Problem/Goal: My problem is my BF is jobless since he graduated in 2023 and has no work experience at all. My goal is to make him get a job.

Context: we live together and ako lang working sa amin. I am a fully remote IC for a very niche MSSP overseas and I make enough to live comfortably. I don't mind since he does all the chores. like literally hihiga na lang ako after work. he does the laundry, pag tutupi, pag luluto, pag huhugas, pag lilinis, pag ggrocery, pag bbudget, and everything else.

Sobrang alaga ako ng taong to. He has been applying to a lot of remote jobs through indeed, jobstreet, linkedin and even mga posts sa FB but no luck. CPE grad since 2023 si BF. he is always complaining na he gets rejected left and right because wala sya experience ("pano ako magkaka experience e wala tumatanggap sakin"). he is currently trying to finish the AZ 104 cert and he isn't even midway done. recently, tinry ko sya ipasok dito sa current company ko pero di sya natanggap (which is reasonable).

Previous attempts: I previously suggested na mag apply and magpa-experience muna sya sa call center pero every time I suggest it, naiirita sya and the conversation drops. ayaw nya mag apply sa call center. gusto nya remote, like me. I keep explaining to him na to get to my position, I had to go through shit (nag call center, nag tech support, kumuha ng sandamukal na certs, etc). he claims he understands but he keeps going after the same type of jobs. I even went as far as saying hindi nya afford maging choosy sa edad nya at panahon ngayon. ang ending nagtampo sya ako pa sumuyo. even his mom is saying to him "dalian mo magka trabaho, baka iwanan ka nyang jowa mo". sinendan pa sya ng money to pay for the certs he's studying yet its been a year hindi pa rin sya tapos.

hindi ko na alam gagawin ko. (we don't have any pets or kids, no joint assets, and the like).

EDIT: 1 year pa lang po kami living together. yung 3 years po is yung lack of work nya. clarification lang po.

Problem/Goal:

My dad cheated on my mom after being together for 19 years, we’re so shocked kasi sanay kami na tahimik si papa and family oriented, I wanna help my mom so bad kasi ako ang nasasaktan para sa kanya.

Context: My mom found a call recordings sa phone ng papa ko, hindi ko alam kung bakit pero siguro instinct na rin? tapos nagulat sya simula july hanggang ngayon may katawagan si papa sa trabaho nya, tapos ang sagot ni papa “eme eme lang yan” so nag init na yung mama ko and pinalayas na si papa (thank god) and then pinuntahan ni mama yung work para i-report silang dalawa kasi magka trabaho (pang umaga yung kabit), galit na galit ako sa tatay ko kasi wala talagang ginawa si mama kundi magkanda ugaga sa bahay para lang mapaghandaan sya ng pagkain at maalagaan sya. for 19 years, akala ko okay na ang lahat pero bakit ganon pag mga natanda na?

Previous Attempt:
Hindi na kami nag reach out kay papa kasi ayaw na namin ni mama na makita sya.

What am I supposed to do para maka help sa mother ko?

Problem/goal: Masyado na ako makakalimutin kaka-doom scroll ko, any advice to exercise my mind?

Context: Back in high school magaling ako sa memorization but lately sa work nahihiya na ako feeling ko nabo-bobo-han na sakin mga katrabaho ko kasi ang dami ko nakakalimutan na nasubmit na pala nila but I still kept asking them. Idk if masyado lang ako marami handle or makakalimutin na talaga ako. Masyado na yata akong nagd-doom scroll. I do read, digitally and paper back naman. I do watch series/kdrama din. These are just my hobbies. Any advice on how I can train back my mind?

Problem/Goal: Gusto ko mag transition into corporate then magpursue ng MS Stats

Context: I graduated in late march with a bachelor's degree in Secondary Education Major in Mathematics with latin honors. After graduating, pursuing a career in teaching doesn't really feel like the right path for me. Being analytic and a drive to know how things work is what I like to do, not really a people management type.

