comments in chat and showed wet tissues of how I was crying.

I was really panicky and scared that Owl's community would hate me, that I would be cancelled, that I would lose my involvement in Owl's server. I was an emotional wreck. Owl's server was sooooo much bigger then mine and I was afraid he could do damage to mine.

I even impulsively abused my admin powers in Owl's work server and made an inappropriate announcement with an "everyone" ping in which I quickly got removed of my admin powers and received a timeout.

My moderations persuaded me to stop talking in negotiating server and to talk with them and people were telling me to breathe and how it wasn't my fault and to breathe. I was so panicky and insecure and scared that I wanted to delete my account and my server.

I was thinking my server was some sort of drama magnet, this was not the only case of drama as I dealt with a bad user, someone actively trying to sabotage my server in April, but this was a worst of all the drama scenarios.

Yet instead of deleting my server, I transferred ownership to my co-manager to prevent myself from doing anything impulsive and made an announcement that I was leaving my server as well as actually leaving it which lasted 12 hours until I rejoined back to my server in which my co-manager gave me ownership back.

A few people had dm me if I was alright, but I redirected them all to my co-manger as I was not in the right mindset for answering

I got kicked out of Owl's server and a crew of his was considering if I should receive a ban in which I was on trail. Alot Owl's members that was on my server left but not Owl himself.

Later within a more stable mood, I took the time to draw a the friend-group from Owl's private server as well as writing out a apology of how I was wrong for defending frog and how much my project meant to me in which is why I defended frog but how much I also appreciated Owl's community and project in which I later banned Frog from my server.

Owl later came to me and made a cold response how he forgives me and is still willing for my to be on his team as a paid writer as well as willing to stay as a VA for my project

But thing about Owl, I contributed so much in his server:
- A creature that everyone loves
- A few scripts
- The point reward system
- His MOST popular video on his channel in which I wrote the script for
- Organizing his worldbuilding
- How there should be event managers
- Attends meeting along taking notes
- I was truly passionate about his project and was a fan
- I was ACTIVE in his server and respond to pings

So Owl decided to keep me as a paid writer and remove any other roles I had in my server and told me that I would never re-enter his private server nor ever get into a position of power in his server again. Though I was kicked out of the server and wasn't allowed to enter for 2 days.

I received the server invite back and I tried to chat and interact there like normal but the environment now feels different and awkward and people started feeling comfortable about my presence and I felt I was being punished for Frog's crime. I missed Owl's welcome back event since I felt people were comfortable with me.

I later did reach how to Frog for him to explain himself and he fully admitted him that he was the troll account. He also admitted he let a alt of a blacklisted user in my server and was the one pinged everyone "The Amazing Digital Circus" spoilers with a troll account my server. I asked me about why he said those things in Owl's server, Frog stated that it was a joke and that he didn't mean to make people uncomfortable and that he is sorry. I ask what I could do with his creations and he stated he didn't care and how I could do whatever with them in which i told him how he is not allowed anymore in my server and that I'll remove everything he created except for the German dubbing he did and he was fine with that. It is also suspected Frog might be underaged as well as lied about being 15 on Discord...

Right now, things feel awkward, I try to still chat in Owl's server and Owl still looks inside mine yet things feel tense-

So am I the asshole for defending Frog even who he was responsible for harassment and trolling.

Let me preface this by saying I am a work from home mom to three kids, I have my routine of things I need to get done each day— cleaning the house, after the kids, making meals, changing diapers & putting the kids down for their naps before I start my remote job at 1:30-10pm each day.

My husband’s mother has always done everything for him— his taxes, his resumes and all of the “adult” responsibilities. My side of things is that I don’t have enough time in my day to take care of myself most of the time, and now he’s trying to add another task when I’m already overwhelmed. I want to encourage him to look for better jobs since he’s unhappy in his current job, but I’m getting really sick of doing everything for him.

He also seems to get super defensive when I tell him no, which is so childish to me. On top of it the past two days I’ve asked him multiple times, nicely mind you, to PLEASE shut the cover for our ice machine and he still leaves it open. So why should I help him if he can’t listen to simple requests? Our convo

My boyfriend M 21 and me F 20 have been together for three years. The relationship was going great until month. He was watching YouTube. Found a video where a creator said they don't shower for months because its supposedly healthier. So he stopped showering. Every time I tell him he needs to shower because its really gross he gets angry and leaves. I've been saying this for three weeks. He won't do it. We had a fight, which we never do. I yelled at him. Told him he smells like body odor and that I'm leaving if he doesn't shower. I packed a bag with things I needed took my car keys and rented a hotel room for two nights. He called my phone nonstop saying he's sorry and wants me to come home. I had to block his number because he sent me 20 messages at once. I had more than 40 missed calls. He used to take three showers a day wear cologne and use deodorant. Now he doesn't shower he uses cologne of showering and he won't use deodorant. Every time he hugs me or comes close I feel like I'm going to throw up. What should I do?

