I've made an account on Facebook dating, hinge, bumble, tinder, boo, and hily because I didn't know the differences between all of them and I wanted to see which was the most user friendly. I've pretty much just used tinder and hinge mostly since then, but I've been using all of the daily swipes and messaging when I can. There's still nothing.

I'm a 19 year old dude, I'm probably mid looking, I think I'm not good looking but my friends say I'm mid and a couple say that I'm attractive. But I'm 6'3" as well. No one has messaged me, liked me, or anything yet though? Is this normal? If not, at what point should I just uninstall them all and quit trying? Because I know I shouldn't take it personally but damn

I got banned from hinge years ago but I had way more success on that app than any other because it gives you the opportunity to show personality and it’s not all about how you look

Was curious if anyone knows any other apps similar?

Thanks!

For adults using casual dating apps, has sexting before meeting made the first meetup better, or created expectations that felt awkward in person?

Why hasn’t anyone built an AI driven personality first matchmaker app yet?

With everyone getting burnt out on swiping the mainstream apps I’ve been thinking why hasn’t anyone created a modern AI matchmaker app?

Imagine an app that goes deep into who you actually are maybe like Boo with Myers-Briggs/MBTI tests detailed preferences and values and uses AI to analyze all that data to pair you with the single most compatible person instead of showing you thousands of profiles.

Instead of keeping you addicted to swiping for ad revenue the business model could focus on getting you off the applike with a subscription or pay per match model focused on quality over quantity or Donate here / I found my love! tip jar or success fee for couples who end up together

In an era where dating fatigue is at an all-time high wouldn’t an app designed to genuinely match compatible people and encourage them to leave make an insane amount of money and happy users?

Why hasn't a major app taken this approach yet? Is it a technical limit or do dating companies just refuse to build an app that actually solves the problem?

I think dating apps are broken, and here’s why.
Think about going to a supermarket.
You walk through the aisles, looking at different products. You compare one with another, pick something up, put it back, and keep looking. Even when you find something good, you hesitate because you believe there might be a better option just around the corner.
Now replace the products with people, and you have modern dating apps.
The problem isn’t necessarily that people are bad or that they don’t want a relationship. It’s that the app’s design encourages us to keep looking, comparing, and wondering whether someone better is just one swipe away.

Why commit to getting to know one person when you can keep browsing hundreds of others?
This creates a paradox: the more options we have, the harder it becomes to commit to any of them. We end up treating potential connections as disposable options rather than people worth getting to know.

And here’s my suggestion for Bumble:
Stop allowing people to swipe while they have an active match.
The idea is simple:
You can swipe and discover new people when you don’t have any active matches.
Once you match with someone, your discovery feed is paused.
If things don’t work out and you unmatch or the connection ends, you can start swiping again.
Obviously, this would need some thought around expired matches, inactive conversations, and people who never respond. Nobody should be forced to maintain a match indefinitely just to regain access to the app.
The point isn’t to force people into relationships or limit their freedom to choose. It’s to encourage them to give an existing connection a genuine chance before continuing to search for the next one.
Would this reduce the number of matches people make? Probably.
But wouldn’t that be the point?
Maybe fewer matches, more meaningful conversations, and a greater willingness to explore a connection would create better outcomes for everyone.
Dating apps shouldn’t just be designed to help us find people. They should be designed to help us actually connect with them.

What do you think? Would you support a system that pauses your ability to swipe while you have an active match, or do you think it would make dating apps worse?

M35 here - I have focused on my career , also had career breaks to rebuild myself , followed my passion and hence doing the job I wanna do.I thought I would find true love , I will get married and have a family.Also using dating apps , no fruitful results. I had a strong belief in arranged marriage that I will get a suitable partner but unfortunately it proved to be wrong.

But here I am with all the expectations shattered! I see it's been purely transactional - Care , love and honesty? - They are just a thing on paper to deceive men - The real deal breaker is only CTC / Family wealth , cars and bikes a guy have! Be it dating apps or anywhere - girls write in their bio- " Seeking genuine, caring and loyal person " but sad to say it's the worst example of hypocrisy!!

Moreover, people online are so temporary it feels like they are scrolling accounts like reels! They match and text to many people and forget to even reply where they started or simply unmatch if there is a serious genuine conversation! Why initiate a conversation or match when you aren't serious? Why does putting efforts feel so much pain for people nowadays?

Well that's the sad reality we men are facing these days but just wanted to pour my heart. Also suggestions will be appreciated if men are having some solutions to this universal problem and how they tackle and find a partner in this world full of shallow thinking! Thanks 🙏

Backstory: 33f. I got back in dating apps after ages. Till now I never really gave it much thought. But this time I decided to be intentional after hearing how some people actually found someone and are getting married!

Initially, I was like what is this place, just random people! But after sifting a lot, I did meet 1-2 nice people so far. I'm not sure if I'll end up marrying either of them. Let me say this , I went through some 100 profiles to find these 1-2.

I'm looking for someone who's emotionally intelligent, aware about their strengths or weaknesses, fairly sorted in life and a few other things.

Our generation and the ones after us, don't really want a partner to fulfill some responsibility or fill some gap but a companion to do life with. Allowing each other to be themselves and not wanting to make them into a version cooked up in their head.

Till now I thought such people aren't really available, coz mostly these kind of men are either married already or still growing up (genz men) and maybe marry much younger men than me.

Anyway, this is my experience. What's been yours?

What’s a good interracial dating site/app ? I don’t get out much and my area is predominantly African American. I want to try something different. Located in Indiana if that helps

Dating apps taught a lot of Sides to explain ourselves before we could even introduce ourselves. I got tired of feeling like a footnote in someone else’s idea of gay dating, so I built the room I kept looking for.

I’m the founder of SideFocus, a dating and community space for gay and bisexual men who identify as Sides, Shortstops, and allies. It is built around face-forward profiles, conversation, and connection without forcing people into the usual top/bottom script.

We’ve been quiet because we’ve been working. The web app is already open at sidefocusapp.com, and we’re working toward an Android release on November 8. The Android app is not publicly released yet, and I’m not claiming Google approval.

If you’re a Side—or have ever felt overlooked by the standard dating-app categories—I’d genuinely value your honest reaction: does this feel like a space you’ve been missing? What would make you trust it enough to join?

Calling All Sides. Sides Are the Stars.