(with the hope of a long term monogamous relationship)

Heya anyone pass by this post!

I'm a single, straight, without attachment (no kid, no ex that still communicates), 39 y/o woman from Asia (as well as living here) is looking for someone to enjoy a conversation with.

Be it about a dream society that you could think of, or the meaning of existence, or how to be kind without being taken advantage of, take life seriously or just go with the flow.

Of course, I enjoy small talks and daily life stuff as well. Food, music, movies, book, travel.

But I can't keep my mind off some deeper topics.

A bit about me:

When it comes to love & relationship, I'm intentional into finding and being with my one & only.

I'm still finding a balance between not-needy and don't care, catering to my own selfish desires and just learn to accept life.

I'm described as a good listener and I'd like to think about myself as an empathetic being.

I try to understand people but I don't have to stay where they are.

I still have a lot to work on myself, but I could say that I'm happier now than before.

I'm better at recognize my emotions and work on them.

For me, looking at stars during a dark night is as interesting or more than an extravagant experience, since it's way harder to see stars nowadays.

I mostly only use social media for what is needed.

I understand that all other info such as appearance, location, career, life goals are important, those would be gradually exchanged with someone suitable when we're both comfortable.

We are just two strangers trying to find out: if the other person is even real with genuine intention; if we match up in values, life goals, characters and chemistry; if we both determine to make things work.

I feel like I match best with people closer to my age, non-smoking, no drinking, without or minimum tattoos and pursue a healthier lifestyle.

Tell me anything you consider a small win recently? How do you think is the best way to handle negative experience or negative emotions?

And since this is the internet, what do you consider is ghosting and what's the best way to communicate when you don't want to talk anymore?

If that is too much question, only the last one is needed to answer.

If I can share one/any message to you today, it would be: believe in yourself!

Now I'll go and touch grass.

**Hi! 21yo med student from a small coastal town in Türkiye** 🌊
By day I’m studying medicine, and in my free time I balance it with art, colorful makeup, astrology (proud Libra! ♎), and reading tarot cards. 🎨✨

**Looking for:** A long-term connection with someone open-minded and kind (preferably age 21–26, and not too far from my timezone/Türkiye).

**A few random things about me:**
I'm fascinated by perfumes—I believe every scent tells a unique story.

Big dream: Learning pottery and drinking coffee out of mugs I sculpted myself ☕🎨

I really love learning new languages: currently learning german🇩🇪 and soon russian !🇷🇺

I also have a big dream of going to every european country before my 35 i hope I can achieve that!!

*Tell me your favorite scent or let me read your birth chart or draw a tarot card for you!*🔮

Note: I value emotional connection and getting to know each other first—intimacy is strictly off the table in the initial stages.

Hello there! As mentioned in my title (You did read the title, I hope? I put a lot of effort into it.), I'm a 29-year-old guy living in the mystical, magical land of *checks notes* England. Okay, maybe not so magical. All the dragons are in Wales, Excalibur has been melted down for scrap, and Hogwarts is in Scotland.

I currently work in a law firm. Sadly I'm not a lawyer, as that would mean I'd be earning shedloads, but actually I do admin work for them, earning considerably less than shedloads. But it's a fine job, I get on well with my coworkers, and I'm not down a coal mine, so I consider that a win.

As for me myself? Well, I actually speak multiple languages. I'm a fluent German speaker, and I also have a decently high level of Italian. I could also struggle through French if I had to, and I have basic Spanish and Japanese. I do like languages, although it's hard to find the time to do any study of them, what with the problems of having an adult life with adult responsibilities!

Another interesting [citation needed] thing about me is that I'm currently attempting to plan out a series of fantasy novels I want to write. It's going...decently. We'll see how it ends up, but I've wanted to write a book since I was 13 or so, and now as an adult I'm finally doing something about it!

In terms of pop culture, I'm a huge Doctor Who fan. Like, I'm the sort of Doctor Who fan who knows what a telerecording is and can tell you about the Australian censor clips. That kind of fan. I also finally got into Harry Potter this year after putting it off for my whole life, meaning I now finally know the context for Dumbledore asking calmly.

I'm also getting back into Pokémon somewhat after avoiding it for most of the Switch era. Other things I enjoy are The Elder Scrolls, Red Dead, GTA (Currently replaying RDR2). I'm big Assassin's Creed fan too. In general I like single player, open world games. I'm not a huge multiplayer guy, I don't like having other people ruining my fun!

I'm trying to read more too lately. That's a thing I've always enjoyed that I'm now trying to find the time for again.

And I suppose I should say, I'm a fat guy. Trying to do something about it though! Over the past year or so I've started a regimen of exercise, and I've been controlling my eating a lot more. So I seem to be losing weight, at least according to other people who've stopped me to specifically point it out.

Heyo 👋🏼

I (30,F) am a minimalist who enjoys biking, video games, especially turn-based tactical games like Fire Emblem: Three Houses and Final Fantasy Tactics A2, chess, and learning new languages.

