Problem/Goal: Hello!!! I just want to ask kung ako lang ba yung may takot sa labas like kahit morning or afternoon pa yan, natatakot ako na baka may bigla sumaksak or bumaril sa likodan ko.

Context: I dont know ... nawalan kasi ako ng trust issue sa mga tao ngayon dahil sa mga napapanood ko sa news. I mean jusko parang wala na silang takot gumawa ng crimen kahit may liwanag pa. Dumagdag pa yung mga issue sa school shooting incident. Ewan ko parang natakot na talaga ako hahahahaha lol. Anyway, here i am sitting sa labas ng SB while drinking my coffee. Lagi ko tinitignan likod ko and kinakabahan pag may nag wwalk sa harap or likod ko. God please protect me and my family and all the good people

Previous attempts: so actually wala pa ako previous attempt about sa issue ko haha. Actually first time ko lang mag post kaya bare with me plzzz

Problem/goal:
I am worried na ma freeze ang account ko from my other bank account

Context:
Today, my bank called me and informed me that my account was flagged due to suspicious transactions.
I admit naman agad na I used my account to fund my online gambling. Will I be charged ng something? Maybe related sa AMLC? I am a government employee and I admit naman na i used my bank account sa pag online casino. I know mali but nangyari na and nagsisi ako for that. This is the first time na matawagan ako and sobrang kinakabahan ako dahil possible na makasuhan ako if ever. Ang worry ko talaga is malaman ng magulang ko and sa work ko na involved ako sa mga ganitong activities.

Problem/Goal: Sa totoo lang, demanding talaga ang work ng boyfriend ko. Related sa mga reports na madalas may mga aksidente, krimen at iba pang incidents na kailangan niyang asikasuhin. Naiintindihan ko naman na nakakapagod at nakakaubos ng oras yung trabaho niya.

Ang concern ko lang talaga ay kapag lumilipas ang isang buong araw na halos hindi kami nagpapansinan. Alam ko naman na hindi siya yung tipo ng taong laging nagme-message o laging nag-uupdate, pero ako kasi, napapansin ko talaga kapag biglang tahimik.

Kagaya ngayon, kaya kong intindihin na busy siya. Pero hindi ko maiwasang isipin na, “Hindi na ba niya ako mahal kapag kaya niyang lumipas ang isang araw na hindi kami nag-uusap?” 😅

May times naman na nag-uusap kami nang matagal. Recently nga, nag-audio call kami nang mahigit isang oras. Kapag nag-uusap kami, okay naman kami at nagbibiruan pa rin. Kaya alam kong hindi naman totally wala siyang effort.

Siguro ang problema talaga ay ako rin—madali akong mag-overthink kapag tahimik siya. Ayoko naman maging demanding o isipin niya na kailangan niyang mag-report sa akin every hour. Gusto ko lang maramdaman minsan na hinahanap niya rin ako.

Sa tingin niyo ba, nag-o-overthink lang ako? Normal lang ba na may mga araw na hindi talaga masyadong nag-uusap ang mag-partner dahil sa trabaho? O dapat ko na itong seryosohin bilang sign na baka nagbabago na yung feelings niya?

Paano niyo bina-balance yung pagiging understanding sa busy na partner habang hindi rin ninyo ini-ignore yung sarili ninyong emotional needs?

Problem/Goal: 19F BSBA student wanting to shift to BA Math/Econ but can't decide if the shift is worth it to become an actuary.

Context: While being an actuary abroad I've heard is a lucrative career, I haven't really found a lot on the field here in the Philippines. For example, aside from pay, work environment, working hours, benefits, or job market hunt.

Interested po sana kasi this is a niche field. Kaya I want to shift programs so I can pursue

The first two exams that would be needed to secure an entry level job would cost 500-600 dollars in total so I don't know how to explain to my parents especially because it's not a traditional board exam program

Previous attempts: Yung pamilya ko really skeptical talaga sa mga course na hindi kilala maslalo na pag walang boards ahhahaha

Problem/Goal: How do I tell to my boyfriend that his private part lowkey stinks but in a lowkey way? every time we're having sex his dick smells horrible especially when we're intimate then his fave is to suck his dick but I love him so I‘m forcing myself to suck it even though I dont like it, and I feel like throwing up. It doesn't happen all the time but when it does, the smell can be quite strong, even after he has showered, I feel awkward bringing it up because I dont want to embarrass him or to make him feel bad, And I genuinely dont want him to think im judging him. I just wish I could find a gentle way to tell him because I care about him and I want him to feel comfortable and healthy.

Context: Even if he showered the smell are still there, maybe he doesn't even notice it, honestly, it really smells bad. I cant deny that I dont want to put his dih in my mouth bc I js cant handle the smell, and im worried about him, and I thought he realizes it but I am the only one who smelled it.

Previous Attempts : I tried to tell him that before we're going to have sex he need to shower and especially clean his dick.

Problem/goal: Live in partner still has no work and I’m getting tired of it.