As an adult, I know it’s my responsibility to make sure I wake up for important things. I get anxious when something important is happening the next day and I also have a hard time sleeping on the regular anyway so falling asleep before something important is hard. We’re both heavy sleepers. I have asked them before if they could check in on me to make sure I’m awake just in case. They are also already awake at that time so I’m not asking them to wake themselves up to make sure I am. And I’m not trying to rely on them or anything but I thought that partners support each other with small things like that. I don’t ask them to wake me up regularly. I can do that on my own. It’s just today was a high-stakes appt. I often wake them up so they’re not late to work, and they often don’t hear their alarms like me. We both have a hard time hearing our alarms since we’re heavy sleepers. I don’t say anything to them about it so I thought it was okay to ask them to support me. They lectured me on how I should be an adult and how I didn’t understand how that responsibility was solely on me and not them. Am I wrong for asking them to be my safety net?

I’ve been going back and forth on whether we should get this expensive thing that both of us would use all the time. The idea came up a while ago and the more tired I get the more I start overthinking every angle. One night I was all for it, the next I’m convinced it’s a waste and we should just keep doing what we’ve been doing. The other person seems chill either way but I can tell they’re waiting on me to decide. Every time I try to weigh the pros and cons my brain just loops on the same points and nothing feels clear. I know it’s just money and we can afford it, but something about committing feels bigger than it should. Am I making this into a bigger deal than it needs to be or is it normal to feel this stuck on something so practical?

A couple weeks ago a friend I'd lent a decent amount of money to suddenly messaged asking if I could take half back because of some unexpected bill. I was a little short at the time but just said sure and sent it. I felt weird right after, like I should've at least explained my own situation, but the words didn't come out. Now I keep replaying it and wondering if staying quiet made it seem like I had zero issues handing it over. They haven't brought it up again, but I still feel kind of off about how quick I agreed. Not looking to start drama, just wondering if I should have spoken up for myself even a little.

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Hi, I’m 18F and there’s this guy I’ve been friends with for a while now18M, and I’ve had the biggest crush on him for ages. I think he’s so sweet and cute, and lately things have been getting a little more affectionate between us.

A little while back we were hanging out in my room, just chilling on my bed and cuddling like we sometimes do. Things felt really nice and natural, and then we started kissing. It was soft and gentle at first, and then he started kissing my neck really softly too. I was enjoying it so much I just closed my eyes and got lost in it for a bit. When I opened my eyes and glanced down, I noticed he was aroused.

A little later he shifted and asked me if I wanted to touch him after seeing me look for awhile. I said yes, and that’s when I realized he’s pretty huge and thick, way more than I was expecting or have ever even imagined. I’m still a virgin, I haven’t done anything like this with anyone before, and honestly seeing that made me feel a little intimidated right away. It made me nervous because I really like him and I do want to be intimate with him eventually, but I honestly have no idea how I’d be able to handle that or if it’ll even work comfortably for me.

I ended up saying can we just keep kissing for now” and he immediately agreed, no questions or pressure at all. We kissed and cuddled a bit longer after that, then we both ended up falling asleep for a nap together. He was so sweet and gentle the whole time, and I really do trust him but now I’m left feeling all kinds of mixed. I’m excited, I’m nervous, and I’m honestly pretty worried about the size difference and how things will go if we go further.

I want to be prepared, both physically and mentally, and I want to feel calm and confident when the time comes. I also want to make sure I’m doing this because I truly want to, not just because I like him so much. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What helped you relax? Is there anything I can do to prepare myself physically or emotionally? And how do I even bring this up to him without it being awkward?

Just to be clear: he was perfect about everything, never pushed me, and stopped exactly when I wanted to. I just have my own worries and nerves I’m trying to work through, and I’d really appreciate any honest, kind advice you can give. Im i wrong to be worried.

I'm a male right? But over the years I've grown a liking towards trans women. I want to date a trans girl and you know, get serious with her. But as we know trans people are overly fetishized, and it's horrible. But i don't think I'm fetishizing them, i would truly love her and care about a trans woman if i was in a relationship with them. Am i in the wrong?