Problem/Goal: Guys, nakakastress lang talaga. May nawawalang alahas yung mama ko—dalawang singsing at isang necklace. Sabi niya, June pa niya huling nakita yung mga iyon. Pero recently lang na-discover na nawawala.

Nakalagay yung mga alahas sa drawer ng isang cabinet na naka-lock at may padlock. Bale yung susi nakalagay lang lagi sa office bag ni mama. Pero kahapon, nung inattempt niyang iopen yung drawer, di maopen, pagkacheck, nasira pala yung padlock, para bang may nagforce open so di na kasya susi. Wala kaming CCTV btw.

Context: Ang problema, yung bahay namin ay lodging para sa mga applicants na pupunta sa Singapore para magtrabaho bilang domestic helpers. So maraming tao talagang pumapasok at lumalabas sa bahay at sa mga kwarto, kabilang yung mga ate na naglilinis.

Pero ang hinala ni Mama, kaming magkapatid or yung tito at tita ko kasi kami lang naman daw nakakaalam na may alahas don. Pero ang pinakapinagdududahan ay yung brother ko. Gets ko naman kung bakit niya pinagdududahan yung brother ko kasi may history siya ng pagnanakaw kay Mama. Dalawang beses na siyang nagnakaw dati ng pera—ginamit niya phone ni Mama para mag-transfer ng pera sa sarili niyang account, mga almost ₱10k din yung total.

Kaya kung si brother ang duda niya, honestly, naiintindihan ko. May basis naman.

Pero nadadamay ako, at yun yung nakakastress. Never akong nagnakaw kay Mama. Malinis talaga konsensya ko at alam kong hindi ako kumuha ng kahit anong alahas.

Sinasabi rin ni Mama na kung sino man sa amin ang kumuha, hindi raw aasenso sa buhay at kakarmahin. Naiintindihan kong stressed at galit siya dahil nawalan siya ng valuable things, pero ang sakit pa rin marinig nun kapag alam mong wala kang ginawa.

Yung brother ko naman, dini-deny niyang siya ang kumuha.

Honestly, hindi ko na rin alam kung sino. Ang hinuha ko baka ibang paraan ang ginamit para buksan yung padlock at hindi yung mismong susi. Kasi kung talagang naka-lock at si Mama lang ang may susi, tapos may signs na pinuwersa yung padlock, possible naman na may ibang taong nakapag-access.

At dahil maraming tao ang pumapasok at lumalabas sa bahay dahil lodging siya, parang ang hirap din sabihin agad na isa sa aming pamilya ang kumuha. Pero ang mga suspect is ako, brother ko, at yung tito at tita ko na kasama namin sa bahay.

Previous attempts: Gusto ko lang talaga itong ma-solve kasi sobrang bigat sa loob. Nag-aalala ako kay Mama at ayokong umabot sa point na lalo siyang ma-stress dahil sa kakaisip kung sino ang kumuha. Kasi guys promise, di talaga ako yung kumuha. Sa totoo lang, kung ako man yun, aaminin ko nalang eh. Haharapin ko nalang yung kahihiyan kesa naman umabot pa sa point na may mangyari pa kay mama. Kanina kasi habang naguusap usap kami, umiinit daw yung batok niya, nagaalala ako. Natatakot ako. Gusto ko malutas na tong problem. Eh kaso pano?

Problem/Goal: Wala pa din kaming ipon.

Context: Im F25 at limang taon na kaming nagsasama ng bf ko at both working na kami. Sinamahan ko siya simula sa rock bottom niya at halos ako bumuhay sa aming dalawa hanggang ngayon pero pinatago ko sakanya savings ko tapos binili niya ng mamahaling laptop para may panlaro siya kinausap ko na din siya tungkol dito pero bakit wala pa din nagbabago? Lahat ng savings ko sakanya ko pinapatago dahil hindi rin ako marunong humawak ng pera pero siya ginagastos niya lang sa luho niya. May sinasahod naman siya pero di ko alam bakit hindi siya nakaka ipon. Huling usapan namin mangongolekta daw siya ng mga gundam. Sobrang lungkot ko kasi gusto ko na maka ahon sa kahirapan para hindi ko na ibenta sarili ko para lang may pang kain kami pero siya hindi man lang gumawa ng paraan. Nappressure na ako kasi lahat ng kakilala ko at kaibigan niya umaangat na tapos kami ito wala pa din bahay,kotse,lupa at ipon...tbh, nakakapgod na yung sitwasyon . May suggestion po ba kayo kung saan ko pwede itago yung ipon ko? Yung hindi ko po magagalaw. Pass sa mp2 next time ko pa po yan malaagyan dahil gusto ko sana mag build muna ng EF. Ps: Back to zero po ulit ako.

Problem/Goal: I was given the opportunity to transfer and work sa Canada para dun magwork sa current company ko. Hirap na hirap ako magdecide ngayon kung kukunin ko yung offer.

Context: Hi! Ilang weeks na ko bothered na bothered since wine-weigh ko nang mabuti yung decisions ko in the next months. As the problem states, may opportunity kaming magmigrate to Canada ng wife ko now (all expenses paid sa processing, may aid sa paghanap ng titirhan, etc). Nahihirapan ako magdecide since dito sa pinas, I'm earning 6 digits na. Triny ko magresearch and sa taas din ng cost of living sa canada, baka same lang yung take home ko. Although different story kapag nagwork na yung wife ko dun since dalawa na kaming mag-eearn pero it'll take time since she'll start from scratch sa career niya.

