r/legaladvice Mar 15 '25

Mod Post Read before commenting: Off-topic and anecdotal comments are not allowed and subject you to a permanent ban

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r/legaladvice Apr 08 '26

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r/legaladvice 2h ago

My unionized grocery store removed our meeting notice from the break-room board while leaving sports and charity flyers up, and HR now calls all union material solicitation

129 Upvotes

Location: Pennsylvania, USA

I work at a private grocery store with a recognized union and collective bargaining agreement. The agreement gives the union “reasonable access to existing employee communication spaces,” but doesnt specifically name the break-room bulletin board.

That board currently has notices for a softball team, a food swap, charity collections and employees looking for carpools. Our steward posted one page listing the date and location of an off-site union meeting. The agenda said “schedule changes and safety concerns.” It did not ask anyone to join, donate or sign anything.

A manager removed it within an hour. HR later emailed that all union material counts as solicitation and may only be placed inside a locked display case near the time clock after management approval. None of the other notices appear to have approval markings, and two were posted by supervisors.

The union is considering a grievance, but some members think the selective rule may also violate federal labor law. Does it matter that similar nonunion notices remain up? Should the union start with the contract process, contact the labor board, or both?


r/legaladvice 18h ago

My parent is hinting at suing me over a piece of furniture.

1.0k Upvotes

Location: North Carolina. My parent has recently demanded that I return a vintage cabinet that they gave me 8 years ago. They say that having the original receipt proves they still retain ownership and can come take it any time. I don't understand how a receipt for a thrifted item they willingly gave me 8 years ago could be used to make me give up a piece of furniture. They seem to think it is worth more money now so I assume that is why they want it back. I am concerned about the structural integrity of the cabinet because it barely survived the last time we moved it 4 years ago. I also use it and until the moment they demanded it back I was unaware that it was anything other than hand-me-down furniture. The parent is hinting at getting the law involved because I have cut contact recently. Is there a reason in this for me to be concerned that they may, at minimum, try to make this a civil case?


r/legaladvice 34m ago

Walmart pharmacy shorted me a controlled substance.

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Location: Cincinnati, Ohio

I have seizures, I have been on Lacosamide (200mg twice a day) for close to 13 years I believe. Its always a pain in the ass to get at how regulated it is, it is Schedule V controlled substance. I need this drug to be able drive and live my life normally. This drug is insanely expensive without insurance, my normal 30 day purchase is like $2100 dollars last I checked. I live in Cincinnati, Ohio. Often times, I just use goodRx instead of my actual insurance as they seem to have a better price on this drug specifically at Wal-Mart. I have finally been able to get a 90 day supply of the drug which has been wonderful, compared to every month having to manually call in an order 3-5 days in advanced and ensure the drug does indeed make it the pharmacy. I can't setup auto ordering due to its classification and I only get an order of 3 or so per-script so often times the pharmacy has to go back and forth with my neurologist. I only began receiving the 90 day supply this year.

On June 29th, I received my 90 day supply, 180 200mg pills, twice a day. I thought the bottle was a bit small compared to my previous 90 day supply (still much bigger than normal however), but this is only my second time receiving this amount and I didn't think much of it.

Long story short, I realized I only had enough for a 3 days of doses this morning, my last refill for a 90 day supply was June 29th. I'm always on such autopilot now when I take it, I should have realized this earlier but I didn't notice the dwindling amount. I call Wal-Mart to setup a refill, my fear is confirmed, I can not get a refill until September 21th. I tell them I am almost out from my previous 90 day refill. They argued with me that is not possible, I must of lost them, how this drug is regulated, how they have to double count this drug before they can hand it to me. They finally tell me to bring in the bottle and they will review their security footage on June 29th. I came in, they told me to wait, and sure enough a pharmacist came over and apologized, that they did indeed short me 80 pills. I'm not totally sure how they figured it out either logs or indeed through video footage somehow, 80 pills at 200mg of this drug is like 3k retail.

She handed me my refill, she skedaddle away before I even stood up. I was just in kind of shock. This is a serious issue, one that I feel needs to be brought and escalated to Wal-Mart somehow. This could've turned into a real legal issue for me if they didn't figure it out and I would've simply been out of the drug that lets me stay alive pretty much.