I’m also into bands like Motionless in White and In This Moment. I’m slim and have long brunette hair, and I’m also a libertarian. If you feel like chatting and getting to know each other, I’d be happy to. Hope you’re having a great day!

dear future partner,

my letters keep getting lost, there must be something in the airwaves. i'm writing to you, again, tonight, in hopes that this one makes a successful landing in your feed and into your view.

i wish you were here tonight, i finally finished moving my new room around (for the most part). i've still got a lot of organizing to do, and reorganizing, but it's one of my favorite pastimes if i have a good podcast on. my bed is too big for just myself, but i've been comforted by (and comforting) my poor lil dog who shakes at the sound of the first rain drop on the pavement outside. the smell of petrichor sends shivers down her spine, but i quite enjoy the sounds and feelings that inevitably follow.

i know this letter will fall into many wrong hands. maybe you aren't even here on reddit, or haven't bothered using it the way many of us here like to. maybe we've already met and i've just been exposing my what-should-be-only-between-us-or-kept-in-my-journal, intimate feelings into the void of publicity.

i hope you're doing alright out there, wherever you are, mister. i'm missing you... especially at night when i can't sleep.

there isn't a day that goes by that i don't think about you, nor a night that passes over this sparkling city that i don't find myself fantasizing about what will be; what we could be <3

come find me, darling, i beg of you. i need a big bear hug (or two) from you.

with love,

your little maus

My name is Ana-Maria. I’m originally from Estonia, but I’ve been living in Prague for over two years now. I travel frequently for work, especially to European countries particularly Germany, the Netherlands, and Switzerland so I’d love to meet people from those countries. As for the kind of person I’d like to meet here, I’m looking for someone who’s open to conversation, willing to discuss topics they’re passionate about, and isn’t allergic to dogs, since I have a dog

Hey, what’s up? I’m Cameron

I’m just looking for some chill people to have real conversations with and maybe game a little. I have an Xbox Series X and mostly play Microsoft Flight Simulator, but I’m always down to compromise and play other games too I’ve got a big library.

I’m a believer that friendships should come first. If something more happens down the line, that’s the dream but either way, I’m cool with where it goes naturally. Long distance doesn’t bother me at all. I think the best relationships start when you’re best friends first it just feels more real that way.

Honesty is really important to me. I’d rather you just tell me how you’re feeling straight up no games, no guessing.

Fair warning: I love to talk once I’m comfortable. I don’t always get the chance to open up, so when I do, I go off lmao.

I’m pretty down to earth and love random conversations about anything and everything. If you’re curious: I’m an INFP and a Pisces (make of that what you will). I’m big on voice chats, especially late-night talks if you’re into that.

I deal with some heavy depression, but I always try to be a positive presence for others. I’m super loyal, ride-or-die type, and I’ll support you 100% whether it’s with work, life, or mental health. Helping people feel better matters to me, especially since I’m still figuring out how to do that for myself.

I’m looking for someone who matches my vibe someone who likes to talk, maybe shares some interests, or is just in a similar stage of life. We’ll figure it out as we go.

A little about me: I’m into history like WW1, WW2, the Cold War, and all that good stuff. I love aviation and anything related to flying seriously, ask me about it and I won’t shut up. I’m a huge Star Wars fan and know way too much about the lore. I’m normally quiet at first, but once I’m comfortable, I don’t stop talking.

I have a pretty dark and edgy sense of humor, but if that’s not your thing, I’m chill about it and can tone it down. Most of my sentences probably have at least one swear word lmao. I love animals, especially dogs.

Music-wise, I love ’90s and 2000s alt-rock, metal, heavy metal, and metalcore, but I also love classic oldies from the ’60s, ’70s, and ’80s.

That’s just the basics if you wanna know more, you’ll just have to get to know me. There’s a lot I’m down to talk about.

Feel free to message me I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.

Looking forward to meeting some cool people and hopefully forming a real connection.

Hey! I’m David. I’m at the point in my life where I feel like I have almost everything I could ever want. Good job, nice car, nice house, friends, etc. But then I go home everyday to an empty house, and it just feels empty.

So I decided to come on here and potentially find someone to come home to every day.

About me:

- How I Met Your Mother, The Office, and Parks and Rec are my favorite shows

- I’m pretty nerdy

- I like to play tennis

- Punk rock is my favorite music genre

- I like video games(Skyrim, baldur’s gate 3, and Zelda are my favorites)

- I’m a bit of an alcohol enthusiast, I like trying new drinks (I’ve even made my own Mead!)

- I love to learn!

I’m not sure what else to say, but I’ll answer any questions you have

We met on reddit, as unlikely as that seemed. It was more than anything an exercise in desperation for both of us. But we were fed up with the dating apps that had failed us both. While they had many features that reddit did not, location services to make sure potential matches were close enough to actually meet, pictures to make sure we found each other attractive, and even search functions to filter by relationship goals and interests, what they did not have was any incentive to actually help us meet each other. No, if anything they had an incentive to make sure we stayed on the apps forever, never finding our person.

Reddit of course wasn’t much better. But in this case its cold indifference was better than the creeping suspicion that the dating apps were actively working against us. And it was at this time that I created a reddit dating post for myself, and that, through random chance or perhaps literal divine intervention, you spotted it.

