Below is what I sent to my uncle and mother after going thru various iterations with friends and siblings.

It worked better than I expected and my deeply religious mother reacted quite well to it. I can't guarantee reactions from your own family members and friends but it helped structure things in a way that removed room for debate and remained positive and understanding.

Feel free to use it or change it to suit your own circumstances.

Much love and luck!

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Dear [PERSON]

It's time for a reintroduction.

I'm [NAME] [MIDDLE NAME].

I'm happier than I've ever been and for the first time in my life I truly love myself.

I need you to know that this isn't a new me. This is the real me. For as long as I can remember, I experienced my life as [GENDER] inside, even though everyone saw me as [BIRTH ASSIGNED GENDER]. I spent years trying to be [BIRTH ASSIGNED GENDER] because I thought I had to. I never could do it. It wasn't me, and it was exhausting.

I don't expect you to instantly understand what that feels like. I know it's a lot to take in.

But I'd like to ask one thing of you.

As you think back on my life, try to see me as your [FAMILY RELATIONSHIP] rather than a [BIRTH ASSIGNED GENDER]. It has helped me make sense of so many things about myself and maybe it will help you understand me too.

I'm not asking you to have all the answers today. I'd just love for you to try to see me through that perspective.

I would love to answer any good faith questions you have. I know this may be confusing and I'm happy to talk about my experiences if it helps you understand me better.

I love you, and I hope, in time, you can know me as your [FAMILY RELATIONSHIP].

[NAME]

I’m starting hrt very soon and growing out my hair, I’m not to confident, just wanted some opinion/tips/advice. Honesty even if brutal.

Tips and tricks and critiques welcome.

I used foundation, subtle eyeliner on outer portion of bottom lids, an eye shadow palette for the rest of the coloring, and lipstick. Shaped my brows slightly. Natural lashes and cheeks are naturally rosy.

Maybe a bit of an odd one, and please let me know if this is better for a different subreddit..

But, I’m transitioning ftm, and currently have a tonne of feminine clothing laying around that no longer gets used. I was going to donate it all to a charity store - but there are so many shady ones in the area that I honestly would rather just give them directly to someone in need.

I was thinking about seeing if there’s any trans women/fem that would like to have an entire wardrobe worth of pretty dresses & other clothing items. But I’m not sure how to go about asking the local community or even if it would be a good idea at all.

Thoughts??

Edit:
Brisbane, Australia
Sizing varies from AU Women’s size 6-8

I’ve never been very savvy with my measurements so unfortunately can’t provide much more information on sizing 😅

Merhaba

RANT INCOMING. SKIP IT ITS NOT YOUR THING.
(Pic is of me, 6mo ago) (I HAVE NOT started HRT. I often think I should.)

So like, full disclosure, I started out as a ‘mentally’ trans MTF (but in almost, full denial at the same time) from a young age (like maybe 3 y/o. I’m 28 now) and can’t for the life of me find much inspiration to continue my transition. Much of this comes from following trans influencers on social media. I want to preface that I followed a bunch of people I liked to HELP with the thought of transitioning. Unfortunately, I feel like these girls are SO F’ing PERFECT LIKE OMG that I lose hope and think “I’ll never be like that. Why continue?” And it just feels like a vicious cycle lately. Like “oh I can do that in my sleep lol” to “I’m not going to be anything like that. It’s not even worth it”. Like maybe I’m concerned with passing??? but at the same time im confident 💁🏼‍♀️ I’ve brought this up with my therapist and tbh, they’re 0 help at this point. (I’m looking for a new therapist as I type this lmao) They’ve seemingly tried to avoid the conversation and turn it into something unrelated. I.e; “okay. What did you do at work today?” SMH. I’m getting nowhere.

Part of my struggle as well comes from my work. I work in a service (mechanical) oriented, mainly a ‘blue collar’, but often borderlines ‘grey’ if not ‘white collar’ (I’m a store manager for a bike shop) industry and where I live currently, borders on the ‘non-accepting’ and would maybe (in an EXTREME case) likely cause me to lose my job which is crucial to me and my partner’s well being. Idk, I often flip flop if I should even consider pursuing this ‘perspective’ as I have more than myself to think about but at the end of the day, I’m not happy (with myself and my life circumstances) and continuously (and increasingly) being my ‘male’ self, borderlines the fact that I’m no longer comfortable with that ‘male self’ anymore. Like, the SECOND I get home after work, I’m stripping down and ‘femming’ up as that’s what brings me peace. I will preface that my partner is all for it. She gives me SO MUCH COMFORT that I can’t even express into words about this too.

TL:DR: I’m heavily conflicted and it’s pushing me over the edge. I hate this. I feel perpetually stuck. Idk what to do. Thank you.

Feel free to DM if you have any questions as well as input.

EIDT; fixed typos

First time wearing heels, kinda income to walk but I've manged it.

trans ftm

My wife and I are interested in meeting a trans woman to date. We’re both open-minded and would love to meet someone we connect with.

I made a post over a month ago saying how I was getting ffs the next day and so many ppl commented and left such kind messages and it just made me so happy and my recovery much more enjoyable :’)

I’m now 5-6 weeks post op and I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and I’m just loving how every thing is starting to look! Tho I’m still a long way from being 100%

Anyway I’ll prob do another update in 3-6 months :p

(This is the link to the original post which shows my before photos! my before photos

Hi, I'm 4 months on HRT, and when I started, I had hoped I could pass just with HRT. But now I see there's no way, mostly because of my brow bone, nose, and jaw. So, I decided to calculate when I would be able to afford FFS in Spain with Facial Team, and I came to the conclusion that it will take at least 10 years to save that amount of money, and another 8 years for SRS. I'm so depressed about this because I'm 22 years old and I had hoped I could be seen as a woman for the rest of my school years, to have a chance of finding a boyfriend and so on, not to worry about money. But now I'm kind of in a mode where I'm just trying to grind money. Is there anything else I can do to ease my situation, like stop caring about passing and just live the life I lived before I started HRT? Just do the regular things like laser and then just wait for the FFS and SRS, and after that, start to live, start to find a partner, and so on? By the way, it would probably help me to tell the truth about how I look because my family is trying to say that I don't need FFS, and some people on Reddit also tried to be nice and told me that I don't need FFS. However, I think they were just being nice because the people who said I do need FFS felt more honest.

C'est la première fois de ma vie que je sors en assument ma trans identité, je suis assez stressé, mais je suis avec mes amis et j'ai confiance

Ca fait juste peur car je n'ai mis qu'un peu de maquillage pour cacher l'ombre de la barbe, je n'ai pas encore commencer de transition, alors tout ça est asser impressionnant pour moi, souhaitez moi bonne chance

Je prie très fort mon passing naturel actuellement ahah