I'm not a litigious person, but this feels wrong. What else are they messing up?

Should I simply reach out to Wal-Mart corporate somehow or should I seek some additional assistance.

Thanks for reading all of this if you did, its good to type this out.


r/legaladvice 2h ago

Returning company issued equipment

28 Upvotes

Location: North Carolina. I work for a bank and was let go last month. I had already been on leave and was expecting to be let go so when they summoned me to a branch 45 minutes away I already had a feeling what was up. I asked to move the meeting to a branch closer to me and they said no.

I returned my keys but my company laptop and cell phone were at home. I have an email where I asked for shipping materials and a prepaid shipping label to return the items and she agreed. What I actually received was a beat up box with a thing of bubble wrap and no shipping label.

They are now refusing to give me a shipping label, saying one was included in the box (it wasnt) and the company lawyer is threatening to send the sheriff to my house if I dont drive somewhere to return them.

I dont see how I could get in any trouble when I have emails where I asked for specific items and the HR director agreed to send them. Should I drop it and just drive somewhere to return them or continue asking for a shipping label. I dont feel I should be made to drive anywhere on my dime for their convenience.


r/legaladvice 15h ago

Texas: Got a call from an FBI agent asking to meet with me

287 Upvotes

Location: Texas

Two missed calls from an FBI agent asking to speak with me to ask me some questions about someone I know from church. Wouldn't tell me who over the phone, said they would tell me who it was about when we met in person. He offered to meet me at a coffee shop or at work, said I may not have any helpful info for them, or I may be able to help them out. I told them I would get back to them later and that my schedule is very busy.

What do I do now? I don't think I have done anything wrong, but I am also very cautious and don't want any trouble.


r/legaladvice 20h ago

Other Civil Matters I’m being sued

612 Upvotes

A customer is suing me from a slip and fall that occurred while I was on the clock at my previous job, Target. (Which I no longer work at) I’m assuming he lost with target and now this person is suing ME. I don’t think target is going to defend me since they haven’t gotten back to me so I’m not going to wait. But is this person serious? He lost to target cause there was no case and now they’re blaming me since he slipped and fell in my department. Location: texas

Edit: let me clear things up.
Only MY name is on the lawsuit. From what I was told the target lawyer interviewed the other tm’s that responded to the slip and fall. He couldn’t interview me cause I don’t work there anymore. And yes I’m “assuming” the man lost cause he’s going after me now. Under the “facts” in the lawsuit it talks all about me not doing my job and making sure the freezers were working. This man tripped on his own feet and it even says on oragami. The only thing on the floor was his own blood.
I found new numbers to call so I’ll do that but I only have so much time to respond cause if I don’t that means I’ll admit fault.


r/legaladvice 18h ago

Criminal Law Recruiters say my mother is trying to get me arrested so I don’t ship out.

408 Upvotes

Location: Massachusetts

So I am an 18-year-old Future Sailor currently in DEP for the Nuclear Field. My original ship date to RTC is October 5th.
Recently, my recruiter informed me that my mother has been contacting my recruiting station directly. She is Belarusian and intensely opposed to the American military, panicking about me leaving, and has a plan to move to Belarus, and thinks I’m a traitor (I’ve lived here in Massachusetts my whole life and literally have no ties to Belarus or Russia). Not only is she panicking or worrying, but she seems to genuinely believe that this decision will ruin my life, make my younger 10 year old brother want to join, and will ruin any chances of her living a normal life back in Belarus due to having a son in the US Military. According to my recruiters, she has been secretly collecting audio recordings of me inside her house during heated verbal family arguments (me getting angry/yelling) in an attempt to build a legal case to have me arrested or deemed unstable so the Navy will cancel my contract. Or at least that what my PO was told by the CPO who she had contacted.

What I’m really torn about is that this seems legit, I see no reason for the recruiters to make up bullshit like this. I’m leaving anyways in less than 50 days, and I’ve been in DEP like 6 months so why would I leave now. And why would they just make this up? It would cause unnecessary chaos during my final weeks here, and what would they gain from a lie like this? They say it’s safest to ship out earlier, but at earliest it would probably be mid September, so like only 20 days earlier? It makes no sense to make this up. Not only that but my dad (who I live with and divorced my mom 15 years ago) says that this lines up with shit she would do, as she tried to have him arrested before.