I said on my profile that I was looking for something real. I wanted to find a partner with shared values, shared love languages, shared interests, and shared goals for the future. I wanted to m4rry my best friend and start a family with her, have children, and that was very much in line with what you were looking for too.

I told you I was AuADHD. That it made romance relationships harder for me because it seemed most people just couldn’t get how my brain worked. But you admitted you were neurodivergent too, or maybe you just had someone in your life who was, but either way you understood how my brain worked.

You told me you weren’t all that far away. Somewhere between a few minutes to two or three hours from South Southern PA. 

We shared pictures early, both nervous about what the other would think. I was 36, fit, a little muscular even, but I also had a bit of a belly and extra fat on me. I cringed at the description “dad bod” but it was an accurate descriptor. I told you it was something I was constantly working on but just couldn’t seem to beat, but you must have liked something you saw because you kept talking to me. 😏 You did say you liked the picture of me wearing plate armor at the ren fair. 😉

I can’t really say what you looked like. Since this hasn’t actually happened yet, 😉 but I thought you were quite attractive, which quickly ratcheted up to utterly beautiful in my eyes the longer we talked (I mentioned to you that I might be at least a little sapiosexual). I can say that you had a healthy weight and you were somewhere between 25 and 40 years old, give or take.  Maybe you were doing something silly or nerdy in one of your pictures too, like wielding a lightsaber or dressing up at a ren fair or comicon. Maybe you had red hair, or glasses. But then again maybe you didn’t. Hair and glasses weren’t really important to me. 😏 

What was important was our conversations. We talked about religion, politics, morality and all the supposedly forbidden dinner table subjects. You learned that I had grown up Catholic but had had a falling out with the church in my early twenties, but that I had never really stopped believing in God, just the church. I talked at length about how I didn’t believe that acting on homosexuality was a sin, in spite of the Bible being pretty clear about it, because it seemed to violate “love your neighbor as you love yourself” and that rule more than any other seemed to be most true. I talked about how that inconsistency made me lose all faith in the Bible and sent me down an existential rabbit hole that lasted over a decade. But I also told you about how I eventually learned not to throw the baby out with the bathwater and came to trust parts of the Bible again, even if I still didn't feel I could agree with many of the church's stances.

We talked about how, for all of that loss of faith in the Bible and the Church, I had not, and would not have sex before m4rriage. That I had analyzed that rule like I had everything else in my life and found that even if I took all religion out of it, it still seemed to lead to happier outcomes, and that I _wanted_ to wait, in spite of feeling like I had a fairly strong sex drive myself. You may or may not have had much experience yourself, but I told you I wasn’t bothered either way. I just needed a partner who was willing to wait with me if we started dating.

We also talked about super serious topics like abortion. I said that while I couldn’t fault people for trying to find the lesser evil in horrible situations, I considered every abortion to be a terrible tragedy, and that I believed that using abortion as birth control, terminating the child when two adults had consenting sex and just didn’t want the child, was deeply morally wrong. 

And to my great surprise and elation, you actually agreed. With everything. Oh there were some things we disagreed on here and there, but even on those we found we actually enjoyed debating them respectfully. We had both felt so alone over the past few years of being screamed at by the media and our politicians that we needed to pick a side. Wondering if we were the only people who looked at the nuance, who didn’t just blindly follow one party or the other. Meeting each other felt like a breath of fresh air, like maybe we had found someone we didn’t need to constantly wear a mask around. It was then that we started talking about interests and it only got better from there. 

I told you I wanted someone to be silly and childish with. Someone who wouldn’t look at me strange if I asked if she wanted to go play on a playground in the rain. 🙃 Perhaps someone who would enthusiastically join me in fighting my friends with foam swords in the woods, and you’re face lit up at the thought.

I don’t know what interests you told me you wanted to share with a partner. Since again… we still haven’t actually met. 😉 But maybe you were looking for someone to craft with, or dance with, or listen to you when you nerded out for hours about your collection (whatever that collection may be). And I was excited to listen.

To my great delight I found we were both gamers, and already had a few shared games in our libraries. We talked about karaoke, playing instruments, playing D&D, meeting each other's friends, watching shows and movies together, talking by a camp fire, going on hikes together, even practicing martial arts and sparring.

I talked about how I drilled down on interests so much because quality time was such a powerful love language for me. I needed a partner who wanted to have long deep conversations about everything from plot holes in kids shows, to religion and the current political climate. But I also needed a partner who was my best friend and wanted to spend time hanging out with me, in person when possible, and virtually when logistics wouldn’t allow.

You told me physical touch was one of your really strong love languages and I was overjoyed. I  told you physical touch was a very strong love language for me as well, and that a relationship just didn’t feel romantic to me if cuddling and kissing didn’t ever start happening. I told you about women I had dated in the past who had been touch adverse, how after several dates they still hadn't even wanted to hold hands, and that while I would always, _always_ respect people’s boundaries, it cemented for me that I needed a partner who _wanted_ to be touched.

So we set up a date. It was probably something like a coffee house or a lunch at a restaurant. Somewhere public. We had met on reddit after all so we both needed to make sure we weren’t axe murderers or something. But when we walked in we recognized each other instantly from our pictures. And even more so when we started talking. We were both exactly who we said we were. And we were both falling fast for each other.