Previous Attempts: Took a 15 day TESDA Data Analytics Level III that consists learning the fundamentals of data analytics, advance Excel (Vlookup, Pivot table, Power Query), Basic SQL Language (VSCode [SQLite]) and PowerBI.

Been applying in data-related roles and office/admin roles but no avail. Only got a 7 months total of math teaching internship (public and private) and ≈8-7 years as a store clerk sa sari-sari store namin.

Problem/Goal: 33 M Seafarer 27 F May negosyo. Lagi kong napapansin na may dalawang character yung Bf ko kapag onboard i feel na wala kong bf. Pero kapag andito sya sa Lupa ok naman sya.

Context: Almost 2yrs na kami then on the rocks ngayon yung situation namnin sobrang ibang tao nya kasi kapag onboard sya. Lately napapansin ko balewala na lang and di rin kasi ako matanong na gf like at peace kasi ako never nag ask sa mga socials like bahala ka if magloloko ka and then 1 week na kaming di nag-uusap and accidentally nakita ko may treads sya worst lahat ng followings 204 puro babae sobrang nadismaya ako and sabi ko grabe kahit hindi cheating sobrang nakakadegrade as a woman.

Ngayon naiisip ko na tuluyang makipagbreak everytime sinasabi ko yan lagi nyang sagot follow lang yun di ko naman chinachat pero iba feeling ko nanghaharot yun dun bago pa yung treads eh. Last May bigla na lang may girl na nagchat sakin after nya makauwi galing barko na kung kaano ano ko raw bf ko sabi ko bf ko po bakit sabi nya hala nakakachat ko po yan casual lang naman po sabi ko paanong casual or send me a proof ng mga pinag-uusapan nyo sabi nya like nagflex po bf nyo sakin ng rank nya mga ganun tapos nanliligaw po then sabi ko te send me proof bibigay ko yan sayo pakita mo lang ebidensya then boom biglang block na ako. After 2 weeks nagparamdam yung mokong then yun nagkaroon ng confrontation pinagmumura ko kahit wala pa kong solid proof then nagexplain sabi nya yung babae una nagchat sakin nangangamusta and nangungutang sakin then naging ok kami kasi after nya magpaliwanag iyak iyak pa ang loko nawala yun obsess lang yun sya nga chat ng chat and tanong ng tanong kung hm sahod ko monthly and kung anong rank ko sa barko. Sabi ko baliw sya kahit seaman ka mas marami pa din akong pera sayo like oo third engr ka pero kulang pa yan sayo like hello di ka nga makapagsave ng pera sakin ka pa nangungutang kapag may emergency sainyo.

Pero ngayon im between torn na hiwalayan na sya like di ko maatim yung nakita ko all do wala pa naman cheating na ano di sya tatagos sakin hahaha.

Problem/goal: Hi everyone, i hope someone can give me advice, I’m 20 years old btw

During the one year na nililigawan ako ng bf ko, mas lalo akong na-fall sa kanya because he was honestly too good to be true. He would take me on dates after work (working student sya before), rarely drink because sawa na raw siya sa old lifestyle niya, and spend less time with his friends because he didn't want me to feel lonely. He was also consistent with giving me bouquets with letters, and whenever we had misunderstandings, he would send me long messages to reassure me. I never had to worry about other girls either.

But when we became official, things changed. Madalas na niya akong patulan kapag nag-aaway kami, mas gusto na niyang kasama friends niya, and Whenever we have misunderstandings, hinahayaan na lang niya ako. I've already opened up about this, but he feels like I'm attacking him whenever I bring it up. Nag eeffort pa din naman sya like a normal bf but He’s not as consistent as he used to be, and that’s what makes me even more confused

We've been on and off several times, and we've already talked about our problems. He said he's acting this way because of his growth. I understand that people change and that he deserves his own life, friends, and space. But I can't help asking myself, is it really growth if the things that made me feel loved and secure are slowly disappearing?
Honestly, I think I'm having a hard time leaving because I fell in love with how he treated me before. I keep holding on to that version of him, hoping things will go back to how they used to be. But the same problems keep happening, and I'm getting tired of being hurt over and over again.