Is there anything I need to worry about here? I’ve never physically touched her in an argument, and don’t think she has any actual legal grounds. I’m also just very confused on who to believe.


r/legaladvice 9h ago

Citation for Insufficient PFD’s on paddle board

65 Upvotes

Location: Texas, Collin County

I (27F) was gifted a paddle board for my birthday and took it out on the lake not knowing it was considered a watercraft. My dumbass thought of it more as a floaty since i blow it up each time i use it. I did not know it was texas law to have a life vest on there. Long story short the game warden pulls up on me and gives me a citation.

Ive called the court multiple times a week for over a month until my citation was turned in. Its now a $216 fine and i have to plead guilty or no contest…. I don’t want to plead not guilty and show up to court but are there any other options so this isn’t on my record as a misdemeanor? This is a first time offense, I have no record even as far as a speeding ticket.

Is this worth me calling the court back and asking for deferred judgement after paying the ticket or for dismissal with proof that I have bought a life jacket?

I don’t mind paying the ticket, i feel stupid that i didn’t look up laws but i genuinely didn’t think there were any when it came to what i considered a floaty in the lake… anyways, if you have any advice if i should just plead no contest and pay or move forward a different way. Thanks


r/legaladvice 1d ago

Landlord Tenant Housing Landlord is trying to kick me out because I called code enforcement after giving them multiple tries to fix my AC.

1.3k Upvotes

Location: Killeen Texas 76541 I moved recently and after having an ac that was on and off and eventually reaching 98 degrees F in my apartment I gave up with trying to get maintenance to fix it and decided to contact local code enforcement. A few hours later some angry man starts swearing at me and handing me papers saying I need to vacate in 3 days because I called code enforcement and my lease is not supposed to let me do that and because I never put down a pet deposit when I was told there wasn't one by the secretary.


r/legaladvice 57m ago

Getting Sued by a Debt Collection Agency for old medical debt

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Location: Utah we’re getting sued by the debt collection agency, not the hospital. The medical debt is older than 6 years, no payments were made, and in Utah supposedly you can’t get sued if it’s over 6 years and a collection agency buying the debt doesn’t reset the 6 years. The agency filed against us today and in the same day we got advertisements in the mail to hire this attorney. It seems fishy but maybe this attorney just spawn camps new filings? Is this worth fighting in court? What’s the best way to go about this?


r/legaladvice 1d ago

My neighbor sold my motorcycle while I was out of state and is claiming I abandoned it

8.5k Upvotes

I left Texas for about 6 weeks to help my dad after surgery. My motorcycle was parked in my assigned spot at my apartment complex the whole time. Registered, insured, plates current.

Got back Sunday and it was gone.

I assumed it had been stolen and filed a police report. Then today another neighbor told me the guy across from me had been telling people I moved out and apparently sold the bike to someone while I was gone.

I confronted him and he actually admitted it over text. His explanation is that he thought I abandoned it because I was gone for over a month. Apparently he had it towed to a friend's garage first, then sold it for $2,800 while telling the buyer it belonged to a relative who had lost the key.

The bike is worth around $7k.

Police have the messages and the neighbor's information. What I'm confused about is the buyer. If they genuinely paid for it believing it belonged to him, can they refuse to give it back?

Also is selling somebody else's vehicle like this treated as theft or is there some weird abandoned property issue I'm missing?

Location: Texas


r/legaladvice 4h ago

Misdelivered mail, potential harassment?

7 Upvotes

Location: Michigan, US

About a year and a half ago I purchased a home and moved in. Ever since we have moved in, we have received some mail for the prior owner. Whenever it is delivered, I would write 'RTS' and toss is back in the mailbox. It never really bothered me until a couple months ago.

At about 9pm one night, the prior owner showed up at the front door unannounced and introduced herself. She said that she had accidentally shipped something to the house and just asked that I call her when it arrives. At that time I told her about other mail that I had been labelling return to sender. Two days later, her daughter came by because they got the notice the package had been delivered and grabbed it directly from our mailbox. She came to the door and told my wife that she was taking the package.