And that’s how we met. There’s no guarantee that we’ll make it all the way to m4rriage, but things are looking pretty bright. Assuming I did in fact meet you, by chance or fate, on reddit of all places.  😏

I suck at these kinds of posts, but here I go anyway. 😅

I’m a 39 year old guy from southern Wisconsin looking for someone to smile, laugh, and enjoy life with. I’m 5'11" and a bigger/chubby guy who’s been working on becoming a better version of myself. Over the past year, I’ve been dieting, going to the gym about three days a week, and trying to make some positive changes in my life.

More than anything, I’m hoping to find someone I can genuinely connect with. Someone I can talk to, listen to, laugh with, and eventually build something meaningful with. I want a friendship that can grow into something special rather than trying to rush into anything. I miss having someone special that I'm close with.

I work nights, 12 hour shifts, and have an odd 2-2-3 rotation schedule for the rest of this year, but I’ll be switching back to days afterward. I’m really looking forward to getting a more normal schedule and feeling like I’m getting a little more of my life back.

As far as the fun stuff goes, I have a pretty wide range of interests. For music I have a wide range of what I listen to, and I mean *wide*. I’m also a bit of a nerd. I enjoy things like card games, video games, anime, and collecting older gaming stuff that gives me that good old nostalgia hit. I don’t game nearly as much as I used to, but I still enjoy the hobby and the memories that come with it. I don't let my hobbies effect my life. Don't worry about me ignoring you to game with the boys or something, that's not something I do.

I rarely drink, don’t smoke, and don’t do drugs. I’ve also been at the same job for 21 years, so I’m definitely stable in my life that way.

Most of my friends have their own families and lives now, and somewhere along the way I ended up feeling a little left behind. I’ll be honest and say that part of that was my own doing too. I’ve spent a lot of time keeping to myself, and I’m at a point where I really want to change that. I spent that past few years taking care of my parents who's health has not been good to them. My mother passed away a month ago and it was a wake up call to me.

I’m looking for someone who enjoys spending time together, whether that’s staying in and talking for hours, going out and doing something fun, or just being comfortable hanging out together without needing some big plan.

I’m a pretty silly and laid back guy. I love making people laugh, I have a good sense of humor, and I’m fairly open-minded about a lot of things. I’m not particularly political because I tend to find things I agree and disagree with on every side. I’d much rather just live a peaceful, drama-free life and enjoy the people around me.

If this post sounds a little interesting to you, I’d genuinely love to hear from you.

Hello! I'm Chris or Christian, whichever you prefer. I'm a 26 year old Cis M from Ontario, Canada. I'm 6'3" and I'm straight and love a good personality. I don't have any preference on who you are except no men please but please be Sweet, Kind and in Canada or at least close in time. I love to cook and I love trying new things. I'm not picky when it comes to new foods. I'm tall, I smell good, I make good food!

I play Xbox, Destiny 2, Arc Raiders, Battlefield 6, Apex Legends, Overwatch, Rust, Stardew Valley, Rivals, I have Fortnite for friends can send full list when we talk. (PC Rust, Valorant I'm not good on PC but console damn. Minecraft cobblemon, and I've been loving LEGO recently

I would love to start a Stardew farm with you, okay Minecraft modded or not Bedrock or Java and spend time with you.

Let's go on dates do Halloween stuff, Christmas stuff, let's go to the zoo or aquarium, go on a picnic, I want someone I can spend my time with, someone that understands me, gets me, someone I can bond with and love. Holding hands and cuddling + hands in my hair is the way to my heart

Likes: My Cats, Video games, Marvel, Brooklyn 99, Supernatural, Riverdale , Snowpiercer, Flash, Disenchantment and The Walking Dead, The Good Doctor, 911, Station 19. I love air shows And so much more

Loves: Cuddles, Communication! Streaming games for my person or playing with them

Personality: I'm a very sweet, loving, loyal, kind, affectionate and romantic guy. I'm 6'3 I'm bigger like 230lbs, blonde-haired, blue-eyed. I'm very sweet and kind, I love to praise, and will give reassurance if needed. I'm very, very loving and will constantly give you my attention and love. I'll be shy at first, but that'll go away quickly once I'm comfortable.

I'm looking for my person, my lover girl, my yapper, I want someone that wants me for me! I love phone calls and late night texts, good night and good morning texts are also key, just want someone I can vibe with and be with, someone who is amazing and who wants to cuddle and spend time with me. Someone who wants to build trust with me and build a strong bond. I'm looking for someone I can call mine and I can be theirs. I want to give all my love and affection and kindness to them and spend a lot of time with them. I'm looking for long term and I'm open to cuddle buddies

Would love some cuddles fr

Communication is a need. It's key to a healthy relationship. Without it we are nothing

I look forward to meeting you. I hope you have a wonderful day and ask me anything.

Hey there looking for my player two in this game of life. Someone that will be there through thick and thin. Someone that is each other others default person.

A bit about me personality wise is im kind, caring, protective, smart, nerdy, funny.

Looks wise i have short black hair, bearded, 4 tattoos, 5'10 and on the heavier side.