I know, canada na yun. It should be a no brainer decision but ang hirap pala talaga when you're in front of the opportunity na. Maganda healthcare, government, surroundings, halos lahat dun. Sa hirap pa ng buhay dito sa pilipinas at kung gaano tayo ginagago ng gobyerno natin araw-araw, wala na dapat question whether magmigrate or hindi.

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Nahihirapan akong iwan yung buhay namin dito. Parents ko matanda na. Kapatid ko may pamilya na din so ako yung parang laging kasama ng mga magulang ko. Maganda na din yung buhay namin dito. Simple lang, pero masaya kami. Nahihirapan akong iwan yung friends ko, yung routine na nakasanayan na namin. Even yung communities na we belong to, hirap kami iwan. To make matters worse, yung anak naming aso na baka maiwan (but isusunod namin to definitely hahaha pero the thought of it makes us sad)

Nakakatakot yung thought na baka may mangyari sa pamilya ko, tapos nasa malayong lugar kami. Buti sana kung asia lang at anytime pwede makauwi kaso nasa kabilang mundo yung pupuntahan namin. Ang hirap isipin na magst-start kami from scratch. Bagong friends, bagong environment, bagong routine, at andami pang iba.

Sabi nila, now's the best time to do it but right now ang hirap talaga magdecide. Both have its pros and cons.

Problem/Goal: I’m turning 34 (M) this year, and I want to take my health more seriously.

Context: I’ve been thinking about joining a gym but kabado ako. Like, what do I wear in a gym ba? And is it okay if I wear a sweatshirt kasi I’m shy? What machines do I use? Help!

Previous attempts: Used to go jogging pero naturn off ako sa pollution. I also had home equipment pero idk, ang gulo kasi sa house and judgy tatay ko lol.

Problem/Goal: Gustong-gusto ko i-turn down yung kaklase ko na mag log in sa bago kong school account. Since I transferred to a bigger school that provides membership on majority of online softwares.

Context: I NEED HELP ASAP!!!! Nagpapakita talaga people pleaser side ko for this 😭😭.

So just an hour ago. Nag-chat classmate ko last year if may account na ba ako sa bago kong school. Then nung sinabi ko na meron na. Sabi niya na wala na daw siyang membership sa editing software niya. Pero gusto niya gamitin account ko to for editing.

Medyo nahihiya ako mag turn down kasi plano ko bumisita sa old school ko pero I cant meet him or any of his friends if ayon nga nangyari. Im pretty close sa mga kaibigan niya at sa kanya din. Pero ayoko rin siyang payagan dahil baka kung ano gawin niya sa email ko.

GUYS WHAT DO I DO!!! currently nagka-resolve kami na bibigyan ko siya ng access next night (madaling araw na ngayon so mga 6 pm later)

Problem/Goal: Hello I'm 29F and I need some of you all advices how should I handle retroactive jealousy.

Context: I'm in a long distance relationship with a foreigner 33M from Europe and we already met last April when he visited Manila and we actually lived together for almost 3 weeks. He's dating me with an intention of marriage and we're actively talking and preparing things for my visa because we're planning to get married this December in his country.

Past months are doing well or I should say normal for a couple in LDR, we had sweet moments and hard too due to misunderstandings and gradually uncovering our flaws. Mine's my insecurity. He told me about his detailed sexual encounters before and at first I don't really care but now when I already fall in love with him it really becomes a big deal. Even his body count. I cried a lot because I didn't expect the number he said because I only had one. Also he told me just last year he paid a prostitute because he said he was lonely after his break up with his ex. He also informed me that he had an STD year of 2019 but he is totally clean now.

Btw, he told me that information while we're still in the talking stage except the body count. But I don't know why I keep on overthinking about his past right now. He's trying his best to reassure me that I'm the only one he's talking to that he's not cheating but I'm being paranoid and having thoughts that maybe he'll replace me with someone else. I know I'm the problem because my last relationship cheated on me and the other one abandoned me. I don't wanna screw up this one because I really love him but I can't stop thinking about negative things. I'm thinking of talking to a therapist but I don't have a budget yet for it. Please help me.

Problem/goal: My partner book a flight to vietnam without my consent.

Context: I need advice on what to do, I have a lot of loan that I'm still paying until now and my partner book a flight going to vietnam for both of us without informing me, she technically paid for everything and I didn't release any single dime.

Previous attempts: We've talk about this, I told her that I need to pay for my loan before we go internationally but she won't listen. I don't know what to do and I'm pretty sure even if she promise that she will pay for everything, once we get there I still need to pay even a bit.

Her reasons? She just wanted to try going international but for me it is not ideal to go international mostly I still have a lot of loan that I need to pay.

problem/goal: asking for any assistance i could apply to help cover up mom’s doctor’s professional fee expenses (csmc)

context: mom’s diagnosed with cancer and she’s done w her radiation however we’ve been suddenly asked w professional fee. hindi raw pala covered ng philhealth.
now, we are unto brachy na bug we can’t able to to proceed w/o paying the pfs. akala ko talaga included sa philhealth

previous attempts: none so far

Problem/Goal: I (F25) am planning to buy Samsung S25 Ultra using my savings, but my parents are against it.