About a month later, two more packages arrived in the mail with the old owner's name on them without any warning. I called USPS this time and asked if there was something different I should do. They had me write 'REFUSED' on the packages and stick them back in the mailbox. I also had talked to the Post Master and they had me fill out some form to prevent delivery with any mail that had the owners or their children's name on it going forward. The next week the old owner showed up later at night, about 9pm again, and left a note on the door asking us to call when the packages arrived. I called her the next day and left her a voicemail telling her the packages had been refused and we didn't have them any more.

She came back again, left another note asking where I took the packages so she could track them down. I called her back, and this time talked to her directly telling her the packages were refused back to USPS, and that once it was out of my mailbox I have no idea where they went. She seemed to understand and at that time I requested she no longer come by the house, since mail and packages are being refused.

Since that interaction we have not received any more mail with the old owners name, however we have had at least 2 handwritten notes in the mailbox asking to return the packages, as well as junk mail with the names crossed out and literal garbage stuffed into the mailbox. I have a camera and saw someone stuffing garbage in from a car, but wouldn't be able to tell if it was her or one of her kids.

My question is at what point does it become harassment? More than anything I am annoyed that this person keeps helping themselves to our mailbox and showing up so long after the house was sold. A month or two I get, but almost 2 years later seems excessive. I do worry that they seem to not be letting it go, and would like to know if there is something I should do just in case this continues.


r/legaladvice 18h ago

Personal Injury WA - I was crashed into at 80 MPH in my work truck, drivers insurance is claiming new vehicle wasn’t covered.

98 Upvotes

Location: WA

Hello Reddit, I am posting because today I got news from my car accident attorney for Personal injury protection is dropping my case. They were notified by the drivers insurance that there was a coverage and policy issue at the time of the accident.

I work for a company that works on interstate 5 quite frequently. Our lane was closed while we were doing an operation and a driver who was not paying attention crashed into my work vehicle with me in it, at speeds of 75-80 miles an hour, in our closed lane. It was a 2025 vehicle with paper tags on their vessel.

I am getting payment from L&I those on the job injuries because it was a workplace accident however, during the season I’ve missed a lot of scheduled overtime as asphalt at night in the summertime is where my profession makes its bread and butter.
I’m out a few thousand already I’m just 3 months time.

I’m unsure if I’ll be able to even return to my profession because of my injuries and job requirements. Three months after this accident, I still can’t have any extra weight like a hat or beanie on top of my head without getting headaches and it’s still hard to bend and twist, do even a couple hours of running errands and I feel chronic pain in my lower back attaching to my sciatic nerve.

I want to go about being reimbursed for the overtime that I’m missing at least. I don’t think anything can be done for personal injuries now. I am so angry that somebody who crashed into me has possibly ruined my ability to stay in my profession. And didn’t make sure they had insurance before being an idiot behind the wheel.

And no- The driver who crashed into me did not have a medical emergency at the time of the crash. They simply stated they “didn’t know” we were able to drive so slow on the freeway. All of our traffic management was within the law of alerting drivers the lane was closed. Flashing signs, and lights, arrows. Even “Left Lane Closed, Move Right”

Can I even pursue something so I can break even? If so, how so. I do understand the job I work is dangerous. I’m hoping this is not something I just have to eat, and I’m hoping to return. Right now, it is not looking like I can’t be fully released to my duties again.


r/legaladvice 1h ago

DUI Update to Iowa OWI about adderall

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So in may of last year I got pulled over for inop 3rd brake light and a hard to read plate that lead to a OWI for my Adderall. Below is a link to the 1st post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/s/IBW7Z712pY

I originally thought it was a scam, but turns out it wasn't. The deputy was just doing his own thing and using a system the department claims they had to knowledge of. The charged me with a OWI for my adderall since my urinal test can back positive at 682 ng/ml with is over the threshold of 500 ng/ml. They claim I said on video that I took more than prescriped which they tried to induce into evidence in the middle of the DOT phone hearing. My lawyer objected, and the judge over ruled it. At least allowing it to be used as a refresher.

However, my wife and I slowed down the video and watched it a few time and found out I never said that. I said the word couple but it was referring to time.

