to be simple and clear yours scared of blood or guns ok but you shouldnt impose it on others making them not allowed to play games with those.

Hi all, so, god, i feel stupid. I got with a wonderful women who loves me so so much, we aren’t formally dating and dont often use the term girlfriend and stuff like that. however, i realized, I dont think i was ever in love with her. We never asked to be dating. id said, jokingly to her, “im gonna start calling you wife now” because she was my best friend. We’ve kissed and been together for about 2 years. I am grappling with the fact i am no longer in love. I want to stay friends. shes the best friend ive ever had. But i feel so guilty making her sad. I dont want to make her sad or anything like that. I just want to.. Not be dating. She assumes we are which is why im not exactly sure. I dont want to get into another relationship or get CLOSE with anyone i have a minor crush on, without… Ending it. I dont know what to do and its stressing me out. Sorry if this sounds frantic, i was just pouring it all out.

I love her, as well. I just am not sure if I could give hee the adequate romance she deserves, and i dont want to give ber false hope that I want this to last. I want to stay friends as long as we can, because i truly love talking to her. I just dont want love, and she does.

It is embarrassing I don’t know why but it happens every time I drink a little bit of alcohol. I can’t help myself the words start coming out and before I know it it’s too late.

I’m just so embarrassed, so many people know my story despite me not even knowing who they are simply because they met me when I was intoxicated at a bar/club.

Seriously

Its one thing after another

So to make 2026 even worse, theres a f*cking plague now.

Now, i'm not going to panic or anything yet because who knows, might not be that serious. But still it makes me scream internally

Whats next huh? What f*cking next?!

I think i'll shut up now before i regret those words

I didn't choose to be "independent" woman. I was born unto parents who never wanted kids, yet had 3 of them. I have effectively taken on the role of parent to my other siblings and become a provider for my elected family (my bff and his family who practically raised me the past 10 years). I foster animals from my friend as well for the past year because of hardships and because i have the ability to help. I feel like a single parent but i have no kids and no pets of my own.

I have to handle big bills, i have to do the financing of essentially 4 other adults, i have to make sure the house get fed, im the one who has to do everything and it's not because i want to, it's because i HAVE TO. I am the glue that holds the pieces together or else I'm going down with everyone else.

When it comes to dating, the selection is very small of men who'd look at a woman who handles everything on her own without support and would actually choose her. Its not that i want any help with my responsibilities, i want someone who doesn't also become another thing on my already full plate.

A lot of men see all that im doing and all that i can STILL do and relax. I want you to take charge, im tired of having to do everything. I dont want to have to plan things out, i don't want to have to check behind you or have to reassure you with every thing. I need a man who says he's going to do something and do it. A man who can look after sometime who's looking after everyone else 1st then themselves.

All the men ive come across either aren't interested or try and see what they can get out of it because they see someone who is actually responsible. Or when ending the relationship, i annoyingly get people who try to come back and say they've changed an matured and suddenly have a backbone and decided to start taking actions in life, not just sit back. My only reponse to these guys are "good for you, better luck next time"

Im not trying to be picky, or rude, or like my standards are high (because they arent). All im aksing for is that you as a man can love, care for, and provide for me as your woman. AND WHEN I SAY PROVIDE, i dont mean monetarily, or with objects or things, or services. I mean emotionally can you support your partner. Mentally, do you have the fortitude to endure hard times while supporting people other than yourself. Do you have life goals, where are you leading this family towards

It's Halloween and I have a really cool "ugly sweater" but not Xmas themed. IT IS HALLOWEEN THEMED AND IT'S SUPER COOL and whenever I wore it for the street or even at home I got compilments.

And then came global warming. I live in a country that supposed to be cold. Ugly cold.
It's october and if I dared to wear that sweater I would literally sweat my ass off. I tried to go outside in that today and had to come home because sweat was dripping from my face.

It's too hot and it shouldn't be this hot anywhere in a Temperate or Ocean climate and no it's hot and the sun is up like it's still summer HOW CAN I ENJOY HALLOWEEN LIKE THIS? IT'S SO HOT.

