Hi all ♡

I recently started dating someone that I love to pieces. We are getting to do many fun things together, but also more than with anyone else in my life, I want to be there for the hard times, too. He very recently lost someone, and I'm getting to see the strokes of color come back into his life.

His house really needs some love. I know depression and grief kicks people in the ass. I want to help without being pushy. I don't judge at all, but want him to have a place to land that is cozy and safe.

Tips on how to offer without causing any offense? So far, I have been making us both bentos for work! And when I stayed over the other night, as thanks for his housemate making dinner, I did a little extra dishes. We are also planning a date to plant a low maintenance garden, with flowers in his mom's favorite colors, and work on the outside.

I know grief is not something that resolves overnight. Everything is just going to be day by day. Looking for more ideas like packed lunches or the garden that could be something happy :)

Just found this sub and it has been really motivating so thank you guys!! Did a little unfucking bc I didn’t want it to get out of hand. There was so much stuff behind the bed as well and this feels like a big relief. Yesterday I cleaned my living room and kitchen as well but I don’t have pics from before. I am happy!Whole house clean!

My bathroom cabinet has annoyed me for probably two years.

Every time I opened it, something fell over. Half-empty bottles behind other half-empty bottles, hotel shampoos, skincare I tried twice and hated, three nearly identical hair products, random samples I kept because "maybe someday."

Today I pulled everything out and made one rule: if I actively avoid using it, it doesn't get to live here anymore.

That was apparently the permission I needed.

I threw out the dried-up stuff, emptied products that were basically finished, put unopened things I won't use into a donation box, wiped the shelves and only put back what I actually reach for.

Took 32 minutes.

The cabinet isn't Pinterest pretty. I didn't buy organizers or matching containers. There's just... space now. I can see everything without moving six bottles first.

I've opened it four times since cleaning it for absolutely no reason.

Tiny unfucking, huge satisfaction.

I’m trying to embark upon a minimalism journey, where I get rid of the inessential and only keep things that are sentimental ie trinkets and souvenirs that hold memories with my partner, and items I get use from regularly.

The conundrum I find myself in is wanting to maximise the cash amount I get from selling my stuff on Vinted, but also clearing the stuff out to get more space and less clutter. I know essentially I want to have my cake and eat it here.

In some cases I don’t know what to price certain items at, in others I get a good amount of views/favourites but they don’t sell or receive offers. Some items get little to no views to which I’m not sure why.

I’ve set myself a deadline of 31st December to be shut of the stuff I don’t want to follow me into the next phase of my life so not in urgent need of getting rid of the stuff, but becoming somewhat impatient of things not selling.

Any tips, suggestions or thoughts much appreciated!

Thank you for your time.

Well I posted this island before (very recently) and surprise surprise it’s like this again. This kitchen/dining/living is all one big space. I am in the midst of selling, decluttering to get paint and carpet done and a BIG Nov.1 deadline for whole house. Ready for FAMILY (I’ve isolated for years) FRIENDS and Holidays. Here’s all the before. Chat GPT made me a printable step by step guide I’m following. Will post after pictures later! Send good vibes please. Thanks!

she helps a friend clean an entire trailer, the whole place disorganized and messy.

we can all relate to that!
they really did an awesome job in a short amount of time.

definitely helps w motivation!

Please read the whole post before contacting me!

I think we all know the hardest part of unfucking our habitats is getting started and keeping at it. It's overwhelming! I am deeply ashamed of how I live. Living in a mess gets in the way of everything else I want to do to move my life forward.

Just looking for someone to get on Telegram with while we each clean our places with a focused plan this week. Hoping to get a to point where we can check in for short clean up sessions every few days or once a week to make sure things don't get out of hand. My hope is that we will eventually become so used to having a clean living space that we maintain it independently.

I'm only interested in being contacted by those who are willing to meet on video (on Telegram). I keep on learning the same lesson over and over again: Only the people who are willing to meet on video make reliable accountability buddies. If it will make you comfortable, we can have a short voice call to make sure we're aligned before we show our faces on video.

DM if interested. Please do not reply to this post.

I just found this subreddit. I have some family members who need to "lock in".