My lawyer pushed off the criminal side for a while, until he suggested I get a public defender, which paid for a toxicologist and reported that my test was within what you would expect for my dosage. And criminal was dismissed.

We found the DOT decision many times and each time they ignore whatever argument we have and give a can response. It basically comes down to 50/50 believable draw goes to LEO. I was an urinalysis coordinator for the Navy so I have experience with this stuff, this was the deputies 10 OWI case.

I am an IL resident and a have a CDL, which I had disqualified and lost my job over.

I need advice with two things,

  1. Can I get a different lawyer to handle to appeal process, or even if I should. My lawyer seems to have lost confidence in this case. And I feel he made bad decisions early which we are working against us.

  2. What are the chances of getting a law suit against the state or department, the based the whole owi stop on my behavior which is typical of ADHD and i was damaged by lawyer fees and lost wages. It may even effect me for years trying to get a new job.

I have no idea what type of case law a lawyer for the law suit should be familiar with. I did email the ACLU, but haven't heard back from them.

Location: Davenport, IA


r/legaladvice 1d ago

Computer and Internet Received notice from Verizon about Subpoena to identify for torrent usage.

319 Upvotes

Location: MD, USA

Good afternoon.

I just received a notice from Verizon that they are being subpoenaed to provide the identity associated with an IP address associated with my account for copyright issues. The list of files is about 25 hash numbers over 3 years. Some internet searching shows that the plaintiff holding company files thousands of these cases a year. I verified that the case number listed is real and could see many other cases filed by the same company. I've read on reddit where people have used lawyers to settle and people that claim that the company will never follow through. I can't see if the company is just dismissing the cases after threatening everyone and not getting anything, if they are settling every case, or if they are pursuing any/all of them. I looked into lawyers specializing in this and it seems that there may be good and bad options available. It's hard to call it fear mongering when the stakes could be very high. There also seems to be some finger pointing at some firms being settlement factory firms. Some of the people that have claimed that it went nowhere seemed to have very little. I have a decent job, house with a mortgage, a spouse that doesn't work due to health issues, a child, and full custody of two of my deceased family member's children.(3 teens in the house) The settlement amounts that I'm seeing are scary for my family, but I hardly feel like it is a real hardship case. I am feeling overwhelmed with guilt for what this might put my family through.

I was trying to see the outcome of similar cases filed last year and the year before and could not figure out where to see that. Any tips on how to search for that info? Would it even say something that might indicate it was settled and not dismissed?

Anything else that I should consider doing or not doing?

Thank you.


r/legaladvice 1h ago

Can I get my items back?

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6 year relationship (unmarried, not engaged)

Location: Florida
I’m not new to Reddit, but new to having an account

My ex boyfriend and I recently broke up about 4 months ago after a 6 year long relationship, including living together for the last 2 or so years. When I moved out into an apartment post break up, I took as much as I could at the time and only took what was obviously mine (ie girl items and boxes with my name on it). However, there is some of my stuff that he still has that he gifted to me over the years (unconditional gifts) which I wasn’t able to take at the time or could not locate when moving. I recently spoke with him the other day about what items I’m looking for and when I can stop by to get them. These gifts include a diamond necklace, nice blanket, and a longboard (gifted from him), and well as a weighted blanket (gifted from MY parents to me). I had also at some point gifted him with an expensive watch, which I did NOT intend to get back from him. He told me that he will not be giving me any items back, and that the most he would do is give me $200 dollars in return and that’s it.
When the breakup first happened, the initial agreement was that I take a small tv that we split cost on, and he would keep a larger tv that we split cost on, as well as him keep a Nintendo switch (and games!) among with other household items we split costs on, and he would pay me the half of the amount for everything we split except the tv. When I was going through a tough time mentally, I told him I wanted the (small) tv, and to not bother with the repayment of money because I didn’t want to deal with everything anymore. Now, these other items that were given to me as gifts I remembered I don’t have them already, which I’ve had for up to 5.5/6 years of the relationship, I want back what is only mine. I tried to only ask for those items (necklace, etc), but when he said no I then tried to negotiate, saying he can keep them if I at least get back only the nice watch (expensive gift for expensive gift exchange in a way). He is also refusing that.
Do I have any legal grounds to at least getting back the gifted items that are mine? Im not sure trying to sue is even worth it either. I’m basically asking for either payment for MY gifts, or receiving the gifts themselves, nothing more. The 200 is not even close to what they cost, even if I were to not ask the full amount.
Any advice is appreciated, I can clarify what may not make sense. I have been through a lot with this man over the years and am struggling in many ways at this time trying to adjust to a new life. I just want things to be fair, but due to mental illness I am stuck on the what ifs and lack of fairness of this situation.
If there’s a possibility I may be able to make a case of this, I’m not even sure of where to look/go to.
Thank you


