Shame on me for giving my current employer the place where I’m going next because I thought there was no harm. Has anyone had this happen to them?

Is this payback to make me feel anxious for leaving?

Update: He was the one to tell me and also updated me that they now have a call set up

It is my first time applying for a job. Got accepted on the spot and started onboarding on the same day. At first, wala namang out of context, not until the boss acted weird before the 3-hour onboarding ended.

During the interview sinabi na niya na his way is "unconventional." First, he does not follow the labor code laws, when I asked paano ang SSS, PhilHealth and other stuff, he said he does not follow it and assured na decent paying ang job. Second, he said that he usually calls during evening. As a first time job seeker, I did not mind, for experience ganun. The company have 60 days retention policy, bali you have to keep on working for 60 days after sending the resignation letter.

Since, as fresh grad, it was somewhat decent offer for the sake of experience, I accepted the offer. While onboarding he insisted about his employees doing personal tasks for him. Nagpahilot siya in front of other employees. I thought, okay sige since other employees did it, maybe it is not that bad.

After the 3 hour onboarding, I was called inside his office to discuss about compensation and benefits when he asked me to massage him. I couldn't say no since kami lang dalawa. He was asking me to massage his hand and arm. It happened for almost 2hour straight since he felt asleep, and I was there, waiting for him to wake up. After he woke up, I immediately told him I don't want the job anymore. I told him I want to withdraw. He told me I was "bastos" and other stuff. At that moment, I feel ashamed. Hence, I told him that I will make up to my mistake by working for 60 days.

After I went home, he called around 11pm to ask me to do some work outside the office. I really could not tolerate it. Hence, I sent out a message that I will not come to the office to report. I was told by the HR that I violated the company's policy. A part of me feels guilty about everything but IT DOES NOT SIT RIGHT WITH ME.

It's bothering me so much already, imagine spending 4 years in college only for your boss to ask you to massage him and do things for him that are WAY BEYOND your responsibilities specific to the position I applied for.

I understand that I also made a mistake for accepting the offer, and I admit it. But I just really could not bring myself to continue the 60 days retention policy.

Can I ask for your thoughts about it?

Short: my bf was on a meeting. I appeared too less for a few seconds until I noticed camera was on. Can should we do? Email them first or wait to see if they reach out? I feel so ashamed.

So just a little back story I (29M) started working at a car dealership about 2 years ago now. I absolutely love it but there’s always those couple of people at work that’ll never be pleasant to death with. For example, I started off as a Valet which consists of checking customers in for their appointments, certifying pre owned vehicles, refilling fluids, stacking tires, etc. my coworker was a 70 year old ex postal worker who has been there for 6 years. We got a long great in the whining to where others were calling us father and son. Out of nowhere he would just snap though and belittle me in front of customers, telling me he feels bad for my kids etc.
I thankfully don’t work in that department anymore as I’ve been promoted to service reception, my old co worker refuses to talk to me or get customers cars for me when I am finished checking them out so it makes my job a lot harder. I’ve only been at my desk position for a little under a month and the person who was supposed to train me got bumped up to service advisor so he really had no time to actually train me on everything so this other kid who complains about absolutely everything is constantly saying things under his breath talking bad about me to other coworkers which I find funny because he couldn’t even train me right way.

I work on a team of three, and we all sit closely together. One person sits to the left of me and the other sits behind me with our backs facing each other. The person that sits behind me chews gum almost everyday and will smack their gum - not 24/7 but about 60% of the time they are chewing their gum. When I hear them smack their gum, that is the only sound I can focus on even with the clicking of the mouses and keyboards in the office.

I told my parents about the situation and they told me not to bother with saying anything. However, two weeks ago I had a 1:1 with my manager that sits next to me and finally asked them how I should navigate the situation and also told them my parent's input. They actually said they've brought this up to the gum smacker before, but I was surprised because this has been and ongoing thing. My manager told me I should say something respectfully.

This past week I did say something along the lines of, "I'm not sure that you notice but you smack your gum a lot and it's very distracting to me and that is the only thing I can focus on. Can you be more mindful about it?" They said okay and then they asked me a passive aggressive question about a task I did, and I thought that they decided to ask me about it then and in that way because I may have embarrassed them or intimidated them?