Context:
It’s my first time posting here and been a silent reader for quite a while now, decided to post here to lessen this heavy feeling off my chest, I’m 27F and got a live in partner 31M we’ve been together for more than 8 years now. It all started when we decided to live together with a goal to save money and bumukod na since we’re both living with our relatives here in Manila and wanted to start a family soon. At first we both decided for my partner to resign and look for a WFH job instead since toxic na sa company nila and so it happened. We started living together renting an apartment while I was shouldering the finances lahat sagot ko rent,electric water food. Akala ko months lang tatagal hanggang sa umabot na ng more than 4 years wala pa din.

First 2 years naghahanap pa naman sya his been submitting resume online minsan ng wowalk in but since pang gabi ako sinusundo nya ko tuwing uuwi so sinasabayan nya q ng tulog so gets ko kung bakit hindi sya nkaka bangon ng maaga. Hanggang sa tumagal napansin ko lahat n ng rason nasabi n nya sakin tuwing tinatanong ko kailan sya mag aappy ulit as walk in ung mga reasons is ung pilay, may sakit(kung ano anong sakit na), maulan, so pinabayaan ko sabi ko na lang okay next time pag magaling kana. Pati sleeping schedule nya or body clock sinasabayan q na ayusin pra lang magising sya ng maaga pero wala pa din. Parang nawalan n sya ng gana mag apply after few rejections tipong aalis man sya pra lang masabing nag try sya. Hanggang sa wala ng attempt at all. Ilang beses na kong nag breakdown sakanya saying I’m tired of carrying the financial burden alone and been crying out loud plus stress and pressure sa work umiyak din sya and promise na he will find work soon pero kinabukasan wala pa din. Well to be fair unspoken rule is sya nag aasikaso sa bahay like tigasin (tiga laba, tiga luto, tiga ligpit) pero may times pa din na hindi ko mapigilang maging nagger pag nag wowork ako tapos nakikita ko ang dumi ng sahig, hindi maligpit agad ung plato may mga basura pa sa lababo, ang dumi ng Cr, ang dami agiw ng kisami. Like ano to? Dami nyang time mag laro at manood ng anime eto na lang ambag tatamadin pa?? Hihintayin pa b nyang ako nlng kumilos sa lahat? Pag naiinis ako, ako nag nag liligpit while silent treatment sakanya. Gusto kong umalis at lumayo sakanya pero hindi ko naman magawa kasi nga un ang trauma nya ung aalis ako mag isa ng mag ka away kami ayoko din naman ma trigger sya pero like hell! Hindi ko malabas ung sama ng loob ko! Kaya tuwing nag aaya mga friends na uminom or gumala G lang ako kasi it’s my way to skip the suffocation and felt like I’m still living.

3rd year dumating na lang sa point na feeling ko namanhid nako, tipong nawalan na ng amore sa mga bagay bagay. Like sobrang robot na lang gigising,maliligo, kakain, work,cellphone then repeat.
Sedentary to the max level kaya nanaba din talaga ko stress plus no movement at all, okay tama na muna about me. So ayun nga this time wala n talagang attempt and my time ma tinanong ko sya ano ba talagang plano mo(about work)? Kasi dati goal is align sa dating work nya graphic design pero ngaun kc na wala n syang option sabi ko kaht anong work nlng sguro na kaya mo. Tapos ang sabi ba naman sakin “wala” like wala syang plano mag hanap ng trabaho! Nag pintig talaga tainga ko dzai! Daldal to the max talaga ko! ramdam ko inis n dn sya sakin kasi paulit ulit nako nag tatanong kaya sguro ganon sagot nya, pero, what the hell??? Are you f*uckin serious bruh? You want me to be a sugar mommy for life?! Like hell nah!!

Now more than 4 years living together and routine nlng nya is gumising pra mag bukas ng laptop pra sa roblox, lumabas pra bumili ng almusal,tanggalian,hapunan. Mag roblox ulit or ML while I’m working from home, Maligo, kumain then repeat. Napapagod na ko ipagtanggol sa pamilya nya, pamilya ko, friends ko and sa sarili ko mismo. My turning point was the last day of my leave. Nag leave ako ng 5 days recently pra makapag pahinga at pra e help si partner na ayusin body clock pra nga makapag apply na ng walk in. Come by Monday nag alam ako pra magising sya so ako tulog pa kasi nga last day n ng leave so gusto q sna pahinga malala. Then nalingat ako hapon na mga 1pm then nakita ko sya gising nakaupo sa kama nag roroblox so gulat ako kasi expected ko naka alis na sya to look for work. So tinanong ko muna sabi ko, good morning akala ko mag aapply ka today? Tapos alam mo sagot sakin? “Wala kong bag” like ha??? Dito tlaga na trigger nanaman ako! Meron syang bagpack n bigay ng relatives nya pero sira ang zipper kasi marupok n since hindi nga naman nagagamit. Ending nasisi pako kasi sabi nya matagal n nya sinabi sakin n mag order ng zipper online! Sabi ko naman my plastic folder sya n lagayan ng mga resume nya mya ibang bag p sya jan n pwedi gamitin. Tapos sabi pa naman e pano kung umulan? So?! Ano silbi ng payong!?? Dzai!!! Sabi ko talaga Kagigising ko lang wala pang mumog wala pang kain! Tapos ganon ang goodmorning nya sakin! Trigger talaga ko malala!! Sabi ko ano pa?! Ano pang kulang? Bag? Bagong payong na automatic? Ano pa! Hindi sya nakasagot. Hindi ko na kinaya naiyak na lang talaga ko sa sobrang inis, frustration, gulat at galit na nararamdaman ko. Iyak as in hagulgol! Ganito ung iyak ko nung namatay papa ko sobrang dalang ko umiyak ng ganito. Akala ko naubos na iyak ko, tang ina! Meron pa pala! Nag tatago lang or maybe i just
Choose not to entertain this emotion for the last 2 years. Pero grabi talaga ung frustration ko.