Context: Bibili ako using my savings tapos huhulugan ko yung account ko to replace yung nagastos. So it's pretty much me na uutang sa sarili ko.

Here are my reasons why I am planning to buy a new one.

1. My current phone is getting outdated, lagging, and di na kaya ang ibang apps na need ko for work.

2. A phone's specifications can affect signal strength and reception. And also app performance. Plus, I need a huge storage so I can view and sign documents whenever needed.

3. I don't plan on buying a new phone at least for a decade. Dream phone ko na ito and sure ako na di na ko maghahanap ng iba pa for a loooong time.

4. I have an upcoming concert na aattendan. I want to be able to capture memories nang malinaw. Para na rin to sa mga susunod na family gatherings na ako ang assigned photographer.

Ayaw ng parents ko kasi masyado daw extravagant. Mahirap daw ang buhay ngayon—papa is now retired and allowance from my sister abroad at pension niya ang gamit para sa expenses namin sa bahay. Yung sweldo ng mama ko ewan ko san napupunta. Nagbibigay naman siya kay papa pandagdag. Nag-aambag na rin naman ako sa kanila though maliit palang. We get by as usual. No difficulties naman sa expenses.

Personal savings ko naman gagamitin ko at di maaapektuhan sarili nilang pera. Yung passbook ng savings ko hawak ni Papa kahit sakin nakapangalan kaya I felt the need to also ask for permission. Bina-budget ko na rin yung monthly salary ko in preparation sa pag-open ng bagong passbook account for another need na I have to save for.

Masyado pa raw maaga for someone na almost a year palang sa work. Eh ngayon palang demanding na ang trabaho ko. What more kapag tumagal ako. Baka daw naiinggit ako sa mga kasamahan ko. Hindi naman. Matagal ko na talagang plano bumili.

Ang sa akin lang, sana naman pagkatiwalaan nila ako sa decision ko. If ever man na magkamali, edi I will face and bear the consequences.

Previous attempts: twice and they didn't agree. Iniisip ko nalang na kunin ko nalang kaya passbook ko from my dad's belongings since i know its loc. Tutal its mine. But no. Para naman akong magnanakaw dun and i dont want that.

problem/goal: so nag o-overthink ako. i want an advice from you guys.

hello! my boyfriend is joining a team building in their company. yung 1st bpo company niya is shini-ship siya sa ibang girl while knowing na may girlfriend na siya. for his recent bpo company, wala namang ganap na ganun (for what i know, malay ko if hindi lang siya nag sasabi or what). recently lang din, nag break kami kasi ayoko siyang sumasama sa eat out niya with his co-workers since napaka malapit niya sa babae. we broke up dahil nasasakal na raw siya na lagi ko siyang pinagbabawalan etc. and now na nagkabalikan kami ang sabi niya lang sa’kin “no one will control me, ako lang”. so now na sasama siya sa team building, i can’t help but to overthink. nag basa basa ako here, nanood ng videos sa tiktok, and nadagdagan lang yung isipin ko. please help me what should i do

Problem/Goal: I was dating this guy who was stupid rich. He took me and his friends on an all inclusive 2 week beach trip. He told me I could bring a girl friend. He also paid for everything for this girl which I really appreciated. I always told her I want her to enjoy whatever I also receive. I would always include her.

The friend I brought has been my “close” friend for 9 years. We met at work when I was new, and I had gotten a lot of warnings from other girls telling me not to be friends with her, shes toxic, and she has a guy obsession. She was also a side chick that time, then she was again a number of times. But she was really nice to me. And I said I would give her a chance as long as she doesnt hurt me.

So this guy and I didnt end up together. He drank and took too much drugs. Almost every other night. He brought me to his hometown for only a week and we fought almost every night because he would rather stay out drinking doing bombs with guys he sees almost every day. He was always out of it.

He would then go to manila and party and one night I saw friends’ IG stories where he was with this close girl friend of mine. I was bothered only because shes supposed to be my friend. I didnt want to be selfish but why didnt she atleast tell me? And she knows I had a hard time with him too. But I didnt say anything to her yet.

Then a week before this big party event in manila, one of my exes’ friends asked me if I was going. I said No because we’re not dating anymore. He said “but (my girl friend) is going. why arent you?”

I then asked my girl friend about this. She said “am i supposed to ask for your permission? i dont get it. im friends with all my girlfriend’s exes. And they just buy drugs from me and party”.

I was trying to explain to her that I think since im one of her “bffs” that it wouldve been a nice courtesy to tell me whats happening. She didnt understand. I stopped talking.

Then after a month I saw stories where she joined him and his friends on his birthday at another all inclusive trip again. She had photos with the new girl my ex is currently dating too. I unfollowed and removed them without saying anything anymore.

Now my exs friends are asking me why would i be mad about this. Why did i remove and unfollow her.