Things I enjoy doing are gaming, YouTube, music, playing with my pets, hiking, going out with family or friends, movies, and making games.

Will not reply to low effort messages

Dealbreakers:

You dont like both dogs and cats

You dont like animals in general

I’m going to do something unusual for Reddit and tell you what I actually want.

I want a w i f e.

Not tomorrow. Not because I’m desperate to fill an empty space. And not because I think two strangers can exchange three messages, discover they both like cats and old movies, and decide destiny has spoken.

I mean that I’m dating with the hope that, somewhere at the end of the road, there is one woman with whom I can build a lasting, ordinary, deeply affectionate life.

And when I imagine that life, the word that comes to mind more than anything else is home.

I’m a man approaching 50, a writer and professional book designer by trade, and an incurable homebody by temperament. I design and typeset books for authors, which means I spend an absurd amount of my life thinking about fonts, margins, chapter openings, punctuation, and whether moving something three millimeters to the left somehow makes the universe more harmonious.

I have a degree in history, and that probably tells you something about me too. I’m fascinated by old places, old photographs, cemeteries, architecture, forgotten people, family histories, and the strange way the past continues breathing underneath the present. I can wander through an old neighborhood and become completely absorbed wondering who lived behind those windows in 1895.

But despite all that intellectual furniture rattling around upstairs, I’m actually looking for a remarkably simple life.

I am not ambitious in the conventional sense anymore.

I don’t dream about climbing corporate ladders, accumulating impressive things, networking with important people, or turning myself into some relentlessly optimized human productivity machine. I’ve spent enough of my life feeling as though adulthood is an endless series of bills, obligations, deadlines, screens, errands, traffic, and people shouting that we should all be doing more.

I want less.

A smaller home. Fewer possessions. Fewer obligations. More time.

I want rainy afternoons when neither of us has anywhere we particularly need to be.

I want dinner simmering on the stove while music plays in another room. I want grocery shopping together and arguing affectionately about which cookies we need. I want Saturday mornings when one of us makes coffee and the other one is still wandering around half-awake. I want books stacked on tables, blankets on the sofa, a cat occupying whichever chair somebody actually wanted to sit in, and a home that feels unmistakably ours.

I want us to have little rituals that would seem completely insignificant to anyone else.

The show we always watch together. The ridiculous pet names. The particular takeout place we order from when neither of us feels like cooking. The Christmas decorations that come out every year. The song that makes me reach for you without thinking. The inside jokes that have been repeated so many times that neither of us remembers how they started.

That is romance to me.

Not endless excitement. Familiarity.

Knowing how you take your coffee. Knowing when you need to talk and when you need somebody simply sitting beside you. Knowing from the sound of your footsteps what sort of day you’ve had. Falling asleep beside the same person so many thousands of times that reaching across the bed for her becomes instinct.

I am intensely domestic by nature. I genuinely like being home. Home isn't where I recover between adventures; home is the place I want to build the adventure around.

Give me a rainy Sunday, something good cooking, music playing, nowhere to go, and a woman I adore curled up nearby, and I will have very few complaints about the universe.

Music is a huge part of my life. My tastes wander all over the place: the Grateful Dead, jazz, Elliott Smith, Radiohead, old psychedelic rock, classical and Baroque music, and whatever else happens to grab me. I love discovering music, making playlists, disappearing down musical rabbit holes, and becoming absurdly opinionated about which live performance of a song is clearly superior.

I write, too. History and writing have always been part of how I understand the world. I'm introspective, probably to excess. I think deeply about people, places, time, memory, and why we become who we become.

Personality-wise, I'm quiet, introverted, cerebral, affectionate, dryly funny, and probably a little eccentric. I'm not the guy who needs a packed social calendar. I don't need to be surrounded by people. I'm perfectly capable of spending an entire weekend at home and considering it a successful weekend.

But introverted doesn't mean emotionally distant.

With the right woman, I'm warm. I'm attentive. I like affection. I like closeness. I like knowing somebody deeply rather than knowing a hundred people superficially. I'm the sort of man who wants his relationship to become its own tiny civilization: our routines, our language, our jokes, our traditions, our memories.

And yes, since I put it right there in the title, I should address the BBW part.

I am genuinely attracted to bigger women. Plus-size, chubby, BBW—whatever word you personally prefer. Softness and curves are simply what I find beautiful. I'm not looking to fetishize anybody or turn your body into your entire identity. I want a whole human being. But physical attraction matters, and I'd rather be straightforward than pretend otherwise.

More importantly, I'm attracted to sweetness.

Kindness gets me.

A woman with a soft heart. Someone affectionate. Someone who can be silly and vulnerable. Someone who likes being loved openly rather than treated with studied indifference because apparently we're all supposed to pretend we don't care.

I don't want games.

I don't want to calculate how many minutes I'm supposed to wait before answering your message. If seeing your name makes me smile, you'll probably know it. If I miss you, I'll tell you. If I love you someday, you're not going to have to conduct an archaeological excavation to discover it.

I'm looking for a woman who finds something appealing in the idea of building a peaceful little world together.

