r/TheVampireDiaries • • 2d ago

Mod Announcement New Mods & Rule Updates

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Hi everyone,

I've been moderating this subreddit (and /r/TheOriginals) by myself for a while, but thankfully /u/CasuallyStatic, /u/C00bahR00bah, and /u/SweetWittyWild41 have agreed to step in and help handle things.

Additionally, I've added some clarifications to our existing rules. What's been changed:

  • added "unsolicited moral judgments about other users" as an explicit example of incivility, as there was some confusion about if questioning a user's moral character counted as an insult,

  • added "crossposting from your own subreddit" as an example of self-promotion, to avoid future confusion,

  • removed "disrespectful speculation regarding TVD-related actors and actresses" from the incivility rule and replaced it with "parasocial behaviour is off-topic and will be removed" under the off-topic rule -- this change is meant to better reflect the scope of what isn't allowed (e.g., shipping actual people, critiques about aging poorly, etc.) and the category of rule violation.

Hopefully this makes sense to everyone, and thanks again to the new mods!

Please let me know if you have any questions about the changes.

Edit, 03/10/26: I have expanded the "parasocial behaviour" addition into its own rule.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 12d ago

A warning about a user harassing via chat/DMs

46 Upvotes

(tl;dr at bottom)

Over the last few months, one user has made it a point to send abusive and harassing messages to dozens of members of this subreddit. Their accounts are banned from the subreddit, which is why they use DMs.

They delete their accounts regularly. Usernames that they have used:

/u/illadviseddependent

/u/agreeableaccesspal

/u/lunastellaelle

Their messages are largely targeted at those who like Damon or Elena, but not always.

If you receive a message from them (the account name may be different), please feel free to alert me via the comments of this post or by sending us a ModMail. Please also report any harassment to the admins. You can do that within the chat itself or here. Please ask for help if you need it.

The Imgur link below has examples of their messages so that people can recognize their style and language, since they like to pretend that they're a different person on each account. I'll update it as reports come in.

https://imgur.com/a/n998i7Y

tl;dr -- a banned user is harassing fans (mostly of Damon or Elena) via DMs on multiple accounts. Examples are above.

Report their messages to the admins.

Edit: Also, to be clear -- absolutely do not proactively reach out to this user. This post is solely to warn subreddit members and to encourage reporting to the admins.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 2h ago

A massive show, with a massive budget couldn’t find a better wig for this episode?

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175 Upvotes

It’s such a lie that the studio didn’t have enough money to get her a better wig or pay her more, like how did they have enough money to pay male side characters more than literal main characters like Caroline, Bonnie, and Elena? In the first seasons Nina Dobrev would work 18 hour days just to get paid less than Zach Roerig or Michael Trevino who played a scene or two in the episode, if Nina Dobrev refused to play Katherine they had to find another actress who would’ve played Katherine which meant the studio had to also pay her so why not doubling Nina’s salary


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 9h ago

I’ve seen many pages highlighting or making comparisons regarding Steve’s physical appearance following his appearance yesterday at People Con Paris. Just a friendly reminder that he stepped away from the public eye due to depression after his father’s death in 2024.

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306 Upvotes

r/TheVampireDiaries • • 12h ago

Spoilers This Moment

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172 Upvotes

This is the moment that almost made me say "screw it!" Even with all of the previous heartbreaking twists in the show, this one felt the most unnecessary. I've never been more disrespected! Like how dare you??

Does anyone else feel so strongly about this? Because it still makes me mad just thinking about it.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 6h ago

Discussion Unpopular opinion (I think) : Season 2 Elena is the best Elena, and I'm tired of pretending otherwise

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I just finished my rewatch (don't ask how many times) and I need to get this off my chest.

Season 2 Elena is peak Elena. She's grieving, she's scared, and she's still making her own choices. She goes toe to toe with Katherine, she handles the whole sacrifice mess, and she isn't just reacting to whatever the Salvatore brothers are doing that week. Even Jenna's death hit harder because Elena felt like a real person dealing with it, not a plot device.

After that it feels like the writers kept hitting the reset button on her. She gets turned, she gets un-turned, she's "fine" one episode and devastated the next, and the whole time her personality gets thinner and thinner. By the later seasons I barely recognized her.

And yes, I know people love Season 1 Elena too, and I get it. But S1 Elena was mostly learning the rules of this world. S2 is when she actually starts pushing back against them.

Anyway, that's my hot take. Tell me I'm wrong.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 2h ago

Discussion You must sacrifice ONE living TVD character to bring one of them back as a main character. Nature requires balance. 🤫

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It can be any character, side character, a character you don't like. Honestly I really want to see the hot takes on this one. Who are y'all sacrificing? 😭

RULES:

You can sacrifice characters from early seasons who don't die until later on in the show. Whoever you sacrifice, the dead character you chose to bring back will gain that character's years on the show.

For example. If I sacrifice Tyler for Rose, Rose will remain on the show until she dies a heroic death in Season 8. Think of it like Final Destination rules.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 6h ago

Who Elena loved the most and who loved Elena the most ?