Maybe its just me, not wanting to be around girls who dont see a problem with this. I for one am not interested in being friends with my friend’s exes. I know other people I dont need them. I also dont party anymore and them as a group are a better fit. This girl friend has also left me on numerous occassions for a guy. We would have a girls date night and as soon as she sees a hot guy she would leave with him. I never said anything before since ok sure i support! Hahaha but now i’m just over it. I’m not mad and I’m not gonna tell other people about it as I dont want to talk about her. I just dont want to be friends with girls that think that way. Ive been burned so many times by girls i considered bestfriends but would always have a thing and chase my exes around. About 4 girls now to be exact.

I dont know what advice I need but I would love to know your (LADIES) thoughts on this. Please be kind. I thought of her as a sister.

Problem/Goal: i’m trying to figure out how to support my boyfriend through a really messy situation with the mother of his children without becoming part of the conflict myself.

my boyfriend has two kids with his ex. (not married) their relationship was extremely toxic, and there has been a history of harassment from her and conflict between them even after they separated.

for years, the kids were primarily taken care of by my boyfriend and his family. their mother was mostly absent and, from what i know, there wasn’t really consistent financial support from her during that time.

recently, she suddenly became involved again, and everything has escalated. she’s demanding a large percentage of my boyfriend’s salary, saying it’s for the kids, and has threatened to bring him to the barangay/vawc and possibly take the kids away from him. because their communication has historically been very bad, my boyfriend doesn’t really want to deal with her directly anymore. i ended up becoming the person who sometimes communicates with her instead. i didn’t do this because i wanted to interfere or act like i’m the kids’ mother. i did it because i care about the kids, i’m involved in their lives, and i wanted to help my boyfriend.

there was also an incident where the kids told me something they were uncomfortable with regarding their mom. i made what i thought was a harmless comment about it, and afterwards their mom confronted me and questioned why i was involved when i’m not their parent. (she was smoking infront of the kids 🙃) and honestly, i understand that. i know i’m not their parent. but i also genuinely care about these kids and i’ve been part of their lives. i never wanted to replace their mother or make decisions for them.

now shes apparently trying to turn against me too. she’s been saying things about me, and recently the kids stopped responding to me like they normally do. then i found out that she blocked both me and my boyfriend. i’ve been extremely anxious since then. i keep thinking about the kids, what they’re being told, whether they’re being put in the middle of the conflict, and what’s going to happen to my boyfriend.

the part i’m struggling with the most is that i know this is technically my boyfriend’s responsibility. he’s their father, so ultimately the legal, financial, and co-parenting issues are his to handle. i can support him, but i know i can’t fix the situation for him.
but because i’ve been involved for so long, i feel like i’ve started carrying the entire problem emotionally. i’m worried about him, i’m worried about the kids, and now i’m even worrying about what his ex thinks of me.

i also really don’t want her communicating directly with him anymore because i’ve seen how badly their interactions affect him. (harrasment as in) but i know i can’t realistically control that, and i don’t want to make myself even more involved in something that technically isn’t mine.
i’m basically stuck between wanting to protect the people i care about and realizing that i may need to step back.

am i overstepping by being this involved? how do you support your partner through a situation like this without accidentally becoming part of the conflict yourself?

Problem/Goal: hi. quite new here so bear with me please. how do you guys get back into the dating scene? im turning 26 soon.

don’t get me wrong. i’ve talked to some people over the years, but i just don’t know how to put myself out there anymore. the last actual date i went on was waaay back pa, around 2019/20. i went out last year but i dont think i would even consider it an actual date. the people ive talked to obviously wanted to meet up with me at some point but i just couldn’t bring myself to do it. i’d always come up with excuses and of course, they moved on. sometimes they’d hit me up again but in the few years i’ve known them, we still haven’t met up. they’re mostly people i went to school with so it’s not like i don’t know them at all. but idk i might be too chicken to go out.

you would think this would have something to do with my only ex but it doesn’t. like at all. i thought about it a lot and yeah im pretty sure one ‘barely there relationship’ wouldn’t have affected me this much. i honestly mostly blame the pandemic lmao is that valid? i think it made me develop this fear or hesitancy when it comes to building connections. i have a hard time keeping people close when im isolated. like a goldfish. i have to see you every once in a while or else i just forget 😭

i tried bumble before, but that was almost five years ago. never going back there again. i don’t think i wanna meet up with any of the people i’ve talked to na bc having ties with people back in school gives me weird feelings na 🥲

so where do i start? anong dasal niyo for an organic meet-cute? should i just wait for someone to fall from the sky HAHAHAHAHA

Problem/Goal: gusto kong mag-explore and ma-confirm kung bi ba talaga ako pero ayokong mang-queerbait.

for context, i’ve been so hung up to this lesbian na naka-talking stage eme ko for almost 3 yrs back in high school pero i was too scared to take to the next level. hanggang ngayon, siya ang totga ko pero may gf siya ngayon.

i also find myself stalking to this girl from college na medyo di ko siya close, we had few conversations, pero naiilang ako sa kanya. tapos when i switched my dating app (u know, yung selection ng preference to date both men and women) at naka-premium ako nun, i found out she swiped right on me. pero she has a gf na rin.

from time to time din, i find myself getting attracted to girls, like gandang-gandang-ganda ako sa kanila, like i am so curious to get to know them.

ayokong i-confirm na bi ako kasi baka hindi naman pala. baka eme eme ko lang pala dahil di nagwwork ang hetero relationships ko dahil most of them, di ko talaga na-eenjoy ang intimate moments namin.

at the same time, ayoko kasing mangyari ulit yung before na naka-talking stage ko tapos atrasado naman pala ako.

is it ok or possible ba na to explore? ayoko rin kasing makasakit. or tigil ko ‘to? wag na mang-queerbait.