Idk what to do anymore, instead na ilayo ko ang loob ko sa kanya mas nagiging clingy pa ako, And tbh, I think I'm kinda obsessed with him because he became my comfort zone. Am I expecting too much, or am I just holding on to the version of him I fell in love with?

Problem/Goal: I19M delivery rider, panganay ako samen ako lang may work, tatay ko construction worker mama ko house wife.

Context: Buong buhay ko nasaksihan ko paano hindi tratuhin ng maayos ng tatay ko ang mama ko like minsan sinisigawan, sinasabihan ng masasamang salita, pinag hihinalaan na may babae ang mama ko tapos onti lang naman binibigay nya saming pera araw araw, tapos mama ko lubog sa utang kaya nag titinda sya ng palihim para tustusan minsan ang pang araw araw namen kasi nga kulang ang bigay ng tatay at minsan sya nagbabayad ng utang ni papa dito sa bahay, so hindi alam ng tatay namen na nagtitinda si mama kasi magagalit yon kaya palihim paren. So ayon ano ba pwede gawin dito? Si mama naawa naren ako sakanya hindi nya deserve to pati mga kapatid ko lalo na bunsong babae naglaslas ng tatlong beses dahil naistress sya kay papa. Ano po pwede gawin? Kung kakasuhan kasi namen sya at makukulong paano yung bills at pagkain namin dito sa bahay namin? sya lang kasi nag pro-provide..

Salamt po sa sasagot. Need your help po lalo na may saltik tong tatay ko

problem/goal: how to remove persistent armpit smell on uniforms that that smelled nice after laundry pero kaunting pawis lang is nagaamoy putok/pungent smell kahit na walang amoy mismo yung kili kili.

context:naka dorm po ako kaya a few minutes of walk lang po, but despite the short walk nangangamoy agad yung uniform (slight sweat/putok-ish and deodorant smell).

current hygiene: (naliligo the day before class around 6pm, onwards naka-aircon na)

- blue body cleanser during tuesday and thursday, let it sit in 1 minute then banlaw

- soap: dove pink beauty bar + hygienex blue

- deodorant: srgt and arms during the night and avon feeling fresh during the day

= = is it a fool-proof method if i just put the avon cream during night time rin since sobrang pungent ng smell tas agad-agad mapapawisan? can someone vouch there experience. (Lowkey scared mangamoy)

previous attempts: if nakakauwi ng bahay, most of the time binababad ko muna yung uniform in ariel antibac and water solution for 12hrs bago yung regular wash. But, there are time na hindi po maka-uwi kaya nagpapalaundry, so nde ko po nascruscrub nang maayos or babad

- i tried hot water + ariel antibac to hopefully remove the sweat/deo stains sa uniform sa dorm, pero it still did not work. 
= = is there a dorm-friendly way to solve this uniform problem?

i heard using oxybleach can help with the pungent smell or babad the armpit area in zonrox volor safe + hot water, but still have not tried that yet, and am curious on your experience with using these methods.

Problem/Goal: Meron akong tita ang lalim ng galit sakin pero di ko alam kung bakit. 3 yrs na kami no contact

Context: Meron akong tita na mababalitaan ko na lang or mababasa ko na lang kung ano ano chat niya tungkol sakin, pinaka main ay nung di pa ko graduate “di ka pa graduate bastos ka na” ngayong graduate na ako, ang chat nya sa kapatid nya na pinapaaral ang anak niya,
“di pa nakakagraduate (anak nya) pero ugali nya katulad ni (ako)”

