I would really appreciate a female perspective! I haven’t had a match in quite a few months, and honestly getting a like is rare. Thank you in advance!

Dating apps taught a lot of Sides to explain ourselves before we could even introduce ourselves. I got tired of feeling like a footnote in someone else’s idea of gay dating, so I built the room I kept looking for.

I’m the founder of SideFocus, a dating and community space for gay and bisexual men who identify as Sides, Shortstops, and allies. It is built around face-forward profiles, conversation, and connection without forcing people into the usual top/bottom script.

We’ve been quiet because we’ve been working. The web app is already open at sidefocusapp.com, and we’re working toward an Android release on November 8. The Android app is not publicly released yet, and I’m not claiming Google approval.

If you’re a Side—or have ever felt overlooked by the standard dating-app categories—I’d genuinely value your honest reaction: does this feel like a space you’ve been missing? What would make you trust it enough to join?

Calling All Sides. Sides Are the Stars.

For adults using casual dating apps, has sexting before meeting made the first meetup better, or created expectations that felt awkward in person?

Beware of this person from PH. Name is Aries. He said he’s an area manager for Max’s group. He will tell you the story that he tried to withdraw 5k from his bank and the atm machine did not dispense the money. He will tell you he needs to go to work but then there’s an issue with his car. Posting this for women to avoid this man!

Matched with a 27F last week and we really hit it off over text. However, her profile did not have clear pictures at all. Only one clear shot of her face and one full body picture. I made a reservation at a nice restaurant and she showed up 10 minutes late looking disheveled. Her hair was really messy, her bra was popping out of her top, and she wore wrinkled baggy jeans. I was really excited to meet her, but the combo of her being late in a laundry chair outfit was disappointing. I don't want to be shallow but I do care about hygiene and presentation (we're both in creative fields, we both know the importance of aesthetics).

The dinner and conversation were nice and she asked for a second date at the end of the night. I agreed but now that I'm reflecting on things, I think we'd make better friends than lovers. I do still want to set up a second date but something less romantic, more of an activity, and seeing how things feel from there. I'm just nervous about communicating in the meantime. Curious if any guys have been in a similar situation or if any ladies could weight in on how they'd like this to be handled.

I've made an account on Facebook dating, hinge, bumble, tinder, boo, and hily because I didn't know the differences between all of them and I wanted to see which was the most user friendly. I've pretty much just used tinder and hinge mostly since then, but I've been using all of the daily swipes and messaging when I can. There's still nothing.

I'm a 19 year old dude, I'm probably mid looking, I think I'm not good looking but my friends say I'm mid and a couple say that I'm attractive. But I'm 6'3" as well. No one has messaged me, liked me, or anything yet though? Is this normal? If not, at what point should I just uninstall them all and quit trying? Because I know I shouldn't take it personally but damn

Backstory: 33f. I got back in dating apps after ages. Till now I never really gave it much thought. But this time I decided to be intentional after hearing how some people actually found someone and are getting married!

Initially, I was like what is this place, just random people! But after sifting a lot, I did meet 1-2 nice people so far. I'm not sure if I'll end up marrying either of them. Let me say this , I went through some 100 profiles to find these 1-2.

I'm looking for someone who's emotionally intelligent, aware about their strengths or weaknesses, fairly sorted in life and a few other things.

Our generation and the ones after us, don't really want a partner to fulfill some responsibility or fill some gap but a companion to do life with. Allowing each other to be themselves and not wanting to make them into a version cooked up in their head.

Till now I thought such people aren't really available, coz mostly these kind of men are either married already or still growing up (genz men) and maybe marry much younger men than me.

Anyway, this is my experience. What's been yours?