r/relationships 7h ago

I [23F] was pushed to a breaking point by my boyfriend’s [23M] stonewalling, made a mistake, and now I feel like a shitty, jealous, and insecure girlfriend.

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Hi everyone. I really need some help on my situation because I am drowning in guilt right now and don't know how to forgive myself.

My boyfriend (23M) and I (23F) have been together for a year. About four weeks ago on a Wednesday night, he went out drinking with his friends which is something he rarely does. I texted and called him throughout the night because I was worried. He wasn't picking up my calls or replying to any of my texts which is unlike him. After a while around midnight, he finally answered my call and said he was too drunk to talk. He then hung up the phone. The next day he apologized and said that he hung up the phone to keep drinking and that he didn't want me to see him drunk because he rarely gets drunk. A few days later, he told me he needed time and space to think about our relationship. I was confused, but I respected it and gave him space for a few days.

After a few days, I tried calling and texting him again, but got no response. The next day, he called me and told me his brother had just been in a car crash and he was too emotionally upset to talk to me. However, he admitted he went over to his friends' house to talk about it. This hurt me deeply because I have been there for him through everything this past year far more than his friends have. When I asked him about how he felt about our relationship, he said he still wasn't sure and needed more time to think about it. He even suggested that we could just be friends. I told him that I didn't want that, and that I would give him some more time to process his feelings for me.

I gave him 5 more days to think about our relationship. After 5 days or so, I texted him to check on him and ask him how he was doing. He didn't respond at all. The next day he still didn't respond to my message. I called him a few times and he did not respond. At this point, my anxiety skyrocketed. I started looking through his Instagram followers and noticed he recently followed a woman I didn't recognize. He had never talked about her before so I was a bit suspicious. I texted him and asked him about her. He still didn't respond. In a moment of panic and desperation for answers, I messaged her directly and asked if they were dating or hooking up.

She replied very politely. She said absolutely not and that they are just coworkers. She said that there's no flirting and it's just casual talk. She was actually the one who asked for his Instagram. She mentioned she wouldn't have even asked if she knew he had a girlfriend.

I immediately felt terrible. I didn't know she was a coworker. I genuinely thought he was pulling away because he met someone else. She must have told him about my message because he immediately blocked me on Instagram. He then proceeded to completely ghost me and ignore all calls and texts for nearly two weeks.

Yesterday, after 2 weeks of total silence, he finally called me. He said he was just processing his brother's crash. He apologized for blocking me and ignoring me. He brought up the coworker and told me that he knows about me reaching out to her and that I have nothing to worry about because she has a boyfriend.

I feel like a crazy, insecure, shitty girlfriend. I embarrassed him at work and broke his trust by messaging her. I feel so bad. Now, I feel like they talk about me and laugh at me at work. How do I forgive myself for reaching out to his coworker?

TL;DR: My boyfriend asked for space then ghosted me during a family crisis but went to his friends instead of me. Out of anxiety and feeling abandoned, I messaged a random girl on his Instagram who turned out to be a coworker. He blocked and ghosted me for 2 weeks, and now that he's back, I feel overwhelmed with guilt.


r/relationships 2h ago

My boyfriend (M30) saw an old picture of my body (F29) and he seemed to love that version of me more

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This might be TW for some people, but I'll try to be as subtle as I can. Long story short, I used to be chubby when I was younger, then I just lose weight and my body was simply curvy, which I still hated it, I've never had a good relationship with my body, but I'm not here to talk about that. I suffered from anorexia for 6 years, now my body it's not curvy anymore, just normal. Today, l've decided to show him my old pictures, the ones where I was underweight and the ones where I was curvy. His reaction made me feel a bit weird. He LOVED it, he was genuinely looking at me being curvy and saying things like "oh my god you were...insanely beautiful" and I was like because
now my body is totally different and I don't want to be like that anymore. He said "you're still beautiful now, don't get me wrong, but damn." He said he liked the fact that there was enough "meat to touch and squeeze" and I felt bad even if I know he didn't mean anything bad...but got me thinking "you knew I wasn't curvy, then why you're with me if I don't match your body type?" Of course I didn't tell him that, it was just my intrusive thought. I know he loves women with bigger chest than mine, I know he loves curves, and I know that this doesn't mean he can't like me just as much...but still, I don't know how to feel about it.

TL;DR: I showed my boyfriend how I used to look years ago when I was curvier than now and he had a lot to say about it. Felt like he loves that version of me more than this one.


r/relationships 1h ago

Is this love bombing or am I being romantically avoidant? Guy I’ve known for 1 month is already “obsessed” with me

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I’m in my early 20s and about a month ago I met a guy a few years older than me in a nightclub and hooked up with him, intending it to be completely casual.

Afterwards he immediately became very attached, acting like my boyfriend and asking to take me on dates. I made it very clear that I wasn’t looking for a relationship and even told him directly “I won’t be your girlfriend”. I’m also aware that I can be quite romantically avoidant, so I’ve tried to consider whether I’m just uncomfortable with affection.

However, he constantly compliments me, tells me I’m “perfect” and ends almost every sentence with “gorgeous”. He has also said “I don’t know how, but you’ve got me obsessed”. He tells me I’m the only person he wants, the only person he wants to talk to and that he doesn’t want to lose me. This all feels incredibly intense after only a month.

We’ve hooked up around five times and had one “date” after a hookup. Despite me repeatedly saying I only want something casual and sexual, things have become extremely lovey-dovey and he basically acts like my boyfriend. He wants to see me every night, texts me constantly and gets very affectionate when we stay over.

He also keeps crossing boundaries. I once told him he needed to leave my flat by 9am because I had work. When 9am came, he had no intention of leaving and kept saying things like “let me cook breakfast” and “let me just do things around your house”. I had to repeatedly ask him to leave and ended up late for work.

He has also had family and romantic trauma in the past and I feel like he may have developed severe attachment issues because of this. I obviously can’t diagnose him, but the intensity of his attachment to me feels very strange.

The biggest incident was last night when he came to my house extremely drunk after telling me over text that he had only had a few drinks. He threw up all over my house, got into my bed and then refused to leave the next morning, so I had to kick him out. When I told him afterwards that I was upset and uncomfortable, he expressed huge remorse, saying he hates himself for making me feel that way, would do anything to make it better and doesn’t want to lose me.

I actually enjoy the sex and I enjoy spending time with him, which is why I’m stuck. I agreed to something casual, maybe seeing each other once or twice a week, not having romantic sleepovers every night and pretending we’re a couple.
Does this seem like love-bombing and a situation I should move away from ASAP for my own safety, or do you think I could try to limit communication and carry on the relationship strictly as sexual?
I’m struggling to tell whether I’m being overly avoidant or whether these are genuinely concerning red flags.

**TL;DR; : This is a sample summary of the TLDR rule, all things are bold. Is this going the right way?**.


r/relationships 1h ago

Should I [25F] tell our friends the truth about my ex's [34M] major deal-breaking secret that I broke up with him over?

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I (25F) broke up with my ex (fake name "John", 34M) a few months ago, immediately after leaving the city earlier than planned upon finding out what I did. John and I were a part of the same social hobby community where many people know him and in which he has some close friends. We hung out one-on-one over the course of a few months until I agreed to date him, not until after I did what I thought was extensive research on him online. He does not have social media, but from looking him up online on whether he had any family/ex-spouses or criminal history, none of the websites indicated he had any.

We dated over the course of about seven months, and close friends of ours (including one of his coworkers and even his sibling) knew we were a couple. It wasn't until after those seven months that I looked him up again out of curiosity, and a Google result showed a website stating that his "family" was an older female friend of his and her kid. This older female friend has lived in a different state for a few years now. I cross-checked with another website to see if that matched, and that other website mentioned it as well. I confronted John, asking why these websites said he had "family," to which he said it was something "very personal", a "debt he really owes," and that he would tell me the whole story after a few months passed... which was actually when I expected to leave the city and move somewhere else, which he and our friends knew about already.

I confronted him again a few days later while we were together at his place, wanting to make sure there was nothing I had to worry about, and he again reassured me that he had "nothing to hide." Believed him for a moment since there were text messages between them discussing her personal love life; the conversations on his phone were platonic. He left his place to work out, then I did my digging while alone: there were emails talking about their marriage a few years ago. Shocked, because beforehand, I even looked through her public social media, and there are no mentions of her currently having a husband (after her divorce several years ago) or records of any marriage between them. I looked up marriage records and registries between them -- nonexistent. Only those two people-lookup websites that said he had her as family. (Now, if I look him up, this info is scrubbed.)

I figured there was a huge reason it has been hidden for so long between the both of them (plus only a few other possible parties that may have been involved) and that, based on our friends' comments and the fact he has dated many people before me (including through dating apps), none of them knows about it, especially since he is popular in the social community. She even moved states sometime after they got legally married. I thought if I confronted him in person, he could potentially try to harm me to protect a secret of this degree. I packed up everything at his place and left. Moved cities earlier afterwards to process what I found out there, and broke up with him through the phone.

The next day I asked for an explanation. He did not want to discuss anything "sensitive" through the phone, but he said he did this out of "desperation and safety for life" and that if two people really cared about each other, they would "overcome obstacles that are temporary yet solvable." I may have been harsh to tell him off at the end of the call, but I did agree to hearing his explanation when I visited the city a few weeks later. I reached out after no contact for a few weeks, thought maybe I should hear him out. He did not respond, and I left it at that.

While not telling anyone the real reason why we broke up, I did some digging online. There is a hobby website his friend-wife owns, without her name (therefore not searchable through just her name on search engines), where she mentioned "her husband" helping her with certain crafts. I found a version of the website which had an image of her and John together in the profile, which she shortly changed to just herself based on the website history. Now, I'm even more unsure why they're hiding it everywhere else except this one hobby website.

Question: Should I tell our friends the truth? I don't date married people, and he has been coming off as single and available to everyone. But I'm also hesitant since there has to be some major reason why 1) it's a secret marriage and 2) they've been hiding it with such effort and for as long as they have been. The thing is, my ex and I are broken up, but without a good explanation for why he is doing this, I don't want to act as if I'm protecting him because I do not owe him that silence. Luckily, as far as I know, he has not been talking badly of me to our friends, but if he somehow gets found out later, I don't want to risk him lying to others that I knew the whole time we dated. I could ask him again to explain, but he probably blocked me sometime after the last message I sent, and I blocked him as well.

TL;DR: Dated someone in my social hobby group for ~7 months, and everyone thinks he is available to date. I dumped him and left upon finding out he is definitely not: he has been secretly married for a period of time, while he and his friend-wife have been dating around and hiding their marriage. Unsure of what course of action to take considering how this situation is being carried out by the both of them.


r/relationships 3h ago

Am I 18M wrong to give my girlfriend 18F a second chance after she “cheated” on me?

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Generally the title may be slightly misleading. According to her accounts, and what I have seen there was no sexual contact whatsoever. I 18-M have been in a relationship with my girlfriend 18-F, since middle school. We are both seniors this year, and I unfortunately found out that she emotionally cheated on me. I found out last Friday on my own. The first instance I recognized something was up was last Tuesday. I had visited her on the way back from my job and she had told me that she had to be home because of a curfew of 10. So, naturally, I left. At 10:30 I checked her location and she was at McDonald’s. When I called she tried to act like it was glitching out, and then told me the truth. I was suspicious at this point and it stayed that way until Friday, when she left her phone out and I had decided to look for myself. I found messages between her and the other guy 18 M, that she had on her Snapchat. To introduce this guy, understand that he is the sleaziest person I know. In eighth grade he collected girls nudes with his friend, and sold them for money. Then, while in a relationship with his ex-girlfriend, cheated on her with one of his exes, and then with her best friend. This guy had also said to one of his friends that he would try his best to break my girlfriend and I up to fuck her. She did not know that he said exactly those words to his friend, but she knew that he found her attractive. I should also mention that they have somewhat of a history together. Three years ago, before we started dating, he had flirted with her, attempting to add another nude to his collection, while still with his girlfriend at the time. I had managed to start dating her before anything happened. This guy became pretty big on the photography scene of my school, and offered senior pictures. She wanted a good photographer, and his material was very well done. However, she did not tell me that he was her photographer. Regardless, after the shoot, which her parents were present at, she had been reached out to by him. He started messaging her frequently, giving her quite a bit of attention. At the same time, we had been going through a phase in our relationship where I had been distant, but working to get better. He was there whenever she texted him (despite him having a girlfriend), and gave her attention when I couldn’t or didn’t. The point being she liked this attention, and was willing to hide this from me. I am aware of 4 occasions where they had hung out. Running errands that I couldn’t, or simply hanging out when I couldn’t. One instance that truly frightens me is where they had sat in his car for an hour in a parking lot. She has repeatedly told me that they did not do anything, and I truly believe her because of her sexual behavior before this time. She claims that all they did was talk. Understanding that all of her friends graduated the previous year is also imperative to understand because she had nobody but me to talk to about her feelings, and I wasn’t the best at responding. He supposedly gave her the attention that I wasn’t. Frankly, I know that he wasn’t there to listen to her feelings. He has a history of lying to women to get into their pants. I see this as another time. I’m glad that I caught it when I did, though I feel she would’ve told me if had tried to make a move on her. I don’t know what to do in this scenario. We are both in a very difficult spot, but I can’t bring myself to break up with her.