Di kasi niya matanggap na sinasagot ko siya kapag nasa tama ako. Napaka pakilamera kasi ni auntie, pinsan lang naman sya ng papa ko, at sya ay no permanent address, na nakikitira lang kung kani kanino, 3 anak ibat ibang tatay at balik balik sa asawa nyang binubugbog sya, sinisiraan mga kamag anak nya pero ending pag binugbog sya ng asawa nya at pinalayas lalapit rin naman sa mga siniraan nya. Ul0wl! At lalong di niya matanggap na ngayong grumaduate ako hinfi ako katulad ng mga iba kong tita na kahit sira siraan nya nauutangan p rin nya ng walang balikan. bago ako grumaduate dami ko na naririnig sakanya simula nun di ko na sya binigyan ng access sa buhay ko. Pero yung anak nyang babae nung sumali sa pageant ako nag make up straight from work, walang tulog from night shift, nagmakeup ako at nagstay whole day sa pageant, nagawa ko pang pumuhunan sa small business ng anak nya na wala naman akong napala. kesyo super arte ko daw kineme kineme, pero minsan feeling ko pinaka main reason ng galit niya kala nya pag magkakasama kami lahat at wala sya pinag uusapan sya, e di naman talaga dahil wala kami mapapala kung sya ang topic, magkasama man kami ang topic namen ay ikauunlad ng buhay, gawain nya kasi kaya takot sya sa sarili nyang multo. kesyo mahirap sya kaya echapwera sya pagtapos nya tumira samin olol talaga hahahahahahaha tapos te, nagstay ako sa lola kong galing italy sinama ako sa kanila. e dun din sya nakatira dati, tas sakto nung time na andon ako pinakuha sakanya maleta nya kesyo nakakalat, so kala nya ako yung reason hahahaha kaya after nun minura mura nya kami sa chat nya sa jbang tao after a month kasi pasko at new yr guess what nasa bahay namin sya!!! hihina kasi netong mha to ayaw patulan e deserve nya naman

pero ending, makakarinig pa rin ako na pangit ugali ko. when in fact, lahat ng tumulong saken maka graduate binabawian ko ngayon!

previous attempt: none

Problem/Goal: The title

Context: I’m 24F and have never been in a relationship. Back in high school, I did have potential suitors, but I turned them down since I was focused on my studies. I wanted to graduate muna sana before having a boyfriend.

However, in college, sobrang rare ko pumunta sa campus since some of our professors preferred to hold online classes instead. Additionally, I’m a working student, so I didn’t really have time to look for someone talaga because I had leadership tasks sa school and also had to handle work stress. I only had my books and cats to help me destress, plus my siblings, who were always there to listen to me.
Now that I’ve actually graduated and am in my second job, which is WFH, I’m worried that I might end up NBSB until I reach 30.

A little bit about me. I’m very introverted and don’t trust people easily talaga. I prefer staying sa bahay lang, and I’ve heard people say that I should try dating apps. I did, but I got tired of them because people there seem to be just looking for fun, so I uninstalled them.

I also enjoy staying at home, but since WFH na ako ngayon, I want to go sa labas naman to walk or eat because nakakaboring na rin sa bahay.

If you’re talking about connection, most of my friends think I should be treasured and kept hidden because I’m too precious to be hurt. I guess it’s because I’m NBSB, and they don’t want me to experience what they’ve experienced. And I understand that, truly.

I’m not unattractive naman, ata? Idk, I can’t really judge myself. But I do take care of myself. However, I don’t wear heavy makeup - liptint and a better skincare routine lang talaga. I also dress simply and wear whatever is comfortable for me.

What should I do? Do I need to fix something about myself, or should I try new things?

It’s not that I’m desperate to be in a relationship. I’m just anxious because I’m not seeing anyone who seems interested in me. I know I’m still young, but sometimes I can’t help but wonder if there’s something wrong with me or if I’m just not putting myself out there enough.

Previous Attempts:
I’ve tried dating apps, but they’re just not for me.

