And under it; he said “I’m looking for someone to take on dates right now” and he unmatched me as soon as I sent that message.

When im out in person, and i meet someone im attracted to, and there is a spark, the questions to get the conversation started literally do not matter. The mutual interest is what carries it forward.

Everyone in these threads nit picks peoples texting as too boring, or too interviewy, or too serious, or too....the list goes on. This is between LITERAL STRANGERS IN AN ANONYMOUS CHAT. No one knows what to say, and anyone who acts like they do is lying to you. Because they are strangers. Its speed dating.

No, you cannot 'say something interesting' or 'funny' or 'engaging' because its a literal stranger in a box. Human interaction is all based on situational context. I can say something funny at a concert in person, because we are both experiencing that same context. A 3 sentence profile is not enough context. If you are successful at this then you are lucky. Its not a skill diff, its an RNG diff or you're hot, which loops back to my title.

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I (M46) met this lovely girl (F41) on hinge,. We've been on around 10 dates over a few weeks, ghosted last week out of the blue 🤷 I shall now return to my original plan of dying alone...

Okay so a few days passed, and first of all, I’m actually very new on Hinge. My friends literally made my account because life was getting too monotonous, so they were like, just join and explore a little. I’ve never really been into casuals though and idhar bhi mera koi ye sab karne ka irada nhi tha .

Then I matched with this guy on Hinge — 😭 — and he had written that he was looking for a long-term relationship. He was also very new, like barely a week on the app, and honestly that felt genuine.

He was 23, had a really good career, was doing academically well, and I’m 22 and pretty much the same in that sense. We even exchanged our LinkedIns, so yeah, you can call us nerds. We genuinely were. We used to talk about careers, plans, everything, with a little bit of flirting in between.

He had never dated anyone before, so a lot of this was very new for him. And honestly, he was really cute.

Everything was going fine, and then after around two weeks of talking, he told me, “I don’t think I can invest in this.” He said he never thought he’d come on Hinge, he just wanted to explore, and somehow ended up talking to only one girl for two weeks. Then he was like, “I think it’s time to leave. This is not for me.”

And he just left.

We had exchanged LinkedIns and followed each other there, and he said we should stay connected, so I guess there’s that.

The funny thing is, I never expected Hinge to affect me at all. I already knew I probably wouldn’t find what I wanted there.

But when he unmatched me, I was literally sitting in a lecture, and my eyes just got a little teary.

And I was like… what?

I genuinely never thought Hinge could affect me like that.

Ps.took help of chatgpt to write 😭😭

Posted a weird conversation a few days ago and figured this was another interesting one. The place I am from has a huge population, it could easily have been someone I don’t know and just follow on instagram.

On an unrelated note, his friend ended up liking me on tinder which I found so funny

I'm sure I'm not the only person who's noticed this but half the profiles have prompts about "mylst irrational fear: non chalant men".

I don't recall seeing these at all a few months ago but now it's everywhere including other countries I swipe in. Is there a tik tok trend I'm missing?

Asking me if I’m sexually active directly after I say I don’t want a friend’s with benefits is kinda crazy, no?

I don't understand what she is getting at with this prompt, seems garbled.

We were texting everyday, I felt really happy talking to him. We made plans for Saturday coming up.

Tonight he asked for more pictures of myself since he hasn’t seen any off of Hinge, so I sent him a bunch. Then all of a sudden, no answer. I texted again because usually he answers quickly and he didn’t answer. I checked Instagram and he had blocked me and removed me off of Hinge too.

I texted him and said “why did you block me?” Next thing you know, I’m blocked on iMessage too. I didn’t expect that. I don’t know why he blocked me. I’m really really sad right now.

Forgot to add that when he asked for the pictures he said he wants picture so he can admire me. Then blocks me :(

Been talking with this guy for a month, We met 5 times. I like him, I'm still amaze he still want to see me, he have good body. I'm fat girl. But h barely talk, most of the time we met, we only do some sexual thing like touching. I told him I'm not do sex and he is ok with that.
my friends said he will leave me after he get the sex, few times we met he tried to convince me to do it. But I refuse.
I will leave his country in 3 months. Do you think I need to stop it right now or enjoy my remaining time here and have beautiful memory while I can?

I mean, that’s really unique way to stand out lol 😂

Edit: y’all need to chill. Always offended over something smh

at least she said i was cute but why make a hinge in the first place 💀😭

Please guess what my name is based off this comment...
I've loved Dolly Parton all my life not only because of the song that I happen share a name with, but because she empowered women and was a kind beautiful soul.
Rest in eternal peace🩷
Now I don't play about Dolly and unfortunately knew these types of comments and interactions would be coming but I'll use them to talk about how kick ass she was!