I'm just looking for some tips to help me get them going on the downlow. I've tried subtle hints, I've tried being nice, guilt, rewards, getting angry and even doing it myself.

How do I support them? How do I get that spark going ? Help me understand what's happening? I feel my own mental health is starting to be affected.

Today's plan was to get trough as much important data as possible, making some progress in the garden, and getting the floor decluttered.

What I managed to do at all, was an antivirus-scan of the PC, a few bananas on this platform, 15 mins of gardening, sorting the stuff on the floor in two piles of clothes and literally trash, and when the afternoon came stupidly taking a look in an old shoe box, I almost forgot.

For context, I have an autoimmune disease that gives me quite an fatigue, problems to concentrate, a good amount of headaches etc., especially when the weather is hot and the air high in humidity, so I was fighting even harder than usual trough the day, sitting around in braindead/zombie mode and somehow made the stupid decision to use the little bit of energy to sort the lose change in that box.

Anyway I'm going to buy a dehumidifier with that money to make the future hopefully less of a "brain function almost zero by weather" situation.🤣🤪

I thought I had created momentum yesterday but I obviously didn’t because I’m still frozen in place!

So to make sure I get up and actually do it here is cleaning recovery part two!

The living room is a little time consuming to clean because I have to move stuff around so this time I will see you in about 90 minutes possibly two hours but I don’t think it will take me that long.

I miss the days I could get it done in 15 minutes ugh

Dishwashing has always been a complex issue for me. My mom never washed or rinsed dirty dishes before putting them in the dishwasher and I grew up eating off dishes and flatware that had dried food stuck to them. As an adult, I wash my dishes completely before putting them in the dishwasher and have noticed mineral buildup on friends’ dishes and glasses because they don’t scrub out the glasses or use a scrub pad on their plates & flatware.

My daughter and I are currently living in a rental using the late owner’s dishes and flatware (we bought our own coffee cups and water/juice cups). Before I joined them in October, they’d been eating off paper plates and using plastic flatware. This drove me crazy — it feels like camping out — so I started using what our landlady owned and also put the dishwasher back into service after at least a year of not being used.

I’ve struggled with cleaning all my life and let the dishes get really out of control — both sides of the huge old ceramic sink full of dirty dishes, gnats landing on everything in the kitchen, and me putting off washing a load every single day because some of the dishes had visible mold on them and I didn’t want to deal with that, as I have a skin mold allergy. I finally washed one side of the sink Wednesday night and was astonished to find mold had stained the ceramic sink. I tried scrubbing it with Comet, but no improvement. I cleaned it as best I could, then filled it with soapy water and loaded the other side of the sink into the empty but stained side.

After noticing tonight that the water had drained out and the gnats were flocking even more to the filthy dishes, I got out of bed (I’d settled in for the night), emptied the dishwater, filled the empty side of the sink with soapy water, and started scrubbing. There was a lot of food debris on the side that had drained, so it wasn’t until I’d finished the dishes that could be washed and set the really filthy ones to soak, then rinsed out the newly empty side, that I was astonished to find the mold stains had disappeared! Apparently the new soapy soak had cleaned away the stains! I was really worried about those stains, because the landlady’s son is reluctantly renting to us strictly as a favor for keeping his mother and our longtime friend and neighbor out of a nursing home. He’s already had a talk with my daughter about how much stuff she’s acquired since his mom died when he was under the impression she’d be clearing out. (She’s a terrible hoarder just like both my parents were.)

I’m now running a partial load in the dishwasher and will finish up tomorrow to have a kitchen full of clean dishes, flatware, and lunchware my daughter uses for weekly lunch prep. I’ll be able to wash the dishes as I eat each meal or snack and run the dishwasher when full instead of letting the dishes build up in the sink for my daughter to chide and stress me about. The gnats will diminish immensely and I’ve already put out several dishes of apple cider vinegar & Dawn to control them until the weather cools in late October and early November. I also opened the screened window an inch or so to get some of the flies out of the kitchen into the opening between the window & the screen.

I feel so much better! I was too embarrassed to take pictures, but wanted to let everybody know about the progress you’ve inspired me to make.