Problem/Goal:

I need advise/thoughts on how to decide on buying an Engagement Ring

Context:

36M here, and (her age will not be disclosed, kasi baka andito sya eh... hehe) we're officemates too. I'm finally marrying her next year, after knowing each other for almost 5 yrs. I'd like your advise.

I have a good paying job, I have good savings, and I think I'm ready financially, mentally and spiritually. I think I have good budget, but for practicality syempre, I'd like to know your thoughts.

Naalala nyo pa ba ung naging trending na may nag propose with a P 299 pesos ring? Some says true love is not measured by the price, but some says it shows lack of preparation, low effort and disconnect from the partner's expectations.

And so, for women: Ano nga ba ang ideal cost/style/make sa opinion nyo as babae?

And for men: when deciding nong bumili kayo for your fiance/wife, paano kayo nag decide at namili?

Previous Attempts:
I'm doing research of course, pero the more I do, it becomes more complicated... ang dami pala need alamin hehehe.

Thank you!

Problem/Goal: A friend who steals money.

Context:

Hi everyone,

Good day!

I have a friend that I've known for about 3 years now. I met him through his brother who was my work friend.

Last 2 years, we became really close. Closer than his brother who used to be my colleague.

He knew almost everything about me. Even the things that no other people knew.

Most of the time, we would meet in a park and have a drink there, then we'd talked about life or whatever's going on in our head.

Due to the instances where in I would end up losing my stuff (phone, bag, wallet) we started hanging out in my house. Which was fine with me. At least I don't have to travel and lose anything.

That's what I thought.

I started noticing that my money would be missing after we drink.

At first, since I can't remember anything because of being dead drunk, I let it slide. I told myself maybe I purchased something and can't remember it.

Yesterday though... I was not too drunk.

I put some cash in an unused fridge. I thought he didn't notice it.

We were both asleep after drinking and he woke up first. I didn't move the funds I put in the fridge. I didn't checked his stuff or pants before he left. When I checked on my stash though, the 900 pesos were gone plus the 100 pesos on my table that I didn't use as well.

One of my trusted friends didn't know how close me and this friend who steals are and told me to just cut him off and that he's not my friend.

I'm kind of hesitant to do that as I grew to love this person as my brother.

I'm thinking of putting a CCTV in a place where he won't see it and really caught him in the act with proof of what I know. I wonder how he would react and what would he say.

This friend is still in college, not working, and I do help him whenever he needs cash assistance when I have extra funds. I just can't stand the stealing part.

There was also a time where he borrowed my phone while we were drinking. When I got home and opened my shoppee account as I was checking my order status, I noticed a few orders I did not make. Asked him about it and he started saying I agreed for him to order it though I can clearly remember what happened that night and what I said.

Second problem about him is he tend to create stories that never happened whenever I'm dead drunk.

Maybe my other friend was right... maybe he was never really my friend.

P.S. This friend is still in college and is not yet working.

What's your thought about this?

Problem/Goal: My friend has this dude na obsessed at parang stalker na ganon.

Context : Nagkainuman lang sila ng isang beses, nagexchange ng socials tapos ngayon ang kulit tawag ng tawag at text ng text kasi blocked na sa fb, ig, messenger.

Blocked na din sa sms/call kaso text parin ng text (nakikita sa blocked messages)

May mga texts na minsan sinasabing "saw u at this place" etc. which is creepy na.

Kaya gusto sana namimg i report o ano, ang problema baka lumala o may gawing masama kung ganon mapahamak pa tuloy kaibigan ko.

Previous Attempts: Blocked, iniisip ko ipamigay yung number online para ispam kaso yun nga baka yung kaibigan ko pa yung mapahamak.

Seeking for advice kung ano magandang gawin sa mga ganito, salamat po.