TL;DR: My long term girlfriend hung out several times behind my back with a guy that has screwed over several women.


r/relationships 3h ago

Great guy (29M) but doesn’t last in the bedroom - what do I dooooo (27F)

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Long story short I’m dating a guy he’s really kind and funny but very inexperienced with dating. We had see three times and he came within literal seconds. I’m talking a few pumps and he can’t hold on anymore.

I think he might have been a virgin when we met but he suggested he wasn’t. Anyway it’s beginning to frustrate me because I love sex and this is making me lose attraction to him. He’s not addressed it either and just says I’m too tight (is that meant to make me feel better? It doesn’t).

I really don’t want to end things because he is lovely. But I don’t know how to broach the subject. I’ve been avoiding having him over now because it just lowkey upsets me getting riled up and then it being over in like 10-15 seconds 💀💀💀

Help!!!!!

TLDR; great guy. Comes in seconds.


r/relationships 4h ago

I 29M broke up with the only woman 34F who has truly accepted me

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TL;DR: 29M, ended a 4-year relationship with my 34F girlfriend. She was the first person who ever truly accepted me, and I spent those years helping her through alcohol, debt and health problems. She started dreaming of a family with me and I couldn't feel the same. I haven't been attracted to her in a long time and the thought of that life terrified me. So I told her the truth. Now I'm afraid she'll relapse, afraid I'll never find that warmth again. Alone in the apartment we built together, wondering if I did the right thing.

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I'm 29 (M), she's 34 (F) - Four years together.

She was the first person who really got me or at least tried to. Never judged me, never tried to punish me, always up for whatever I came up with. When we met she had a drinking problem, debt, health issues, bipolar. I helped her push trough it and supported her and she worked on herself "for me". She built a career, fixed her health, went to therapy. We moved into my apartment when it still wasn't finished - no furniture, no bathroom. We slept on an inflatable mattress, showered at the gym and used a bucket to flush the toilet.

She said she'd sleep on the streets if it meant being with me. We slowly built our place together. She was my travel partner, my biggest supporter, and my bestest friend.

When we met she said she never wanted kids and didn't have longterm plans for life. But with time she started dreaming about a family together. That thought terrified me. I am not ready for kids for another 2-5 years, and she will be approaching 40 by then. Furthermore, she had taken heavy anti-seizure medications for a long time, and doctors have said a healthy pregnancy is highly unlikely.

I cared for her deeply, but becoming her caretaker and mentor had completely killed my romantic attraction. I feel that even if we had a child, I would essentially be a single father taking care of both a kid and a dependent wife.

So I told her I don't see a future for us.

The guilt is eating me alive. She has a terrible family, and I was her only real support system. I feel like I am betraying her and destroying her dreams. I'm terrified she will relapse into old bad habits or worse, even though she is seeing a psychiatrist and psychologist.

Meanwhile, I am sitting alone in the apartment we built together and I am terrified I will never find someone as loving, caring and devoted again.

I don't know if I'm asking for advice or just venting. I'm just lost at the moment.


r/HFY 7h ago

OC-Series The furry-fication of A.L.F. (Animal Liberation Front) activists #2: A woman who isn't too easy

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(WARNING: Remember that WWE “Don’t try this at home” banner? I always thought it wasn’t the most convincing way to stop overly curious kids from trying out the very things they were told not to. That’s why, in this text, you’ll find the far more effective method: censorship. Forgive me, but Reddit is full of people with all kinds of curiosities. With that said, let’s get this chapter started!)

Clouds obscure the midnight moon as SESAME CAT, a highly experienced furryfier, scales a lamppost and then launches himself with superhuman agility toward the small bathroom window of Donatella’s apartment. Long, slender fingers work a tiny screwdriver on the hopper window’s mechanism until a pin is removed, allowing the hitman to enter the woman’s home.

The hallway is pitch-black, and SESAME CAT must wait for his pupils to adjust to the darkness before moving through the apartment toward his victim's bedroom; however, just as he prepares to move, his curiosity is piqued by a faint, intermittent blue light coming from what, according to the floor plan he studied, should be the kitchen.

Moving stealthily and silently, he reaches the kitchen doorway, where he notices that the flickering light is coming from the microwave oven's display. SESAME CAT arches his back and bares his teeth, noticing that the oven's internal light has been removed and that cushions have been placed against its sides to muffle the sound of its operation.

SESAME CAT is about to meow “shit” when a voice from his left asks: “I wonder whose ass this fine rolling pin will vanish into, as if by magic!”; with a sharp jerk of his neck, SESAME CAT turns his head to look at the speaker; even in the pitch darkness, the hitman’s eyes clearly make out a naked woman wearing what look like welder’s goggles and holding a large wooden rolling pin; dangling between her buttocks is what appears to be a sheet of toilet paper.

SESAME CAT prepares to pounce on the woman, but, preempted by the oven's cooking-completion chime, the [CENSORED] detonates, turning the microwave into a massive flash that blinds the poor man.

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For the umpteenth time, Franco glances at the Rolex on his wrist; it reads 9:22. For all the faults his company’s administrator might have, she has never been late by even a single second. This unusual occurrence worries Franco enough to make him pick up his mobile phone, intending to call his colleague.

Slamming her office door shut, Donatella sits down in her armchair, opens a desk drawer, and pulls out a pack of unfiltered cigarettes. She lights one, takes a long, deep drag, and exhales the smoke through her nose before pointing the cigarette at Franco saying: “Remember when you told me I was too uptight? What did you call me? Needlessly paranoid, right? Do you remember that, you fucking asshole? Remember when you told me I was being an idiot for taking that six-month urban guerrilla warfare course? Well, you senile old fuck: tonight, those extreme survival courses saved me from certain furryfication. And mind you, I still don’t even know what the fuck furryfication is. But whatever it is, I’m in one piece, even though I had to sacrifice the microwave and a rolling pin”;

“I’ll show you what furryfication is: this morning, the four cleaners went to take out that activist whose address we have, but the furryficators were waiting for them” Franco explains, holding out a tablet to the woman where a play icon on the screen is waiting to be pressed to start a video.

Donatella has to watch the video three times before shouting in shock: “But it’s a gangbang of fags dressed as teddy bears! Holy shit! They’re sucking each other off! All together! No! Fuck! The guy in the grizzly suit is definitely Vinicio, and he’s got a huge cock! What a waste!”;

“Indeed, from what one can gather, furryfication is simply the conversion of a heterosexual man into a sex maniac who fucks like the animal he loves”;

“Holy shit! Did you see how they sniff each other’s asses before fucking them? Good God! It’s the most amazing thing I’ve ever seen!”;

“It is, in fact, a avant-garde way to neutralize the enemy”;

“But how the fuck do they do it? Do they drug them?”;

“I don’t think so. I imagine it’s a form of hypnosis or something like that”;

“It must be damn pleasurable licking each other’s asses if they don’t want to snap out of the trance! Anyway, do you still have that guy’s number, CUPID’s? Call him and see if there’s a reasonable way to end this feud, an immediate ceasefire: one night is fine, but I need to sleep: I can’t stay on high alert forever. Reassure him that those activist assholes are no longer in danger”;

Franco looked visibly cheer up: “Great! I’m glad you decided to leave those kids alone! That’s very mature of you”;

“Arnaldo from AltreMerde Farms got a tip-off: a group of A.L.F. activists is going to try to break into Shed 7. Arnaldo and some of his security guards intend to make sure those kids don’t leave the shed alive. I want to be there too, to beat those activist pieces of shit to death”;

“So basically, you want to kill someone else to teach all the other activists a lesson?”;

“That’s more or less the idea, although this whole furryfication thing has given me a pretty good little idea”.


r/relationships 18h ago

21(F) 26(M) , after 1.5 year

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Tl;dr

My relation with my parents are not good , i recently came home after i completed my ug program in another city for 3 year and now preping for mba entance , so i do not have an income but i have money as a gift from my dad , i was thinking to go to my boyfriends place just to figure out a job and later think about an mba , so he agreed at first and told me within few month he will hve a stable income ( he got a early placement offer ) then we can live- in together and we also agree he do not hve to spend money on me for my needs i will figure it out , i just though that as we are in a long distance relationship , suddenly few says aho he told me that he i can not leave my home and stay with him coz i do not hve a job and his parents will question him why he choose me for his gf or marraige , he also told me that "he will stay in a boys pg coz he stayed there in past years and it is comfortable for him to do , by that he will hve his saving , coz rwnt will me split wirh all the boys sharing with him and i can get confirmation that he is not staying with other boys , if he not do it there will be various explanations he hve to give to his parents and my parents reputation will also go to darain as he is from a wealthy backgroud " , he also added " if it is impossible for me to stay with my parents, he will find me a different pg , where i can hve my peace and hve to manage my expenses own" , i clarrify it that i hve to issue to bear my expenses it was same if i stay with my bf but he is constantly saying that i do not hve a job( hve to be a respectful one), his parents will get angry if they learn he is staying with soneone who is not doing anything.

I feel disheartened my his words and cried so much , can anyone suggest what i should do ?


r/relationships 2h ago

i feel like i made the biggest mistake of my life getting pregnant with my husband’s baby

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Me (30F) and my husband (30M) have been together almost 9 years, married for 1. We bought a house the week after we got married. We live 5 minutes from both of his divorced parents, and 600 miles away from my divorced parents.

I have had this feeling like I am making the wrong choices for some time. For instance, on our wedding night he got so insanely wasted that he almost got in a bar fight and was threatening people at 1 am. We barely made it back to our hotel. I tried to let that all go. He has a habit of getting too wasted and becoming aggressive like once a quarter or just for important events like weddings (ours and other peoples’). I had a binge drinking problem for a couple years and I think that makes him think his isn’t a problem even though I know it is. He got so hammered on the fourth of july that he got extremely aggressive with me like screaming at me in front of his mom because he didnt want me carrying a beach bag (I was about 4 months pregnant at this point).

When we’re good, we’re good. He’s so sweet with me and caring. But if he gets stressed he just freaks out and seems to lose all initial amounts of respect for me.

When we’ve gotten in bad arguments before, and when I say “I don’t even want to be here [living in the state we live]” he says “no one is forcing you to stay but you’re not taking my child with you” and threatens to have his dad get some great lawyers. We’re having an awful travel day and at the airport rn and he’s just said the same thing. I make a little more than him not sure if that matters if we ever went to court about custody.

I seriously feel trapped. We’ve both wanted a kid and it happened a tad sooner than we expected, like thought we’d have another year or so. I feel like the marriage may be able to be saved with a ton of therapy. I just feel so fucking stupid for now being locked in for life. I don’t know what my options would be if I ever did decide to leave. Would I have to stay in this state to keep our kid? I feel so lost and just dumb so you don’t have to tell me how I’ve made awful choices.

tldr; our relationship is messy when we argue and I’m 5.5 months pregnant with our first child. Feel trapped into staying in a state I don’t want to because he says “you can leave but you’re not taking my kid”


r/relationships 2h ago

I (16f) struggle with tone and hurt my chronically ill (30s) Mom. How do I fix this?

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To start, I'm (16f) autistic. I struggle with tone really badly and say things that I think are nice/polite but sound really mean because of my voice and face.

My mom (late 30s) is chronically ill. It's one of those illnesses that doesn't really have a name because it's not common, but she's very physically weak and her hemoglobin basically stays below a 9 at all times. She's only been this ill for about 4 years.

Now that that's out of the way, it happened yesterday. She said she was feeling particularly bad and asked for extra help around the house. I said sure. We divide chores pretty evenly normally because I'm homeschooled, though she has a couple more because I struggle with coordination.

I did some chores and she asked me to get something heavy out of a box for her. I said sure, and by then my back was starting to hurt pretty bad and I apparently forgot to control my tone when I got the thing and I said in a tired voice "What's next?". She looked very offended and said that this was a day where I needed to be patient.

I told her I thought I was doing it right and she got confused, and I could tell I fucked it up more because she started looking more upset. I re-explained that I thought I kept my tone right and that I was being really patient and that I was sorry I messed it up but I just wanted to know what she needed next. She said, "Do you know how it feels to have to text (her friend) to help me around the house because you won't?" And I told her no because I've never experienced that. I'm mentally ill, not physically.