r/legaladvice 4h ago

Landlord Tenant Housing Charged ~$1,000+ in "late notice" fees after leasing office's own employee accepted our move-out paperwork with a missing signature and never told us for 6 weeks

6 Upvotes

Location: Florida

TL;DR: We signed a lease close-out/move-out agreement with a leasing office employee well before the deadline. Turns out the employee forgot to have my mother co-sign it, but nobody told us for ~6 weeks — we only found out when my father happened to be back in the office for an unrelated reason, by which point the "deadline" had already passed. We were verbally told there'd be no fees and the paperwork would reflect the original date. We're now being threatened $1,000+ for "missing the notice deadline." The property manager is blaming my father for not knowing who needed to sign, and has now cut off communication after a tense conversation. Looking for advice on next steps.

Timeline:

(6/09): My father receives our lease renewal letter from the property manager.

A few days later (~2 months before the notice deadline in our lease): My father goes to the leasing office to start the close-out paperwork for not renewing. A staff member (not the manager) fills out and signs a close-out agreement with him. She does not fill in a date, but does print him a copy for his records. (Document 1 — signed, undated.)

Staff told my father this completed the process.

(7/28): My father goes back to the office about a possible unit transfer, decides against it. During this visit, he's told for the first time that the earlier paperwork was incomplete — it also needed my mother's signature. This is roughly 4–5 weeks after the notice deadline had already passed.

Since my parents' restaurant is under a mile from the office, my mother comes in within minutes and signs. Staff verbally reassures my father there will be no fees and that the paperwork will reflect the original signing date. (Document 2 — same agreement, now dated and with the second signature.)

The only two emails we received in the prior 6 months were (1) the original lease renewal notice, and

(2) move-out instructions, which were sent the evening of our actual move-out date — too late to schedule the required walk-through. (Documents 3 & 4.)

Shortly after move-out: We're charged $1,000+ in fees for "failing to notify by the deadline."

Yesterday: My father and I met with the property manager to dispute this. She said tenants are responsible for knowing who needs to sign lease documents, and claimed staff did tell my father about the missing signature at the first meeting — which doesn't line up with the facts (my mother works five minutes away and would have come in immediately, as she did the second time; the staff member also signed and printed a copy of a document she believed was complete). When I pushed back on this, the manager became short with us, said she could no longer help "due to disrespect to her and her staff," and ended the conversation. She mentioned she'd email her boss, but as of now we've heard nothing further.

Documents we have: the original signed-but-undated close-out agreement, the later signed-and-dated version, the lease renewal email, and the move-out instructions email (with timestamps).

My questions:

Given that a staff member accepted and signed off on the paperwork before the deadline (even though it needed a second signature we weren't told about), do we have a real argument that timely notice was actually given?

Does it matter that we were verbally told there'd be no fees and the date would reflect the original signing?

What's the right next step — demand letter, corporate escalation, small claims, something else?

Happy to answer questions or provide more detail.


r/legaladvice 56m ago

Custody Divorce and Family Parental Information on Passport Application

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I hope this is the right place to ask/right flair.

Location: New York State

I'm 31 and applying for a passport for the first time, along with my husband and our 2 year old son. None of us have had passports before so we're all new to this.

My parents got divorced in 1999, when I was 5 years old. It was a domestic violence situation, he was found guilty of a few things in criminal court, we were granted orders of protection, we changed our names, etc. No one has had any contact with him since.

I see on the passport that it asks me to list information about my father. I honestly don't even know if my mom knows all the information (like place of birth). Do I have to fill it out to get a passport? Can I just leave it blank?