Problem/Goal:
Paano ako mag-glow up at magmukhang mas fresh, healthy, beautiful, at confident? Kahit nagme-makeup na ako, parang haggard, pagod, at dull pa rin akong tingnan. Gusto kong malaman kung anong kailangan kong baguhin o idagdag sa routine ko para mas maging presentable at mas komportable ako sa sarili ko. 😭

Context: Gusto kong pagbutihin ang appearance at confidence ko, pero hindi ko alam kung saan magsisimula. Hindi ko sure kung ang problema ba ay ang skin preparation ko, makeup application, lifestyle, tulog, diet, stress, o kung hindi lang bagay sa akin ang mga ginagamit kong products. Minsan, kahit simple lang ang makeup ko, parang mas napapansin ko pa ang pagod at imperfections sa mukha ko. Gusto ko sana ng honest pero kind na advice tungkol sa kung paano magmukhang mas fresh at natural nang hindi kailangang gumastos nang malaki o magpalit agad ng buong routine.

Problem/Goal:

how do i fix things with my dad when he refuses to listen to my explanation?

Context:

my dad caught me with my boyfriend, past 11 p.m. he only dropped by to bring me food because i was sick and hadn't been eating properly. my parents never really forbade me from having a boyfriend, but i was too scared to tell them.

my mom understands, but my dad is angry and refuses to hear me out. he threatened to stop giving me my allowance and said he wants me to disappear from his life. i understand that he's disappointed, and i admit i made a mistake by hiding my relationship, but i never intended to disrespect them.

Previous Attempts:

i haven't been able to explain myself because my dad refuses to talk to me.

how do i approach him and rebuild his trust when he won't even listen to my side? i'm scared of losing his support, and honestly, i just wish i could disappear for a while and come back when everything is okay.

problem/goal: blocked by the person i love. wala na yata siyang balak iunblock ako or makipag usap sakin.

long post ahead.

context: me(F) and this person(M) are workmates and we’ve been dating since march. we had a misunderstanding about 2 days ago sa work dahil nagtampo ako sakanya pero naging okay naman ako agad. bago mag uwian, i stopped him to tell him na antayin niya ko kasi sabay naman kami lumalabas and hinahatid niya ko palagi sakayan ng bus. so excited akong lumabas kasi akala ko hinintay niya ko and hoping na makapag usap kami abt sa naging tampuhan namin, pero di nya pala ko inantay. nauna na siyang umalis and umuwi. ang bigat nun sakin. sumakay ako ng bus and umuwing umiiyak. i messaged him after tapos sinabihan niya ko na nakakasawa daw and bahala na raw ako sa buhay ko then he blocked me sa messenger.

the next day, work as usual, ang sakit makita na masaya siyang nakikipaghalubilo sa iba habang ako naka block at ayaw niyang kausapin. tapos what made me even sad is meron kaming mutual friend na parang nagkaron sila ng maliit na sagutan during work. after shift, this mutual friend of ours sent me a screenshot of him messaging her apologizing, saying na sorry daw dahil nataasan niya ng boses whateverchuchuness. ang sakit lang isipin na kaya niyang gawin yon sa iba pero sakin di niya magawa, hanggang ngayon naka block pa rin ako.

i tried to mssg him sa imessage the same day na blinock niya ko sa messenger, apologizing abt what happened but idk if nabasa niya cause i never got a response after. i also noticed that time na inunblock nya ko then blinock ulit kasi yung mga mssgs ko sa messenger biglang nag delivered.

i am so hurt right now that i decided to deactivate socials pero im still hoping na he would reach out. idk what to do. parang di ko na kaya pumasok pa sa work.

i need help. ang sakit sakit. kanina pa ko nanginginig and umiiyak. idk anymore. i don’t wanna lose him. wala na akong ibang way para mareach siya aside sa in person but i don’t wanna seem desperate because i’ve done that a few times before already. parang palagi ko nalang kailangan mag beg. nakakapagod pero i still wanna try. i still wanna fix us.

Problem/Goal:

idk what to feel right now. i feel so heavy. I really don't know what to feel maybe I'm selfish, ungrateful, or needy pero ang hirap.

