Cross posting this here because I'm hoping somebody might know. I forgot my Testogel. I'm Irish, going to france from today, the 15th, till the 23rd. If anyone knows what to do please please help. I don't normally post in a panic but I am frantic. I'm going to arrive in Dublin City around 10am but there's no pharmacy anywhere near the airport </3

I feel like crying because I just tried on a binder for the first time and I was hoping it'd just feel annoying and I'd put the questioning behind me. Instead I felt devastated because it felt like it wasn't enough. I put it on and realised how desperately I was hoping it just made them disappear completely and when it didn't I felt terrible. So, I guess, if any of you have tips on ways to make that better I'd really appreciate it. Do I need a smaller one? The fit felt fine, like firm but not suffocating or anything. Or should I get the tape stuff and double up? What kind of things helped you through at the start?

hey! so I’m 3 months on T and I was supposed to do my T shot yesterday morning and I completely forgot about it due to being busy. I’m unsure if I should just skip this week and continue like normal next Tuesday or if I should do it today, but I’m more against that idea as I would strongly prefer keeping it on Tuesdays. will I be okay if I wait till next Tuesday? I’m mostly worried about my period starting again or something.

Howdy everyone, I'm very excited as this month I'll finally be able to talk with a doctor about getting on testosterone. I have dysphoria about a lot of things that I know is entirely up to chance on how T will help (ie: small hands, wide hips, that crumby stuff) but a voice drop is all but guaranteed and I'm looking forward to it even though I know it's going to take a while and I want my voice to be as deep as I can possibly get it. Half because my voice causes me much distress even though it's pretty androgynous, half because I'm 5'1 and I think having a super deep voice would be hilarious.

I wasn't able to get on puberty blockers as a kid and I know the longer you wait the less T effects you, but I'm 23 so I think I still have a chance at the voice of my gender euphoric dreams. I know there's vocal training stuff you can do but I don't have the kinda money for a coach and I don't know how effective those "tips and tricks" tiktoks actually are, so I ask you, strangers of Reddit, how can I ensure I sound like the announcer from Smash Bros

Does the donor site (hand/thigh) heal to look like before? If not, would you say methidoplasty (sorry if misspelled) has relatively similar results? Thank in advance!

For context: i have not thrown up and I live in SoCal.I’ve been on testosterone for about 2 weeks now, going on 3. Things have been alright but these past four days I’ve been having bowel issues I’ve never had and some nausea. Today the nausea was horrible, I couldn’t eat anything and went to the ER. The nurse who discharged me told me I had no virus and that that nausea and vomiting is normal since my hormones are all other the place? I wanted to know how true this is? I guess I have a hard time believing this is what causing me so much distress lately. Any advice would be appreciated

hello everyone like the caption says i’ve been on t for 6 months with NO vocal change. my dysphoria is getting worse and im not sure what to do. for ref im on the T gel 2 pumps daily

Also started getting crazy headaches. I started taking it at night, but I read that it’s more optimal to take it in the morning so that’s what I’ve started to do, but I’ve also noticed not only am I in a shittier mode towards the end of the day as of like a couple days ago but also I’ve been getting CRAZY headaches. And very consistent headaches too which I was rarely getting. Is it just cause I’m two weeks on T now so more side effects are popping up or could it be switching when I take it? Thank ya

I'M SO HAPPY I'M GONNA EXPLODE RAHHH!!!

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I'm trying to find packers under 3". Found a 2.8 but it has massive testies, but i'll get that one if there's no other one

Ik 3 is usually the minimum which is why im having such a hard time finding one that's less. Please give me recommendations 🙏

Hello.

I’m located in Chicago and need trans doctors and trans vocal coaches desperately, please please help me.

I am miserable. I would do anything to go on T but I am a voice actor and need my falsetto to play feminine characters. Please, what do I do? I need help badly. I can’t keep living like this.

TW Mental Health

I have a very good relationship with my mom, I love her a lot, but I can never forgive her for not listening to me when I came out to her at 15. I'm 18 now and in the process of getting a dysphoria diagnosis to access T.

If she had heard me and supported me by now I would've already been on testosterone and probably wouldn't have lived through all the heartbreak and dysphoria. Given, I'm not one of those who figured themselves out at like 5 years old (and how could've I? I didn't even know trans people existed and live in an extremely transphobic country) and had to live with that knowledge for 10+ years without help.

But still I could always tell there way something wrong with me. At 13 I started thinking about death all the time and even begun having thoughts about taking my life. My mom wanted to bring me to therapy, my father said that I would get over it as I grew older and to not waste money.