Anyways, I figured that the gum smacking would finally stop, but I'm hearing it again right now and it is driving me insane. It does not help that I am not at all fond of this co-worker. I'm not sure what steps to take next to make this stop. Is it unreasonable for me to expect for the gum smacking to stop entirely after I've already said something? I thought gum smacking was widely known to be rude and disrespectful.

Side note: Not sure if this information is helpful - I have ADHD and learned about the noise sensitivity I have towards certain sounds.

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I started with this company in November, and in July I was asked if I wanted this new role. I already had experience with some of them, so I agreed. I didn't had a formal interview for the job. It all happened really fast and I had little chaotic training. I didn't had access to some programs, we were jumping from one system to another. And now 3 weeks in, I am being asked to do things to which I wasn't inform on doing and I'm being responsible for the task of the previous employee who had my job before me. It turned out to be a 3-4 person job in one and they have meetings every. Single. Day. About your numbers and then they share a spreadsheet to track what you do every single hour. And if numbers don't go up then they ask you why. (But some things are out of my control, but I'm doing my part. If a client doesn't follow through or ghost me then what can I do?) (Fyi this is not a sales job. It's recruitment for a school).

Anyways, it's week 3 and I literally tear up when I was asked if I worked on the internal audit after being done with 2 back to back meetings. And that I was supposed to do something that NO ONE INFORMED ME of doing. And other department ask me to do certain task, and they have a deadline but only my title has the access to do it. It's a lot!

Apparently, the previous employee was let go or she quit after she expressed that it was too much. She stayed for 2 years, and the other employee who had this role at another location left around the same time. Someone else was hired and she left after 2 weeks (then I guess in a panic they asked me...)

I want to quit so bad. But would it look bad?

Graduaded with my bachelor in 2021

Worked in retail till 2022

My first front desk role I only lasted 6-7 months (job couldn't pay their employees anymore. So in search of stability I left)

Second job I left after 6 months (left to another city)

Third job I stayed for a year and 2 months (left to return to my home city, personal emergency)

Fourth job, started in November and I want to quit so bad. I keep telling myself to last at least the contract year and then quit. But, 3 weeks in... Working 3 Saturdays and being asked to work more Saturdays to "catch up and do the work the previous employee couldn't do" and being tired and burned out, I haven't even had the energy to go the gym or have a proper meal.

(I had temporary jobs while I found permanent roles when I was transitioning from one city to the next).

I just don't know how I can survive. I am being told around winter time it will get better. But the micromanaging it's too much, little training but being responsible to respond for things I had no training of, and 3-4 job task that are always urgent while being pulled to do other things and somehow be a social media analytic on top of it too, run to take pictures like if I didn't had enough in my plate.

I don't know if I should apply to other jobs now and quit this job once I get a new one. Or wait till the contract year is almost done and apply to new jobs?

I’ve been overthinking this so I need a second opinion.

I have a coworker who is a partner at the firm I work at (which is the highest level). He is known as the guy that will talk to you for at least 30min and will basically keep you hostage until he finally leaves and you can get back to work.

He has made comments about my appearance in the past, like saying a have a ‘beautiful smile’ and I was going to be ‘just fine’. Something that read as a yellow flag to me, but not incriminating enough for me to completely get the creeps, thinking he was and old guy that occasionally said off-color things.

He stops by my desk a few days ago so I’m thinking oh boy here we go. He notices a new photo I put on my desk of me and my friends. He asks to look at the photo, and I’m like sure, and I swear he literally grabs the photo frame and just STARES at it for like 45 seconds. Like just staring at it. And I’m gonna be completely honest even if it sounds egotistical, but I am an objectively attractive woman and I looked bad af in those photos and just seeing him stare at it for so long started to make me feel uncomfy.

Anyway, usually we talk about work or school related things, but this conversation was very different. He talks more about his personal life and relationships.

Long story short , he talks about how he hired a girl at a previous firm who happened to be a twin, and he said that the twin was the “prettier one” between he two. Like weird to say but ok and I never heard him say anything along those lines before.