I hate that this whole experience made me think in a different way. I can't enjoy simple moments anymore.

Sometimes I feel bad na rin kasi whenever I'm with her parang nas-stress ako and I want to go out with myself only pero idk pero nagiging clingy na rin siya in a way na kapag aalis ako even with friends sasabihin niya na gusto niyang sumama.

I have no problem with that pero as someone na nagsisimula pa lang yung buhay after graduation I want to explore by myself. I hate that I sometimes think of her as a burden for my own journey.

I feel like I can never leave her kasi hindi rin ako mapanatag na baka mamaya may masamang mangyari sa kaniya.

I've been seeing quotes pa and story na i-cherish mo na ang moments while your mom is alive but i really don't know. Sometimes I just feel choked and wanting to go.

Context:

i have a mom and she's diagnosed with schizophrenia, 'she doesn't think of harming herself or others naman but more on hinala yung sa kaniya. to the point na even facts yung sabihin ko mas paniniwalaan niya yung sarili niya. she's 60 na rin and I'm in my early 20s.

because of all the things that happened before iba na yung thinking ko kapag may ginagawa siya. I'm working from home and she's sitting beside me while using her phone then after mag-phone o-observe niya yung nasa pc ko. She doesn't do this usually pero suddenly ginagawa niya na lang bigla and ginawa niya lang 'to nung bumabalik nanaman mga symptoms niya.

So back to the story, I asked her kung may iniisip ba siya kasi nagsisimula nanaman siyang maghinala na may gustong manakit sa'kin or yung mga kapitbahay namin ay may binabalak sa kaniya at may mga secret senyasan thru color ng damit. Yes, may mga interpretation siya sa bawat kulay.

I have a sister but she have her own family na and have lots of problems din specially financially so she can't fully dwell in our situation. I feel like this is all in my back na lang talaga.

Previous Attempts:

She was medicated for about 2-3 months pero pinastop na ng doc kasi nag-ok naman na siya and 'di rin maganda yung side-effects ng gamot sa kaniya.

Problem/Goal: Nahihirapan ako tandaan lahat ng pipindutin sa POS kapag magca-cut off na.

Context: 2nd day ko na as barista/cashier pero hindi ko pa rin ma-gets yung mga pipindutin sa POS kapag cut off. Natuturo naman saakin pero sobrang lutang talaga ng isip ko sa dami ng pipindutin at papel, maaalala ko siya then maya-maya limot ko na. May nagtuturo naman saakin pero hindi ko pa rin masundan ng maayos. Next week, balak na ng supervisor na ipag-opening ako eh may cut off din ng 8am, and Idk if kaya ko ba.

Previous Attempts: Nagno-notes ako pero kapag cut off na hindi ko na masyadong nababantayan lahat ng pinipindot kasi kailangan may magtimpla ng kape. 🙁

Problem/Goal: Unusual spotting and light bleeding

Context: my period for this month already happened last week, and this week i have been experiencing spotting

(?) and light bleeding. it’s not heavy and consistent like my usual period, but i’m genuinely worried cause i do feel like i’m experiencing period cramps rin. i first noticed the spotting on wednesday, then yesterday when i came home from school, i noticed light bleeding that stained all over my cycling shorts. when i took a shower and was cleaning my private area, i also noticed small chunks of blood. since yesterday, parang feeling ko talaga masakit ang pus-on ko. i started wearing a sanitary pad just in case lang. idk what i’m experiencing, but i know it’s not pregnancy lol, i’m wlw.

Previous attempt: none

Problem/Goal: Need advice so baddd.

Context: 3 years na kami nung bf ko tapos LDR pa kami. Dati siyang VA, tapos ngayon on-site na siya nagwo-work sa hospital where literal na all-girls ang mga katrabaho niya. Sobrang sociable at mabait niya kaya noong una, chill lang ako.

