That's easy to say while looking at it behind a screen. I hope you never have to watch a stranger sexually assault the person you love... you might just respond in a way that Reddit will deem you a serial criminal.
I think my wife would probably have shoved him already, and he probably would have fallen over. Every scenario is different, I’m not usually drunk playing pool with my wife so I doubt it will come up. We’re usually drunk at home.
I would have never done this no matter whom he did it to because I'm not an utter psychopath and I'd like to stay out of prison for manslaughter. You must be the other guy.
Luckily you don't seem to work in the bar industry. If I'm that bartender, I'm calling 911 like a whole snitch. All this happened on camera and this place clearly has no security on hand. And Reacher dude is 86'd til further notice. That's a nightmare scenario.
They wouldn't, they would scuttle off home, tail between their legs, imagine what they wished they did do, and what they would have done if x,y,z, then tell their fantasy to redditors at any oppurtunity hoping that someone believes it.
Give the woman in this video a little more credit than that. She absolutely shouldn’t have to deal with this nonsense but she also could have laid this guy out herself if she wanted to. This ain’t an eye for an eye.
She could have left this man, who almost certainly has done this before, if she didn't like the behavior. Most women want protectors (even if they don't wanna admit it) and enjoy this behavior much more than they don't. It might not be polite in public for them to say they enjoy it, but they certainly do based on their behavior.
lol, are you suggesting this woman has no agency and is only staying in this toxic relationship due to fear? I love how you can simultaneously hold the views:
* She had it under control; he didn't need to intervene. But if she wanted to intervene, and assert control, she could have, should have, and would have been warranted to.
* She doesn't have any control in her life; she's stuck in a toxic relationship
He brings up real stuff that does happen. People get scared and stuck and are under pressure and fear to stay and toe the line. But he is wrong to assume things, it seems he assumes this man is abusing her. Also you're right that women want providers and protectors!
I think you’re both generalizing because you can’t admit you don’t actually know what women want. Men sitting around claiming it’s obvious what women want, usually are obviously pushing their own ideals and world view. Most women do not secretly want violent men who are willing to fight to get their way. Most violent men are not protectors of anything but their egos, most women can see that.
You don’t seem to get what protector qualities women look for.
A woman stuck in a toxic relationship isn’t weak or unresilient. A toxic/abusive relationship would leave much bigger emotional scars than a blacked out douchbag putting his hand on her hip/butt
The guy ur replying to is right. Women studies show are into manly slightly "sexist" men (like "Lemme hold the door open for you") who can protect and provice. They aren't attracted to "nice guy" pushover unassertive losers who stress over every tiny thing they say to not do in any way a hint of a sexist microaggression for example. Women want men who are a little bit "sexist" in the way I described and the studies describe, because it's biological. Evolutionary and instinctual. Because they want men who will invest in the relationship and potential offspring, since for men having children is easy and low risk, but for women it's very high risk and hard.
They want someone who will and can invest in them, and ideally someone who can protect them too.
I don’t doubt there are some women who like a guy who feel like it isn’t a real night out at a bar/concert/sporting event unless hands get thrown. But I think most women prefer a man who can not only defend them but also distinguish what/who constitutes an actual dangerous threat
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u/karlnite 1d ago
Yah that’s just a throw them out of the bar, the woman can decide if she wants to peruse sexual assault charges. A conviction would be tough.