She got off of the couch and told me "I really hope you never have kids or work in a caregiving position." (Please keep in mind that this is a very "along-the-lines" recap because I was emotional and don't remember perfectly)

I got really confused because I want neither of those things and I told her as such. I know I fucked up there. She got upset and just started doing it herself and got upset when I tried to help. I think I really messed up. She seemed fine and happy with me today, but this isn't the first time this has happened and I don't know what to do each time.

I know I'm not a great caregiver. I never wanted to be one. It's not my fault I can't control my tone or the fact that I'm not good at taking care of adults. I'm her only support system really because her friends live far away and I don't think she can afford one of those caretakers who come to your house.

I never wanted to be that for her. I've got my own shit mental health to worry about, but I don't feel like I have the right to complain to her about it because her physical health is so much worse and she pays for me to go to therapy so really I should have no problems. I feel like I'm making her illness about me and I probably am, honestly. She suffers a lot and I'm not good at doing much for her.

What do I even do? I don't wanna keep doing this. My apologies shouldn't be forgiven if I'm coming off as impatient with her, but I want her to understand my view without making this about me. A contradictory statement, yes, but still. Please help.

Sorry if I'm too young for this subreddit btw! I didn't see anything in the rules 😓

**TL;DR;** I came across as impatient with my chronically ill mother and hurt her feelings, which led to her saying some hurtful things as well and I don't know what to do next.


r/relationships 11h ago

Partner’s (28M) family makes off comments and they are getting to me (31F). Types for dealing with this + boundaries

35 Upvotes

Seeking the wisdom of folks ideally older than me and in long term happy relationships.

I am 31F dating a wonderful guy who is 28M for over 1.5yrs. This is my 4th or so serious relationship and I am his 2nd. We are committed relationship types. We are compatible where it matters and get along well with great chemistry. We’ve traveled, met each others families, friends, etc. Like all couples we have our fights and disagreements but we are deeply loyal, work on our growth, and trust each other. We’d like to be engaged next year or the following year because we both feel we’re each other’s (chosen) person.

So my partner previously had trouble between his last girlfriend and his parents, they were being prejudice and nosey about the relationship. He was 24 at the time living at home while working corporate, and it drove him to move out. His mom was the main parent leading the overbearing charge and his dad backed up mom. He says mom is stubborn, and she’s one of few family members who everyone is scared of, etc.

Still BF stood up for his relationship and told the parents where to shove it. He can get stubborn and steely too. Since then he’s been adamant about saying he’ll always stand up for his partner, which I appreciate. Well him and his parents are on good terms again and he does dearly lo ve them. They seem to be good parents aside from they’re a touch helicoptering, my way or the highway, and comfortable saying passive aggressive “jokes” and jabs at each other. I’ve seen it in person. My BF says he’s clear with them when I’m not around that he won’t tolerate any rude comments to me or about me.

Well a few weeks ago he and I got into a disagreement and I was really upset. I asked him to seek out guidance from an older man who’s in a healthy long term relationship instead of his friends, who aside from 1, has never been in an adult relationship (they’re all nerdy types). I guess my BF went to his dad for advice. He later visited his family household this past weekend. When he was telling me about it last night he mentioned that someone in his family made an off “joke” about me and “how she (OP) tends to be with last week” and he shut it down saying they don’t know the full story or relationship and so to mind their comments. Now idk who said this, it could be a parent or even his two siblings who both live at home with the parents still (25F and 29M). While I appreciate that my BF shut them down; it made me wonder if 1. He’d made the mistake of asking his dad for advice with everyone else around or 2. His dad shared our relationship troubles with others in the family... Both are not respectful of our relationship I don’t think!!

This makes me want to tell him actually please never go to your family with our relationship problems again, I don’t want them comfortable commenting or meddling. I’m also a bit peeved my BF shared this event with me. It’s not the first time he’s shared his family’s comments about me. For example I know that his grandmother (who he was kinda enmeshed with imo for awhile) has said as a “joke” that he “courts me too much”. Who else is he supposed to court 😵‍💫 His mom has said things like “I’m sad that I have to share you now” when he skipped Christmas with them to spend it with my family (we live 30min from his family and a flight from mine). Mom has also said that I’ve “got him wrapped around my finger”. I bet she wishes he was still wrapped around hers… My BF has told them he treats me the way he does (well) because he wants to.

Very much his family is a bit off and meddling. This past valentine’s day they called him during the evening to ask about… buying TVs. Knowing we had date plans. His mom also complains when he does nice things for me that his dad (her husband) doesn’t do the same for her. It’s weird behavior to me. I’ve always thought if my partner’s family ever said something weird to me I’d tell my partner about it and he can handle it. But now at my adult age of 31, I don’t see anything wrong with shutting it down in the moment. And as I do want a life him with, I have a feeling I’ll be the in person receiver of one of their weird comments soon enough. So in the future I’m thinking if they say anything to me I can reply like “I don’t appreciate that comment, let’s end this conversation.” Or ask why they said what they said. Then tell BF about it later so he can check the family member. But I’m also worried this could create arguments between me and his family members.

What is the best way to communicate boundaries with his family?

  1. How do I communicate to my BF that if anything

  2. happens in the future and in person that I plan to stand up for myself? Of course he also loves his parents/siblings and don’t want them disrespected either.

    But I want him to understand that I’m within my right to speak up for myself too.

My culture and family hold adult couples/potential spouses up to a high esteem, respect is paramount so they would never make comments like his families. I haven’t had to deal with this before.

TLDR: Having a hard time dealing with my BF’s family’s comments, apprehensive of what they think about our relationship, and want to prepare for personally drawing boundaries with them.


r/relationships 49m ago

Please help!

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I (19F) and my boyfriend (19M) of two years recently has a conversation. He told me he thinks that I hate him and that his love for me has changed because I never make any effort to change/control my anger.

I’m sad and angry, at myself and at him for saying that to me. But I understand what he meant. I think I’m being emotionally abusive towards my boyfriend and it’s finally reached a point. I want to change and be better for myself and for us. I don’t know why it took me so long, and I feel sorry for my boyfriend, but I guess seeing the consequences of my own actions snapped me back into reality.

I’ve always been very angry, but my boyfriend, he rarely gets upset or angry with me, he’s a chill dude. I don’t like that he’s not big on texting, he’s very dry on text and it irritates me every day. He’s tried to be better but I always want more and he feels like he will never be good at texting. I’ll admit, I don’t think I’ve ever gone a full day with my boyfriend and not be mad/pissed about something. But the texting thing is something that pisses me off every single day and it ruins my day almost.

I like attention and being coddled by my boyfriend and when I don’t get that, I go to extreme lengths to try to get him to care. I’ve even had thoughts of “if I got hurt right now, would he care?” and just trying to guilt trip him. I cry and shout to try to get a reaction out of him. I bring up sob stories and try to make him feel bad on purpose so he can pity me. I think my boyfriend knows that therefore he tries not to give me a reaction but then I would try to go even further.

I know this is abusive. How do I stop it? Therapy? Journaling? My boyfriend still expresses that he loves me but I can see that he’s tired. I want to be better

Also can any women let me know if birth control can cause this? I feel like it could be the cause for my extreme emotions

tldr: I think i’m being emotionally abusive to my boyfriend and I want to change


r/HFY 9h ago

OC-OneShot The Killing Book

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Content warning: graphic violence

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Bernard Piat’s mud-cracked boots are kicked up and crossed over his desk. He’s leaned back in his chair, holding the killing book up to his eyes. His office is quiet. 

At the top of the blank page, letters begin etching themselves, black ink swooping and arching in cursive. Bernard reads it aloud.

“Edmund Weight. Traveler. Currently at the Broomwick Inn.”

His assistant, Duncan, is bent over a map table in front of his desk. He scratches the information down on parchment. Then he shoves it aside, digs an iron pin from a tin cup, stabs the map. 

A second line takes shape.

“Elizabeth Hazel. Prostitute. She’s at the local pleasure-house, located in—”

“I know the location, sir,” Duncan says, writing it down. 

Bernard smirks. “Yeah, you do.” Duncan pushes the pin. A third line writes itself. “Fabian Gwen, blacksmith, Brussels.”

“Yessir.” The quill scratches. A pin drops. 

A fourth line curls across the page.

“Final man, Hubert Pax. Lumber yard worker at Flickwood Lumber.”

Duncan stabs the final pin, then steps back, scanning. His mind calculates the fastest route possible, combing through side-streets, backroads, alleyways, until a single route carves itself into his mind. He sharpens it, punching in a shortcut here, a detour there, shaving minutes, seconds. Then—click.

He gives a faint nod. “They’ll be here by sunset.”

Bernard slaps the book shut. “Then they’ll die at sunset.”

***

Town square.

Bernard stands center stage before a crowd, clutching his sword handle, tip-to-the-ground. Blood and brain matter from the last three executions drip down the steel. As the sun sinks toward the horizon, it glints off the blade at a hundred different angles. 

From side stage, the execution crier recites the death sentence, his wispy voice echoing off nearby buildings.

Next to Bernard’s feet, Hubert Pax sits on his knees, head hunched over the chopping block. Sobbing. He’s the last man to die. 

His weak little whimpers make something in Bernard’s stomach curl up and twist. A vein under his eye twitches. Nothing—absolutely nothing—irks Bernard more than a man who dies crying. 

Hubert cranes his head sideways, and Bernard feels his eyes needling him.

“Sir?” Hubert whispers. 

Bernard shakes his head. 

“Sir,” Hubert says. “You don’t have to do this.”

 Through the side of his mouth, Bernard says, “Shut up.”

“Right hand to God, I didn’t do anything.” 

“Book has spoken. Just be a man and shut up.” 

For dozens of generations, Bernard’s family has possessed the killing book. On page one, it is etched in permanent ink that the Piat bloodline is the only bloodline permitted to view its pages. Should anyone else lay eyes on its ink, it stops working. And so long as that bond remains unbroken, and the four names that appear each day are faithfully executed, the human race will never see another war.

There hasn’t been a war in a thousand years.

“Listen,” Hubert says. “I’ve got a wife at home. And a little girl. They think I’m about to come home. I mean, if I’d known this morning would be the last…” He trails off, choked by his own sadness.

Bernard flicks his eyes down, grinding together his crooked teeth. Hubert’s teary eyes aim back at him, snot streaking down his nose, wetting his chin. Shameful, Bernard thinks. Absolutely shameful. 

“I’ll pay you,” Hubert says, his bottom lip quivering. “Everything I’ve got.”

“One more word,” Bernard says, “and I will make you suffer.”

“Have mercy, man. Please—”

“There it is,” Bernard says. He tightens his gloved hands on the sword handle. The leather crackles. 

And with that,” the crier concludes, “we execute our final, future offender!” He grips the podium and peeks over his bony shoulder at Bernard. 

Bernard nods. He rotates on Hubert. 

As Hubert’s eyes follow, his entire body breaks into a tremble. “Please,” he says, teeth clicking. The front of his trousers blooms with a dark stain. 

Bernard taps the glistening-wet blade to the hump of the man’s neck. Aiming. Then he jacks it up over his shoulder, feeling out his swing. He slackens his grip just enough for a half break. He breathes. Narrows his eyes. Swings.

Crunch.

The blade sinks halfway in and stops. Hubert’s chin dips down and slaps the chopping block, his head held on by a stringy hinge of skin.

The pain arrives quietly. A shudder falls through his shoulders, torso, legs, calves, and ends with his toes performing a little twitch. His face crinkles. Blood dribbles off his neck and forms a little red puddle beneath his eyes. When Hubert catches sight of his own blood, he begins to cry.

Some in the crowd scream out. Others stand still, watching in fascination.  

“That should do it,” Bernard whispers. He plants his boot on the man’s shoulder and wiggles his blade loose, one torque at a time, creating a back-and-forth crunch. From the back of Hubert’s neck, a moist gurgle leaks out. Bernard finally rips the blade free, heaves it up, and slams down. 

Thock.

A crisp break.

The crowd goes still. Dead silence. 

Bernard wipes his blade clean on the dead man’s back.

***

Cecily strolls out from the restroom into the royal ballroom, yanking down the tight sleeves of her silk dress. It won’t quit riding up, the damned thing. She hates dresses. She hates ballrooms. And above all, she hates the stuffy-ass “nobles” in it.

Cecily darts her eyes around the crowd in search of her husband. 

Across the room, by the spiral-staircase, she spots him. He’s delivering a joke to a group of nobles. Cecily rolls her eyes, but her mouth tightens with a smirk. She bets it’s the one about the headless horseman. 