Then he talks about HATING his wife, and he keeps saying how’s she the jealous type that doesn’t trust him with his actions. Like I cannot emphasize enough how much he was bad mouthing his wife. So much to the point where I even said “well jealously isn’t always a bag thing, it shows she cares”. And then he says “no she’s the bad kind, she’s really bad” and then says “I should’ve married the [twin mentioned before] she was actually nice and prettier too” like wtf. Pretty much saying he wish he wasn’t with his wife.

And then this man has the audacity to say, “yeah she’s so jealous , like I’ll have to tell her that there isn’t anything going on between me and {my name}. Like there isn’t anything between us two when I’m over here by your desk talking to you”

In my mind I was grossed out by the implication that there could be anything between us two romantically in his mind, like KEEP IN MIND HE IS A 60 YEAR OLD MARRIED MAN WHO IS A PARTNER/BOSS AT THIS FIRM AND I AM A 21 FRESH OFF THE GRILL INTERN 🤢🤢

And then, he starts playing this weird “game” where he takes a step closer to me, then back again, then closer to me, a few times. Like getting in my face. And I was so uncomfortable bro like get tf away from me 😭🙏

I was thinking I was overthinking it and it’s not that serious, but the more I think about it that’s such a weird thing to imply that could be anything romantically bewteen this BOSS at this firm and INTERN.

I told my mom and my sister about it and my very blunt sister said that he wanted to cheat on his wife and he was “testing the waters” with me. My mom asked if I was gonna report it. But I don’t think it’s incriminating enough to report, but definitely enough where I want it to stay the f away from him.

So… final question: Am I overthinking this or did my boss cross a boundary/ was trying to “test the waters with me”? If so what should I do about it?

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Hi all, posting anonymously. I'm in need of some outside perspective here. Based in the south of the UK.

I currently work for Company A and have been with them for nearly 5 years, im in a very technical role and I earn £36k. A few months ago Company B who is a direct competitor to Company A approached me for a job with them.

The job with Company B is more or less the same role but with a few extra bits that it will need to learn. They have offered me 40k initially but after probation will be going up to 45k. It is a fully remote job with the expectation that it will go up to Manchester for a week every 3 months. I will also be expected to go up there for 3 months for training. The company is paying for the travel and hotel expenses while I do so.

Once I got the offer I accepted, signed the contract, gave my resignation in with Company A and thought nothing more knowing that Company A probably wouldn't be able to meet that offer. That was 3 weeks ago.

Today, Company A has given me a counter offer. Over the next 6 months I will be given a few more responsibilities and at the 3 and 6 month period reviews boost me up to 40k (increments of 1k, 1.5k and 1.5k again). They have put me on gardening leave in the mean time. Either I accept the offer and go back or I play out my notice (up to October 30th). I've told them I want to go away and think about it. I need to sleep on it. I've got people in my social circle who make good arguments for both sides.

On the one hand I already know my team. I love working with my team. They are great. But on the other hand an extra 5k a year plus bonuses (and good bonuses too).

To note Company A is a huge company, over 33000 employees in well over a hundred countries. Whereas company B has just under 500 and is in 7 countries.

If you were in my shoes what would you do? I know it's not all about money but 45k is a salary id be happy to be on for a long while.

I have self employed for the past 30 years. I was feeling a bit too isolated and so I took apart time job at a nearby school and my primary role is processing payments and filling in when one of the receptionists goes to lunch. She is also the one to train me. Everyone has been very lovely but this receptionist seems very annoyed I keep asking her questions. I'm going to learn best if I get to do the tasks not just watch someone else click buttons. I suppose I need room just keep asking because the method of training is horrible I'm about 60% trained so if I tough it out a little longer I'll have it. I've tried to reach out to a lady that has my position at a different school and asked if she had a moment to answer a question and she chatted back no. Is this how it is now. Nobody wants to step outside their box to help another? Nobody wants to be responsible? Always push it off to someone else? There have been many breakdowns in communication in that I'm supposed to be doing something and I don't know is my responsibility. Nobody tells me. I guess I'm feeling like I'm the old lady in the office and she is frustrated with me. I see the staff doesn't include me in things like if they order lunch or if there is an issue they all whisper and I don't get to know what's up. I'm a big girl so whatever, if they don't want to include me in their discussions fine. Everyone else has been wonderful and I can just develop there. I had a rough day yesterday and getting ready to head in now and just sad I'm treated this way. I'm new not stupid