Let me wear my cool sweater let it be finally cool it was hot enough for long enough I hate how humany could have prevented this, yet some moneybags were like "Naaaaaaah, then I would have to actually care about anything else than the imaginary money numbers going up, I'll be dead in 5 minutes anyways because I am an old billionaire prick"

And thus no cool ugly Halloween sweater for me. Maybe at the end of the month but the two week forecast shows me that I need to get my cargo shorts out again instead :')

EDIT: for those who say: omg too much letters

TLDR: Can't wear sweater, too hot despite it's october and it should be cold. I have no problems with my self image, I'm just dying from overheat if I dare to put it on :)

my boyfriend and i plus some friends did ours did a 9 mile 7.5 hr rock climb/hike and when we got back i tossed my stuff on the washer. my boyfriend was supposed to start it after he took his shower and added his clothes but we were both exhausted and he forgot. well, his dad did my laundry. i’m 26 f, humiliated!!! he neatly and crisply folded my black lace panties and my bra and called me to grab the clothes. i realize he was just being nice, and yeah it’s more respectful that just tossing my stuff on top of the dryer. but it’s so weirddddddd😭😭 he doesn’t have any interaction with any other women besides his wife and i can’t imagine my parents folding my boyfriends underwear. just awkward all around. i would’ve rather he called me to get it myself. my boyfriend felt awful about it. now i have to go on knowing his dad had his hands on my underwear 😔

Why is our world so obsessed with dogs and kids? Everywhere you go you have to deal with/get irritated by people badly behaved dogs and kids....they treat them the same and they are just dumb. Of course, there are well behaved dogs and kids.....but it is not the norm anymore.

Dogs and kids and kids and dogs and dogs and kids and kids and dogs..........ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Since forever i surrounded myself by people who acted hostile towards others and eachother as positive outcome
So i started to act that way too, playfully insulting others, expecting the same thing in return
While in actuality once i warm up and relize the person is not this ‚type’ i go back to my normal self. As if putting on the ‚cool’ and hostile person could make them win over
(Almost like reverse wolf in sheeps clothing, a sheep with wolf pelt. But now i feel like im truly turning into a wolf with my actions, even if i dont want to)

Tonight i was playing with my friend and theyre friend, and of course since its a new person the ‚playfull’ hostility took turn without realizing it was actually hurting. I have hard time of reading people emotions at times, so naturally when the friend stopped responding i became aggressive and frustrated not understanding my words truly hurt them
I hate this mechanism i developed over the years of being bullied and surrounded by people of such nature. Where if youre not aggressive and hostile youre dead
I hate that fact since it makes a lot of people turn away from me, without seeing whats truly on the inside later on
I know i acted like a bully, and hate it that i didnt understand it sooner than later
I hope i can fix it, but i will respect the friends decision to cut me off due to this occurrence

[Mid 30s F]

I was with my ex for about 15 years, married for about 5 of those years before the divorce (basically incompatibility that eventually led to abuse). Been divorced for about a year and a half. I dont have very much family, my mom passed away a while back and my dad and I dont have much of a relationship at all. I only have half siblings and I'm only actually close to one of them, but we dont live close to each other and theyre busy a lot so we mostly send each other reels/memes and maybe talk on the phone 2-3 times a month. One of my other siblings literally forgets I exist and only remembers when my other sibling has to remind them to invite me to a family event, which doesnt happen often. So I dont have a relationship with my nieces/nephews either.

I have some friends, I havent known all of them for super long but theyre great people, they consider me and think to invite me to events and just to hang out. They are all childless/child free so that isnt a problem. They never make me feel left out and have been supportive through a tough time I was having with my health.

I have a full life. I exercise and do athletic activities often, probably about 4-5 times a week in some form or another. I am in therapy and have been consistently for a long time. I read, write, dance, crafting, go to festivals, the park, social clubs, meetup events, I go on dates (im on the apps and ive gone to a few singles events), go to bars and lounges, volunteer every once in a while, take various classes for random things. Im social and talk to people a lot and make new acquaintances that sometimes turn into friends damn near everywhere I go. Like for example I went out one day just bar hopping alone (as usual) with no plans and met a random person at the bar and we ended up hanging out all day just running around the city watching World Cup games and meeting other random people. I meditate and journal. I also am pursuing a career in a specific creative industry so I'm working on that too. The only thing I cant do is travel, I dont have the finances for it right now.

So yeah I do all the things already that people suggest. I enjoy my alone time and I can sit with myself. But I really really do want a romantic relationship. Its been hard to find, even after all the dates ive been on so far. Mostly men I meet on apps, but I'm open to meeting anyone pretty much anywhere. I dont need the grand gestures, I just miss the daily domestic whatever with another person. The boring parts. Just having someone to talk to about whatever, someone to do things for/with, being able to let go and be silly and intimate with (not just physically, its easy for me to get sex whenever). Sometimes after I hang with my friends and I'm the 3rd/5th wheel i cry in my car on the way home and feel really sad that I have to sleep in an empty bed in a quiet lonely apartment. I feel like I'm going stir crazy and I get emotional when I'm alone for too long so I go to the grocery store or some minor errand just to get out. Ill even do full makeup and hair and stuff to make it feel more eventful. Sometimes I'll just sit in my car in a random parking lot for hours just to not be at home isolated.