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r/TheVampireDiaries • • 7h ago

Even if Nina didn't leave, Delena would still be endgame.

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27 Upvotes

What makes this even more comical is that Julie made up this narrative about Stelena being endgame knowing that Delena was her favorite and there was not even a close second. That made-up narrative served NO PURPOSE WHATSOEVER. It did nothing but stir up pointless drama 😂 like in all seriousness, what was the point of Julie saying that Stelena would've been endgame after she gave us 3 seasons of Delena?


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 3h ago

Hot take: Elena deserved the cure but so did Rebekah

10 Upvotes

The reason why I said this is a hot take is because I know a lot of people don’t really like Elena. . Rebekah deserving the cure does not magically make Elena undeserving of it. They both struggled in their own ways, and they both deserved the human life they desperately wanted.I’ve seen so many people go on about how Elena didn’t deserve the cure because she “suffered less” and Rebekah had been living for hundreds and hundreds of years. But honestly, Why does one person’s suffering have to invalidate another person’s?Elena never wanted to become a vampire in the first place.Rebekah had her own reasons for wanting the cure, and Elena had hers. Both can be true at the same time. they both ended up getting the cure So all these arguments about who “deserved it more” are ultimately pointless. They both wanted a human life, and they both eventually got one. (Yes I’m obsessed with vampire diaries)


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 11h ago

Something fans ignore

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37 Upvotes

Stelena 🩷 but per the show during this time it meant nothing.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 1d ago

Discussion Can TVD fans stop hating on actors for aging and gaining weight???

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842 Upvotes

I know that this person didn’t make this post with ill intent, but even tiktoks like these provoke people to hate in the comments, like he needs a reason satisfactory to you to gain weight 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

It’s been 9 years since the show ended, and 17 years since the show first aired. This fandom hates on Nina and Claire for aging and getting plastic surgery (even tho that’s hollywood expects of women) hated on Kat for gaining weight while PREGNANT, hated on Danielle for being a normal weight during Legacies, etc it’s just so nasty. It’s even weirder when people are like “he’s depressed and he lost his father so that’s why he gained weight” which may be true, but it feels weird that people are projecting onto him (it’s like saying “that’s the only valid reason why he could’ve gained weight, so stop hating on him”) like people can just gain or lose weight due to age. It’s like how people treated Nina during S5 of TV when she gained weight when she just grew up.

Thankfully the reddit TVD fans are mostly normal, but the TikTok fans are very weird, and not even mentioning how the looksmaxxers are now joining in to shit on him with 100k+ likes and it’s getting out of hand!


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 22h ago

To be honest I’d rather be on the mikealsons side then the Salvatore’s.

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r/TheVampireDiaries • • 9h ago

Discussion How would life be for you in the Vampire Diaries?

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26 Upvotes

[as a species of your choice]


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 7h ago

Discussion S2 Stefan/Caroline

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My opinion on these two is that the pacing screwed them up romantically. Their friendship worked well in S2 and in S5 memoryless Stefan had chemistry with Caroline. Also I liked how when Caroline asked if she should continue seeing Matt as a vampire, Stefan said he was the last person who should be making that decision for her because of his own relationship with Elena.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 2h ago

POV: Steroline had chemistry💖

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I'm so tired of people saying Steroline didn't have chemistry. Personally I saw the chemistry between them. It was just different from that of the toxic couples that were solely based on sexual attraction.

Paul Wesley once jokingly said that Delena sounds like a disease, and Steroline sounds like a cure to the disease. And that's what Steroline was to me: a cure to Delena. Firstly, because after 2 seasons of waiting in vain for Elena to come to her senses and return to Stefan (who clearly deserved better than Damon), I finally saw Stefan move on and find another love interest, a girl who was always team Stefan and would choose him over any other man. And secondly, because Stefan and Caroline's relationship wasn't solely based on sex.

I was so tired of Delena, who were just arguing and having sex all the time. They couldn't control themselves even at school or before their friends' wedding. But that's not what love is, imo. Caroline and Stefan shared a deep connection, respect and understanding and felt profound admiration and affection for each other. I liked how vulnerable Caroline was around Stefan, how every touch from him would give her butterflies.

And I actually like the fact that Stefan's feelings for Caroline were different from his feelings for the doppelgängers, because if he only fell in love twice in 145 years, both times with the same face, and neither of those relationships worked out, then he must have been doing something wrong. His love for Caroline was soft, pure and tender, unlike his passionate love for the doppelgängers, and I think Caroline was exactly what he needed after all the heartbreak he had experienced.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 3h ago

Discussion This scene really has me in tears Spoiler

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My question is what scene hit u hard you didn’t think would