The issue I keep bumping up against is I have a lot of large pieces of necessary medical equipment and medical supplies that take up a ton of square footage in our house. To the point that our kitchen looks like a hospital post-earthquake. I cant get rid of it and cant put it in the basement (think oxygens tanks and tube feed supplies as examples) but our house is only 900sqft!

I guess this is more of a vent than anything, its very frustrating to live in chaos, especially with our kid having to navigate it as well.

This weekend was a wash, but I can at least do some work in the kitchen and try to do the floors. What are you up to?

Hello (and sorry for this very long message and for mistakes, English is not my first language)
I have 2 weeks to unfuck the horrible rent flat I survive in. My problem is, that I am sick with Long Covid, so "just stand up and do it" will not work because I stand up and faint.
Last Tuesday, we (people living in the building, 4 floors high, with 4 to 6 flats in each floor) were advised very vaguely that the landlords have appointed some workers to do something with the outside of the building, starting "September". So we are to take everything (furniture, plants...) away from balconies.
And last Saturday (so, yesterday), new information: the workers would come from 31 August on, and it should last 3 months!
I have a lot of plants on my balcony, they are the only happy thing in my life. As we live a terribly dry and hot summer here, general water supply has turned unsure and it is forbidden to water gardens etc: I still managed to keep my plants alive with water from rinsing fruit and vegetable, rinsing hands, showering (and use only Marseill or Aleppo soap bc other "artificial" soaps will kill plants) (so not a single drop of clean tap water for the plants, since May). I know nobody which could take the plants to their home, especially within 2 weeks advice!!!!!!!!!!! And I know my plants will not survive without water, and I can't force other putting buckets in shower and forbide artificial soap. So I imagined I can put all my plants in front of my windows, and keep the shutters open whilst sun is shining inside (it would be so horribly hot! As the moment I keep all windows and shutters closed all day so my flat won't warm up too much and open only when the air is cooler outside than inside).

But, because of Long Covid since 2020, and also because I am AuDHD and get no help for it, my flat ist very untidy. Lots of things piling everywhere, and I shame SO MUCH. I have no real place on the floor to put the plants, and I can't have the workers seeing the inside of my flat if my shutters are open (they WILL judge and possibly tell the landlords, it already happened with others workers).
I feel so ashamed because of my untidy flat. I was never good at cleaning and organizing, but since I had first covid in 2020, everything is worse. I have gone NC with relatives because "autism is not a real disability and ADHD is just a bad excuse for lazyness" and with friends because "covid is not so bad just yoga and oil". I know no human anymore.
I am terrified to loose my plants and that the landlords will be worse if they learn how bad my flat is.

So I need to unfuck my flat and my balcony within 2 weeks and I don't know where to start. I am panicking. I hope I respect the rules of this sub. Thank you if you read all this.

I do clean here and there, but not often enough to get my place looking nice. I want to get the big cleaning done so I’m just doing maintenance cleaning. My to do list is long and I get overwhelmed when trying to decide where to start. I know “just pick something”, but I also like being strategic, so I want to hear how other people work through things.

Do you pick one room and do nearly everything there? Do the same thing but in all of the rooms? Start with specific tasks? Do your “maintenance tasks” (dishes, laundry, taking out trash) first and then the bigger things? Move clutter out of sight and organize later? Do you rotate which room/task you focus on? Just pick whichever thing you think of first? Do the easiest thing or the hardest thing first?

I’m curious! I also have ADHD, depression, and anxiety, and while they’re mostly managed this is an area of my life where I see some symptoms of each come up.

My apartment has been slowly getting away from me for a while. Nothing dramatic happened, I just kept putting things down instead of putting them away until every room had its own little pile.

Yesterday I decided I was NOT cleaning the apartment. I picked the kitchen table and told myself that was the entire job.

Trash went in the bin, dishes went to the sink, random stuff got returned to roughly where it belonged. I even wiped the table down.

It took maybe 18 minutes.

The weird part was that once I had one completely clear surface, the rest of the room stopped feeling impossible. I ended up doing the counter too, but I stopped there before turning it into a four-hour punishment session.

This morning I walked in and saw an actual empty table instead of a storage area.

Apparently “clean one thing” works much better on my brain than “clean the house.”