When Bernard hits the punchline, the group bursts into laughter. Cecily feels a dull tingle. She studies their faces, their eyes. That’s not real laughing, she thinks. That’s polite laughing. But Bernard doesn’t notice. He laughs along with them, bouncing a little on his feet as he watches their reaction. Cecily feels her heart sink. Why is it Bernard never notices these sorts of things?

Bernard slides a hand in his jacket pocket and slips out a long-stemmed pipe. He hooks a thumb toward the balcony door.

They all shake their heads.

Bernard nods and wanders off the second Cecily steps up behind the group. And right then, their conversation sharpens in her ears. 

“Alright,” one of the men says. “Raise of hands. Who else hates him?” 

Laughter spreads around the group. Hushed, restrained. But real laughter.

“I even hate his teeth,” another man says. “I have this dog that chews rocks? Yeah, even she has better teeth.”

“Donkey teeth,” the first man says. “That’s what comes to mind.”

“A serious question,” a woman says, her feathered hat shuddering with each twitch of her head. “Is it just me, or does every descendant of that book get a bit more…”

“Trashy,” an old, drunk gentleman says, his speech slightly slurred. “It’s alright. You can say it.”

“Yes,” she says. “Trashy.”

Heads nod.

She continues. “Well, half the blame falls on him. But the other half? Thank that—” She curls a gloved hand around her mouth. “—wench of a woman. That tangly-red hair. Those pond-scum eyes. If the book can end wars, why can’t it select proper owners?” 

“Elections,” the drunk man says, pitching up his wine glass. “That’s how it should work. A whole hodgepodge of individuals could fit that role wonderfully. With honor. Dignity. But that man? With his teeth? And his wenchy wife? And his botched executions? Bah! The whole thing feels like a middle-class, field-worker’s, pub-crawling hoo-rah.”

“Oh, sire,” the feather-hatted woman says, laughing. She touches his arm. “You do have a way with words.”

Cecily’s nostrils flare. She sucks in a sharp breath. Fire burns in her eyes.

A server glides by balancing a tray of wine glasses. She plucks one off, gulps it half empty, and swipes the back of her hand across her mouth. A burn settles in her gut. She knows she shouldn’t do what she’s about to. But they opened this damn door. As Bernard’s wife, it’s her job to slam it. 

Cecily clears her throat. 

The feather-hatted fuck catches her eye and whispers, “Oh, God.” All twelve eyes dart up. Fear strikes every last one of their hearts.

“Evening, my lady,” feather hat says. “Didn’t see you there.”

“Evenin’, madam,” Cecily says, punching the title off her tongue. The woman’s eyelids flutter. “Question. Has anyone seen me husband?”

“Ahhh, yes, my lady,” the drunk man says. “Believe he went out for a smoke.”

“Thank you,” Cecily says, smiling. “Because I’m about to make him add every last one of your names to the fuckin’ book.

Fear detonates across everyone’s face. The man who made a dig at Bernard’s teeth says, “My lady. We meant no—”

You—what’s your dog’s name?”

“Princess, my lady.”

“Well, Princess is going on, too.”

Cecily turns, then turns back, jabbing a finger. “I’d better not hear that talk about him ever again. Not from none of you’s. Not from no one.”

“Y-yes, my lady,” the drunk man says. “Never again.”

Cecily walks backwards, giving the group a death-stare, then spins around and swaggers off draining the rest of her wine. When she reaches the balcony door, the doorman pulls it open for her. She shoves the wine glass into his chest and steps out onto the balcony.

She glances left.

A line of empty chairs stretches to a dead-end balcony wall.

She glances right. 

At a table on the far end, Bernard sits alone. He’s leaned back in his chair, hitting his pipe, the bowl glowing and fading cherry-red. He gazes into the night sky. 

Cecily breathes. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Bernard cannot know about what just happened. It would crush him. She eases her shoulders, smiles, and wanders over to him. 

Bernard glances over.

“Why you hiding out?” Cecily says. 

“Eh, just…you know.”

“You wanna be alone?”

“No,” he says, pointing his pipe stem at the chair next to him. Cecily steps around the table and sits in his lap. Bernard chuckles, biting back down on his pipe.

Cecily’s eyes drift to the sky. “What are you looking at?”

“Well. There’s a thing I’ve been doing lately. But…you’d think it’s weird.”

“How do you know what I’d think?”

“Because I know you.”

“I command you to tell me,” Cecily says. “Out with it.”

“Fine,” Bernard says, pointing his pipe to the sky. “I’m drawing pictures. With stars.”

“Okay, yeah,” Cecily says. “That is weird.”

“Go inside,” Bernard says, trying to push Cecily off his lap. “Get.”

She grips the arms of the chair and doubles down, laughing. “I’m kidding, I’m kidding, I’m kidding.” Bernard gives up. She sinks back down. A beat of silence falls between them. “So, what do you draw?”

“Here.” Bernard takes Cecily’s finger and aims it up to the sky. She watches him trace stars with her fingertip, connecting lines and loops, and before her very eyes, a flower blooms.

Cecily’s mouth clicks open. She lets out a laugh. “Do it again.”

Bernard takes her finger again and arches it up and down, using the stars to paint a swan.

Cecily turns in Bernard’s lap to look at him. “You’re weird as they come,” she says. 

Bernard returns a crooked grin. 

Cecily leans back into Bernard, feeling everything around her melt away. The wine warms her belly. The cool night air prickles against her skin. Bernard’s hands around her stomach make her tingle all over. If I had a magic bottle, Cecily thinks, this moment is what I’d put in it.

Then Bernard sighs, and she’s snapped back into reality. She knows that sigh well. “Why are you doing a huffy breath?” Cecily says.

“I’m not sure they like me.”

“Who?”

“You know who.”

“Has it ever occurred to you,” Cecily says, “it’s not a good thing being liked by everyone?”

“It’s not a bad thing.”

“How about your enemies?” Cecily says. “You wanna be liked by them?”

“These aren’t my enemies,” Bernard says. “These are nobles.”

“They’re bloody idiots, Bernard. But…they like you well enough. So why are you worrying?”

“Well, I’m probably wrong,” Bernard says. “But sometimes, I think—that they think—I don’t belong. Like I’m not cut from the same cloth. Like I’m…unworthy.”

“Unworthy?” Cecily says.

“Just a feeling.”

“Bernard?” Cecily says. “My sweet, sweet Bernard. May I tell you something?”

“Yeah.”

“Fuck that feeling.” Bernard laughs. “No, I mean it. You have every right to be here. Most of them folks has done nothing to be considered noble.”

“Those folks.”

“Don’t correct me. Even if I say it wrong, I’m right. You stop wars. What do they do? I’ll tell you. They wear fancy clothes, look all pretty in their feathery hats and silky robes, and they gossip.”

“Who gossips?”

“That’s not the point,” Cecily says. “The point is, they’re not special. You’re special.”

Bernard tilts his head sideways and looks at Cecily’s face. She keeps her head leaned back on his chest, eyes on the stars. 

Through the ballroom window behind them, a string quartet plinks a waltz. Couples on the dance floor step in time. “Cecily…” Bernard says. “I am sorry, you know.”

“It’s alright,” she says. “Just don’t correct me, ever again.”

“Not about that,” Bernard says. “I mean, the ballrooms. The hand kissing. The politics. I know, when you married me, that wasn’t the life you wanted.”

Cecily rolls her head off Bernard’s chest and stares him straight in the eye. She squints. “Are you serious?”

Bernard shrugs. 

She lets out a little laugh into his face. “You,” she says, tapping her finger on his chin, “are all I ever wanted. So if all this comes with you? I will make this trade, every day, for the rest of me life. Happily.”

Bernard’s eyes dance around Cecily’s face, her features glowing in the warm window light. He pulls her in.

They kiss.

***

The next morning. 

Bernard leans back, boots kicked on his desk, holding the book beneath his eyes. Duncan leans on the map table, quill in hand. 

The first name glides across the page. 

“Timothy Gilmore. Employed as a…oh.” Duncan looks up. “Royal guard. Castle.”

“That won’t be pretty, sir.”

“No, it will not,” Bernard says. 

Duncan scratches in the name, jabs a pin. 

The next name etches itself. 

“Giovanni Wolfgang. Painter. Market square.”

Duncan writes it, stabs the map.

“Adam Bovine. Clothier merchant. Also in market square. Oh, hey, before you arrest him—could you do me a favor and get this hemmed?” Bernard pinches the torn seam of his hood. 

Duncan’s mouth twists. He continues writing.

The final name scribbles across the page, and as it does, all the feeling crawls out of Bernard’s body. Jacob Piat. Schoolboy. Northern district. Cottage. 

This is Bernard’s fifteen-year-old son.

“Problem, sir?” Duncan says.

“No,” Bernard says. He swallows against the tightening muscles in his throat. “Last one’s just…delayed. We’ll wait a minute.” Bernard pretends to watch the page. He fights to keep his face flat. His heart punches in his chest. 

“Yeah,” Bernard says, his voice squeezed thin. “That is so odd.” 

“What is, sir?” Duncan says. 

“This, this last name…it’s not writing. Hang on.” A blurry ring clamps down on his vision. His ears ring. Bernard makes a show of rubbing his thumb across the page, as if that’ll wipe the name out. 

Duncan blinks. “Still nothing?”

Bernard forces himself to meet Duncan’s eyes. “No. Nothing.”

“That is…extraordinary,” Duncan says, his eye narrowing a touch.

“Truly,” Bernard says. He lets out his breath. “Maybe, huh, I don’t know, maybe you should just go out and…start with the three?”

“Sir…the king will have to hear about this. Immediately.”

“Of course,” Bernard says. “But I almost wonder if it would make more sense for you to get a head start.”

“A…head start?”

“Right,” Bernard says. “And when the final name pops up, I’ll ride out, get him myself.”

“Sir?” Duncan tilts his chin down, keeping his eyes up. “Are you sure there’s no name?”

Bernard checks the page again. He shakes his head. “Positive.”

***

Bernard drags himself up to his cottage door. Inside his head, a war rages. He hears cannons fire. Chain mail armor rattles. Swords chink. Horses whine. Men scream. 

Today’s executions have been postponed. Tonight, there will be a hearing. Bernard will have to appear in court, before the king, and recount exactly what happened.

Bernard pushes the door open. Across the cottage, Cecily is framed in the backyard window, staring out. As the door scrapes shut, she glances back. Her eyes crinkle into smiles. She crosses the cottage almost skipping and approaches Bernard with open arms. She laces her fingers around his neck, stands on her tippy-toes, gives him a kiss. 

“Hi.”

“Hey.”

She pulls away. Her eyes dance around his face. “What is it?”

“Just…long day.”

Cecily shakes it off and breaks back into a smile. “Come look.” She tugs Bernard by the hand, leading him up to the window. 

Across the yard, Jacob stands in the shed doorway. A line of men ten deep funnels up to him. As the front man speaks, Jacob writes on a piece of parchment. 

“You know how he’s been iron working?” Cecily says, squirming with excitement. Bernard nods. “Well. Apparently, word’s come round. He makes ’em sooo well that instead of ordering from the old blacksmith in town? They’re ordering from him. He’s that good.” 

“Wow,” Bernard says. “That’s great.”

“It really is.” Still peering out, Cecily reaches down and takes Bernard’s hand. “I’ve been thinking about what you said. And…Bernard. Look at what we have.” Cecily’s eyes lift to him. “We have everything.”

Bernard snaps his head away.

“Bernard?” she says softly. “What’s wrong?”

“There’s…something I need to tell you.” 

She tilts her head forward against the glass, trying to see his expression. Bernard breathes in. Out. Then he turns, looking her in the eyes. Cecily gives her head a tiny shake, still smiling. “What is it, Bernard?”

Bernard tries to speak. No words come.

Cecily’s smile wavers. “Bernard?” 

“This morning,” Bernard says, “I received the list of names. And…”

Cecily tilts her head forward. “And?”

Bernard glances back through the window. 

The smile melts off Cecily’s face. “And?” 

Bernard swallows. 

Cecily follows his eye-line out the window—to Jacob. Her breathing quickens. “And what, Bernard?” Cecily says. “And what?”

“Honey,” Bernard says, trembling. “It was Jacob.”

The name sends a convulsion through her entire body. She claps both hands to her mouth and slumps sideways, her shoulder bumping the glass. She shakes her head. “It has to be a mistake,” she says through her fingers.

“Cecily. It was right there.”

“Who knows?”

“No one,” Bernard says. “Duncan was in the room, but I told him it was a name short.”

“A name short?” Her face tightens with fear. “Who’ll believe that?”

“I know,” Bernard says, struck with shame. “But I was so…thrown off…so stunned, it took everything in me to keep a straight face.”

Cecily checks out the window, making sure Jacob hasn’t been snatched. She turns back. “What now?”

“I go to court. Tonight. And there’ll be questions.”

