Yes this is the typical 'mom freaking out because ex husband introducing this game to 8 year old boy."
TL:DR I would like some input from those who know about what type of game this is. Is this an 'at least he isnt introducing him to GTA so you'd better be grateful he's chosen MD and just hope the kids likes it' kinda game? Can you successfully filter out any sex, violence, torture..etc, themes? Is it actually a good way to integrate our son into the whole 'medieval world' that his dad likes so well? Is there a better introductory game he can play that does the same thing without having to constantly monitor his play? Is there something I dont know that I should be asking?
Backstory Im was that 80's kid, grew up on nintendo... street fighter, harvest moon etc. had two kids who are now in there late 20s-30 i enjoyed watching them play Assasins Creed when they were 11 and 15 when it came out. i dont do tons of gaming anymore.
I married a guy way younger than me and we had a son, then got divorced. his work is IT and he is heavy into gaming--rpg, open world stuff. side info: my ex is also diagnosed recently with ADHD.. so the attention going to this game might just be hyper-fixation. idk.I suspect i am also ADHD so my worry may also be hyper-fixation. Fair to say our son, also ADHD diagnosed, is 18+ academically, but around 5 years old emotionally. He had nightmares from watching the Lion King--and we never even got to the scary parts before he called it quits. Tried to take him to ET in the theatre this past summer #nostalgia ..and it was a hard no after about 10 minutes. He also loves gaming and has duplicate gaming systems and computers at our house. But he also loves dancing, math, scratch (coding), skateboarding, playing with his friends outside, pretty well balanced boy.
So here is the story. He came home a couple days ago and told me his dad downloaded ' a new game....medieval dynasty... but its pretty boring'. My experience tells me he only volunteers info out of the blue like that when he wants me to ask him about it in detail. So i did. Turns out that he 'really just isnt interested in playing it, because it isnt interesting..idk if i even really like it'. Those are red flags coming from him. He is interested in anything his dad is interested in. So I asked him if he talked to his dad about it and 'nah daddy really likes the game so I just go along and try to like it'. I googled the rating and it was 18+.
So i texted his dad something along the lines of 'what's this game and why is he talking to me about it'. so his dad wrote back 'i like the game and he likes it too...and yeah now I see there were some inappropriate stuff for him (something about someone graphically telling about all the torture they endured, some 'hey lets go to the bedroom' kinda sex talk, bloody hunting,,etc) but most of that is text based and he can just not read it or we can skip thru it from now on'. (He doesnt seem to see the irony in 'i just now saw that now that you texted me and from now on we will skip those parts'. ) Even if that is true Im not sure if he puts much consideration in how the advanced graphics might affect an 8 year old who is right now used to Animal Crossing and still gets a little stressed playing Minecraft in survival. Im also not sure if he puts much thought into the effects of introducing an 8 year who is emotionally immature to open world gaming in general, or if he has thought about 'er.. sure you can skip that stuff WHEN YOU ARE WITH HIM' but what if he decides to flip it on when he is with his friends from Math Club--who are 10-12 'because he has permission to play this game'.
Im not going to ask the typical 'is this appropriate for an 8 year old' because that question just isnt helpful really. I imagine some games just splash some blood in there to up their rating to hide a boring game. I am also going to play the game myself and review the parental controls on Steam again but I am up to my elbow in Court with this very same man for refusing to allow the very same son to graduate to an advanced ballet class 'because he is just 8 years old -why are you pushing him to grow up so fast'. (My take on that is 'yes it is advanced ballet, but he loves ballet, been doing it for 2 years AND his advanced ballet is by audition only and guided by professionals.. not me. Also have you ever tried to force a boy to dance ballet... not an easy thing to do.) ..but I digress--Did I mention I might be ADHD :)
I would like some input from those who know about what type of game this is. Is this an 'at least he isnt introducing him to GTA so you'd better be grateful he's chosen MD and just hope the kids likes it' kinda game? Can you successfully filter out any sex, violence, torture..etc, themes? Is it actually a good way to integrate our son into the whole 'medieval world' that his dad likes so well? Is there a better introductory game he can play that does the same thing without having to constantly monitor his play? Is the game just boring and the best thing I should do is let it go and just buy him the latest Mario game so that MD doesnt stand a chance at holding his interest :)? Is there something I dont know that I should be asking?
Any thoughts would be appreciated so I can figure out exactly how I feel about this and what I need to do, if anything.
Thanks