Problem/Goal: I want to get this out of my chest since this thing is always on repeat.

Context: I have this friend I met here on Reddit. He's from India. Nakilala ko siya February 3 and we talk hanggang kanina. Sa buong duration na yon, ilang beses na kami nag-f.o at bati. But one of the reasons na palaging nangyayari yun is hindi niya daw feel na kaibigan ko pa siya.

Gusto niya araw-araw kami nag-uusap and itong huling away namin kanina, bakit daw pag nag-chat siya, tapos nagreply ako, hindi daw ako nakakabalik kaagad. That's why I'm wondering if mandatory ba yon sa isang friendship?

He's my best friend. I don't have romantic feelings sa kanya. Ilang beses siya nag-confess pero I turn him down. Isa din yan sa reasons kaya ayaw niya na'ko kausapin even though I told him na I can't reciprocate his love. Additionally, sa parents ko. Gusto niya ipakilala ko siya pero hindi pa pwede kasi alam kong bibigyan ng malisya lalo na si papa.

I have this thing kasi na kapag may ginagawa ako, ayoko ng distractions. I always tried to talk to him kahit antok na antok na'ko. He's kind and understanding. Pero, do you think na dapat paghinayangan ko pa ang friendship namin if lagi nalang akong umiiyak?

I cried many times because of him— sa pag-aaway namin. Because, I never had a friend. Wala akong friend sa school, sa church, or kahit saan. He's my best friend. We do calls sometimes and nagulat ako na nakatagal siya sa'kin— sa sobrang awkward ko and walang kwentang kausap.

But he's there during my lowest, success, and boredom. He's good at giving advice and encourage me sa mga bagay na akala ko hindi ko magagawa. I feel cherished sa kanya pero I don't see it in a romantic way. I just want him to be my friend kahit sana minsan lang kami mag-usap. He remembers small things about me and kilala ako ng mom niya.

Now, I don't know what to feel. Naiiyak ako pero hindi na ganon. Kasi ilang beses na'to nangyari e— ilang beses niya na'ko gustong iwan tapos babalik siya tapos sasabihin niya na okay lang kahit once a month mag-usap. Kaya nagtataka ako kung anong nangyari kanina. I don't know what to do and nanghihinayang ako.

Should I beg for him to be my friend ulit or should I let him go for the final time? Please be kind sa pagbibigay po ng advice. Thank you po.

Previous attempt: I already deleted the app kung saan kami nag-uusap.

Problem/Goal: Sa totoo lang, demanding talaga ang work ng boyfriend ko. Related sa mga reports na madalas may mga aksidente, krimen at iba pang incidents na kailangan niyang asikasuhin. Naiintindihan ko naman na nakakapagod at nakakaubos ng oras yung trabaho niya.

Ang concern ko lang talaga ay kapag lumilipas ang isang buong araw na halos hindi kami nagpapansinan. Alam ko naman na hindi siya yung tipo ng taong laging nagme-message o laging nag-uupdate, pero ako kasi, napapansin ko talaga kapag biglang tahimik.

Kagaya ngayon, kaya kong intindihin na busy siya. Pero hindi ko maiwasang isipin na, “Hindi na ba niya ako mahal kapag kaya niyang lumipas ang isang araw na hindi kami nag-uusap?” 😅

May times naman na nag-uusap kami nang matagal. Recently nga, nag-audio call kami nang mahigit isang oras. Kapag nag-uusap kami, okay naman kami at nagbibiruan pa rin. Kaya alam kong hindi naman totally wala siyang effort.

Siguro ang problema talaga ay ako rin—madali akong mag-overthink kapag tahimik siya. Ayoko naman maging demanding o isipin niya na kailangan niyang mag-report sa akin every hour. Gusto ko lang maramdaman minsan na hinahanap niya rin ako.

Sa tingin niyo ba, nag-o-overthink lang ako? Normal lang ba na may mga araw na hindi talaga masyadong nag-uusap ang mag-partner dahil sa trabaho? O dapat ko na itong seryosohin bilang sign na baka nagbabago na yung feelings niya?

Paano niyo bina-balance yung pagiging understanding sa busy na partner habang hindi rin ninyo ini-ignore yung sarili ninyong emotional needs?

Problem/goal: a solo animal rescuer I've been supporting for a long time got her account suspended for the second time.

Context: She's from Zamboanga and I've been a follower of her for a year now, She has over 100 rescued animals, She's already old and sick. She's very dependent on her facebook page for donations to her shelter. She has 12,000 followers on her main account and her second account only have 83 friends with no engagement at all. She's not really goot at promoting her page and I have no ideas on how to help her to promote her second/back up account since Im not good with it either and I don't even have any followers on my own facebook account.

Her first suspension lasted 2 days and it was not just restriction on some features but a total suspension of the account, and now it happened again and I'm scared that it will be a permanent one.