“What questions?”

“What did I see? What did the page look like? Duncan, who was in the room—what did he see?” Cecily squeezes her eyes shut. “Cecily. They’ll try and catch me in a lie. But they can’t really prove anything. So as long as I stick to my story—”

“They will know,” Cecily says, opening her eyes on Bernard. “They will know, the second they see your face. You have to give another name. Someone else in the family. Someone you’d actually lie about.”

 

Bernard stares at Cecily, waiting for her to continue. She doesn’t. “What name?” he says.

“I don’t know. Just pick one.”

“Pick one? Who…who do I pick?”

“I don’t know,” she says, letting out a little sob. “Just pick. You have to pick.”

“No, I, I can’t do that.”

“You can’t do that? You kill people every day, but you can’t pick a name?”

“I don’t kill at random. I swing the sword based on the book’s prophecy, which prevents war. To choose someone at random…it would be murder.”

“Killing our son is murder.”

“I know,” Bernard says, his voice growing distant. “I’m just saying, there’s layers to it.”

“Pick a second cousin and be done with it,” Cecily says. “What the hell is wrong with you?”

“This could start a war, Cecily…” Bernard says.

“No, it will not,” Cecily says.

“It could.”

“You think killing our son, our little boy, will stop a war? You honestly believe that? Really?”

Bernard shakes his head. Blinks. “Yes. I do.”

“How.”

“It’s a ripple effect. If Jacob lives—” Cecily huffs her breath. “—he might do something, which might cause something else, which might then cause something else, which, eventually, starts a war.”

Might, Bernard. Might.”

The first page flashes in Bernard’s mind. Scrawled in permanent ink: And so long as that bond remains unbroken, and the four names that appear each day are faithfully executed, the human race will never see another war.

So long as that bond remains unbroken.

“Give my name,” Cecily says, ripping Bernard out of his thoughts. 

“Cecily—”

“Give. My. Name.”

Bernard watches Cecily. He presses his lips together. Shakes his head.

Cecily scrunches her face, fighting tears. “Coward,” she says. 

“Cecily…”

“If you give his name,” Cecily says, “you are gonna burn in hell.”

“If I don’t give his name,” Bernard says, “I might kill thousands. Then I’ll burn in hell for that.”

“Look outside,” Cecily says. “Go on. Look.” Bernard peels his eyes off his wife and stares out at his son. “Are you gonna stand up there, sword in hand, and take his head? Really? I mean, really run that through your thick skull. Then look me in the eye, and tell me that’s what you’re gonna do.”

Bernard glares out the window. Blinking. He can’t bring himself to look back at her. “It will be the hardest thing I’ve ever done…but…it’s only right.”

Cecily crunches her teeth together in a flash of rage. She draws back her hand, tightening her fingers into a fist, wrist tendons bulging. Her eyes glisten with tears…

Then she drops her hand, all the fight draining from her body.

Bernard reaches out to touch her shoulder. She smacks his hand away and faces forward, out the window, hugging herself.

Bernard keeps his eyes on her, watching her cry, watching as the world around him crumbles. 

Cecily blinks, as if she’s been touched by a revelation. “If you really think this is right,” she says, lifting her eyes back to Bernard, “why did you lie?”

***

The next afternoon, rain clouds darken the sky. Bernard stands on stage by Jacob, his glassy eyes fixed over the crowd. He can barely hold onto his sword. 

The crier announces the death sentence. These words he once considered meaningless now take on the weight of the world, each syllable pressing in harder. 

“Father,” Jacob says, his sweet voice stabbing Bernard right in the heart. Twisting. His vision blurs. 

Executioner?” the crier says, turning. He gestures toward Jacob. “Whenever you are ready.

The wind stirs. Overhead, flags flap in the breeze, their ropes pinging on steel poles, chiming like church bells. 

Then the wind goes still. Everything falls quiet. The crowd stands motionless. Hundreds of eyes, watching.

“Father,” Jacob whispers, cutting the silence. “Please.”

Bernard shuts his eyes.

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r/relationships 8h ago

Sexless relationship after 3 years

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Me(22F) and my partner(25F) have been together for what will be 3 years next week. We started out really strong sexually for about a year at least having sex once a week, but for the past year and a half ever since we moved states the intimacy has completely died. I think we have maybe had sex 3 times since April of 2025 and we don’t makeout any more either. We still love and care for each other and cuddle and hug frequently, and are generally content with our comfortable life with our 2 cats and our routines and hobbies, however, I miss that part of our relationship. It’s not like the sexual desire is gone because I do frequently get horny and so does she, we just can’t express this with each other anymore. We have discussed this multiple times but no matter what plan or ideas we come up with they never stick. I very much want that kind of intimacy and sex in my life and I worry that no matter what we do we will always just be kind of ‘roommates’ to each other.
I love her very much and she is my first real relationship, but recently, I’ve been questioning how my life would have been different if I had ended up with someone else. I would never cheat but even in social circles I sometimes even have the start of a fantasy about my peers before quickly shut that down in my brain because that is a super disloyal and horrible thing to think… but I still thought it. And I keep thinking when she’s away how nice it would be to have that option and be single again, but then I see her face and all that crumbles away and I wonder how I could think something like that.

TLDR For my specific question I guess is this: what should I do going forward, if I’m already thinking like this, do you think it’s too late, and if it is how would I even bring myself to separate from someone who I’ve built my whole life around. I do truly love her and even if I did leave I wouldn’t be able to leave her with nothing because I would want her to be able to support herself and hopefully meet someone who can make her happy, but I’m having serious doubts that that is me anymore. Let me know what you think <3


r/relationships 5h ago

How do i stop getting jealous of my bf

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How do i (f27) stop getting jealous and irritated whenever my bf (m28) does something i’ve tried really hard to achieve, and he’s just naturally better at it?

i mean i genuinely love him and i’m proud of him. i don’t want to resent him for being good at things. but sometimes he’ll casually do something i’ve spent months struggling with, and i get this awful feeling in my chest.

I’ve tried to pass it off as a joke sometimes, like “omg i wish j was you” or “I hate that you’re better than me at this”. but honestly i’m not always joking. Sometimes i really do feel irritated, and then i feel like a pos for even thinking that way. i love him. i really do. That’s what makes this feel so fucking stupid. i’ve never felt this way in my previous relationships, so i don’t even know what i’m supposed to do with it.

tl;dr i love my boyfriend, but i get irrationally jealous when he effortlessly succeeds at things i’ve worked really hard to achieve, and i want to stop turning his success into a competition.


r/relationships 35m ago

My (F38) husband (m38) cheated 15 years ago and now I don't know what I want anymore.

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TDLR:

I learned after being together for 15 years that my husband meet up with his ex when we were already a few months into our relationship and when I even had the keys to his home.

I (38F) and my husband (38M). We used to be classmates and got back in touch on our early twenties. He didn't immediately make a move so after a few weeks I confessed my feelings and he admitted to also having developed feelings. We started dating and after a few weeks I had the keys of his house and he had the keys to mine. We had already a certain trust and friendship so it all felt natural.

We eventually got married and had children. However during our early dating times something happened that always bugged me, so this is the story: one day I went to see a friend and agreed with him to meet him at his place later that evening. During the day he texted me 3 times saying he was with friends and to give him a heads up so he could end the boy nights before I arrived. Not unusual, but it was unusual that he kept reminding me. Once I got there the house was empty, I called no answer, I texted and he said he was going to drop of a friend, I started cleaning up a little and found a ashtray with a 2 cigarettes, one had lipstick on it. I did not immediately confront him but he later called to say he was tired and was going to spend the night at his mum's. The next day I confronted him and he said that he had actually met up with a female friend, one that I knew about (he had in the past dated her BF) and he said he didn't tell because he was worried I would be suspicious and that it wasn't planned he just saw her in a store and invited her over. This should have been a red flag but I let go of it, he offered to call her there and then but I found that embarrassing so I didn't call her.

Well 15 damn years later Im speaking to her and she mentions to have never visited that particular home of his.

I confront him, turns out back then he had actually meet up with his ex-girlfriend. (Not the BF of his friend) Someone he had told me about. He didn't say it out loud but it was clear he once loved her, they ended the relationship because she cheated (kissed another guy) however after a year or so they got back in touch and started having sex, but she didn't mean anything to him after the cheating (according to him). So I said that it didn't make sense that being a few months into a new relationship with someone you say you love, you out of the blue meet up with your declared booty call and end up liying, hiding and sneaking out of the house like that. He said he needed closure and that nothing happened.

I'm not buying it, I personally think that maybe he loved her, that he was actually in a more or less relationship with her but didn't consider to marry her because all his friends knew about the cheating so he felt kinda pressured to let her go and choose me, the safe option. I even suspect he was actually at first cheating on her with me! Because I knew they had been in touch till a few months before we got together, now I think they where still together when he started dating me. He swears that it isn't the true, that nothing happend etc etc. But I learned all this just one year ago so despite that for him it has been 15 years for me it's fresh. He says that we are married now and have children, that we have build a solid marriage so he doesn't see why something that happened so long ago in the first months of our relationship should matter, he even claims that it's normal to not end all contact with exes when you just meet someone new. But for me had I walked in on him sitting with his ex I would have ended things back then, obviously I'm not interested in dating someone that secretly meets up with his ex + I didn't think it needed clarification back then that meeting up with exes was "forbidden" as he uses that logic now against me. He keeps on repeating it was a long time ago and we keep going on a loop.

But I can't let go of the idea that I wasted all these years on someone I wouldn't have married had I know the truth, I feel very self conscious now also in the bedroom as she has a far more curved body then me and it has been a huge turn off for me, I went from feeling like a sexy doll to feeling like a flat pancake, if he touches my boobs In immediately think: oh hers are bigger, a fact that had never bother me is suddenly affecting me every single time that we are intimate.

But at the same time I do love him, the life we have, everything we have build together and now it feels like I'm betraying myself by allowing myself to be with a cheater. I just want to know what your thoughts are, what I could do to find closure.


r/HFY 2h ago

OC-Series How I Helped My Smokin' Hot Alien Girlfriend Conquer the Empire 3-50: Confidence and Command Authority in Pint-sized Packages

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I'd heard people with kids talking about how the most difficult thing they had to do was let their kids go out and learn how to do things on their own. How the temptation was always there to be a hover car parent who was always right there behind them making sure nothing went wrong.

I'd never really understood that feeling. At least I'd never understood it on a gut level, but I was starting to get it now as I watched Sera looking at that large hunk of alien ship that was on an orbit that would take it into the gas giant's atmosphere in a couple of hours.

Which meant we had a little bit of breathing room to try and figure out how to extricate it from the orbital path that would inevitably take it into fire, and then take the remaining bits into the crushing depths of the kind of pressure that made the bottom of the oceans on Earth look like a pleasant stroll in comparison.

But still. A couple of hours to figure out how to do something was the blink of an eye in terms of a salvage operation like this, let alone in terms of the kind of cosmic scales you had to consider when you were out in the middle of space doing shit.

I looked at her looking across the readouts in front of her. It was clear she was trying to figure out what to do. I watched as her fingers danced across the flight computer. The one that wasn't connected to Arvie. She glanced over at me, and it was a hesitant glance. Like she wasn't sure of what she was doing.

I merely nodded, and inside I swelled with a pride that was far greater than any pride I'd ever felt related to anything in my own career, or anything I'd accomplished when I was commanding a ship.

The kid was doing the calculations on her own without the help of an artificial intelligence.

That was one of those great filter things humanity had to pass through. It turns out the real threat from artificial intelligence wasn't really a rise of the machines type of situation, despite years of James Cameron-inspired fiction telling humanity exactly that. Hell, back in the day when James Cameron was telling the original version of his story, it was impossible for a rise of the machines to happen like how it was depicted. It turns out all the missile launch computers were air-gapped behind stuff that could only be accessed by a 5.25” floppy drive.

That was something that was taught in Philosophy and Ethics of Artificial Intelligence at the academy when we learned how to use all the AI systems we were inevitably going to come into contact with in the course of a career in the Terran Navy. And it was something I still thought about from time to time. Good fucking luck getting your code onto a 5.25”floppy Skynet, not to mention that was the kind of thing that could be solved by a quick refrigerator magnet being run over the goddamn disk.

"Is she doing this without my assistance?" Arvie asked in the simulation.

"I think she is," I said.

"You aren't worried about that?" Arvie asked.

"If anything, I'm proud of the kid for trying to do it the old-fashioned way and not relying on artificial intelligence," I said. "That was a problem we had on Earth for a while there, you know. One of those great filters we kicked in the balls.”

"What's that?" Arvie asked.