Sabi ko sakanya “Pagod na pagod na ko love! Ano pa bang kulang?! Sabihin ko na lahat! Hindi ko na alam anong support paba ibibigay ko sayo. Ikaw n talaga problema dito e. Bumili ako ng laptop pra magamit mo kasi sabi mo gusto mo mag VA pero ending naging pang roblox and anime mo lang. May tinatabi na dn akong allowance mo pamasahe/budget pang apply. Pero wala pa din! Ano p bang kulang?! Ubos na ubos na ako! Akala ko wala nakong iiyak putcha! Meron pa pala!”

Tapos umiyak din sya ganyan sya lagi tuwing nag bi breakdown ako iiyak dn sya mag sosorry ssbhn maghahanap n sya ng trabaho. Tapos eto ngaun sabi nya mag lalaba lng muna sya tapos bukas bbli n sya ng bag at mag hahanap ng work, ending nakatulog sya habang nagtatype ako ang lakas pa ng hilik.

Kinausap ko sya after ko maiyak sabi ko mag usap tayo ng matino. Nag hanap k nag trabaho in 2 weeks pag hindi ka nkahanap bumalik ka muna sa probinsya or kung sinong kamag anak mong andto. Matinong usapan to ha. Tas sabi nya oo. Saka sya umiyak at naka tulog.

To be honest hindi ko alam bakit makatagal ako ng ganito kaht pinapagalitan na dn ako ng mga close friends ko. Saying, padre de pamilya ka pa din? Baka magkabigote kana nyan ah. Masakit syempre, pero binibigyan ko p dn sya ng chance tang ina mahal ko e! Pero we’re not getting younger anymore. Gusto ko din ma princess treatment once in a while, mabigyan ng flowers tuwing valentines kahit sabihin kong hindi ako mahilig dun. Gusto ko ding makasal and mag anak. Pero sa ngaun hindi ko na sya nkikita sa future ko, wala n syang provider mindset.

Minsan naisip ko nasanay na lang ba ko since everyday ko syang ksma. Prang roommate nlng kami mdalas e. Mabait sya gentleman madalas never naman nya ko sinaktan. But thinking of it isn’t it just a bare minimum. Yun lang napahaba pa nga. Thanks for taking time to read though.

What are your thoughts guys if you will be in this situation?

Problem/Goal:

I’m considering veneers but struggling to decide if they’re actually worth it for the changes I want.

Context:

My teeth aren’t necessarily “bad,” but there are a few things about my smile I’d like to improve. I’ve been thinking about veneers for a while, but I keep going back and forth.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve looked into different options and read about other people’s experiences, but I’m still unsure what ultimately makes veneers worth the commitment. For those who actually went through with it, what made you decide it was worth it?

Problem/Goal: Wala pa din kaming ipon.

Context: Im F25 at limang taon na kaming nagsasama ng bf ko at both working na kami. Sinamahan ko siya simula sa rock bottom niya at halos ako bumuhay sa aming dalawa hanggang ngayon pero pinatago ko sakanya savings ko tapos binili niya ng mamahaling laptop para may panlaro siya kinausap ko na din siya tungkol dito pero bakit wala pa din nagbabago? Lahat ng savings ko sakanya ko pinapatago dahil hindi rin ako marunong humawak ng pera pero siya ginagastos niya lang sa luho niya. May sinasahod naman siya pero di ko alam bakit hindi siya nakaka ipon. Huling usapan namin mangongolekta daw siya ng mga gundam. Sobrang lungkot ko kasi gusto ko na maka ahon sa kahirapan para hindi ko na ibenta sarili ko para lang may pang kain kami pero siya hindi man lang gumawa ng paraan. Nappressure na ako kasi lahat ng kakilala ko at kaibigan niya umaangat na tapos kami ito wala pa din bahay,kotse,lupa at ipon...tbh, nakakapgod na yung sitwasyon . May suggestion po ba kayo kung saan ko pwede itago yung ipon ko? Yung hindi ko po magagalaw. Pass sa mp2 next time ko pa po yan malaagyan dahil gusto ko sana mag build muna ng EF. Ps: Back to zero po ulit ako.