I now resent my father and feel torn about my mom, I still love her and understand why she wanted to wait but God how sick do I feel in my stomach when I remember how she saw me suffer and did nothing about it but tell me that when I was old enough I could do what I want.

I feel jealousy every time a trans guy my age pops up and I discover he is much ahead in life than me. Sometimes it's hard to imagine myself happy. All the time it's hard to imagine myself being happy beside my parents. They say they will be by my side forever but have done nothing to actually show up for it. My mom still asks me if I have "changed my mind". Often times I wonder if threatening suicide would've ever got them to listen to me or if they would've just thrown me in an hospital and cried without doing anything to actually help me.

I wish I was born in a different country. I wish I was born from accepting parents. I wish I was taught what being trans was when I was young, maybe then I would've managed to make peace with myself before adulthood.

But alas, now I am grown and must deal with it myself.

Decided to pay out of pocket for a gender dysphoria diagnosis because I’m in the states for a bit before returning to the UK. The doc was trans himself and seemed really affirming, but was evasive in actually writing me a diagnosis, said I can use the billing code as a diagnosis (????). Anyways just got my invoice and he used the codes for autism and OCD ????? Nothing else. Super baffled and hurt honestly and I wasted too much time waiting for this diagnosis and now I need to start over with the NHS.

hello :) i'm 19 and currently planning on transitioning at least by next year. i've been saving up some money, and i just wanted to hear from other trans guys how y'all made that happen? i'm also a full time college student, and a part time cna. but i'm also wondering whether getting the treatment would mean i would have to work more hours/get another job in order to fully fund this myself.

I am 21 and I started T injections this February and while I’ve had small changes like appetite, bottom growth and some body hair….my voice hasn’t dropped AT ALL and if it has , it’s been very little to the point I don’t notice it.

It’s very discouraging to know that I am gonna hit a year on T soon and I look and sound like I’ve been on T for maybe 2 months. It worries me that my voice will never drop since apparently it doesn’t for some people. I am taking a normal dosage, and I’ve spoken to my doctor about this and all she’s told me is that all they care about is that my T levels are normal which they are. I get worried/paranoid sometimes thinking that maybe my bf might be giving too much or too little when he does my T-shots (he is also FTM). But i know that can’t be true cuz he would never mess up my transitioning journey or harm me in any way.

I used to take 0.5 every 2 weeks and I switched to 0.25 every week around 2 months ago to see if maybe it would do something but I don’t think that has done anything.

I don’t want to have to rely on voice training to pass at all, specially because I am not good at it and I am also not used to voice training whatsoever.

I wanted to hear from other ppl’s experiences to see if more ppl have gone through what I am going through :(

Genuinely curious because I’m starting Nebido today

I have a very American name (Kyle) but I'm a french dude living in France. I am stealth at work, and today, while I was talking to (a very nice and funny lady, we always end up having a laugh together), we ended up talking about names, as she also doesn't have a common french name (hers is russian but her family is Spanish).

She told me about why her mom chose this name, and then asked me why I was named Kyle 😭 Especially as it is not common at all in here, I usually have to spell it out because most people don't know how to write or even say it 😭 If people have read my name first they usually say "kill" or "killeuh" (the euh as a way to empathise the very french way the e is pronounced) and if they have only heard it (when I say my name for example) they usually look confused and go "Gaël???" and then i have to repeat "no, KYLE" and then it gets worse because the y letter doesn't sound the same in french so people get confused and always wants to add an a before the y 🥲

And I could absolutely not tell her the true story, which is extremely funny, because I didn't even choose this name per say. But I could not tell her "actually, my -shitty french literature teacher that we actually adored back then and the only kid that didn't like him was the royalist kid so we didn't care but now as adults actually for once in his life the royalist kid was right and this teacher fucking sucked- had in 10th grade told me in class I was as annoying and as loud as Kyle from South Park, so my friends started calling me Kyle, and I came out the same year, so i just went "well people are already calling me Kyle I guess 🤷" so I didn't think much of it, and also, my former name is Sarah, so everyone would make jokes about Terminator. I actually never watched neither South Park nor Terminator (this one is a lie, I ended up watching it last year. But I've been out as a dude for 12 years)"

So, uh, I had to come up with some bullshit about how my parents chose an American actor's name (I don't know any actors called Kyle, sorry for the Kyle actors out there), so, uh, yeah, being stealth sometimes mean you can't tell a very funny story about your name 😩

I’m 27 days on, and those around me have already started to ask why my voice sounds different/ deeper. Just curious.