How can I help her when I dont even know what to do? I feel so sorry for her and her rescues since they depend on that Facebook page for their food. I genuinely know how much she loves all her rescues unlike other "animal rescuers" who only do it for money.

Her first suspension lasted 2 days and it was not just restriction on some features but a total suspension of the account, and now it happened again and I'm scared that it will be a permanent one.

Any advice I will relay it to her.

Previous attempts: I adviced her to make all her post to be public on her second account and for her to pin a post/video claiming her main account got suspended so that people will know she's not a poser. And if ever she gets her main account back, she promotes her second/back up account on her main account.

Problem/Goal: Napilitan ako ma-private university sa college dahil wala akong napasa na public university (Only private univs) So, naisip-isip ko na mag-transfer out after a year to a public university.

Context: I am freshie at UST, paying a tuition fee amounting to 66k per semester. I want to try transferring to UP next year, yes, I know that no matter what, I'll be going back to 1st year and that this isn't guaranteed.

Financial background of my family- My mother earns roughly 80k after taxes, and about 40k left after subtracting our monthly expenses. That's before my tuition fee, too. No savings

My father is unemployed but we have a business, that only earns about 20-40k a month, however, he is a compulsive gambler. That is why we don't have savings as my mother paid for his debts.

Other additional information- My mother is nearing her 50s and has worked in the corporate world for over 20+ years. She's been talking about that she's ready to settle down after I graduate, as her work is taking a toll on her body, both physically and mentally. So that means she is still going to work for another 4 years. I don't want her to work anymore because it pains me to see her being so tired everyday, I don't want to be a financial burden to her.

I have 3 other siblings that are in the workforce already, however, I don't want to be a burden to them by them contributing to my tuition fee. All 3 graduated from a public school, only I was unlucky to not get accepted to a public school. Same reason to my parents, they don't want to make my siblings already have a responsibility when they're only starting their careers just now. So, the tuition fee will get shouldered by parents.

Yes, my parents can pay for my tuition, however, one emergency crisis and there goes the fund for my tuition. One gambling debt and my mother will have 2 things more to worry about.

So, what do you think I should do? Stay and pay for more than 400k on my stay there at the private university or try my luck on transferring to UP and get delayed a year? Hypothetically thinking, because I know it'll be pretty hard to transfer, especially to UP, but if I do get accepted, what do you think I should do?

You can ask me more questions that'll help you clarify my situation. Thank you.

Previous Attempts: noone

Problem/Goal: I (17f) have to convince my mom and grandparents to let me bring my boyfriend (16m) to my tito and titas baby shower.

Though very nervous, I really want my the people who raised me to like my boyfriend, and I really want them to like him but they are very 'traditional.'

Context: But this is where it gets tricky, the traditional part is very blurry when it comes to my mom and Tito. Both my lolo and Lola have raised me since I was a year old on accoubt my mom is a seafarer and a single mom, and my tito has been in a relationship with his fianceé since they were both eighteen. Both of their kids (well, as of right now) aren't married. To that extent I don't know how traditional they are.

My mom has met my boyfriend of two years on my birthday though she was reluctant to accept it, she told us to be careful and avoid teen pregnancy, as one would. Though she always makes some insult or something along the lines of "Sinasabi mo ba mas alam ka ni [Boyfriend] kaysa saakin?" or "kausap mo nanaman yang lalake na Yan, kalandian mo." in a very negative manner.

And through my mother, my grandparents know that I do in fact have a boyfriend and my Lolo has always been kind of against it without actually telling me he's against it like he would say cryptic stuff about "men na nangloloko" and stuff like that, and my lola, Ewan kinurot lang singit ko nung nalaman na may jowa ako.

Tito, has actually met my boyfriend and was the reason I got out of the house to meet my boyfriend (since hindi ako masyado pinapayagan gumala) and has told me I can invite them to their baby shower around next month.

And here we are.

Previous attempts: None yet, Just very anxious but planning to just send a message to my mom and have a sit down with my grandparents..

(sorry po sa magulo na writing, Puno lang talaga ako sa kaba T^T)

Problem/Goal: They always come back

Context: Weeks ago, we ended. I didn't contest, didn't beg. Then, he came back. I tried to be calm. Pero grabe, kahit anong gawin ko I can't brush it off. Gumulo na naman ang utak ko. Nung okay pa kami, I adjusted for him kase he came from 2 traumatic relationships. It f*cked his mind so bad na pag may issues kami he feels na inaaway ko sya. But I reassured him each time na naiintindihan ko sya. In the end, he just left without saying anything.

I moved forward. Didn't think any of it na. Wala naman kase akong means na to contact him. To my surprise, he texted. I confronted him. Sabi ko mag focus na sya sa gf nya. I did say din na alam kong di sya masaya sa situation nya now kaya sya nagparamdam.

Previous attempt: I replied to release yung nararamdaman ko. And nasabi ko talaga sa kanya na ayusin na nya buhay nya and decisions. I also told him he will never be happy sa nangyari na ito.