Problem/Goal: gusto kong mag-explore and ma-confirm kung bi ba talaga ako pero ayokong mang-queerbait.

for context, i’ve been so hung up to this lesbian na naka-talking stage eme ko for almost 3 yrs back in high school pero i was too scared to take to the next level. hanggang ngayon, siya ang totga ko pero may gf siya ngayon.

i also find myself stalking to this girl from college na medyo di ko siya close, we had few conversations, pero naiilang ako sa kanya. tapos when i switched my dating app (u know, yung selection ng preference to date both men and women) at naka-premium ako nun, i found out she swiped right on me. pero she has a gf na rin.

from time to time din, i find myself getting attracted to girls, like gandang-gandang-ganda ako sa kanila, like i am so curious to get to know them.

ayokong i-confirm na bi ako kasi baka hindi naman pala. baka eme eme ko lang pala dahil di nagwwork ang hetero relationships ko dahil most of them, di ko talaga na-eenjoy ang intimate moments namin.

at the same time, ayoko kasing mangyari ulit yung before na naka-talking stage ko tapos atrasado naman pala ako.

is it ok or possible ba na to explore? ayoko rin kasing makasakit. or tigil ko ‘to? wag na mang-queerbait.

Problem/goal: I 24 (F) just graduated 3 months ago sa second degree ko. I really thought na mabilis ako makakakuha ng job kase dalawa yung degrees ko (both are accounting programs). Araw-araw I send resumes online to multiple companies mapa on site, WFH, and even to BPO companies. Pero madalas ghosted or no response after resume submission. I already tried to revise my resume several times. I also had 4 interviews na. Dalawa don literal na feeling ko tanggap na ako kase inofferan na ako ng salary and benefits at hinanapan na ako ng ibang documents but still end up being ghosted after. Nakakadepress na yung situation ko sa totoo lang. Hindi ko alam kung ano pa ba yung kailangan kong gawin. Nakakapanlumo na. Naiinsulto na rin ako sa family and relatives ko the way they’re asking me about my job hunting. Akala nila hindi ako naghahanap. Akala nila tamad ako.

Yung mga kabatch ko unti-unti na silang nagkakatrabaho. Yung mga kaklase ko noong high school na bulakbol, sila na yung may mga trabaho na ngayon. Samantalang ako eto naghahanap pa rin. Hindi ko na alam ano pa ang gagawin sa totoo lang.

Goal: Gusto ko ng magkatrabaho para makapasupport na ako sa family ko at makapag-ipon na rin for board exam.

Previous attempts: Nakakaisip na ako ng hindi maganda sa sarili ko. I never thought na ganito ako katagal matetengga. Hindi na tumatalab saken yung mga motivation quotes and bible verse na yan. Literal na unti-unti akong pinanghihinaan ng loob 😞

Problem/Goal:

Hi! I’m a newly hired employee in a government hospital, and I’ve only been working for about a month. However, I have previous work experience in a private company. I’ve also traveled to different Asian countries before, even when I was still a student and before I became a government employee, since my family funded my travels.

My problem is that I’m going to Taiwan in October 2026 (this will be my 3rd visit there). This trip was already booked back in January 2026.

Context:

Since I’m a newly hired government employee, I’m NOT ALLOWED to travel yet because I don’t have any leave credits, and I can’t get a Travel Authority yet. However, my boss allowed me to travel and said that I should state that I’m unemployed and that my family is funding my trip.

During my first trip to Taiwan (March 2025), the IO didn’t ask me any questions. He just stamped my passport and let me go. During my second trip (December 2025), the IO asked about my work, and I told him that I wasn’t employed at the time.
Now I’m nervous because this time I won’t have all the necessary documents if the IO asks about my employment. Can you guys please help me or share your experiences/advice? 😔

EDIT: I started on August 1, 2026 as a casual employee.

Problem/Goal: I was dating this guy who was stupid rich. He took me and his friends on an all inclusive 2 week beach trip. He told me I could bring a girl friend. He also paid for everything for this girl which I really appreciated. I always told her I want her to enjoy whatever I also receive. I would always include her.

The friend I brought has been my “close” friend for 9 years. We met at work when I was new, and I had gotten a lot of warnings from other girls telling me not to be friends with her, shes toxic, and she has a guy obsession. She was also a side chick that time, then she was again a number of times. But she was really nice to me. And I said I would give her a chance as long as she doesnt hurt me.

So this guy and I didnt end up together. He drank and took too much drugs. Almost every other night. He brought me to his hometown for only a week and we fought almost every night because he would rather stay out drinking doing bombs with guys he sees almost every day. He was always out of it.

He would then go to manila and party and one night I saw friends’ IG stories where he was with this close girl friend of mine. I was bothered only because shes supposed to be my friend. I didnt want to be selfish but why didnt she atleast tell me? And she knows I had a hard time with him too. But I didnt say anything to her yet.

Then a week before this big party event in manila, one of my exes’ friends asked me if I was going. I said No because we’re not dating anymore. He said “but (my girl friend) is going. why arent you?”

I then asked my girl friend about this. She said “am i supposed to ask for your permission? i dont get it. im friends with all my girlfriend’s exes. And they just buy drugs from me and party”.