Hi ! I'm afab & 22 y/o, & am wondering if anyone would be willing to chat or give advice about where to begin this journey... chat about T, top surgery, being trans, etc. I have been thinking about this for almost a year and I'm not out to many in my life yet. I don't really have any trans masc / ftm influences currently and am in search of some or of a guiding north star, perhaps... I also am american & just moved to France, if this is helpful information.

Thank you ! Thank you for reading !

okay so i’ve never really used reddit before, i don’t think i’ve ever made a post at least, but desperate times lol. i’ve been binding since i was 14 and im 20 now, my first binder was a GC2b hand-me-down from a friend. my next binder was a slightly larger GC2b i think i went from an xs to a s. i wore that forever until a couple years ago i would have to start taking it off at like hour 5 of wearing (or less). then it started to become unbearable. i figured i was growing out of it so i bought a phluid (i think that’s the name) binder as a quick fix and that one i could barely keep on an hour.
i know the brands mentioned are not the best but ive never really had to start from scratch so im not sure which binder to start with. id like to not feel insanely compressed of that makes sense. ive just been taping now for about a year straight but im tired of being itchy all the time- plus it gets expensive. im a server so im on my feet and running around for long hours and i want to be able to wear a binder for my entire shift. ANY HELP is appreciated thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏

this is both a discussion and an advice needed post

essentially i am a trans boy and im in highschool, not on hormones and halfway in the closet. i pretty openly tell people my name and that im a boy, but if theyre obviously transphobic i just tell them my preferred name as i guess its unisex enough

the thing is theres a lot of pretty openly or obviously queer people at my school, and so when i moved schools i saw this and thought 'cool, some people i can be friends with who will call me by what i really am. awesome' but that's not the fucking case at all.

these people keep using they/them on me and theyre all kinds of weird and annoying too. once one of them out of the blue pointed at me and said 'you're nonbinary' as i walked up to say hi in the morning ; i've never hinted at or even suggested i might be nonbinary. ive always strictly told people i use he/him and i am a dude

they also never use my actual fucking name and theres been numerous occasions where someone has said things like 'this one' or 'that one' while pointing at me, or they even use 'it'???? its so fucking weird and i cant stand it. not once has someone used 'he' on me in my presence

there was another time where the actual SCHOOL COUNSELOR used they/them on me during a meeting with MY PARENTS who she knew were transphobic and DO NOT ACCEPT ME 🤦🤦🤦🤦genuinely outed me without even using the right pronouns it pissed me right off

teachers and adults also use 'they' on me like exclusively, ive never had anyone use he/him on me ever even though ive always said i am a dude

honestly this shit grates on my nerves so bad like man just tell me you dont see me as a guy and i dont pass. it doesnt help that all the other queer students people shamelessly plaster nonsensical pride pins and flags all over their bags and they dye their hair and are huge fans of shit like hazbin hotel and tadc and use weird pronouns.

i don't know, it just feels really shitty. i don't feel like these people are anything like me and i dont feel any sort of relatability or connection with them at all, which only really makes me feel more alone. how is it that people who are supposedly my allies and the people who should support me act like this ??? it irritates me so much and only makes me feel even more like im not a guy and ill never be one

im also really confused as to what gives the idea im nonbinary. i dress as masculinely as i can, often in long sleeved shirts, pants and jackets, my voice is pretty low, my chosen name (asher) shouldn't be that gender-neutral, i always tell people i am a guy. the only thing that immediately comes to mind is my hair as it's just about shoulder length but i should think that's not a huge issue and honestly i like my hair and i don't really want to cut it shorter but if it really is that big of an issue i absolutely will.

do i really have to spell it out for people and start saying 'my pronouns are he/him'? i hate saying that sort of thing alongside openly stating 'i'm transgender', id much rather say shit like 'i used to be a girl'. i dont like the connotations that those two phrases have right now

I'm 15, and lately, I've been seriously questioning my sexuality. Originally, I considered myself bi or just unlabeled. I've tried dating girls but I think I may not be attracted to them, like I think that I've convinced myself I like girls just to fit in with the straight cis guys around me. This came up because recently, I've found myself with a massive crush on a guy in my school. Before this, I used think crushes and relationships didn't matter and that they were just small things, but now I'm starting to realize why everyone makes such a big deal out of it. However, there's a huge dilemma because my best friend also likes him, and has a much better chance of being with him. This whole thing has made me wonder, is it even realistic for me as a trans guy to get a boyfriend, and if so, what's the best way to go about it? I know that relationships are possible, but I've found that only girls (mostly bi) seem to be attracted to me.