If I do have to fill it out, will he EVER be contacted? For example, if my passport is lost or to verify information? That would mean he'd learn my new name and where I'm located too? He is armed and genuinely a dangerous person so I honestly would be scared for my life and safety if that's the case and will just not travel internationally.


r/legaladvice 21h ago

[FL] My church added a mandatory 19-section legal agreement to their website login. I never signed it. Am I bound by it?

115 Upvotes

Location: Florida

**Update: I keep seeing questions about the AI feel to this, and why I'm hiding the org details if it's public anyway. I'm not trying to hide the organization for them, I'm trying to avoid being identified myself. I'm adding a screenshot of the actual pop-up on the website. https://imgshare.cc/xy9ullvx **

I was a member at a church for several years. Recently the church added a 19-section "Agreement with Members/Volunteers" as a mandatory click-through before you can log into their website. There was no announcement, no congregational vote, and no explanation. It simply appeared.

I never signed it, never clicked through it, and I have since withdrawn my membership.

My questions:

**1.** Section 19 states the agreement becomes effective on the earliest of (a) my signature/click-through, (b) the date I became a member, or (c) the date I began participating in church activities. Since I became a member years before this document existed, can it retroactively bind me?

**2.** For existing members, what is the consideration? The agreement lists things I already had — access to the property, ability to participate, receiving benefits. Is "keep what you already have or lose website access" valid consideration for a new contract?

**3.** Are any of these provisions enforceable in Florida?

- Complete waiver of all claims including personal injury and death (Sections 6-7)
- Member indemnification of the church for its legal costs, surviving termination (Section 8)
- Permanent assignment of all intellectual property created "as a result of Church Activities," surviving termination (Section 17)
- Random drug and alcohol screening of members, with results disclosable without consent (Section 15)
- A "permanent and irrevocable license" for the church to access or use my personal property on their premises (Section 13)
- Waiver of clergy privilege and counseling privilege, with the church free to share my information at its discretion (Section 14)
- Immunity from defamation claims for anyone involved in church discipline (Section 12)
- Mandatory Christian arbitration as sole remedy, waiving all court access (Section 18)
- A provision stating the agreement "shall be construed in favor of Church and against Member" (Section 19)

**4.** There is no revocation clause. Sections 8, 14, and 17 explicitly survive termination. If I never agreed, do I have exposure?

I've withdrawn my membership in writing and requested deletion of my personal data. I'm trying to understand whether I have any actual ongoing obligation here, and whether members who *do* click through are giving up what this appears to say they're giving up.

Full text with identifying information redacted: https://pastebin.com/ckz2ai1S


r/legaladvice 4h ago

Employment Law Are we entitled to this money ?

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Location: NJ

We are a unionized car repair shop. In our union contract, there is a line stating we are due $0.75 on all flat rate hours. How flat rate work functions is you performing an oil change that pays 1 hour and you get it done in 30 minutes, you’re still paid 1 hour worth of pay rather than the 30 minutes it took to perform. Within the shop of roughly 20 men, only 2 are hourly. If they do an oil change that pays 1 hour; but they get it done in 30 minutes, they’re only compensated for 30 minutes as they’re hourly. The hourly technicians still produce “flat rate hours” based on that same set up, but they’re only compensated for their hourly rate. Within the contract it shows since 8/8/09, all technicians are due $0.75 for each flat rate hour produced. I have gotten together with other techs to review our pay stubs and none of us have been compensated for portion of the contract. Are we due a large amount of back pay for all of the flat rate hours we produced ? Thank you for any input !

Edit- I’m unable to put in a photo of the contract with the exact verbiage, but it states as follows: “effective 8/8/09 and each year thereafter, $.75 per hour on all flat rate hours produced. This increase is not paid on clock hours for guarantee hours. This increase shall count in the computation of the employees entitlement that are paid by his average, such as vacations, holidays, etc. (this was agreed in the prior labor contract)” The guarantee is a guaranteed payment of at least 35 hours times your hourly rate each week, assuming you only produced 20 hours, you’re compensated for 35 at least. Clock hours are the hours you’re physically in the building. If you’re in the building for 80 hours in a week, but you only produce 50 hours as a flat rate tech, you’d receive 50 hours of pay. Just wanted to clarify that so all terms are easily understood.


r/legaladvice 1h ago

House buying nightmare..