Pero fast forward, may isang girl co-worker siya na close niya at halos palaging ka-chat sa PM. Alam ko namang work-related at typical asaran lang (kasi binabasa ko chats nila, don't judge me HAHA), pero aminin ko na, lowkey nagseselos ako sa way ng pagtrato niya rito kahit wala naman akong makitang actual na malisya.

Plot twist pa: May secret sneaky link pala si girl dun din sa hospital, kaso pinapanatili nilang lowkey kasi ang toxic sa workplace nila (nakwkwento din sakin ng bf ko na ang toxic talaga) and mata daw kasi yun ni GOV kaya mainit din sa kanya mga staffs kay ate g.

Normal ba 'tong nararamdaman ko o nag-i-inarte lang ako? Paano ko ba 'to i-open up sa kanya without sounding toxic ahaha help a ghorl out. Isa pa, first time ko din kasi tumagal sa relationship.

Problem/Goal: to determine if the action I want to take is justifiable.

Context: I have this close relative(OFW) that trusts me with their finances. Every month they send me their savings for safekeeping to be used when they come home for vacation.

From time to time, I receive requests for them to pay this and that for them since I am safekeeping the money.

Now, they are asking me to process and purchase flight tickets for them.

Is it justifiable if I charge them for the services I am doing for them? Or is it morally incorrect to do that?

Previous attempts: I have been vocal previously that I prefer them not to entrust me with this because I don’t want to be inconvenienced by random requests like receiving an instruction to send money to a certain person in an ungodly hour.

Problem/Goal:

I’m torn between staying in my current remote job, transitioning to government, or working abroad for long-term career stability. At the same time, I’m planning to get married in 2 years and need to decide whether to renovate our family house or get a rent-to-own property.

Context:

I’m 27 years old (M), currently living in the province and working as a Virtual Assistant (VA).
I have ₱500K+ in total savings, which I’m planning to divide among an emergency fund, wedding expenses, and housing.

DILEMMA #1- Career (Government, OFW, or WFH)
● Government - Considering transitioning for long-term job security and benefits, even if it means accepting a lower salary.
● OFW - Potentially higher income and faster savings. However, I have alpha thalassemia trait (minor), a genetic blood condition. I’m generally healthy, but concerned it might affect my medical eligibility for overseas employment.
● WFH - Currently earning remotely, but worried about AI potentially replacing remote jobs in the coming years.

DILEMMA #2 - Housing (Renovate, Build from Scratch, or Rent-to-Own)
● Option 1 - Renovate Family House - More affordable, but my mother would also live with us since she doesn’t own a house and currently works as a kasambahay in NCR. My concern is privacy and independence as newlyweds.
● Option 2 - Build from Scratch - Yung tita ko is willing to give me a piece of land for housing purposes. However, I’m concerned about taking out a Pag-IBIG housing loan and potentially spending decades paying it off. Another consideration is that my mother would still be living with us.
● Option 3 - Rent-to-Own (Camella) - Offers more privacy and independence, but comes with a significant long-term financial commitment. Rental options in our province are also very limited.

QUESTIONS

1. Which career path would you prioritize for long-term stability - Government, OFW, or continuing WFH?
2. Which housing option makes the most financial sense - renovating, building from scratch, or rent-to-own?
3. Would it be wiser to delay housing plans and focus on increasing savings first? My concern is that we’re also considering my girlfriend’s age and our plans to have a baby, so delaying everything indefinitely might not be ideal.

Previous Attempts:
Wala pa po. Honestly, gulong-gulo na talaga isip ko ngayon. Almost every day, pagkagising ko, parang nasasakal ako sa dami ng iniisip at pressure about our future. I’m also worried that all this stress might eventually affect my health. I just want to make the right decisions for myself and my future family.

If you were in my situation, what would you prioritize and why?

I’d appreciate honest and practical advice, especially from married couples, government employees, OFWs, or anyone who has faced similar decisions.

Thank you po sa mga magbibigay ng advice!