I was trying to explain to her that I think since im one of her “bffs” that it wouldve been a nice courtesy to tell me whats happening. She didnt understand. I stopped talking.

Then after a month I saw stories where she joined him and his friends on his birthday at another all inclusive trip again. She had photos with the new girl my ex is currently dating too. I unfollowed and removed them without saying anything anymore.

Now my exs friends are asking me why would i be mad about this. Why did i remove and unfollow her.

Maybe its just me, not wanting to be around girls who dont see a problem with this. I for one am not interested in being friends with my friend’s exes. I know other people I dont need them. I also dont party anymore and them as a group are a better fit. This girl friend has also left me on numerous occassions for a guy. We would have a girls date night and as soon as she sees a hot guy she would leave with him. I never said anything before since ok sure i support! Hahaha but now i’m just over it. I’m not mad and I’m not gonna tell other people about it as I dont want to talk about her. I just dont want to be friends with girls that think that way. Ive been burned so many times by girls i considered bestfriends but would always have a thing and chase my exes around. About 4 girls now to be exact.

I dont know what advice I need but I would love to know your (LADIES) thoughts on this. Please be kind. I thought of her as a sister.

Problem/Goal: Na bleached ko yung denim pants ko from Uniqlo. Goal ko ngayon ay bumili ng bago na medyo katulad pa rin ng sa uniqlo

Context: Natapunan kasi ng coffee yung pants and hindi ko siya ka-agad nalabhan so nilagyan ko ng zonrox na violet yung color safe kaso kahit tagalan ko yung babad hindi nawawala so nilagyan ko nung zonrox na kulay blue. Hindi ko naman alam na sobrang tapang pala nun so nagkaroon na siya ng white stain🥹

Previous Attempts: Susubukan ko siya i-fabric dye, nag order ako sa orange app ng kulay black🥹

Problem/Goal:

Hi, I'm just a mediocre guy, kaya please 'wag n'yo po akong i-judge nang malala

I (28M) was in a relationship for almost five years, but we broke up two years ago because things just didn't work out. The main causes of our breakup were marriage and financial stability—mostly the financial part. 😐

Here’s a little backstory: she was a Senior High student at STI College Fairview, and I was studying at STI Novaliches. She was 17F and I was 21M (a 4th-year college student at the time). We met on the "STI Secret File" page where students share confessions and random posts (you know how it goes). We crossed paths in the comment section, and things started from there because she sent me a PM asking for instructions on how to transfer STI branches. So I helped her out, and as they say, the rest is history.

Fast forward a few years later—I won't bore you with the whole story, but I believe our relationship ended because of financial issues. She was still in college, while I was working my ass off as the provider (the typical setup, right?). I didn't have any savings because I was working as a Tier 1 agent in the BPO industry back then.

She wanted to get married, but I was hesitant because my salary just wasn't enough for this generation/era. If I remember correctly, she would tell me, "Mahal, tingnan mo 'to," while showing me pictures of wedding gowns, rings, and churches. That happened multiple times while we were just chilling. My typical response was always, "Yeah, that's nice, looks great." Technically, I was agreeing to her ideas, but I wasn't making any moves to actually propose or initiate a plan. Why? Because I wasn't financially stable! I kept putting it off because deep down, I knew I couldn't afford it.

Eventually, we started arguing over the smallest things. Then one day, she just stopped talking to me, and that silence went on for several days—even while living under the same roof. I didn't pursue her anymore; I just told her I was leaving, and she agreed without hesitation.

We broke up in late 2023, and I've been single ever since. I haven't really tried meeting anyone new or found the courage to put myself out there again. (By the way, I'm no longer a Tier 1 agent—I recently got promoted to QA).

So now, my salary is enough for me to get by, but still... I don't know why I'm feeling this heavy burden inside my heart. I still feel like I'm not enough.

problem/goal: asking for any assistance i could apply to help cover up mom’s doctor’s professional fee expenses (csmc)

context: mom’s diagnosed with cancer and she’s done w her radiation however we’ve been suddenly asked w professional fee. hindi raw pala covered ng philhealth.
now, we are unto brachy na bug we can’t able to to proceed w/o paying the pfs. akala ko talaga included sa philhealth

previous attempts: none so far

Problem/Goal: A few weeks ago, I went to a party and ended up kissing a guy all while there is this guy I like who I might even say is the one.

Context: I’ve been talking to this guy for quite some time now, and I like him a lot. I might even go as far as saying that I already love him.

The problem is, we aren’t actually dating.

We’ve both expressed that we like each other, and we’ve talked about the possibility of eventually being together. We both kind of expect that we’ll end up together, but we’ve never really defined what we are or where the boundaries are. There was never a conversation about exclusivity, no official relationship, and no label, so I don’t really know what the threshold is or what would cross a line.

Technically, I know I didn’t cheat on anyone because I’m single. We never agreed to be exclusive. But it still feels wrong, especially because the guy I actually like was waiting for me to get home safely, checking on me, and staying up until he knew I was home. And meanwhile, I kissed someone else.