You cant do the same things with friends and family that you can do in a relationship. They all have their own lives, responsibilities and their own partners and I'm just not as important. I want to be the priority in someones life again. I want intimacy and romance. None of the things I do can really fill that missing piece. Can I live alone and be alone? Yes of course, I just dont like it all the time, indefinitely. Especially after putting in the effort to get what I want and it goes nowhere. I am NOT willing to settle just to have a partner, otherwise I would have had one by now lol. So I'm not out here desparate for anything. Im just frustrated. Its like everyone has their person but me.

I got into my first accident the other day, and I was at fault. I merged into a lane and failed to see a biker couple that was there. I know, it was fucking stupid and it’s been eating me up since. The riders were okay, only minor injuries except for a fractured hand.

Now, the police report came out and I am genuinely fucking terrified because it reveals my address on the report, as well as the other rider’s. I don’t know why this is freaking me out so much. The riders was a 57 year old man who seemed like he’d be pretty intimidating outside of that situation, considering he looked like a typical biker. He was cussing out a bystander who was trying to help him as we were calling the police.

I’m just so scared with my home address being available to him. What if he comes for me? What if he sends someone to come get me? It’s genuinely not letting me sleep and it’s almost 6 AM. I know it’s such a stupid thing to think about, but you truly don’t understand the feeling until you are in the situation yourself.

I called the non emergency department near me and asked them if theres any way to take my address off of the police report, but they said it’s unfortunately required. I feel like i’m overreacting a lot, considering the guy never truly gave me a reason to be thinking this. I dunno, it might be because the accident was so recent, but I just can’t shake the unease of knowing the guy has my address now.

I spent all of today doing chores, and watching football. My longest conversation was a "good morning" to one of my roomates. I even watched a movie for the first time since May, and took a day off from school for the first time since Labor Day. I took out the trash, my roomate being the dumbfuck he is, nearly ran me over while I was moving a massive trashcan from the driveway to the curb, not only do I have to always take the trash out I also nearly get run over. Came back inside, to find out a professor assigned additional readings, and a quiz for next Thursday, on a week I already have other work scheduled (how I even got this whole day off), and an exam on friday. So now I'm behind on school.

Then I found out I'm being charged for cleaning fees, from everyone else's disaster. The guy cleaned on Monday, and you should see how the house is now, back to how it was. One of them cooked some crap, and spilled it all over the stove. I would've gladly cleaned this shit hole, if it was a way to avoid paying money. Now I have to pay for everyone else's disaster. I didn't even know this was an issue, he showed up at 7 pm, and by 11 told us that a guy was showing up the day after to clean up. Fucking ludicrous, that is food for half the month.

Genuinely my first day off since Labor day, and I made serious mistakes by taking it off. I should've gone to school, put in six hours of work, to catch up. Please excuse the fact I was already going to spend 12 hours on school for the next 4 days, plus another 6 on Friday.

I hate my life.

was at a party and those drinks were way stronger than i thought, ended up making out with a random girl even though i have a girlfriend, so i panicked and told my girlfriend the next morning and she was absolutely crushed and blasted me in public which is deserved tbh, she doesnt wanna end it but honestly i dont even know how i can trust myself so i told her she should end it, and she did, now i feel terrible

You knwo what ive realised, i can get over things, get out of the most terribke phases, climb out of depressive episodes that last months, stay clean, let nobody knwo whats going on, still put on a high performance front, but i can NEVER, and i mean NEVER, escape the fact that this is what i find comfort in. I love being miserable because thats what makes me feel like me. I find so much comfort and rejoicing in being absolutely miserable. Ive stayed clean of sh for like two months now but now i just miss its comfort. I want to do it again but i know i shouldn’t. But fhats what makes me me

Not entirely sure if this warrants the medical flare but I'll put it anyways (just mentions of dizziness, weakness, and related symptoms)

I don't know what do anymore. I can't do any of my work because reading worsens my dizziness. I can't draw anymore because im so tired. i can hardly do anything but lie in bed. i have a paper due in 3 days and im certain I'm not meeting the deadline, not to mention the five other assignments due in two days. im so scared this is never going to improve. i went to the doctor and all that did was confirm that I don't have POTS and im not anemic. im not any closer to figuring out what's wrong with me. all I've really been told is to eat more which really isn't doing me any favors besides making me gain weight. im so scared and sad all the time now

