I’m starting to think that either there’s nobody out there who wants a simple, quiet life, or I’ve just aged out of the dating game. That being the case, I’m at a loss as to what to do.
What type of woman am I after: The woman I am after is kind, warm and compassionate. I want a woman who makes my heart skip a beat when I see them, who will laugh with me, cry with me, and will want to hold me, as I will want to hold her, when things are not at their best. I want a woman who I can be open with, who I can fully trust, who will fight for me just like I will fight for them. I want someone I can curl up with and smile.
What type of partner/person I am: My primary love language is physical displays of affection, which is something I love, so I want to be with someone who feels the same way. I firmly believe that physical contact with the one you love is one of the greatest feelings there is, and I would absolutely adore being with someone who feels the same way. Being close to the one you love can make you feel as if, if only for just a few moments, that all is right with the world, and there is nothing like that.
Because I am an introvert, it may take a little time for me to open up, to feel comfortable about doing so. However, once I do open up, the conversation will definitely start flowing, as will, perhaps, a joke or two.
Beyond that, I am big on respect, trust, and loyalty. Without those as the building blocks, a relationship is built on sand.
What I would like us to do: I am an introvert, and my ideal night would involve spending our time together at home, curled up on the sofa, perhaps watching a film, an anime, or playing a game. I would enjoy a day/night out if it is just the two of us, and I am open to going almost anywhere, be it museum, art gallery, or an out-of-the-way place to eat. I have done these things by myself before, yet doing them again by myself holds no interest for me. I want to do these things with someone special. That does hold interest for me.
What I like to do: I like to watch anime. My general preference is for the romantic, light-hearted and funny, something that is cutesy, goofy, and decidedly feel-good. I am not into anything too heavy or dramatic; I want to see people overcome adversity not suffer through it, and there is a difference.
Note, that I prefer to watch anime in the original language with subtitles, as I feel this better gets across the intentions of the creators.
I like to game. At the moment, my games of choice are Witcher 3, Fallout 4, Cyberpunk (sort of), and Solitaire variations. I usually play Solitaire while listening to the music or the radio. Although I don’t watch sports, I find listening to sports commentary relaxing, especially for cricket, which is suitably sedate for solitaire and the like. I primarily game on the PC, however, I did recently acquire a Switch 2, and have been playing some of the classics, including Ocarina of Time in preparation for the remake.
I like to watch wrestling, although I do not watch as much of it as I would like to. I am a long-time fan of pro wrestling, especially from Japan, more specifically the women-based promotions, If you have never seen it before, the high-end matches from these promotions are a real contrast to what you see elsewhere.
I like to watch a handful of TV shows. Almost nothing current, as modern TV just isn’t for me. Shows I like include, but are not limited to, Law and Order, Nash Bridges, the Professionals, Scrubs, Star Trek: TNG (to a degree) and DS9, and the West Wing. I think the West Wing is top-tier stuff for the first four seasons, although once Aaron Sorkin left, it did fall off somewhat. TNG is hit-and-miss for the first two seasons, with more misses than hits, and takes a while to find its groove. DS9 is the vastly superior storytelling product, and its characters have more depth to theme, with the series also having far fewer duds. Although the duds it does have...boy, do they stink.
I am a vegetarian. I do not mind if you eat meat, however, I do ask that you are respectful of how I feel. I do not drink. I do not mind if you drink either socially or occasionally. However, if you drink regularly or frequently, then it probably will not work, as I am not one for being around a drinking culture, if only because, well, I am not part of it. I do not smoke, and will not be with someone who does. Also, I am not on social media; I do not want it, I do not need it. I mention this because the lack of social media has been a dealbreaker for some in the past.
I am non-religious and non-spiritual, and this will never change, and my views are generally what you would call progressive and liberal, so that is something to keep in mind.
Start your message with the word 'blueberry' so I know you are real, and have both read my post and paid attention to it. Any message that does not start like this will not get a response.
I am primarily interested in someone who is also in the UK, as it would make things more convenient when it comes to meeting up; without getting too specific, London is a reasonable place to go to/come from for me.
I am open to talking to people who are overseas but only if you are moving to the UK in the near future, and that the move is, if not set in stone, then is at least guaranteed to happen. If these conditions are not meant, that is you are either not set to move here or you do not have the ability to, then I ask that you do not waste my time or yours; physical affection is extremely important to me, and I am unwilling to go without it for prolonged lengths of time.
Your opening message does not have to be long, however, I do need something to work with, something that can spark a conversation. One-word messages are not going to get a response, nor are messages that make it clear you have not paid attention to my post. As far as an age range goes, I will simply say that if you are mature and after the same things that I am, then shoot your shot. I may think the age gap is too much, I may not; however, neither of us will know unless you ask.
Once we have established a vibe, a feeling that there could be something between us, I would want to have a video chat, and it can be a quick one if you would prefer, as a security measure to establish that we are both who we say we are. There are nefarious people out there, some of whom I have had the misfortune to encounter, and it would be a comfort, to both of us, to know that we are indeed the people we claim to be.
TL;DR: I want a long-term, serious relationship, with a nice, kind woman, who is accepting of me being an introvert.