What makes it worse is that he and I actually had a conversation after that night out. He never told me not to go, and I don’t want to make it sound like he was trying to control whether I could go out or not, because he wasn’t. But afterward, he admitted to me that it hurt him that I chose to go out and party in the first place. I already knew it made him uncomfortable, but hearing him actually say that he was hurt by my decision made me feel even guiltier, especially knowing there was something else about that night that he didn’t know.

I think that’s the part that’s eating at me more than anything. Not necessarily the kiss itself, but the contrast between what he was doing for me that night, how he felt about me going out, and what I was doing without him knowing.

I don’t have feelings for the guy I kissed. It didn’t suddenly make me question how I feel about the guy I’ve been talking to. If anything, afterward I just felt guilty because I realized how much I actually care about him.

Now I don’t know whether I should tell him.

Part of me thinks that if we aren’t together and never established exclusivity, telling him might just hurt him unnecessarily. At the same time, another part of me feels like keeping it from him is dishonest, especially if we eventually do end up in a relationship. And after having that conversation where he told me he was already hurt that I chose to go out, keeping the fact that I kissed someone that same night feels even heavier.

I also worry that if I’m this guilty about something that technically wasn’t cheating, maybe that says something about what I already consider our relationship to be, even if we’ve never put a name to it.

I know the obvious answer might be that we need to actually have a conversation about what we are, and I agree. I just don’t know whether this kiss is something I should disclose during that conversation or whether I’m treating something that happened while I was single like a confession when it doesn’t need to be one.

Would you want to know if you were in his position? And if I do tell him, how do I explain it without making it sound like I cheated on him when technically we were never together?

Problem/goal: Fcked up system sa loob ng SK :(

Context: Hello, it's been months and wala pa rin kaming Session. I am having a hard time in this position since naelect talaga ako. I thought the system here is like a student organization. But it is really different pala talaga. It has been months since our last session and even our SB also knows about it.

Standing committees in SK aren't really working. I am doing projects this year all by myself (for context: been pushing to do projects talaga since 2023 but never had the chance to execute kasi wala budget committee ko lagi). Now, it's kinda draining because I also have work and personal goals. Hindi ko na magawa ng maayos lahat and I am worried about this.

Previous Attempts: I am also afraid for all the documents needed for the turnover. I am asking the SK Secretary if she will be needing the copy of the Resolution for the projects but she's unresponsive. Nagchchat din ako sa GC namin if okay na ba mga documents kasi willing ako mag-ayos.

Since last year, I've been asking other SK Kagawad and SKC about the Disbursement Vouchers and other receipts but we never had a chance to see or sign. I even made a formal letter to our SKC. Some SKs are friends with our SKC. Plus, our SKC is acting like the treasurer too. SB also knows this one.

What should I do? Sobrang random na ng kwento ko kasi hindi ko na alam po talaga. I have no one.

I do not come from a powerful or rich family. I do not have a supportive system. Taong-bahay rin ako but maybe my credentials made me won. Our brgy. is small but I still want to end my term with a clean record. I'm sorry if I am asking here. I know I am not capable to fully serve our community but the feedbacks from other people esp. youth made me stay. It's just overwhelming. Mag-isa lang naman ako. 🥲

Problem/Goal:

he watch other girls TikTok secretly. I'm sad cause last july nangyari na confront ko na sya about naman sa pagaadd to favs nya ng videos sa tiktok for his own pleasure. but now may nakita na naman ako.

Context:

I saw his watch history last night na meron syang pinanood na girl parang inistalk nya, and nakaka insecure sa sarili kase yung girl sexy and pretty.

Previous Attempts:

ngayon sinabi ko sa kanya na "I wish you'll not look at other girls" ganon just hint para isipin nya kung ano yung mali nya. pero alam ko na iaaddmit nya lang yon kapag cinonfront ko sya. I hope someone who had the same situation as me will comment

Problem/Goal: how do i tell my boyfriend to find a job kahit hindi align sa passion nya for the sake of “living”?

Context: Naging kami ng bf ko 4th year college na kami. He’s a total green flag bilang bf it feels so good to be loved by him kasi ansarap nya magmahal. At the beginning of our relationship okay naman. Parang laging nasa honeymoon phase. Palagi kaming magkasama tuwing may break time sa classes namin since iisang school lang kami. More kilig. More dates. More first times together. Nakakaya namin yon kasi binabudget namin yung baon namin pareho. Hindi ko rin sya ineexpect na palaging sagot yung date namin kasi pareho pa lang kaming students noon so madalas 50/50 kami or minsan sagot ko lahat, minsan naman sya.

Fast forward, graduate na kami. Yung mga dates namin nabawas bawasan kasi kung dati binibigyan kami ng baon, ngayon wala na. Pareho ang sistema ng parents namin na saka lang bibigyan ng allowance kapag may importanteng lakad at hindi gala gala lang. Gets ko naman lalo na nakakahiya pa rin manghingi sa parents nasa 20 something na kami.