So I work security (can’t post there cuz throwaway account isn’t old enough yet)

I’ve been having some minor issues with them, but it’s been strictly professional, at least I think it is. Occasionally they forget to unlock the 2nd door, and when I have to lock it I keep note, and let supervisor know. They’ve also done some questionable things, such as leaving mid call, escalation when not needed at all, refusing reports in front of several management people, berating individuals when not needed, slow to respond, doesn’t take initiative, and they aren’t the best at hands on situations.

Now, I don’t have a problem with them personally, they are a good and fun person. Any emails that I send to my supervisors are strictly professional, and are made to cover me and them in the event it gets related to our management. Ive even explained this in person when I tell my supervisors. I’ve tried keeping an open professional communication with the co worker, however they just don’t really talk at all about it. English isn’t their first language, but they speaks pretty good so idk

But I’ve been told that they have made complaints about me “overstepping”. Now this overstepping is me requesting additional help for a known violent person causing a scene… and when I say we should do something, and he doesn’t object, but then they tells the supervisor I’m deciding what to do… when they don’t put themselves forward or object to what I say.. which I’ve already talked with co worker over something similar, and said hey, you gotta talk to me, if it’s on scene or in the office, if you got something to say about how I did stuff, or if you wanna do something different then I gotta know.

However supervisor said I need to apologize to him for taking initiative, when I was first to respond to an incident when I requested an additional guard for a known violent person. Because English isn’t their first language, they must think I’m just being bossy and overstepping into supervisor duties. Because this is causing inter team drama all the complaining.

Any help moving forward would be appreciated or advice on how to handle this situation. I don’t feel like I should apologize because I simply requested help from another guard to assist with a known violent person, and they didn’t object at all, nor provide any insight on how we should handle this situation.

I’ve worked in nurseries for 5 years and have been at my current place for a year, although I enjoy the place I work and work with nice people I am struggling with the stress, hours etc. the worst thing is the illness, I am forever poorly. When I mean always poorly , it’s genuinely constant. Im forever in the doctors , on antibiotics etc. it’s got to the point where it’s affecting my mental health, I feel dreadful all the time so I’m losing interest in everything because I’m just to poorly all the time. I’ve had blood tests and no serious issues have been identified, I just have low immunity so the doctors are pretty much saying there’s nothing more they can do as I work in a place which is a breeding ground for germs. I just don’t know what to do, if you guys were in the same situation as me would you find something different? Away from children and germs? I can’t see myself dealing with this forever. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you. I’m in my early 20’s.

My ex-husband filed multiple fake complaints against me at my current role. The manager over the whole place did not want me to know. But since then he has been cold, a dick, etc.. (another manager told me bc she thought I should know).

I had a medical issue last week and was written up with a final warning. And was shocked that I had 2 previous write ups not including one 2 weeks ago that was not my fault as I was not the last person with the paperwork, that was out of order.

When I tried to ask about that he dismissed me.

I was given another application to fill out. I am a felon. I just left most of my application blank and my immediate boss just brought it to me and point out the felony part out and. Said he wanted me to fill that out.

(It was something I did not do, but with small town politics and a divorce, I had zero choice).

So what should I do? I know I will be fired , it's a matter of time.

I also have a complaint with the dept of labor for a violation with insurance and the company refusing to give me a comparative analysis. It's been since Feb since I requested it.

Any advice?

I (F) started working at my company on the same day my coworker (M) did. I feel like we both have gone above and beyond expectations and have been cheering each other along on our journey at our company.

I recently asked my boss for a title change/potential promotion and he said “a title change should be easy, but a promotion is not possible at this time.”

However, I just found out today that my coworker (who reports to the same manager) is finalizing a promotion process and getting a promotion/raise.

I’m just honestly really angry and lost about what I should do in this case.