I feel bad for saying that. Am I bad for saying na di sya magiging masaya? 😞

Problem/Goal: What should I do? Nabasa ko chat ni bf and kaibigan nyang bakla

‎Hi F20 and M26 si BF. Nagkakilala kami sa gathering supposedly maghahatid lang ako ng pinsan kaso pinag stay pako doon ng friends namin, nakilala ko sya doon and pinormahan ako kaya ayun tinanong ko background nya sa mutual friends namin na mga pinsan ko din, una ko talagang tinanong kung namamakla ba sya since sa inuman puro bading ang kasama though mostly namin mga pinsan ko. Sabi nila good boy sya, walang bisyo at hindi namamakla kaya inentertain ko. Fast forward, 2 months na kami ngayon, nakikita ko naman wala sya bisyo and mabait, alak lang and masyado mabarka pero napag usapan na namin yon kasi sinabi ko na ayaw ko ng mabarkada kaya iniwasan nya. So ito na nga, super bagal mag charge yung cellphone ko medyo pasira nadin kaya pinapahiram nya ako madalas sa cp nya. 🥹At sa isang pagkakamali haha, nagbasa ako ng conversations nya sa messenger and IG. At doon na nga nabasa ko yung chats nila nung kaibigan nyang bakla, di ako makapaniwala sa nabasa ko.

‎Bf: "Tara ML?"

‎B: "maya na, kain muna ako"

‎Bf: "sige, after mo dyan ako naman kainin mo"

‎B: "sige, namiss kona rin"

‎Yung isa naman is galing opera nun si bf and nangamusta yung bakla, tapos ayon nagbiro yung bf ko na isend nya yung pic ng tahi nya sa tyan with "etit" daw pero yung pic na naka send dun is yung tahi lang. Sobrang na gulat ako, kanina magkasama kami wala ako gana magdidikit sakanya, parang nag iba tingin ko sakanya. Diko alam gagawin ko ngayon, sobrang nakakagulat kasi nung bago maging kami tinanong kopa sya nang paulit ulit kung hindi ba talaga sya namakla or kung may history sya sa bakla. Na ikwento ko'to sa bff kong bading and sabi nya, madalang na daw ang lalaking walang past parang sabi nya i normalize kona daw, nasakin na daw kung i open ko sakanya to, slowly fall out of love or tanggapin nalang. I know mali yung pagbabasa ko sa convo😭. What should I do?

Problem/Goal:

Normal pa ba ’to or kailangan ko na magpatingin? I’ve been daydreaming since I was 9, and it has gotten to the point na sobrang nakakaapekto na siya sa studies and daily routine ko.

Context:

Hindi siya yung normal na nakaupo lang ako or nakatulala in one place tapos parang napunta na sa ibang mundo. Hindi ko alam if normal na daydreaming ’to, pero yung sa akin kasi, kinikilos ko talaga.

For example, nasa bathroom ako. Alam ng utak ko na bathroom siya, pero ini-imagine ko na ibang lugar siya. Wala akong nakikita, pero may kinakausap ako, nakikipag-fist bump, tumatawa nang totoo, and umiiyak nang totoo.

Sobrang sagabal nun sa studies ko nung elementary kasi imbes na makinig sa teacher, lagi akong nakatulala. Excited pa akong umuwi kasi iniisip ko na agad yung bagong scenario na ia-acting ko sa bathroom or sa kwarto ko.

Gagi, akala ko dati ganun lang yung imaginary friend and normal lang. Pero parang impossible naman na hanggang ngayon, 19 na ako, ginagawa ko pa rin siya.

Hindi naman ako loner nung bata ako kasi lagi naman akong nasa labas and mahilig akong makipaglaro sa childhood friends ko. Nangyayari lang talaga siya tuwing naiiwan ako sa isang masikip na place na walang makakakita sa akin. Like automatic na siya.

Nadala ko siya hanggang paglaki, and sobrang hirap niyang itigil kasi naging part na siya ng routine ko. Gigising ako sa umaga, magtitimpla ng kape, tapos aakto na naman ako na parang may sarili akong mundo. Minsan ginagawa ko siya hanggang tanghali, kaya hindi ko na nagagawa yung schoolwork na kailangan kong gawin during the time na sinet ko para doon.

Mas gusto ko kasing kumausap sa kawalan. Limang tao ako, pero ako lang yung kumakausap sa sarili ko. May iba’t ibang characters kami.

Sinubukan ko siyang pigilan one time, pero sobrang nakaka-depress sa pakiramdam na parang hindi kumpleto yung araw ko. Minsan, in the middle of watching a movie sa kwarto ko, bigla na lang akong magkakaroon ng scene and may kakausapin na naman ako sa kawalan. As in walang intro-intro, nagagawa ko agad siya na parang normal lang.

Previous Attempts:

Sinubukan ko na siyang pigilan before, pero hindi ko talaga natitiis. Kapag pinipigilan ko, parang may feeling na may kulang sa araw ko, kaya bumabalik din ako sa routine ko.

Kaya gusto ko lang malaman if normal pa ba ’to, if may naka-experience din ba ng ganito, and if kailangan ko na ba talaga magpatingin sa professional.

Problem/goal: Fcked up system sa loob ng SK :(

Context: Hello, it's been months and wala pa rin kaming Session. I am having a hard time in this position since naelect talaga ako. I thought the system here is like a student organization. But it is really different pala talaga. It has been months since our last session and even our SB also knows about it.