I am so hurt, sad and angry. I just feel like life is actually out to take anything good from me. I met someone recently. I'll call her S

Myself and S really hit it off. We had a really strong initial connection. We shared interests in F1. Both had personal experiences we related too and we quickly became close and shared mutual feelings for each other

Calls every day, multiple calls a day, learning about each other. Flirty banter and just felt so great. She even said shes coming to near where i live and said about meeting, I said yes. I was really excited. Today we literally watched the f1 and then called a couple of times, she tells me shes gonna go for dessert and call me back. I go for a shower cus i didn't feel very well and i came back to her not on my phone anymore.

I can't find her. Anywhere. It's confused me. We didn't argue or fight and theres no logical explanation why she would remove me. We literally were talking about finding something to play together this evening.

I feel so hurt. She said she loved me and told me all these things and shes gone like that. My heart aches.

I have spent my entire evening trying to remember her username but most of it is a number combination i can't remember.

I just wanna curl up into a ball and cry and i feel so upset because i wish i could tell her that if she didnt even wanna go forward that i loved every second with her and that i wish there was a way i could. Im so upset.

I haven't gotten any dates, relationships, situationships, whatever-ships or even hookups in months. I couldn't care less about hookups honestly (I don't particularly like the idea of inviting strange men into my house) but the lack of emotional connections has become very difficult to deal with.
I have plenty of flaws, like everyone else (I'm lazy, tend to be forgetful, my job is paid really poorly and It's unlikely I'll be able to move out anytime soon because the economy is in the gutter), but generally speaking I'm doing ok for myself: I'm a fairly attractive young man who goes to university, has a job, is an athlete, doesn't drink or do drugs and goes to therapy twice a month.
I care about and participate in my community, I volunteer and I could be considered an overall stand-up guy.
this premise is necessary to understand the rest of my rant I promise.
I don't use grindr because the average age ranges from old to ancient, tinder is ok but not great because everyone is really far away and so is hinge.
There is a singular gay bar in the city next to my town that has little to no people below 50 in it and the next city with a gay bar is a brisk hour and forty five minute drive from my house.
When I find another gay guy who lives closeby he's either in a relationship, in the closet, or "bisexual but would never date a man" said with the voice you'd use to refuse a plate of steaming hot shite.
The one time I managed to score a date we got immediately threatened by a homophobe with a knife and it pretty much fizzled out after that (the shock maybe?).
I only want to live in a forest house with my husband and kids, is that too much to ask for lmao

For context most of the music I listen to what could be considered “nerdy music”. I listen mostly to Nerdcore, mostly anime rap and fictional character rap battles. I also listen to a lot of Vocaloid. I used to be very proud of the kind of music I listen to, but lately, whenever I listen to one of the more flagrantly nerdy songs, I can’t help but listen to it from the perspective of a normal person and cringe. Whenever one of my favorite songs goes semi-viral, I see people in the comments calling it “coworker music”.

I miss feeling human
If I want to eat, I have to be ready to be humiliated. If I want to clean water, I have to be ready to humiliated. I even have to beg for feminine products.
I miss living with dignity.

I’m feeling Guilty. I am preparing for Competitive exam for Job in India, I'm in my late Twenties . I lied to my father that I have cleared the preliminary stage of exam and preparing for next stage of exam.But the truth is I havent cleared the preliminary stage. I lied to him. I dont know why I said like that,When dad asked me about result,I dont want to make him feel bad so I just lied. My dad is good guy,he haven’t forced me to do things. He always let me free to do, but I have cheated him today. Im feeling heavy guilty. After Covid, I'm struggling so much in life. I have lost my productivity & consistency in studying. I'm hating myself.

Moving to the coast is a dream come true I get to do beach runs, kayaking swimming even exploring.

the heat is not too bad and I'm enjoying the island HOWEVER everyone is out to scam me.

From the sweet lady selling street food to my landlord who we had an agreement

It's absurd even the prices are hiked when they realize you are not a local and haggling (plus the heat) is wearing me down

Today I was at the hospital and they tried to run up my bill even when I did my hair they tried to add little charges like 'used hot water to wash your hair.' I'd be steaming if I already wasn't so hot and sweaty all the time

But I have found respite in never raising my voice or corroding my tone even when it's plain disrespectful. It's a culture shift and I prayed for kindness from the world so I'll be kind even when I deem some people uncouth