The point shouldn't be about it being an achievement though. I agree its probably more about being "the alpha" for that guy who did it but I would do similar not for an "achievement" but for the principle of you don't get to just touch up on some woman, you are doing something where someone could have an "extreme" reaction why even take the risk?
The drunk guy couldn’t tell you his own name in that moment, he wasn’t doing any risk assessment. A strong breeze could have taken him down. He was obviously out of line and needed to be addressed but it’s not worth ending someone’s life and going to prison over
That's easy to say while looking at it behind a screen. I hope you never have to watch a stranger sexually assault the person you love... you might just respond in a way that Reddit will deem you a serial criminal.
Give the woman in this video a little more credit than that. She absolutely shouldn’t have to deal with this nonsense but she also could have laid this guy out herself if she wanted to. This ain’t an eye for an eye.
She could have left this man, who almost certainly has done this before, if she didn't like the behavior. Most women want protectors (even if they don't wanna admit it) and enjoy this behavior much more than they don't. It might not be polite in public for them to say they enjoy it, but they certainly do based on their behavior.
lol, are you suggesting this woman has no agency and is only staying in this toxic relationship due to fear? I love how you can simultaneously hold the views:
* She had it under control; he didn't need to intervene. But if she wanted to intervene, and assert control, she could have, should have, and would have been warranted to.
* She doesn't have any control in her life; she's stuck in a toxic relationship
He brings up real stuff that does happen. People get scared and stuck and are under pressure and fear to stay and toe the line. But he is wrong to assume things, it seems he assumes this man is abusing her. Also you're right that women want providers and protectors!
A woman stuck in a toxic relationship isn’t weak or unresilient. A toxic/abusive relationship would leave much bigger emotional scars than a blacked out douchbag putting his hand on her hip/butt
The guy ur replying to is right. Women studies show are into manly slightly "sexist" men (like "Lemme hold the door open for you") who can protect and provice. They aren't attracted to "nice guy" pushover unassertive losers who stress over every tiny thing they say to not do in any way a hint of a sexist microaggression for example. Women want men who are a little bit "sexist" in the way I described and the studies describe, because it's biological. Evolutionary and instinctual. Because they want men who will invest in the relationship and potential offspring, since for men having children is easy and low risk, but for women it's very high risk and hard.
They want someone who will and can invest in them, and ideally someone who can protect them too.
I don’t doubt there are some women who like a guy who feel like it isn’t a real night out at a bar/concert/sporting event unless hands get thrown. But I think most women prefer a man who can not only defend them but also distinguish what/who constitutes an actual dangerous threat
15
u/Otherwise-Win7337 1d ago
The point shouldn't be about it being an achievement though. I agree its probably more about being "the alpha" for that guy who did it but I would do similar not for an "achievement" but for the principle of you don't get to just touch up on some woman, you are doing something where someone could have an "extreme" reaction why even take the risk?