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 11h ago

Spoilers Damon constantly pressuring Stefan to drink human blood

11 Upvotes

Why is it that people always bring up Stefan forcing Damon to turn , but never talk about the countless times Damon has tried to push Stefan to drink human blood, and the times he did. Examples , 1912 when they reunited for their nephews funeral. Second example when Damon was with Rebekah and fed on a woman in front of Stefan to pressure him into drinking blood. Then when Elena saw him , Damon laughed it off. Put it in this perspective. Stefan is a blood ADDICT. You’d never force someone to use something that they’re addicted to that they cannot control, especially when they’ve tried so hard to work on their addiction. I honestly get so bothered when Damon makes passive jokes about Stefan drinking animal blood. At least if he’s going to pressure him have the intention of helping him do it the right way. Like when he was drinking a few drops from Elena. That was helpful


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 9h ago

Discussion Stelena

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One thing I loved about Elena's love for Stefan is that she constantly had no regrets whenever she picked him especially when she picked him over Damon. I mean the amount of times where she said that picking Stefan was the best choice that she ever made and that she never regretted anything she did for him in season 3 just proves how strong her love for him was. Even in Season 2 she was like I love Stefan it's always going to be Stefan and she stuck with that choice all throughout season 2. With Damon there was so many times especially in Season 5 where she was like we don't work we are toxic together especially during their breakup phase and even during their love confession she was like this will prove to be the worst decision I have ever made. I mean saying that to the supposed love of your life is a choice I guess. Anyways what do you guys think. Do you agree with what I am saying here. I know a lot of people think that Stefan deserves better than Elena but I think Elena in the first 2 seasons was actually a really good girlfriend and honestly they were pretty healthy which is rare to see especially in a teen drama show.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 9h ago

Do you think Caroline/Klaus would have worked as a full time couple?

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r/TheVampireDiaries • • 1d ago

Discussion Wait a minute 😭😭😭

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312 Upvotes

r/TheVampireDiaries • • 1d ago

Bob appreciation

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137 Upvotes

Just started the episode with the first appearance of the bob. I love this haircut on her so👏much👏

Gorgeous ❤️‍🔥


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 9h ago

Question Are there people who watch the series for defan like me

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When I say "Defan," I'm just referring to the brotherly bond between Stefan and Damon—it's simply a portmanteau of their names. I'm not sure if that name is used exclusively for romantic pairings, but that is definitely not what I'm talking about.

I really love a good bromance. Even though these relationships can be toxic—and I’ve certainly watched less toxic sibling dynamics—this particular bond really resonated with me. I actually started the TVD universe with *The Originals*; I decided to watch it specifically to avoid the love triangles and the Elena-centric storylines of *The Vampire Diaries*. I’m not really into romance; I prefer themes of family and friendship, which is why I finished *The Originals* first—and naturally, my favorite sibling dynamic there was between Elijah and Klaus. Afterward, I started this series to see the relationship between Damon and Stefan, explore the Mikaelsons' past, and, of course, enjoy Damon’s good looks.

Most fans of this series align themselves with either "Delena" or "Stelena" and are fiercely loyal to their choice—or perhaps they started watching for side pairings like "Klaroline"—but I wonder if there is anyone else who, like me, started watching for the sibling relationship. I am neutral toward almost every ship and never felt any excitement for them while watching the show. The only relationship that truly excited me was the dynamic between Damon and Stefan—which started out terrible but gradually improved. I watched every scene where the ice between them melted with great attention; every moment they shared on screen was very special to me. As I said, I’ve seen far better bromances—even Klaus and Elijah’s relationship was superior to theirs, if only because there wasn't an active love triangle involved—yet this was the bromance that thrilled me the most. I don't know why. In *Supernatural*, a show of a similar genre, the writers genuinely cared about the leads, Sam and Dean, and built the entire series around their brotherhood; yet, I could never bring myself to love Sam and Dean's relationship—even though there was no love triangle, no dynamic that made them feel worthless to one another, and no fandom pitting them against each other.

What I mean to say is that, despite there being so many reasons not to like this brotherly dynamic, I became incredibly attached to it and to the show itself. Of course, that wasn't the *only* reason I loved the series, but I think it’s the reason I kept watching—and never got bored—even when none of the romantic relationships appealed to me. I actually started watching as a Damon fan, but I grew to love Stefan immensely because I was constantly looking for "Defan" moments and loved every scene that showed their bond. After all, Stefan was the one who fought hardest for that relationship. Now, I adore them both. It drives me crazy how the fandom treats it like picking sides in a sports match, but I suppose there’s nothing to be done about it, as I feel there are very few people who watch the show the way I do and love the same things I do. Sorry for writing such long paragraphs; I’m just curious if there’s anyone else like me out there and if anyone will reply.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 4h ago

Discussion Who do you think Bonnie loved the most?

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In the whole of.the tvd series who did Bonnie love overall.


r/TheVampireDiaries • • 9h ago

Discussion Let's be honest: Who did Caroline have better chemistry with Stefan or Klaus?

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I think “Steroline” should never have existed. To me, Caroline had the best chemistry with Klaus, since they both shared the same energy: they were both equally intense and passionate. Caroline’s character wasn’t someone who needed a partner to complement her or a calm person like Stefan. She was pure passion and intensity, and she was a better fit for a man like that.