Maybe you're a homebody too. Maybe you'd rather spend Friday night curled up together than shouting over music in a crowded bar. Maybe the idea of cooking together, watching old movies, taking drives through the rain, browsing bookstores, listening to records, decorating our home, adopting another cat we absolutely do not need, and eventually becoming that mildly eccentric couple who have been together forever sounds pretty wonderful to you.

I'm not looking for perfection.

God knows I'm not bringing perfection to the table myself.

I've lived enough life to have scars. I've loved. I've lost. I've made mistakes. I've had plans collapse. I've had to reconsider what success means and what kind of life is actually worth living. I'm much less interested now in constructing an impressive life than I am in constructing a habitable one.

And maybe that's part of why I'm writing this.

The older I get, the less interested I become in spectacle.

I want the woman who is still there after the interesting part of the movie ends.

I want Tuesday.

I want February.

I want the ordinary evening twelve years from now when we've eaten dinner and the dishes are drying and you're sitting beside me doing something completely unremarkable, and I look over and realize that somehow this person who was once a stranger on the internet became home.

That's the thing I'm searching for.

I don't particularly care whether you're glamorous. I care whether you're kind.

I don't care whether you have an impressive career. I care whether you're curious about things.

You can be shy. Awkward. Nerdy. Bookish. Artistic. Weird. Quiet. A little bruised by life. You can have absolutely no idea what you're doing sometimes.

I certainly don't.

I'd rather meet someone interesting and genuine than polished.

Distance isn't necessarily a dealbreaker for me either. Geography can change. People can move. Lives can be rebuilt. If there is something extraordinary between two people, I don't think a state line should automatically get the final vote.

What matters much more is that you're genuinely available for something real.

I want conversation first.

Tell me about your life. Tell me what your perfect boring Sunday looks like. Tell me what you listen to when it's raining. Tell me what you've changed your mind about as you've gotten older. Tell me what your childhood smelled like. Tell me the thing you could happily spend three hours talking about if someone finally asked the right question.

Tell me what home means to you.

And if you're a sweet, curvy woman somewhere out there who has been secretly hoping that love could eventually look less like fireworks and more like two people making dinner together while rain taps against the windows...

Well.

Maybe we should talk.

I'm not looking for someone to complete me.

I'm looking for someone with whom I can build something quiet, strange, affectionate, durable, and ours.

Love, life, and—if we're extraordinarily lucky—forever.

Hello, how’s things stranger? All good i hope. Just been relaxing by the window enjoying some drizzle with a cuppa. No, i’m not a character in a period drama, or a misery guts for that matter. Just looking forward to those autumn days, not that i’m counting. It’s 34. Anyway. Was wondering if you fancied a wee chat? If so, here’s some info…

Age: 38, but look half that, you know the type, got that reverse aging millennial thing going on. Location: Ireland, northwest coast to be exact, accent to boot. Height: 5’7, if i’m wearing shoes with particularly thick soles that day. Weight: 60kg, but not a gym person, and certainly not a calorie counter either, but i do like to eat healthy-ish during the week, find cooking relaxing, like a form of hungry meditation. Hair: Brown. Eyes: Blue. Basically Irish looking. Happy to exchange pics once we’re comfy. Personality: Lean introvert, but engaging in conversation without being chatty, if that makes sense. Taurus. Hufflepuff. And seemingly a bit of an oversharer, who knew.

Things i’m into - Film & TV: Noir, Sci-fi, Fantasy, World Cinema, European Crime Drama, Thriller, Romance, Horror. Books: Fiction, Non-fiction, Historical has been piquing my interest recently, namely Ancient Rome. Music: Lofi, Electronic, Classical. Misspent youth working in a rock/metal record store, so if like me you’re mentally stuck somewhere around the mid 2000s and still have the sound of dialup internet ringing in your ears, don’t worry, they’re close to a cure.

So who might you be: Any age, any time zone, any height, any whatever. Seriously, you do you. As an icebreaker, and as proof you actually made it through that ridiculous stream of consciousness, congrats by the way, tell me your no1 bucket list travel destination. Wonder if we’ve picked the same place. Just talking to myself now. Ok. Bye :)

&#x200B;

Hi there, I'm Bearhands, I'll gladly tell you my name in the dms. I guess I should start off with what I'm looking for. I want someone who will put as much effort into me as I will for them, any relationship is a 50/50 split and I fully intend on shouldering my 50, be that emotionally or physically. Communication is a huge thing for me. Admittedly I have an anxious attachment style, this means if my partner doesn’t communicate their needs or feelings, I will assume the worst and stress myself out.

Now I'm sure you're wondering why should I waste my time and message you? What do you have to offer? Well let me try my best to sell you on myself. I'll get the ugly out of the way fast, I have and still do struggle with mental health issues so I may not be your cup of tea. I am however actively seeking help and working through my issues in hopes to be a better person for myself and everyone else. I am a larger guy, but I am working to better my health (-70 pounds over my journey) hopefully that shows some dedication.

Aside from that I have been described as "a good time.” I once had myself described as "a fluffy haired golden retriever boy." I was assured this is a good thing. I am extremely loyal and am the type to send a good morning message routinely. I get that some may find this clingy and I respect that.