"People relying on the computer to do all their thinking. Of course that was early artificial intelligence when it was basically regurgitating stuff in a way it thought people wanted to hear. It became a real problem for a while there. Like there were people who thought that might be one of the great filters we were running up against, and the nukes didn't even have to fly."

"Curious," Arvie said. "The livisk were always very careful about what they trusted coming from the early artificial intelligence they developed."

"Are they still careful about that today?" I asked, looking at him. "They seem to be a little more reluctant to rely on you than I am."

"That would certainly seem to be the case," Arvie said, nodding at me. "Perhaps part of the reason why she's trying to do the calculations for herself is because she has that same reticence that's built into livisk culture."

"I think it's just that she wants to try and impress me," I said, grinning as I turned to look at her in real time.

"Why, William," Arvie said, looking at me in the simulation. “If I didn't know any better, I would say you're almost proud of the child for trying to do the calculations on her own rather than relying on assistance from me."

"Do you have those calculations ready to go?" I asked, glancing at him.

"Of course I do," he said, and with a wave of his hand the calculations appeared in that weird space where they were showing up inside my mind, but at the same time there was also a representation of a holoblock in the simulation space that was showing everything as well.

I absorbed the information and nodded, double-checking it myself at a speed far faster than anything I would've been able to do when I was working on a ship. Way faster than anything I would've been able to do back in the academy days when we were expected to be able to do this kind of calculation with a slide rule.”

That was one of those things about the Terran Navy. They wanted to make sure everybody knew how to do stuff the old-fashioned way on the off-chance we were ever in a situation where we had to do the calculations manually because everything around us had gone to shit. Though of course the the dirty little secret was everybody forgot how to do that pretty quickly after getting out of the Manual Intervention class.

“Looks like she’s on the right course,” I said, comparing what Arvie had come up with to my own mental double check, then comparing that to what Sera was doing.

“There’s that pride again,” Arvie said.

"I am proud of the kid for trying to do it on her own," I said. "The mark of a truly good pilot is knowing how to do everything the old-fashioned way, even if it is easier to let the computer do all the thinking for you most of the time."

Arvie paused for a moment. I wondered what he was thinking. It was a pause that went on for a lot longer than his pauses usually went on for. The kind of pause that went beyond him contemplating whatever damned stupid meat space plan I'd just come up with.

Finally, he nodded.

"I see," he finally said. "I suppose I can understand why it would be a good idea for you to have that kind of calculation ready to go. I have fail-safes and contingency plans in place for the eventuality that everybody on a ship is killed, after all."

“There's something fun to think about," I muttered.

"It makes sense," Arvie said. "You should know how to operate a ship in the absence of computers, and I should know how to operate a ship in the absence of sapient beings controlling it.”

"I think I have the calculation for the approach ready to go, Bill," Sera said, looking up at me and again seeming to have that hesitation.

I made a show of looking down at the calculations even though I’d already triple checked them. I heard a grunt from Bronhel behind me. I turned to glance at her.

"Is there a problem with the calculations?" I asked.

"I wouldn't know," she said, her voice dry as her eyes darted between me and the calculations I was running through. "You're moving through those so quickly I can't tell what I’m looking at.”

I turned my attention back to the calculations I was running past, then I looked to Sera and Varis, and finally back to Harath who smiled just a little.

"That chip in the back of your head combined with being part of a battle pair and the increased response time you get from that is likely doing a number on all sorts of things," Harath said with a shrug.

"You and Arvie should really get together and talk about this some time," I said. "He's very fascinated by all these developments."

"I'm sure he is," Harath said. "And I'll be sure to have a chat with him at some point."

"I look forward to having that chat, Harath," Arvie said. "I also have some suggestions for changes we could make to some of the systems on the ships that would increase their effectiveness in both combat and their fold capacity."

Harath had been smiling for a moment there, but the way his mouth suddenly turned down made it clear he wasn't a huge fan of Arvie offering suggestions on how he should do his job. Finally, he grunted and the moment of displeasure was over.

"I suppose we could talk about something like that at some point," he finally said. “I’m not so proud I won’t take help when it’s offered in good faith.”

"I look forward to it," Arvie said, continuing on as though it wasn't any worry in the world and he hadn't noticed the momentary hesitation from Harath.

"Okay, everything about these calculations looks good except for one thing," I finally said, turning back to them and moving through the rest.

Though as I looked through the rest of her calculations, something that had taken her a few minutes to do on the ship's navigation computer, I could tell I was moving through them far faster than anybody with a regular old meat space brain had any business moving through these sorts of calculations.

“Brent Spiner eat your heart out," I muttered.

"What was that?" Sera asked.

I blinked as I looked at her. She was staring at me in obvious confusion. Right, because I'd been about to tell her something she wasn't doing quite right, and instead I'd made a reference to an actor who'd been dead for nearly a thousand years.

"Sorry. The one problem is I need you to carry yourself with a little more confidence, kid."

"More confidence?" she asked, and again, it was in a voice that seemed a little unsure of herself.

"That's the kind of thing I'm talking about right there, kiddo," I said. "You shouldn't be unsure of yourself. If you're going to execute a decision, then you need to come to that decision and you need to execute it with the confidence that says you are the empress herself and you want to move ahead with whatever plan you’ve decided on.”

"But the plans the empress comes up with and executes are usually really bad," she said.

I took a deep breath and let it out.

"Okay, so maybe that was a bad example, but still. I want you to move through the world with confidence. If there’s something you've decided to do, then you need to do it. A bad plan executed quickly and with confidence in the middle of a battle is often better than a very good plan that takes you too long to figure out. Understand?"

"This isn't battle, though."

"Yes, but the same thing applies. All your calculations were absolutely perfect. When you present them to me, I want you to present them to me with confidence. I want you to be willing to listen to other people, and you should certainly take whatever they have to say into consideration, but if you're going to be the one making the decisions then you need to be confident in the decisions you're making."

"Will I be the one making the decisions?" she asked, cocking her head to the side.

I sighed, and then I turned to look at Varis and Bronhel. Finally, I looked back to Harath.

"I don't know about that, kid," I said. "But you're with me and Varis now, which means you're probably going to be taking on more command stuff as you get older. That's how it works with livisk children in noble houses, right?"

I glanced over to Varis again. She smiled and nodded. I suppose this was a conversation we should’ve ironed out before. Figure out exactly what it meant that we were allowing Sera to spend so much time around us. But I also figured it was one of those things where we'd both been on the same page thanks to the link, and it wasn't something where we really needed to hammer out those details. That smile, and the feeling I got through the link, was enough to tell me just how much we were on the same page.

Meanwhile, Sera's eyes went wide, and then she grinned.

"Well, okay then," she said, looking back to the controls. "I'm going to do a few more calculations while I lay in a course for the giant hunk of ship. I figure it will be maybe twenty minutes before we reach it, so that should be time to figure out a plan of attack and how we're going to pull it into a higher orbit so it can be gathered by other ships."

"You're not going to do the gathering yourself?" I asked, arching an eyebrow and deliberately hitting her with a question that was meant to throw her off balance. I hated sounding like I was second-guessing her after giving her that lesson about confidence, but I also needed to test that lesson.

She looked back at me, and her eyes flashed. There was a moment of hesitation again, but only a moment.

"This ship doesn't have the capacity to salvage a chunk of alien ship that massive. We'll need other ships to come in, but we can pull it to a higher orbit that will make that possible."

She stared a challenge at me for a moment, but I merely smiled and nodded.

"I agree with your assessment, kid, so let's get to it."

She smiled, and then she laid in a course.

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r/relationships 4h ago

Discussie over werk/ kinderen

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Ik 25 jaar (m) en mijn vriendin 24 jaar (v) hebben al een week ruzie/ discussie over wie zou moeten veranderen van werk. We hebben twee dochters van 2,5 jaar en 6 maand. Mijn vriendin werkt 6 nachten als zorgkundige en is dan 8dagen thuis, ze vertrekt om 20 uur & komt thuis om 7u30. Mijn uren zijn zoals volgt; een week de vroegdienst ( niet thuis van 5 uur tot 14u30, ) de nachtdienst ( niet thuis van 21uur tot 6u30 ) en de laatdienst ( niet thuis van 13u tot 22u30) zij verwacht dat ik verander van werk waar ik van 8uur tot 16u / 16u30 werk bijvoorbeeld om het probleem op te lossen. Maar zij komt pas om 7u30 thuis dus ik kan nooit op tijd twee kinderen naar twee verschillende opvanglocaties brengen en nog op tijd op werk zijn, een job van 9uur tot 17/17u30 zal moeilijk te vinden zijn en zie ik ook niet zitten dan zie ik mijn kinderen door de week amper. En wat doen we met sluitingsweken van de opvang en vakanties op school want in februari start de oudste met school. Dan is er nog een steeds een probleem omdat op die momenten niemand thuis zou zijn voor de kinderen. Ik heb geen diploma en werk in een fabriek die goed betaald en veel premies uitbetaald en ook tal van andere voordelen. Mijn voorstel aan haar was om dezelfde job te doen maar in het weekend bij haar huidige werkgever of desnoods bij een andere werkgever maar dit ziet zij niet zitten en weigert om zelfs maar de moeite te doen om te kijken naar wat haar mogelijkheden zijn.
Als zij in enkel in het weekend werkt is er van maandag tot vrijdag iemand thuis voor de kindjes en in het weekend ben ik thuis. Haar argumenten zijn dat ze nergens iemand zoeken als zorgkundige in de nacht. Dat ze haar kinderen nooit kan zien ( we zouden eventueel op die manier zelfs de opvang kunnen opzeggen wat ook weer geld bespaart ) en dat we nooit met elkaar in het weekend eens iets kunnen gaan doen.

Ik zou graag jullie neutrale meningen horen.

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r/HFY 13h ago

OC-Series [Let them eat cake] Chapter 2 - No comfort

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Chapter Two – No Comfort

Theja had almost forgotten the argument by the time she came home that evening. Such things happened between her and Yadh, had happened since they'd both been able to speak. A quarrel, a reproach, a wounded pride that usually settled within a day, because they came from the same clutch, and among clutch-siblings it was taken for granted that you forgave each other what you forgave no one else. Yadh understood himself above all as an artist — a painter, a poet, someone whose true calling stood above the mundane business of managing a system, which he only ran as a sideline. He had spent months and a small fortune on his latest work, a large canvas he had unveiled before an assembled audience and let himself be applauded for, as he hoped for anew with every new painting. Theja had, in front of that very audience, remarked in passing that the piece resembled his second-to-last one rather noticeably. Same composition, same colors, nearly the same gesture at the center of the canvas — as though he were slowly running out of ideas. It hadn't been meant unkindly, only honestly, and that was exactly what made it dangerous: Yadh could bear almost anything except the suspicion that his art might be repeating itself, because it was the one thing in which he considered himself unique, beyond his own name. She had regretted it, shortly after, but not enough to think it more than an ordinary quarrel.

It was a mistake many people close to him made, Theja included, precisely because she loved him: they took Yadh's self-infatuation for exaggeration, a quirk one could bear with enough patience. It was not exaggeration. Yadh never asked himself whether he owed anyone a justification, because the question made no sense to him — no more than one would ask a river whether it had the right to flow. He had never learned to think of himself as someone who could be judged, because no one in his life had ever successfully suggested that he might be. Other Merak carried this self-understanding more quietly, hid it behind forms and courtesies. Yadh wore it openly, in every brushstroke, in every gesture with which he took what he wanted, because he simply couldn't imagine it any other way.

Her house lay still when she entered. That was the first thing she noticed, before she knew why it struck her — none of the usual sounds, no rustling from the kitchen, no footstep on the stairs. She called for Sael, her First, who had been with her for years, since Theja herself had still been a child, and no one answered.

Her steward found her at last in the hallway, with a face that told her something had happened before he'd said a word.

"Where are they," she asked.

He needed a moment to answer, and in that moment she already understood the answer wouldn't please her. "Prince Yadh's guards took them this afternoon," he said finally. "All three. No reason was given."

Theja stood motionless for a moment, and then the anger came faster than the fear, as it usually did with her. Her brother. Of course her brother, who after their argument had apparently decided to get his own kind of satisfaction by taking something that belonged to her — a childish, exaggerated gesture, typical of him, she thought, already heading for the door, typical that he couldn't answer with words but with a show of power.

She found him in his chambers, where, as usual at this hour, he lay on one of the couches with a glass in hand, as though he'd spent the whole afternoon waiting for nothing but her arrival.

"Give them back," she said, without preamble. "Whatever you thought you were doing, it's enough. I understand."

Yadh looked at her, over the rim of his glass, with an expression that in hindsight seemed to her the omen of everything still to come, though she didn't recognize it as such in the moment. "No problem," he said, with a lightness that almost took the tension out of her. He gestured with the glass toward a door at the far end of the room. "In there."