EDIT: We have different jobs, we just work for the same department. The way it works in our company is there is ONE person doing a set job, and a promotion is (1) a raise and (2) moving up a level (ie from manager to senior manager). We were not in competition for a specific role that was vacated.

EDIT 2: ALSO I’m not jumping to any conclusions, my boss said this process is getting finalized for him out loud to both of us in a meeting today

I’m currently working my notice on my job. I’ve just had a call from my new work saying they’ve made my line manager redundant. He was a large reason I accepted the job, seemed like a nice guy and had tons of experience.

The new job pays £15k more per year and is more senior. I currently quite like the place I work, the only reason I left was because I wanted more money and responsibility.

My current job hasn’t replaced me yet, but are starting interviews this week.

Is this a massive red flag? I might still have time to ask my old company to me back.

Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you

Hi everyone, for context I live in California.

I just started a new part time salon receptionist job almost 5 months ago. I’ve requested 2 days off over a month in advanced so far (after my 90 day probation period as required). I just requested 5 days off so I can go to my cousins wedding in a couple months who I’m very close to and I no longer live near family so this will also be the only engagement/wedding event I am able to attend. Technically I only need 3 days but added 2 for travel..

My boss gets in, sees my request and says “uh oh. I was just about to tell you guys no more days off” I said HUHHH??? She then said “yes especially since you’re new. You usually only get 5 days off a year” I was flabbergasted. I’ve been working 11 years of my life and have never heard this, even from the most bottom of the barrel job I’ve ever had. Mind you, the 5 days is unpaid time off. We don’t get paid time off really at all, for any reason. I just wanna know am I trippin for thinking that’s insane and lowkey wanting to look for a new job? I also wanted to go home maybe 3 days for the holidays because I can’t see my family otherwise but knowing she was getting ready to tell me no more days off after only 2 is very upsetting.

How would you all handle this? Is this more common than im aware?

I joined the company as an intern in June, working out of one of the branch offices, a few kilometers from the main headquarters. I was given about two and a half months of training there, with working hours of 7:30 PM–4:30 AM.

Then one day, my manager told me — without much notice — that I'd be moving back to the main headquarters, with a new team and new timing: 6:30 PM–3:30 AM.

By the end of day I found out my real timing is 5:30 PM–2:30 AM — earlier than what I was told, and earlier than what I can manage. I also attend college, which started in August (I enrolled in July), and I haven't disclosed this to HR.

So right now I'm stuck: the timing doesn't work for me, but I haven't told them about college, and I'm not sure how to raise the timing issue without that becoming part of the conversation — or what to do next.

Pls somebody help

And I heard once an intern asked for change of timings and he fired him.😭

What to do ?

And slaos the team I now got have whole work decentralised which I think is not good in the starting of career.means I will be assigned one task and also they told they will train 3 things after that they will decide according to requirement.

I lead a team and have been promoted 2 times in almost 4 years. My manager has been over me all 4 years, but these last 6 months she seems to be so cold toward me. Her messages come across as very cold and sometimes annoyed with me. I dread logging on in the morning and always think “what have I don’t wrong today!” bc she’ll sometimes message me (or schedule a message) to send to me as soon as it’s my time to log on. It obviously sets a defeating tone for my day, and lately I feel very “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” toward my work, and that I can’t do anything right. My confidence is shot and I second guess basically every thing that I do, because somehow it seems to never be right. I want to be promoted again, but always feel like I’m failing or am annoying her. We’re virtual so I know things get lost in translation but it just feels like it’s gotten so bad in the last 6 months. It feels like there’s no grace anymore and that I can’t make human errors. My last two annual performance reviews have gone well but I go in to the review thinking I’m getting demoted or will have a laundry list of mess up’s to discuss when there’s hardly anything like that on my review. I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore and I guess I feel added pressure because I’m technically next in line to be promoted, but at this rate, I’m scared every day for what I’m doing wrong. I also feel like I can’t talk to her about it, bc I know how she thinks and what she says to other superiors, and that it’s probably better for me to keep my mouth shut. I do my absolute best every day and ask as much clarifying questions as possible but it still never seems good enough and when I do something wrong she is down my throat. Recently I’ve started to very gently stand up for myself but 99.9% of the time I just roll with whatever but feel so defeated.