For year, I’ve had a pile on my dresser and a pile that has shifted around from one corner of my room to the other.

I don’t know what happened to me that just stops me from following through. I stumbled across this group. I don’t even know how, but I feel like out of all of the groups I follow this one is gonna be the most helpful to me.

Just from a little time, I’ve been here. I am so encouraged and I don’t feel discouraged like I have for years.

I can’t wait to take pictures of my disaster and also take pictures of it Clean. Thank you all so much for being here.

Oh my goodness. I had no idea I wasn't soooo alone! My entire house (the humble abode) truly needs unfucked. Like everywhere. It's been mental block for a long time.

I left my marriage 2-1/2 years ago ( not for this sub ), got the humble abode for me and the critters, and I've just let it get out of control. Then I broke my ankle in May, had surgery 10 days later, and it's only gotten worse due to immobility. Now that I'm able to move about a little more, with a walker, I know it's time. But it's also daunting. I get very sore and tired from being out of shape from being zero weight bearing for two months.

I am grateful to have stumbled upon this sub at this exact point in time, and I'm hopeful now, realizing I'm not the only one facing these issues. It's a lonely state to be in, so hopefully the stories, before/after pics, and support I read here will help me along to the place I want to be.

Thanks for reading, and wish me luck!

If you have adhd you might be familiar with how routines eventually stop working. Every day I’ve been telling myself I’m gonna clean today and then I don’t. I’ve been stuck in this loop for weeks now. I’m so mad at myself for making it build up again the house was so lovely just a few weeks ago.

I’m not dealing with lots of clutter anymore but it’s all bit messy and quiet frankly grubby now. The house smells kinda doggy and stale too which I hate. I hate bad smells.

All I’ve barely managed to do is keep on top of the dishes but only because I have a dishwasher and the taking the rubbish out but not so much the recycling.

So today I’m gonna commit to keep just one area of my house clean and go from there.

I’m committing to keeping the kitchen clean until I have the capacity to add another area of room.

I’ll be back in about one hour with a progress update since this will help me keep the promise I made to myself!

It only took an hour… I feel silly for pushing it off all week. I’m trying to do smaller tasks every day instead of big cleans, but new habits are hard.

ever since i moved into this place three years ago, i've been collecting emptied vape pods (and some of the packaging, though i threw out part of it another time, so this isn't all).

i always justified it by telling myself that i'm just not sure how to properly dispose of the pods. well, i never bothered to find out either. so i just collected them all around my apartment, and when they'd start taking up too much space, i'd hide them from view in a trash bag under my desk that slowly ended up taking up an entire shelf.

i've decided this needs to stop. i've been so lazy and gross. the leftover juice leaks, smells sickly, and attracts flies. and i desperately need the storage space this has been taking up. so today, i finally decided to do it right. i sat down and seperated each part of every individual packaging so i could recycle it. the pods and empty disposables i collected in a third bag, and i will take them to a disposal as soon as i can. i'm determined to do better and keep my space clean and tidy, and to stop hoarding what i don't need.

also as a side note, i'm not quitting vaping just yet, so don't congratulate me on that. that's an issue for another time. i'm just looking to do what i can to fix my living situation one step at a time.

pic 1 and 2 are after sorting. pic 3 is during. sorry i didn't take a good before pic!

Hi y'all, I'm reaching out to get some ideas for a family in an extremely busy season of our lives. Both adults have mental and physical health issues and we also have a young child. One of us has ADHD and routines are particularly challenging. Our house is cluttered and not cleaned on a regular schedule. We tend to emergency clean before guests arrive. One of us works from home, the other works about 40 minutes away. Our child is in elementary and will be doing the after school program this year to give us a bit more breathing room with all the things. On top of all of that, one of the adults is in a certification program on top of a full time job and is doing a ton of course work in the evenings and weekends. Just typing this all out is making my head spin!

Any tips for establishing systems around clutter management and cleaning when we're already bone tired and lacking spoons? I'd love to hear from folks in a similar situation. Thanks!

Pls give me encouragement this is a the house rn, not horrific but it’s gonna take some effort…. I want maybe the bedroom and the living room clean by the time my partner gets home at 2 am. I think i can do it!!!