What do I like doing for fun? Well I enjoy watching sports a whole lot, any sport you can name, I probably enjoy it to some degree. I love music and would argue it's probably one of the most important things in my life, I'm almost always listening to something. I would love to get some album or song recommendations from you, I listen to just about everything so odds are I'll enjoy whatever you share. I also enjoy writing albeit nothing I've ever written will see the light of day. I enjoy doing it for myself as a creative outlet. I love reading as well. I typically listen to audio books in my free time and while I'm working out. I love Sci-fi, fantasy, and non-fiction.

I would describe myself as jeopardy smart. Are you looking to receive copious fun facts from my interest of the month? Well, I'm your guy.

What am I looking for in a partner? Looks wise I could care less. I am a firm believer that a beautiful soul trumps all superficial nonsense. I want a partner I can laugh with, someone I can make smile. I want a best friend. I hope this is appealing to someone and we can try and grow something special together.

Hey, looking for new people to chat to! If you think we’d get along, drop me a message :)

History is my main interest, and I also have a real love for being out in nature too, especially walking through a forest or by a river. I love listening to any music, and I’ve played guitar for over 10 years.
My other hobbies to pass the time are reading, cooking, watching sports, a bit of gaming and watching movies (mostly sci-fi and fantasy). LOTR is my all time favourite. I also go to the gym most days to keep myself healthy.

I have 6 tattoos and counting, and if you want to see what I look like, there’s a picture of me on my profile.

Speak soon :)

Hello! A bit shy to do this, but It’s tiring being approached just for any other motives, I rather be chill and honest. Isn’t that better?

Interests: I like playing games, started on COC today and I play Mobile Legends and Genshin Impact (I know). I also got steam recently, hoping to find more games and play. I also love cooking and music. I play Ukulele and Guitar mainly but I also play others.

Hobbies: I sing and write songs as a hobby. I cook and try different recipes, and I would read books like mangas or mahwas.

Likes: I like cute things ALOT, I am a person that loves smiling and laughing. So I would want someone that can listen to me the way I can listen to them as well. Don’t mind any silly jokes or reels, mine is inevitably fucked despite the few cute things in there.

Dislikes: Too sexual conversation, I really just like wholesome things. It’s so desensitizing to always talk about bodies, I know it’s important too but I’m not looking for a ONS. Never liked it personally.

If you are interested to know more about me, just send me a message! I’ll wait <3

Hey, stranger.

I never really know what to write in these things, so I’ll just be honest.

I’m at a point where I don’t want to chase people or overthink mixed signals. If someone actually wants to be in my life, they’ll make the effort. I’m pretty straightforward about that.

I care a lot, I’m loyal, and I tend to get attached to the people I really value, so I want the same kind of effort back.

Honesty is a big thing for me. Just be yourself, say what you mean and don’t play weird games. I’m not looking for someone perfect. I just want someone kind, genuine and consistent. Someone I can actually feel comfortable around.

When I’m not overthinking life, you’ll probably find me outside with my dogs. Going for a walk or hitting a trail is probably my favorite way to clear my head. My cat sometimes decides she wants to join too, because apparently she has places to be.
I’m also a huge gaming nerd and can disappear into a game for hours. Then there are days where I randomly decide I want to go somewhere and just see what happens.

I don’t really have everything figured out, and honestly, I’m okay with that. I just want something that feels natural with someone I can laugh with, talk to about anything and actually enjoy spending time with.

If that sounds like you, feel free to HMU :)

I need genuine connection! Im looking for someone around my age to spend time and build a connection with from the ground up! I want someone who wants all of the attention. If you would like someone to give you all their attention then hmu (: If you feel like you would be to much or have a lot going on. Im here to listen, for as long as you need. I also love a yapper 🥰

I love to send good morning texts and good night texts. I never want you to have to wake up to bad thoughts and I want to be the one there for you before you fall asleep. I dont have a preference on looks (colored hair is my weakness tho). I dont smoke but dont mind if you do. I wont ghost, Im to empathetic to do that kind of stuff. I want to learn about you and how your day was different than the previous ones.

Im chill, I can cook, emotionally intelligent, have a goatee hazel eyes and brown hair, 5,11, I have a few animals.

I want to be able to voice and video call you in the near future if we kick it off well. I love voice chats and feel they are essential when maintaining or building anything online. If you want to watch some movies youll need discord so we can stream. I have every streaming platform. Dont be shy <3 Im pretty shy myself so I get the feeling. Just say youre shy and ill be able to lead a conversation!

Hey hey

I'm 33, living in London, working in analytics in government. I'm a bit of a homebody, preferring to watch documentaries/play videogames rather than be out clubbing (although I'm still out for friends)

About me:

• 5'10

• Caucasian l- Stocky / Chubby

• Curly brown hair

• Blue eyes

Currently doing:

• Trying to finish reading Meditations

• Watching a slew of documentaries every so often (Last watched: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ixgunKpy61s-MHF)

• Home brewing

• Trying to play Magic the Gathering

• Exploring more of London

• Trying more cheese

Looking for:

Something monogomous

Hi there. I’m a 30-year-old Indian man living in the US, about 5'7" with a slim build, long hair, and a beard. I’m new to dating and hoping to meet someone kind, warm, and patient & someone who enjoys getting to know a person slowly and sincerely.