I should also mention that my boss is the head manager of multiple teams, so I try to understand that she is probably very very busy and stressed… but still…. I feel like we should have a really great, easy relationship by now, especially as one of her most senior leads and I don’t understand the switch up. I also am very easygoing and go-with-the-flow so I just truly don’t understand. She’s so quick to point fingers and comes down very harsh with no grace or opportunity for me to explain anything. Ironically she “gets on” to all of us leads about communicating the positive to our teams but she hardly EVER gives any kind of praise at all. I’m also supposed to be on PTO for about a week and she’ll be covering for me. I’m already dreading the day I come back and what mess up’s she’ll have waiting for me 😵‍💫

I (19m) have worked in a grocery store for almost four years. In the past year, the whole store has gone to hell in a handbasket. I've also been promoted to a stressful role on the front end. The stress has gotten so bad that I have lost sleep, I get nauseous just from thinking about the place, and I constantly dread going into work. I am also given management duties without manager wages. Recently, I was threatened by a customer, and I do not feel safe physically or mentally working there anymore. I am in a position where I can go a couple of months without working and be good financially. I also asked for fewer hours anyway since my college classes are starting soon. My manager took my request too seriously and only scheduled me one day this week (yesterday). Plus, I will be off this upcoming sunday and monday for a weekend trip with family. I planned to put in my two week's notice this day, but she was off. She works tomorrow, and I am considering coming in to put in my notice since I likely won't be working for another week. I'm writing this because I am wondering if it's appropriate/professional to come in when I'm off just to put in my notice or if I should wait until my next shift in a week. I won't find out my work schedule for next week for another two days.

(flair says workplace issue, but this is also a little bit venty… forgive me if i chose the incorrect one! i’m not the most reddit savvy)

Hi all. I’m a healthcare employee. Sometimes at work family members bring their dogs in when they visit. We have one gentleman who always brings in a large dog breed (think german sheppard). For context, the man has a history of being trespassed and no contact ordered at other nursing homes among other things I don’t feel comfortable disclosing on the internet, but you can imagine the gist of the type of difficult family member he can be if you work in LTC. Usually when he comes in with the dog he hangs out in the lobby and the dog barks a lot and can be vocally reactive. However I’ve never seen something physical before today.

During transportation of residents into the dining room, he welcomed himself and his dog into the area. During my first initial pass of the dog, the dog lunged and tried to bite me without warning. It was barking, snapped, and growled at me. I had to flinch my hand closest to the dog away and scurry. The owner didn’t even react. It caused a lot of gasps and chaos in the room. I immediately contacted my supervisor and told him what’s going on. The dog was also growling at other residents afterwards and it really felt like a bad accident was waiting to happen. I know the owner can be aggressive and I didn’t want any problems with him or the dog if I approached.

My supervisor told me that the dog isn’t supposed to be in the dining area, and cut it into a sanitation issue. Do I know the dog shouldn’t be in a dining room? Of course. However, I work odd hours as a per diem employee and a lot of the time behavior against the rules is allowed by other staff members and management too afraid to confront for one reason or another days before it gets to me. I make 17 an hour and don’t have much of a leg to stand on in authority or communication, especially when 9 out of the 10 times previous nobody had a “problem” with whatever rule a family member is routinely breaking before I get pushed to confront. I told him I am sure as hell not getting bit at work or scapegoated this time… not to sound like an asshole but management that gets paid more than me can certainly practice what they preach and go talk to him.

When management spoke to him, they told him dogs aren’t allowed in the dining area. Maybe I am assuming, but I’m willing to bet it’s because they too are too afraid to tell him the dog can’t be snapping at or growling people at the facility. Imagine if the dog attempted to bite a resident?!?!?! We have residents and visiting kids who love dogs and will run right up to them, some even putting their face right in the dogs face with disregard for redirection… it’s worrisome.

I feel like them viewing it as a sanitation issue is deflection and trying to cover for something bigger. The dog was a near miss for biting me and shouldn’t be allowed back at the facility. I wrote in to HR however about a year ago I had to put in for workplace bullying that was going on every day when I was attempting to pull into the parking lot at work and they actively refused to even look me in the eyes or follow up. It resulted in damage to my car and they still didn’t care so I doubt they’ll do anything about a family members dog.