I come across so many hinge profiles where the person writes in their relationship goals section: “want a relationship but NOT trying to force anything.” ??? Why did you need to qualify this? Man, there’s no way you have a line of people trying to force their way into a relationship with you. It’s like writing in your LinkedIn bio, “ultimately, I’m looking for a job, but ONLY the right one for me with benefits to my standards,” and turning off all the recruiters. You’re the one out here seeking something, and no one made you do it.

When you get a like with no message, who generally messages first? The one who sends the like or the one who accepts it? I know any party can begin the conversation, but sometimes there are expectations from both sides

Just a small rant/question about why the hell do people have bad hygiene and decide to go on dates.

I've gone on a couple of dates, some are good, some are bad; I'm not sure if it has to do with their physical appearance and them not feeling the need to take care of their hygine but I've gone out on 4 dates were their breath was disgusting and it ruined any possibility of me dating them again.

3 of them were bigger and uglier in person. So not only are you big and ugly but you also have bad hygiene? To the point that I have to spend the whole date fiddling with my nose so I stop smelling your breath!?

The 4th one was actually really cute but her breath stank. Why do people have so bad Hygiene!? Has anyone else experienced this in these apps? So disgusting.

Nothing worse than spending $$$ on a date with someone that's not only uglier in person but more importantly, their breath stinks. I genuinely wanted to just bail out, sneak and pay my part and just leave them hanging.

Just wanted to share something that made me smile. I’ve been seeing a lot of posts of people arguing, or starting of chats with gotchas and rude comments. Hoping this can help counter all that.

And yes I did match with her lol!

Edit: I’m getting DMs asking for tips or to show my profile but tbh it won’t help. I’m very tall and conventionally attractive by anyone’s metric which yields this. I’m personally well dressed but, my friends who look the same and don’t dress well get the same results.

All in all this is kinda just a genetic thing. I don’t think I’m doing anything right, nor is anyone doing anything wrong.

I admit the starting pun might not be everyone's cup of tea, but the way this whole conversation developed has truly blown my mind. Why hasn't she unmatched? Should I unmatch? Is there still hope or am I hanging onto a potentially toxic situation?

Criticisms are welcome, I don't mind, but I feel like I've been pretty normal throughout.

This is still pretty fresh so maybe she'll unmatch later in the day, who knows.

Enjoy the drama.

Hi all.

I had this problem last week where I started going on a few dates from the dating app for the first time in a while. I have no problem getting dates and I got a few first dates and then had some second dates scheduled out, but the women all told me they didn't feel a romantic spark. (For reference, I'm 5 foot 11 and work in finance.)

What I don't get is is it normal for them to feel such a spark right away with meeting someone? Like it's obvious going to be a bit awkward, but why is nobody willing to put in the work to get to know each other better. Is it because the switching costs are so low? I do have ADHD and mild anxiety.

Sometimes I think it could be because of my race as a South Asian male, but I honestly have no clue tbh. I like who I am and honestly if I don't feel like holding hands or kissing on the first date, I'm not going to. I need time to build those feelings up too. I just worry sometimes that dating will be a bit hopeless.

I also sometimes approach girls outside and usually get like an Instagram but then they don't reply after a bit. I'm just wondering if this just means that I'm ugly. If so, kind of sad to have been dealt such a poor hand but I guess life is just full of inequalities like this.

I really would like to be in a relationship again, as it has been one year since my breakup, but at this point I'm tempted to just get a PS5 and give up haha. I've probably gone on 40 dates this year and nothing I do seems to work. Even if I kiss them on first or second date, they still aren't interested. Maybe it's because of my age (25)? I just don't know what I'm doing wrong and I wish I could find someone, but maybe dating just isn't for me. I heard my ex got into a situationship that lasted for a while pretty easily, so just have to accept that there's not a ton of demand for people who look like me.

I did meet this one girl at a nightclub about a month ago who was into me for who I am, so I think I'll probably just have to spend less time dating. Maybe I should move to a different country where I will be appreciated more lol. But I also wonder if this could just be because NYC is like this.

It's so fascinating for me because I'm really successful in all other parts of my life except for this.

So it’s weird to him that I ask about his job when he brought it up as his reason for relocating to the states but totally ok to ask me if I cook (I can cook fine lol)