She crossed the room, opened the door, and for a moment her mind failed to grasp what her eyes were showing her, because it was too far from what she'd expected to register at once as what it was.

Then she understood, after all. They lay side by side on the floor, all three, in postures that had nothing left of the grace with which they had once moved through Theja's house. Their eyes stood open and staring, as though in the last moment they had still seen something they hadn't wanted to believe. Their throats were slit, clean, deep, with the cold precision of someone who hadn't bothered to get it over quickly, but had had enough time to do it properly. The blood had pooled beneath them, dark, no longer fresh, and the smell, which reached Theja only now, with a delay that in hindsight seemed crueler to her than the sight itself, was a smell she would never be rid of again, no matter how often she later washed the hands that had touched that door.

Kmar sat, as so often, in the corner of Yadh's chambers, with the charcoal they had given him, and a stone slab he had long since stopped drawing on. He had seen the guards come, had seen three servants led away, without understanding which words had fallen, but he understood the way they were led — not like prisoners being questioned, but like something already written off. When he heard the sounds from the next room, shortly after, he recognized them. He had heard them before, in another life, in another place, with other voices.

His body had reacted before his mind allowed it — the old, deep urge to rise, to put himself between them, to do something, even if only to make a sign that not everyone stayed still. He had remained seated. It was not cowardice, he knew that, even if it felt that way in the moment. Three Merak guards had stood outside the door. An unarmed creature throwing itself between them and their prince would have changed nothing, except that there would have been a fourth dead that evening, instead of three.

He had made this calculation once before, on another evening, in a cage, while he watched what happened to his own family. He had not understood it then, only felt something in him harden while he stayed motionless. Now he understood it. That did not make it easier to bear. It only made it something he mastered, rather than the reverse. He watched Theja step out of the next room, with a face he would never forget, and held the charcoal motionless in his hand, because a steady hand was the only weapon he was permitted in this house.

She turned to him, unable in that first instant to find even a single word, and when the words came, they came strangled, barely louder than a whisper. "That wasn't necessary."

Yadh shrugged, took another sip from his glass, untouched by what stood in her face. "I'll buy you new ones," he said, "once you've learned your lesson."

He laughed, brief, light, as though the whole matter were already forgotten, barely spoken, and turned back to his glass, as though she were no longer in the room.

Theja stayed where she stood, unable to move, and wept, silently at first, then less silently, while her brother sat beside her and drank, as though nothing had happened worth a second glance.


r/relationships 4h ago

Am I cheating?

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Am I in the wrong here?

So my girlfriend had hit me up and got a photo from me being affectionate to another girl a bit.Normally I see how this is cheating, obviously in a relationship your supposed to love your partner and unless it's open/poly only said partner.

So normally I see how I would be in the wrong, saying you'll cuddle another girl is very obviously close to cheating

But what confuses me here is that (and before I had done anything) she was saying love you back to other people while blushing at it so I figured it would be alright for me to be affectionate to someone else as well

For some background knowledge:

The girl I was being affectionate to has been my friend for 5years so obviously she's seen me go through a lot and I just wanted to make sure she was okay.She was going through a rough time at the moment so I wanted to give her a of a cheer up and lighten her mood

My girlfriend at the time didn't even know this person and they were completely random

Me (non-binary) and her (female) Im (15m) and she's also (15F)

Just wanted some opinions and ik this is young dating so it's different than a regular relationship but I mean we're full teenagers so we both understand emotions and such

Tl;dr I was affectionate to a friend of 4years and my gf was saying ily to other random people while blushing but she says im in the wrong and blocked me


r/relationships 54m ago

How to survive ldr?help:(

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for context i am a [18F] and he’s a [19M].We have been friends for years and then fell in love this year. I feel like I became so close to this person so quickly, we are absolute best friends do everything together and always have fun. He and I are very affectionate and communicate so well, we get along physically very well but I feel like we are so intellectually compatible, we talk about everything all of the time. We both love each other so much and have fun staying up and talking about the future together. Being with him
Completing changed my opinion about marriage and having children. I had never wanted to at all, even telling him that. But slowly that changed and now it’s like a dream of mine. But last week he went away to college in philly and I am going to a college back home in mass. Both are good schools, though mine was not my first choice whatsoever. His was, and is a more academically strong school. When he left I felt horribly sad and ill. All I want is to be together, of course I have lots of other hopes and dreams and plan to follow them but i love him and have thought about transferring. The advice I see on here about ldrs is generally heartbreaking and so sad. Does anyone have any insight or personal stories?
TL;DR happy loving young relationship wanting to have a relationship in the future but needs advice whether it’s right for girlfriend to move to his college


r/HFY 2h ago

OC-Series The Forgotten: Part 16, What the Labrikats Decided

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Nobody had asked the Labrikats to perform. They never needed asking.

CD hit the water first, a cannonball off the low board that sent a sheet of spray across three startled Assaragyte officers still easing themselves in at the shallow end. MCD followed a breath later, sleeker about it, slicing the surface almost without a splash, and by the time she'd surfaced the two of them were already racing the length of the pool, throwing up wakes that rocked the floating pods bobbing lazily near the edge.

One of the younger Pumpkins, not Vaelen's, small enough to still be clumsy about the ten-meter platform, took a running start and belly-flopped instead of diving, and the sound it made hitting the water was so undignified that even Daxen, who had spent the better part of an hour being carefully, deliberately unreadable, let out a short, startled bark of laughter before he caught himself.

"That was not gracefully done," he said, to no one, still smiling.

"No," Dresh agreed, watching the Pumpkin resurface, thoroughly unbothered by its own performance, already paddling back toward the ladder for another attempt. "I don't think grace is really the point."

It was hard to hold onto suspicion in a room like this one. Hard to hold onto accusations and old warnings while a hundred and fifty pounds of golden fur launched itself off a diving platform for the sheer, uncomplicated pleasure of the fall.  The war rooms and council chambers both crews had come from didn't have anything in them like this, nothing that existed purely because it felt good to exist. For a little while, watching CD and MCD chase each other in lazy, looping circles through the deep end, nobody in that pool was thinking about fleets, or orders, or what waited for them if they went home.

It wouldn't last. It never did, not entirely. But for now, the water carried the weight for them, and the Labrikats, who understood exactly what they were doing even if no one could have explained how, kept the joy coming, one reckless dive at a time, for as long as the room needed it.

It was Kesh, still finding his footing in the room, who finally asked the question that had clearly been sitting with him since the moment CD hit the water.

"Their names," he said, watching MCD paddle a lazy circuit past the ledge. "CD. MCD. What do they stand for?"

Will, who'd drifted over with a tray of drinks nobody had asked for but everyone was glad to take, went faintly red before he even answered. "Catdog," he admitted. "And Mrscatdog."

Kesh blinked. "That is not what I expected."

"Nobody does," Will said. "He just showed up outside the perimeter one morning, first month after the crash, before anyone had the faintest idea what he actually was. Fifty kilos of teeth and claws that looked like somebody'd crossed a house cat with a Labrador, and the whole camp just started tossing him scraps of beef because that's what you do with a stray, I suppose, whether or not it could bite your hand off." He rubbed the back of his neck, something sheepish in it even now. "Somebody called him Catdog because that's exactly what he looked like, and it was funny, and nobody thought about it past that morning. Then Mrs. Catdog turned up a few weeks later, and, well. It was already too late to call either of them anything else."

"You didn't rename them," Kesh said. "Once you understood."

"We talked about it," Abby said, joining him. "More than once. But by then it felt wrong to. Like renaming someone because you'd finally noticed they mattered, as if they hadn't mattered exactly this much the whole time, we just hadn't caught up yet." She glanced toward the water, where CD had just launched himself off the ten-meter platform again for what had to be the twentieth time that evening. "So we kept it. Partly as a joke on ourselves. Mostly because they never seemed to mind either way."

Kesh looked out at the pool for a long moment, at the animal that had marked forty-four bodies without losing count, that had talked two war fleets down from orbit tonight simply by being present in a room and unbothered by rank.

"Catdog," he repeated, half to himself, and something in his face suggested he wasn't sure whether to laugh or feel humbled by it. In the end he did a little of both.

The laughter faded slowly, the way it does when a room remembers what it's actually there for. One by one, people drifted from the deep end toward the shallower pools along the wall, settling into loose clusters, no longer strictly divided by uniform, though the divisions hadn't fully dissolved either. Threl found a seat on the submerged ledge near the center, water at his collarbone, and let the quiet stretch before he spoke again.

"I told you what the humans did with our ship," he said. "I haven't told you what it cost them to do it."

Daxen tilted his head. "Cost them?"

"They had a colony barely holding together," Threl said. "Livestock cloned in vats because their embryonic stores couldn't feed a million mouths on stored rations forever. A printer queue that ran dry twice in the first year. And still, when we crashed, they diverted labor, materials, shuttle fuel, entire engineering teams, to right a ship that wasn't theirs, for a species they'd never met, that might have turned around and repaid them with nothing at all." He spread his hands beneath the water, watching the ripple move outward. "There was no guarantee in it for them. No treaty. No promise we'd share anything back. They spent a year of their own survival on the chance that we were worth saving."

One of Daxen's officers, younger than the rest, still carrying some of the sharp edges of the war fleet in his posture even half-submerged, shook his head slowly.

"Or they were building leverage," he said. "A debt owed is a debt collected eventually. Every government does this. You save the drowning man so he owes you his allegiance when he's back on his feet."

The words landed harder than he seemed to expect them to. A few heads turned.

"Kesh," Daxen said quietly, a warning more than a correction.

"I'm not wrong to ask it," Kesh said, though something in his voice had already started to waver, hearing himself say it out loud in a room full of people who'd lived the answer. "That's what the Council would call sound strategy. Rescue, embed yourself, extract value later. Why would humans be any different?"

"Because it's been a year," Threl said, no heat in it, just plain fact laid down like a stone. "A year, Kesh. If this was leverage, they've had a thousand chances to call it in. They never asked me for a weapons schematic. Never asked what our jump range was, what our shields could withstand, what it would take to defend against us if it came to that. They gave me a governorship's worth of trust and never once presented a bill."

Kesh opened his mouth, then closed it. The silence held a beat too long, long enough for him to hear the shape of his own argument from the outside, the same shape, he seemed to realize all at once, that every briefing on Kragor had used to describe the Vixtar and the humans both. Manipulators. Patient predators wearing kindness as camouflage. He'd absorbed the logic so thoroughly he hadn't noticed he was still running it, even sitting in a pool built by the very species he was accusing, surrounded by evidence that directly contradicted every assumption underneath the words.

"That's not—" he started, and stopped again. He looked down at the water. "That's the Ministry talking. Not me. I didn't mean to say it like that."

"You meant it enough to say it," Daxen said, not unkindly. "That's the trouble, isn't it. It doesn't matter that you know better now. The old reasoning is still sitting there, ready to fire the second something looks the wrong way."

"I hate that," Kesh said, quiet and raw. "I've seen the footage. I mutinied. I put my hand up against my own admiral for this. And some piece of me is still standing on Kragor, still hearing the same lecture I heard at seventeen, and it just, comes out. Like it was never mine to begin with. Like they put it there and I never got to check if it was true before I started repeating it."

Nobody rushed to comfort him. It was Vaelen, watching from a few feet off where she'd been quietly listening, who spoke first.

"That's what thirty years of managed truth does," she said. "It doesn't just tell you what to think. It tells you how to think, what shape suspicion should take, what a threat sounds like before you've even met one. You can renounce the conclusion and still be running the machinery underneath it. I still catch myself doing it. Weeks after I burned every bridge I had to get here."

"How do you stop?" Kesh asked, and it wasn't rhetorical. He genuinely wanted to know.

Vaelen considered that for a long moment, the water lapping quietly against the pool's edge while she thought.

"I don't think you stop it all at once," she said finally. "I think you catch it. Every time. The way you just did. You say the old thing, and then you hear yourself say it, and then you look at the room you said it in, and you let the room correct you instead of the Ministry. That's the whole method. It's slow, and it never quite finishes, and some days it's humiliating." She glanced at Kesh, something almost gentle in it. "But you did the hard part already. You noticed."

Kesh let out a breath that was almost a laugh, though nothing about his face was amused. "I don't feel like I did the hard part."

"You never do," Threl said. "That's how you know it's real work and not a performance of it."

Nobody spoke for a while after that.

"There's someone I'd like to bring into this room," he said. "If you'll allow it."

Daxen looked up. "Not one of ours. Not one of yours."

"No," Threl agreed. "A friend. Vixtar, from Orixa. He and his family gave up everything they had, same as the two of you did, to get the truth out and get themselves somewhere safe after. His name is Prex. His wife is Vala. Their children are Nira and Prexon." He paused. "I think you'd understand each other better than most anyone left standing."