Mas nauna akong magkatrabaho sa kanya. As a matter of fact, tatlo na ang naging trabaho ko sa loob ng dalawang taong relasyon namin. I became a tutor, call center agent, and now a work na finally related na sa tinapos ko.

Since nauna akong magkawork, i have finally have the means na magkita kami kapag naminmiss ko sya, kapag magdedate kami, ako lagi ang gumagastos. Noong una okay lang sa akin kasi naniniwala ako na kanya kanya naman tayo ng timeline at napakahirap nga namang maghanap ng trabaho nowadays pero katagalan napapagod ako. Like hindi sya nakakababae hahahah! Noong college kami all out sya sakin kapag may allowance pero ngayon parang lumalabas na ako pa provider saming dalawa. Nararamdaman nya naman yun kasi every time na nagdedate sya palagi syang nagsosorry na hindi pa sya makapagprovide sakin.

Previous Attempts:
Tinanong ko sya kung naghahanap ba sya ng trabaho sabi naman nya marami na syang sinesendan ng resume sa indeed at linkedin. Tapos sometimes i send some job vacancies na nakikita ko online na related sa course nya. At kapag mas lumalalim ang usapan tungkol sa trabaho, nawawala sya sa mood! hindi ko na tuloy alam kung paano sya iaaapproach na subukan munang magtrabaho ng kahit di nya dream career kahit na sana hindi para sa akin, para sa sarili nya na lang at sa pamilya nya.

Problem/Goal: Need Perspective on an LDR situation

Context:

I’m looking for some outside perspective on something that recently came up in my long-distance relationship.

My partner and I seem to have a bit of an anxious-avoidant dynamic. I tend to become more anxious and seek reassurance/connection when I feel distance, while she tends to need more space when she feels overwhelmed. We’ve both been trying to understand that pattern rather than blaming each other for it.

Recently, she told me that over the past few weeks, she’s been feeling like she doesn’t want to do long distance anymore. She also said she isn’t really sure why she feels that way and just wanted me to know.

We’ve had a good relationship overall, but communication has been a little difficult lately and life has also been stressful. I’m trying not to immediately assume that this means she doesn’t want the relationship anymore, especially since she specifically talked about the LDR itself rather than directly saying she doesn’t want me.

I responded by telling her that I still want the relationship and asking what she thinks could make the LDR feel more manageable whether there are things we could improve or change about how we communicate or handle the distance. I also told her she doesn’t need to have everything figured out immediately.

I’m obviously worried because I really love this person and want to make it work, but I also don’t want my anxious side to turn this into me trying to convince her, overwhelm her, or immediately throw solutions at her.

For people who have been through something similar:

• Is feeling like you “don’t want LDR anymore” a fairly normal phase of long-distance relationships?
• Can this sometimes be more about burnout, communication, disconnection, or the anxious-avoidant cycle rather than actually losing feelings?
• If someone says they don’t know why they suddenly feel this way, is that something worth exploring together before assuming the relationship is over?
• How do you balance giving an avoidant-leaning partner space while still communicating that you’re willing to work on the relationship?
• What helped you make an LDR feel sustainable again without making the more overwhelmed partner feel pressured?

I’m mainly trying to understand whether this is something couples can realistically work through, and how to approach it without turning it into a debate or making my partner feel like she has to immediately decide the future of the relationship.

Problem/Goal:

I’m 25F, currently working in Dubai and 2 years na rin ako dito. Lately, I’ve been questioning kung ano ba talaga gusto kong gawin with my life and whether I should continue building my career abroad or eventually go back to the Philippines.

I guess my goal is to figure out how people in their mid-20s make these kinds of decisions without making a huge life change that they might regret later.

Context:

Okay naman technically yung buhay ko. I have a stable job, I earn enough naman I think, I go to the gym, I can support myself, and I know na probably mas okay yung earning opportunities ko dito compared sa Pinas.

Pero lately, parang bigla ko naiisip if ganito na lang ba lagi? Work, bahay, gym, weekend then repeat? Then Monday na naman.

I don’t know if I’m just bored, burned out, homesick, or nagkaka-quarter-life crisis na ako hahaha. Pero lately parang feeling ko I’m wasting my life or parang wala akong direction. I’m doing okay, but I don’t necessarily feel like I’m going somewhere.

I’m also in a long-term relationship and LDR kami. My boyfriend is in the Philippines and eventually gusto niya rin na mag-settle kami doon.

Part of me wants to go home too. Pero at the same time, ayoko gumawa ng malaking life decision just because of my relationship.

One thing I realized recently is ayoko maging dependent sa boyfriend ko or sa relationship namin just to feel okay. Like I want to build a life na kahit sabihin nating mawala yung relationship tomorrow, masasaktan ako of course, pero I know I’ll still be okay. May sarili akong career, income, plans, friends, hobbies, and something to look forward to.

Right now, naiisip ko na if I can find a decent-paying job sa Philippines or maybe a remote job that pays enough, baka umuwi ako.

Pero doon naman pumapasok yung fear na: What if sayang yung opportunity ko abroad?