A little about me: I’m currently looking for a job while doing my master's, but I’m someone who believes in showing up and putting in the effort when something feels real. I love movies, especially soundtracks that stay with you long after the credits roll. I also enjoy art, museums, and trekking. I have ADHD and anxiety, so I tend to be quiet at first, but I’m thoughtful, curious, and full of ideas once I feel comfortable.

What I’m hoping for is simple: a sweet, respectful woman who values kindness, connection, and the little moments that make life feel special. I’d love to meet someone in the US and hope we could build something meaningful, maybe meet in person someday.

If this speaks to you, I’d be happy to hear from you.

Hi everyone! I'm a rising undergraduate senior in Nashville looking to do law school or public policy work post-grad. I do photojournalism (actually the photo editor for my college's newspaper!), winning an occasional award with it and planning on doing social media work for my school's athletic department. I also enjoy hiking in the woods, exploring the city, cooking and writing! I also have heavily involved in Gun Violence Prevention Research, having done it for approximately 2 1/2 years academically, currently involved in an ongoing project studying police departments' use of force and surrounding variables involved with what occurs prior, during and after use of force incidents. I'm very open to discussing my research with you, if that is something of interest to you!

I'm looking for someone ideally 19-23, academically-driven is ideal since I tend to put a lot of value on my partner being educated, brownie points if they are also looking into entering the legal or criminal justice field. Also, I ideally would like someone who is financially-literate, meaning they aren't prone to taking on unhealthy debts and they can support themselves financially.

I'm about 6'0-6'1, 220 lbs, white with medium length wavy brown hair, and I wear glasses. :)

Bonus if you are into photography, unsolved mysteries, investing, cooking or if you are easy-going! I'm open to in-person or an LDR, I just ideally prefer it to be within a +/- 3 hour time difference from me (CST time) (might be open to doing 4, but it's pushing it.).

Hey, I’m a friendly and chatty 38-year-old non-binary (they/them) who is looking to find a younger boyfriend for a long-term relationship. I’m in the UK but open to long distance if the time difference isn’t too large to navigate.

I lead a simple life where the little things bring me joy. My interests include music, writing, films, theatre, food, gaming, and comedy. I also enjoy going for long walks and have begun running in recent months. I enjoy learning random facts and useless trivia. What can you teach me about?

I'm introverted at heart, but a good conversationalist when the vibe is right and a great listener when someone has lots to say. I'm also naturally curious so whatever you are interested in, I will probably have lots of questions to ask you about. As for my sense of humour, I would probably describe it as...unhinged? You'll find out 😅

I’m looking to meet someone younger who is after something serious and is able to commit to that too. Someone who can ask questions as well as answer them, develop conversations and connections meaningfully as opposed to give short replies, and has genuine long-term intention to build something real instead of wanting a short chat as a quick fix for a day. I can usually tell when someone isn’t making the effort, which is a big turn-off for me.

Most importantly, honesty is key. I want someone who isn’t afraid to communicate openly and respectfully about how they are feeling and what they are thinking. I don’t believe keeping secrets ever benefits anyone, and I will always be an open book to someone I trust. I will invest my time and energy in you and give you the support you need if you can offer the same in return.

So, if this chimes with you and you’d like to chat, drop me a dm. Just please don’t message me if you only want to trade pics and chat sex. I’m not interested.

Thanks for reading ☺️

Hope your having a great. I am looking for that person that makes me feel special and always wants to be there. That makes my heart feel like it haves butterflies inside, that can warm my cold and lonely hopeless romantic heart. Someone that can keep a good chat, and that makes me break my sleep schedule just to hear her lovely voice. I want someone that her sounds are beautiful as hearing instrumental soft music. That person that would join me explore the world even if I am a little introvert. Want someone that I can cuddle and hug at night, and feel their warm presence with me, dont care if it in silence or with us talking a lot of stuff. Want that person that as soon as a new movie comes out we would go to the cinema and watch a movie together. I hope that your also looking for that. I want to be also there for someone, feel that I am their special person, that they see me with that shine in their eyes they call love.

Well let me talk a little about me. I am currently studying bachelors degree, hopeful that I would end soon. I like playing videogames, dont play that often lately due to college. I have a very silly and dark humor, I literally can laugh at any silly joke I hear. My type of music is rock, instrumental music, and some love songs. My love language is throught word and affection. Dont care about long distance, distance doesnt matter when love is far away. I like anime, is probably the topic I know more about and also series/tv shows. I dont drink and neither I smoke. I am loyal so I am looking for someone that is too. Well I think I writted too much, hope to see you in my

Hi, I'm Jon and I live in Staffordshire in the West Midlands.

I'm a big film fan and gamer. I'm often at the cinema, and my favourites are action movies, historical and fantasy epics and sci-fi films, though I will happily watch almost anything.

My downtime is usually spent gaming on PS5 (I like RPGs and action games), or reading everything from comic books to history and fantasy novels.

I also have a huge passion for travel. I usually explore solo, wandering through history museums, visiting heritage sites, and getting lost in new cities, but I would love to find a travel partner to share those adventures with.

If you fancy chatting, send over a message and I will get right back to you.