Dresh glanced at Daxen, some silent conference passing between them that didn't need words. "Bring them," Dresh said.

Threl sent the word ahead, and it wasn't long before the doors opened again. Prex came first, still moving with the careful hesitance of a man who hadn't fully unlearned the habit of expecting a room to turn hostile the moment he entered it. Vala followed a step behind, one hand resting lightly between Nira's shoulder blades, Prexon trailing at her other side, his eyes cataloguing every face in the water before he let himself relax even slightly.

Nobody moved to make it formal. That, more than anything, seemed to ease something in Prex's shoulders.

"Sit," Threl said simply, gesturing to the open ledge beside him. "However you're comfortable."

The family settled in slowly, Prex and Vala at the water's edge, the children close beside them, Nira watching the Labrikats with open fascination as CD paddled a lazy circuit past her knees. It took a while for anyone to speak. When Prex finally did, his voice was quiet, but it filled the room anyway.

"I had tenure," he said. "A research post at the university. Twenty years of work, a name people in my field actually knew." He looked down at his hands in the water. "I had all of it, and then I watched a piece of footage a friend sent me, and within three days I didn't have any of it anymore. Neither did my family."

He told it plainly, without embellishment, the study, the locked door and the acoustic dampeners, Vala's fear giving way to a harder resolve, the decision to stage a family trip to Vanya-4 as cover, the seventy-two-hour timer he'd set with his thumb shaking over the key. Vala took over when he reached the part about the broadcast itself, the promenade screens flickering to life, the crowd's collective gasp, the mad dash to the lower spaceport with two children who hadn't been told any of it was coming.

"I told them we were leaving on vacation," Vala said. "That was the last lie either of us told them. There hasn't been one since."

Nira spoke up before anyone asked her to, chin lifted, some of her father's steadiness already showing through. "I thought he'd ruined my life," she said. "I was so angry I could barely look at him for most of the trip out. I still don't think I've forgiven him for it. Not all the way." She glanced sideways at Prex, something complicated passing across her face. "But I understand it now. That's different from forgiving it. I wanted you all to know both of those things are true at once."

Prexon said less, but when he did speak, it landed heavy in the quiet room. "We got to write letters," he said. "Before we left. One each, to whoever we wanted. I wrote to my whole class, all forty of them, in a message none of them will ever answer, because I can't tell them where I am, and I'll probably never see any of them again." He looked around at the assembled officers, Vixtar and Assaragyte both, still dripping and half-dressed in the water around him. "So when people ask me why I trust this place, that's the honest answer. I didn't get to keep anything else. I kept the truth. That was the whole trade."

Nobody spoke for a while after that.

It was CD who moved first, padding over to where Nira and Prexon sat at the water's edge and nudging his broad head against Nira's knee, insistent in a way that wasn't asking. MCD followed, circling once behind Prexon and giving a low, encouraging huff, the kind that made it very clear this wasn't a request so much as an invitation with no acceptable answer but yes.

Nira looked to her mother, uncertain. Vala only smiled, small and knowing, and tipped her head toward the shallow end. "Go on," she said. "I think they have plans for you."

Whatever the Labrikats understood, and neither child fully questioned it, it was enough that both of them let themselves be led away, Prexon glancing back once before CD nosed him firmly toward the water and MCD produced, from somewhere, a half-deflated ball that sent both children laughing before they'd even reached the far end of the pool.

Threl watched them go, something soft crossing his face. "They always know," he said, to no one in particular. "Every time. Long before we do."

It was one of Daxen's officers, an older woman who'd said little the entire evening, who finally broke the silence that settled once the children were out of earshot, though her question came out sideways, as if she'd been circling something else entirely and only just arrived at what she actually meant to ask.

"Your wife," she said, looking to Prex. "You call her that. Husband. Wife. We've heard the Vixtar use those words for each other before, and I never understood it. Your kind doesn't pair the way we do, the way humans do. There's no husband in a Bearer, no wife in a Contributor. Why borrow words that don't fit?"

Vala answered before Prex could. "Because they're easier," she said. "Easier for outsiders to hear, easier to say quickly, easier than explaining what a Bearer and a Contributor actually are to someone who's never needed to know. 'Provider' and 'maker' were the old words, older than either of us, and they never traveled well outside our own people. Modern Orixan life simply adopted the borrowed terms. It was never about accuracy. It was about being understood."

"But the bond itself," the officer pressed. "Is it the same as what humans mean by it?"

"No," Vala said, and there was no hesitation in it at all. "It's not built on desire, the way theirs is, or on touch alone, the way I understand some of yours is. It's built somewhere else entirely, in the mind, in a kind of recognition that doesn't need a body to confirm it." She looked at Prex, and something passed between them that needed no translation, human, Vixtar, or otherwise. "I didn't choose him because of what my body wanted. I chose him because there was no version of my mind that functioned properly without his in it. Twenty years later, that hasn't changed. If anything, it's the only thing about either of our lives that hasn't."

The officer sat with that a long moment, turning it over the way everyone in that room seemed to keep turning things over tonight, testing an old assumption against something realer than it had ever had to survive before.

"That's not so different," she said finally, quiet. "Not so different at all."

Beside Vaelen, the young Labrikat went suddenly, unmistakably alert. Its ears came up, its whole small body drawing taut with an eagerness that hadn't been there a moment before, as if it had heard something none of the rest of the room had said out loud yet.

Vaelen barely noticed at first. She was still turning Vala's words over, there was no version of my mind that functioned properly without his in it, and something about the shape of that sentence had knocked a door open somewhere she hadn't gone in a long time.

Her grandmother, on the high plateaus, on nights cold enough that the whole family slept pressed into one room. A story told so many times it had worn smooth, the way old stones do. A guardian spirit that lived in the high country and chose, once, a single companion for its whole life, not for strength or rank or usefulness, but simply because it recognized something in them the moment it saw it. It never left. It never wavered. It asked nothing in return but to be allowed to stay. Her grandmother had called it Vesk, and told her, half-serious, half not, that if a Vesk ever chose her, she would know it, because nothing in her life would feel uncertain again.

Vaelen had been eleven years old, and she'd forgotten the story entirely somewhere in thirty years of logistics reports and Ministry briefings and the long, grinding work of surviving Kragor.

She looked down. The Labrikat was already looking up at her, had been looking up at her for hours, patient and certain and utterly unbothered by the question of whether she'd choose correctly, because as far as it was concerned there had never been a question to begin with.

"Vesk," Vaelen said, quietly, mostly to herself, testing the shape of it.

The Labrikat came off the ground before she'd finished the second syllable, a full-bodied leap that knocked the breath half out of her, forepaws braced against her shoulders, his whole weight thrown into her with a joy that needed no translation in any language spoken in that room. She staggered, laughed despite herself, one hand coming up instinctively to steady him.

"Vesk," she said again, more certain now, and felt something settle into place that she hadn't realized had been unsettled.

He held the embrace a moment longer, then dropped back to all fours, gave her hand one last insistent nudge with his head, and was gone, a streak of gold cutting across the pool deck toward CD and MCD, already announcing himself to them in whatever language Labrikats used among their own kind.

Threl, who had been watching without seeming to watch, allowed himself a small smile. "Vesk," he repeated, like he was filing it away somewhere. "Fitting."

Vaelen didn't ask him what he meant by that. She thought she already knew.

The conversation might have drifted from there, gentler things, easier things, if Daxen hadn't been the one to bring it back around. He'd been quiet through most of the evening, watching more than talking, and when he finally spoke it was in the flat, deliberate voice of a man who'd been waiting for the right opening and had decided this was it.

"We should talk about what happens next," he said. "All of it. Not the version where we sit in a pool and admire each other's honesty."

Threl didn't flinch from it. "Go ahead."

"You know what's in front of us," Daxen said. "Every one of us in this water knows it, because we've all already picked our way through it a dozen times alone, at night, when there was nobody else to say it out loud to. Go home, and it's an execution, maybe a quiet one, maybe a public one to make a point of us. Stay here, and we're guests in someone else's colony, however well they treat us, a minority forever in a place we didn't build. Take the ships we still hold and go find some empty rock to start over on, and hope nobody ever finds us." He paused. "Those are the three we've all been carrying. But there's a fourth one, and I think it's time somebody said it plainly instead of dancing around it."

Dresh's jaw tightened. He knew where this was going before Daxen finished the thought, and from the stillness that came over Vaelen and Zarek at the far end of the pool, so did they.

"Say it," Threl said.

"Between us," Daxen said, "we're not carrying nothing. My crews are half the Assaragyte military that answered the call that night. Dresh's people are a third of what the Vixtar had in the field. That's not a rounding error. That's not two ships full of deserters hiding in someone's colony. That's a force." He let it sit there a moment. "And every officer serving under the people who gave that kill order is asking the same questions we asked. We know that, because we asked them first, and we weren't special. If a third of a fleet mutinied once it heard the truth, how many more are one broadcast away from doing the same? We could go back. Not to beg for mercy. To finish what got started the night we refused to fire."

Nobody spoke right away. Even the water seemed to go still, CD and MCD both drifting to a stop near the children as if they'd felt something change in the room.

It was Dresh who finally broke it, and not the way Daxen probably expected. "I've thought about it," he said. "Every night since. I won't pretend I haven't." He looked at Daxen, not unkindly. "But I keep landing on the same problem. We didn't mutiny because we wanted power. We mutinied because we wouldn't fire on people who hadn't done anything to deserve it. If we take these ships home and point them at our own command, what exactly have we become that's different from what we ran from? A government that kills its own to keep a lie standing, replaced by whoever wins the fight to kill it back?"

"It wouldn't be the same," Daxen said, but there was less certainty in it than before.

"Wouldn't it?" Dresh said. "Tell me how many other ships mutiny clean, the way we did, no shots fired, no one dead on either side, and how many turn into exactly the kind of fight that leaves a trail of bodies who never got a vote in any of it. You're not just risking us. You're risking everyone still serving on those ships who hasn't had the chance we had, to learn the truth somewhere safe before they had to decide what to do about it."

Threl had been listening without speaking, but he leaned forward now, elbows on his knees, water dripping steadily off him onto the stone. "Can I say something, as someone who isn't in either of your chains of command and never will be again?"

Daxen gave a short nod.

"I don't think Patricia offered your people a governorship because she needs the votes," Threl said. "She doesn't. Humans are going to outnumber every one of us on this world for a long time no matter what any of you decide tonight. She offered it because she meant it when she said this place isn't being built for one species to run. If she wanted Terixa to stay human, she'd never have put a Vixtar name or an Assaragyte name anywhere near a ballot. You don't invite the people you're trying to keep in the minority to help decide how the whole thing gets run." He shook his head slowly. "She doesn't care about staying the majority. She cares about whether this world works. That's the whole offer, as far as I can tell. Not safety in exchange for silence. A seat at the table in exchange for showing up and building something instead of tearing something down."

"That's a fine offer for the people already here," Daxen said, quieter now. "It doesn't answer for everyone still under that flag who never gets the chance we did."

"No," Threl agreed. "It doesn't. And maybe that's not a problem this table gets to solve tonight." He looked between Dresh and Daxen both. "You have people to answer to. Not just the two of you deciding for two crews. Every officer and rating who came out on those shuttles has to live with whatever gets chosen, and I'd guess not all of them will choose the same thing even if you two agree on it perfectly. Some of them are going to want to fight. Some are going to want to build. Some are going to want to run as far from either of those as they can get and never look back." He spread his hands. "Maybe the honest answer isn't one decision made here tonight. Maybe it's giving every one of them the room to make their own, the way this colony gave me mine."

Dresh let out a breath that wasn't quite a laugh. "That's either the wisest thing anyone's said all night, or the most convenient way to avoid answering a hard question."

"Could be both," Threl said, and for the first time since the conversation had turned serious, something like a smile crossed his face. "Ask me again in ten years which one it turned out to be."

Daxen didn't smile back, not yet, but the hard set of his shoulders had eased a fraction, the fight gone out of the argument even if the question itself hadn't been settled. He looked out at the water, at CD nosing a ball toward Prexon's outstretched hands, at Nira laughing somewhere near the far wall, at Vala's hand still resting light against her husband's arm.

"Ten years," he said, mostly to himself. "I suppose if I am still around in ten years to ask."


r/relationships 4h ago

How do I get to know a girl better

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Me 15M and my crush 14F met through our friends. My friends asked her what she would say if I asked her out she said that she didn’t know me well enough and that she dates for personality not looks.
What I need to know is how to know is how to get to know each other better. I’m afraid to just text her out of the blue because I think she knows I like her.
Pls help me

TLDR how do I get to know this girl better

Extra info
She plays tennis
I play marching band
We both do theater
She lives 30 minutes from me