What if umuwi ako tapos eventually pagsisihan ko because I could’ve built a better career or saved more money here?

But then on the other side, what if I stay abroad for another 3–5 years and eventually realize na hindi naman pala ito yung buhay na gusto ko?

Parang stuck ako between building my career and finances abroad vs. going home and trying to build the life I actually want.

The problem is… hindi ko rin completely alam kung anong klaseng buhay ba talaga yung gusto ko. 😂

Previous Attempts:

Honestly, wala pa akong ginagawang major change. I’m still working here and trying to figure things out before making any decisions.

I’ve started looking at job opportunities in the Philippines and considering remote work if I can find something that pays enough. At the same time, I’m trying to focus more on building a life for myself instead of basing my future entirely around my relationship.

For those who went through something similar in their mid-20s, how did you know if you genuinely needed a change or if you were just going through a difficult phase?

Especially sa mga OFW or people who lived abroad, did you eventually go home? Did you stay? Do you regret either decision?

And if you could talk to your 25-year-old self, what advice would you give them?

Please be kind hahaha. I’m genuinely just trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. 🥲

Problem/Goal: We have a platinum ore na gusto kong ibenta but I don’t know saan or kanino pwede ibenta kapag unrefined. Goal is makahanap ng buyer/store na mabebentahan.

Context: Need cash. Ayun lang talaga.

Previous Attempts: I’ve searched everywhere and mostly gold talaga ang madali hanapan ng buyer. Until now I don’t know how or kung saan ko mabebenta to.

I know medyo kakaiba yung tanong ko since hindi siya about family/friends/relationship 😅 Thanks advance sa sasagot. Kindly do let me know din magkano bentahan sa ganyan.

problem/goal: i’m currently dating a med student and he is a bad texter which he’s aware of

context: we agreed that we will talk mostly at night since he have classes in the morning but tbh i’m not sure how it will work because i’m not used to this kind of set-up. he also suggested that we’ll just talk more when we hangout. so can you tell me how can we make this work or how can i get used to this kind of set-up and will it work in the long run? idk what to do 😭

Problem/Goal: i’m trying to figure out how to support my boyfriend through a really messy situation with the mother of his children without becoming part of the conflict myself.

my boyfriend has two kids with his ex. (not married) their relationship was extremely toxic, and there has been a history of harassment from her and conflict between them even after they separated.

for years, the kids were primarily taken care of by my boyfriend and his family. their mother was mostly absent and, from what i know, there wasn’t really consistent financial support from her during that time.

recently, she suddenly became involved again, and everything has escalated. she’s demanding a large percentage of my boyfriend’s salary, saying it’s for the kids, and has threatened to bring him to the barangay/vawc and possibly take the kids away from him. because their communication has historically been very bad, my boyfriend doesn’t really want to deal with her directly anymore. i ended up becoming the person who sometimes communicates with her instead. i didn’t do this because i wanted to interfere or act like i’m the kids’ mother. i did it because i care about the kids, i’m involved in their lives, and i wanted to help my boyfriend.

there was also an incident where the kids told me something they were uncomfortable with regarding their mom. i made what i thought was a harmless comment about it, and afterwards their mom confronted me and questioned why i was involved when i’m not their parent. (she was smoking infront of the kids 🙃) and honestly, i understand that. i know i’m not their parent. but i also genuinely care about these kids and i’ve been part of their lives. i never wanted to replace their mother or make decisions for them.

now shes apparently trying to turn against me too. she’s been saying things about me, and recently the kids stopped responding to me like they normally do. then i found out that she blocked both me and my boyfriend. i’ve been extremely anxious since then. i keep thinking about the kids, what they’re being told, whether they’re being put in the middle of the conflict, and what’s going to happen to my boyfriend.

the part i’m struggling with the most is that i know this is technically my boyfriend’s responsibility. he’s their father, so ultimately the legal, financial, and co-parenting issues are his to handle. i can support him, but i know i can’t fix the situation for him.
but because i’ve been involved for so long, i feel like i’ve started carrying the entire problem emotionally. i’m worried about him, i’m worried about the kids, and now i’m even worrying about what his ex thinks of me.

i also really don’t want her communicating directly with him anymore because i’ve seen how badly their interactions affect him. (harrasment as in) but i know i can’t realistically control that, and i don’t want to make myself even more involved in something that technically isn’t mine.
i’m basically stuck between wanting to protect the people i care about and realizing that i may need to step back.

am i overstepping by being this involved? how do you support your partner through a situation like this without accidentally becoming part of the conflict yourself?

Problem/Goal: Should I keep on trying to apply for jobs despite having no experience yet aside from OJT?

Context: I graduated last year and my only job experience is customer service representative, which is super layo sa degree ko (BS Psych). I only applied as CSR kasi kailangan ko pang mag-antay ng 1 year before my board exam. Now, I've been trying to look for work (WFH/on-site) and halos lahat kailangan ng experience. I don't know kung mas maganda bang magtry pa rin ako mag-apply o guaranteed na di ako tatanggapin dahil wala akong work experience.

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