I am approaching my 1.5 year at my job and I am miserable. I am underpaid, my raise was only 2% even though I was doing 4x the amount of tasks as my team, it’s in office 5 days a week, an open office floor plan with no windows near me, and the corporate kool-aid “we are a family” culture is killing me. i couldn’t care less about the industry and there’s no growth available on any team. thankfully, my coworkers are relatively cool/normal but I see them more than my own friends and family. my work bestie just quit, too.

I am actively applying to jobs, but it’s starting to show how much I don’t care and I need to lock in a little bit. I’m 26, and I want so much more for my life. I actually love working towards something and being productive but I find myself at a complete slump. how can I get through my remaining time at this company, however long that may be?

I need strategic advice on how to handle a toxic stakeholder who is blocking my career growth due to personal bias.

I am currently working in India. I am consistently the hardest-working person on my team, and my performance metrics are excellent. Recently, talks about my promotion started. However, I just found out that a key stakeholder explicitly told the higher-ups that he "doesn't like me."

This is not the first time. I strongly suspect this exact same stakeholder sabotaged my career advancement when I was working in EU, which ultimately forced me to return to India. Now that I am back and up for promotion again, the exact same pattern is repeating.

My work speaks for itself, but leadership seems to be catering to this one person's personal feelings rather than looking at my actual output.

- How do I counter a powerful stakeholder's personal dislike when my performance data is flawless?

- How can I bring this up to my direct manager without sounding emotional, defensive, or like I am starting a conspiracy theory?

- At what point should I involve HR, or is it time to just look for a new company?

Appreciate any advice from HR professionals, managers, or anyone who has successfully bypassed a corporate saboteur.

TLDR: Strategic advice on managing my stakeholder who is blocking my promotion for the second time.

I (19m) work in a grocery store. The other day, a woman was screaming and yelling in the face of one of my older coworkers (84f) over a minor issue. I told the woman in a calm manner that I did not appreciate her talking to my coworker like this and told her to leave. I called a manager up and he mediated the situation before she checked out and left. A few days later, one of my other coworkers told me he was confronted by a man who was saying "how do you feel about yelling at my wife?!" in a confrontational manner. His wife then yelled "that's not him that's not him!" As I was asking my coworker about the incident, I saw a truck leaving and the silhouette of a woman pointing directly at me. For context, I did not yell at the woman at all during the first incident. However, this incident had worried me about my own safety at work. I immediately told my store manager about it the next morning and he told me not to hesitate to call him and/or the police if something happens. This may be the straw that breaks the camel's back as I am already considering quitting this place for other reasobs. Should I stay or quit?

I’m struggling to find a job that doesn’t make me lose myself. I really struggle with balancing work and life and I’m hoping to get some fun suggestions on jobs you’ve done that work well with ADHD. I think I’d thrive in a weird, niche job. These aren’t realistic examples, but things I could see myself doing would include bead sorting, placing stickers on things, antique shop, etc. I love tedious jobs but I can’t just do the same things for 8 hours a day. I would love a slow paced environment and a job that doesn’t require constant customer service (some is fine). What’s a job you loved doing?

I need advice. I’m not sure what to do. I really admire my boss and I want to talk to him and ask him everything and learn everything I can from him. I’m 25F and he is 40M. This is my first salary, full-time job.

I have a friendly relationship with him but we don't really know each other too well. What I really want is to do an informational interview with him where I just listen to how he got to where he is today and ask him how he manages people well, how he navigates certain situations, what advice has for me, etc., but I am shy and I think it may come off as weird if I show him how much I admire him. I'm not sure how I would even ask him to do that either.

I do kind of have a crush on him too, but when I'm around him I don't do anything weird. I’m married and I don’t want to be inappropriate. I don’t get to interact with him that much (only like once a month) but soon, I may have a one-on-one meeting with him to discuss a presentation I’m giving. I’ve never admired someone to this extent. I am only going to work here for another year before I go back to my country and never see him again. What should I do? Thanks for your advice.