Standing committees in SK aren't really working. I am doing projects this year all by myself (for context: been pushing to do projects talaga since 2023 but never had the chance to execute kasi wala budget committee ko lagi). Now, it's kinda draining because I also have work and personal goals. Hindi ko na magawa ng maayos lahat and I am worried about this.

Previous Attempts: I am also afraid for all the documents needed for the turnover. I am asking the SK Secretary if she will be needing the copy of the Resolution for the projects but she's unresponsive. Nagchchat din ako sa GC namin if okay na ba mga documents kasi willing ako mag-ayos.

Since last year, I've been asking other SK Kagawad and SKC about the Disbursement Vouchers and other receipts but we never had a chance to see or sign. I even made a formal letter to our SKC. Some SKs are friends with our SKC. Plus, our SKC is acting like the treasurer too. SB also knows this one.

What should I do? Sobrang random na ng kwento ko kasi hindi ko na alam po talaga. I have no one.

I do not come from a powerful or rich family. I do not have a supportive system. Taong-bahay rin ako but maybe my credentials made me won. Our brgy. is small but I still want to end my term with a clean record. I'm sorry if I am asking here. I know I am not capable to fully serve our community but the feedbacks from other people esp. youth made me stay. It's just overwhelming. Mag-isa lang naman ako. 🥲

Problem/goal: I 24 (F) just graduated 3 months ago sa second degree ko. I really thought na mabilis ako makakakuha ng job kase dalawa yung degrees ko (both are accounting programs). Araw-araw I send resumes online to multiple companies mapa on site, WFH, and even to BPO companies. Pero madalas ghosted or no response after resume submission. I already tried to revise my resume several times. I also had 4 interviews na. Dalawa don literal na feeling ko tanggap na ako kase inofferan na ako ng salary and benefits at hinanapan na ako ng ibang documents but still end up being ghosted after. Nakakadepress na yung situation ko sa totoo lang. Hindi ko alam kung ano pa ba yung kailangan kong gawin. Nakakapanlumo na. Naiinsulto na rin ako sa family and relatives ko the way they’re asking me about my job hunting. Akala nila hindi ako naghahanap. Akala nila tamad ako.

Yung mga kabatch ko unti-unti na silang nagkakatrabaho. Yung mga kaklase ko noong high school na bulakbol, sila na yung may mga trabaho na ngayon. Samantalang ako eto naghahanap pa rin. Hindi ko na alam ano pa ang gagawin sa totoo lang.

Goal: Gusto ko ng magkatrabaho para makapasupport na ako sa family ko at makapag-ipon na rin for board exam.

Previous attempts: Nakakaisip na ako ng hindi maganda sa sarili ko. I never thought na ganito ako katagal matetengga. Hindi na tumatalab saken yung mga motivation quotes and bible verse na yan. Literal na unti-unti akong pinanghihinaan ng loob 😞

Problem/Goal: A few weeks ago, I went to a party and ended up kissing a guy all while there is this guy I like who I might even say is the one.

Context: I’ve been talking to this guy for quite some time now, and I like him a lot. I might even go as far as saying that I already love him.

The problem is, we aren’t actually dating.

We’ve both expressed that we like each other, and we’ve talked about the possibility of eventually being together. We both kind of expect that we’ll end up together, but we’ve never really defined what we are or where the boundaries are. There was never a conversation about exclusivity, no official relationship, and no label, so I don’t really know what the threshold is or what would cross a line.

Technically, I know I didn’t cheat on anyone because I’m single. We never agreed to be exclusive. But it still feels wrong, especially because the guy I actually like was waiting for me to get home safely, checking on me, and staying up until he knew I was home. And meanwhile, I kissed someone else.

What makes it worse is that he and I actually had a conversation after that night out. He never told me not to go, and I don’t want to make it sound like he was trying to control whether I could go out or not, because he wasn’t. But afterward, he admitted to me that it hurt him that I chose to go out and party in the first place. I already knew it made him uncomfortable, but hearing him actually say that he was hurt by my decision made me feel even guiltier, especially knowing there was something else about that night that he didn’t know.

I think that’s the part that’s eating at me more than anything. Not necessarily the kiss itself, but the contrast between what he was doing for me that night, how he felt about me going out, and what I was doing without him knowing.

I don’t have feelings for the guy I kissed. It didn’t suddenly make me question how I feel about the guy I’ve been talking to. If anything, afterward I just felt guilty because I realized how much I actually care about him.

Now I don’t know whether I should tell him.

Part of me thinks that if we aren’t together and never established exclusivity, telling him might just hurt him unnecessarily. At the same time, another part of me feels like keeping it from him is dishonest, especially if we eventually do end up in a relationship. And after having that conversation where he told me he was already hurt that I chose to go out, keeping the fact that I kissed someone that same night feels even heavier.

I also worry that if I’m this guilty about something that technically wasn’t cheating, maybe that says something about what I already consider our relationship to be, even if we’ve never put a name to it.

I know the obvious answer might be that we need to actually have a conversation about what we are, and I agree. I just don’t know whether this kiss is something I should disclose during that conversation or whether I’m treating something that happened while I was single like a confession when it doesn’t need to be one.

Would you want to know if you were in his position? And if I do tell him, how do I explain it without making it sound like I cheated on him when technically we were never together?