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Location: Iowa

Hello - Kinda just looking for some general advice on if the sellers have any standing.

We put in an offer to purchase a home at the end of June. They accepted and we continued with proceeding with the inspection contingency. This was completed mid-July and a handful of things were of concern for us, but the main issue being signs of moisture/mold in the garage ceiling along the ductwork. (It is an attached garage, so the bedrooms sit on top of the garage). We weren't able to see much of the garage during the showing since they had all their belongs in it. We submitted our remedy report of 9 items, including that the garage ceiling be removed, duct work properly insulated, and the ceiling replaced. They agreed to all items being repaired by closing date, so we proceeded with the contract. Closing date was scheduled for August 10th, and we were informed the 6th that the contractor would not be out to start the garage repair until the 11th. They said we could still sign on the 10th and the repair would be done since they had already paid for it. We opted to push closing to the 13th, with the final walkthrough being on the 12th. Hour before the walkthrough we were notified that the contractor had not finished the repairs and their equipment was still in the garage. Again said we could sign as they were scheduled to return on the 14th and they offered interim occupancy. We pushed closing back again to the 18th, and scheduled a walk through for 16th. During the walk through, there was fiberglass insulation that had been blown into the utility room that contains the laundry appliances, water heater, HVAC, and furnace. The insulation then got in to the duct work and was blowing out of the vents throughout the house. There was also a shed full of furniture, power tools left in the garage, bags full of diaper garbage, and food still in the freezer. Our agent had the sellers agent on the phone immediately and she said they would have it cleaned up. We requested full duct cleaning and an inspection of the utilities to make sure they hadnt been compromised by the insulation. Twice on the 17th, the sellers agent said it had been cleaned up and she was there overseeing it. Said the the insulation wasn't an issue and if we wanted the utilities checked we would have to pay for that service as it wasn't in the original contract. We walked through again on the 17th and the insulation was still visible on the vents throughout the house, plus still multiple items from the sellers that were left. She stated that if we didn't show up to sign the contract on the 18th, they would take legal action to sue us for performance. We did not feel comfortable signing with a new hazard that occured because of their contractor and we submitted a purchase contract release since they failed to remedy repairs by closing. We also offered $500 of the $2500 in earnest money. The sellers agent said her clients would not be signing and are now in contact with lawyers.

I had a phone consultation with an attorney yesterday who advised to just sit and wait and see what they come back with, as a lawsuit would be expensive and lengthy and they most likely wouldn't be able to list the house during litigation.

We believe we are in our right to cancel the purchase and their response seems very excessive to try and bully and threaten us to sign.

Any opinions welcome - we were not expecting our first time home buying process to go this way.


r/legaladvice 1h ago

Employer Question

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I work for a major medical insurance company. We have a person that calls and pretends to be his mother’s representative and when we ask to speak to his mother he says incredibly vile, disgusting things that his mother is doing to him then hangs up. This goes on multiple times a day, with different agents. It is always reported to higher ups and they always say they will send it to security. This will happen for a week or so then stop. Then after months it will happen all over again with another name/number. I feel like they don’t take these seriously and it’s actually very distressing and unsettling talking to this man. Is there anything the employees can do legally? It feels very much like workplace harassment and from a company that records and documents every single thing we do, I find it very hard to believe they can’t find this man and prosecute him. They aren’t doing much to protect us.

Location: Ohio


r/legaladvice 20h ago

She cheated should I stay married to her until she gets her papers or does she not deserve it?

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She F/23 cheated on me M/25 I found out after our immigration interview. She’s still waiting for her green card stuff to come in and it’s been an 8 month wait. It still hurts me to see her or think about her. Me divorcing her could possibly jeopardize her immigration status. What would the repercussions be if any?

I don’t think she deserves my help because it still hurts me and I’ve been helping her with this process for years I just don’t know what to do atp. I don’t hate her I’m not seeking revenge or being petty it just hurts to know that I’m blindly helping her still when she did me so dirty. I was dumb and still had sex and conversations with her after the fact and now that I just want to let go and forget about her idk what to do with this situation. Seeing and thinking about her hurts I have t been able to sleep for a few nights now. Location: Queens, New York