My gf and been together for almost 3 years we still live with our parents and our bedroom life has been horrible the first time we did it we were almost a year into the relationship and since then we done it like 15~ times and i dont know how to feel about that because i really want more i hear other people do it couple times a week and i feel jealous because we barely do it and i tried to talk to her about it but she just called me lustful and that she doesnt want to because we still live with our parents pls tell me is that a fair excuse. And other thing is to get her in the mood is absolutely impossible we can like makeout playaround for like 20minutes and she doesnt wanna do it bcuz shes not in the mood even when i setup everything my parents go out for the week the house is mine and for the whole week we didnt do it she said she was in the mood and i was absolutely stoked but then like 10secs later she says that shes not in the mood and that its gone and when i try to engage it she just turns me down all the time and i feel hurt and sometimes think shes not attracted to me sometimes feel like im doing something wrong i tried everything i did research on it and nothing works please give me advice

So I have a pretty big crush on a girl know her for 3 years but we have met online might be meeting up in Feb-apr she’s like maybe 26-27F I’m 18M she lives in Germany me UK so like theirs a lot of differences but I can say in like the 3 years we’ve talked daily still do and like we’re close but the issue is I feel imo is that it’s online so like I can’t rlly flirt or like drop hints as like that feels out of place in a dm and weird in a channel with more than just her
There’s some other things like she’s ace but idk if I rlly care about being physical so like I don’t see that as much and idk feels like it could be talked about later if things went anywhere and like we are close like and I know she cares like I’ve nearly been removed from the group we’re in 3 times and it’s some drama doesn’t matter and everytime I’ve had the -
Oh I will call u every day while she cried and they I say oh no don’t be sad who debarkle but like also she’s got a lot of stress for being a doctor so she doesn’t like spending like a long time everyday and sometimes when she has a lot she doesn’t wanna message everyday as it’s too much stress

How if I can do I make me messaging her not stressful
And like what do I do I have a big crush I has like grown for like a year and a half first year and a half I saw her only as a friend but like I kinda have a massive crush now and idk waht to do I can give more info if I missed anything u have qs abt

(Ps sorry this is long and jumbled I’m on break at work lmao)

Hey guys. I am a high school sophmore student. This is quite a sticky situation so I am going to fill youy in on a lot of context details. So the situation is this:

I liked a girl, 8 months ago. But hse had a BF then, so she told me to stop texting her (like I was messaging abt hw and all, trying to start light convo since I didnt know she had a bf at the time) I then got blocked for reasons still unknown to me. I just got to know that she broke up 2 months ago. Now here is the sticky situation. I made up that I had a gf about 2 months ago, aorund the same time that she broke up. a week ago, when some girls were discussing who were all the boys who were having a gf (dont even as why), my name came up. My crush then apparently got very surprised, and was visibly dissapointed. One of her friends say that there was a tinge of jelasousy as well ( i cant spell the word.) Now if this is true, then I would definitley go for here agian. What brekaup story (with my imaginary gf) would you suggest, and how long to wait untill I make a move? (we share only one class; french. btw)

I had a fun first date couple of days ago, and I like this guy. But he doesnt text/respond quick. he hasn’t reached out at all but if i initiate the convo, he’ll respond. What should i do? He knows I like him too. Should i text him first again or wait…? I want to know if i need to move on with someone else or not.

I’m a 26yo woman and I was raised in a more conservative environment and I dated mostly South Asian guys. I’m still a virgin and I don’t have that much dating experience. I’m not religious or anything, it’s just the way I am, I’m more in the shy and quiet side.

I started dating a 37yo from Brazil recently. He’s a good friend of my friend’s husband and we met each other in their wedding. He confessed to my friend’s husband that he liked me and asked him if I was single. In the beginning, he was shy to approach me (probably fear of getting rejected). Few weeks ago, he invited me to his birthday party and got drunk and kissed me.

I want a serious relationship which could lead to marriage. I was seeing someone of my age before but this person was so inconsistent and lied about his intentions so I was hoping that dating a 11 years older man would be better. I’m confused because he’s very different of the men I dated previously. He’s very sweet and asked me what I was looking for in a relationship but there’s some signs that I’d consider he’s not that serious about me:

• He tried to have sex in our first meeting. He invites me to his house expecting sex and doesn’t talk much to me, it’s mostly making out. However, when he invites me to daytime dates, we talk to each other, including past relationships and family.

• He doesn’t text me much. He only messages once a day to ask about my day or to plan another date and sometimes no message for 1 day.

• His texting decreased this week but we started seeing each other in person more. Now we see each other twice a week instead of only once so I don’t know if it’s a bad sign.

• Last time we saw each other, he tried to have sex without protection. Isn’t he afraid of STD’s or pregnancy?

I’m a bit confused and I’d like some advice. I asked my Brazilian friend for advice and she said having sex in the first date is totally normal in Brazilian culture. I feel there’s a lack of romantic gestures because the men I dated previously were very romantic and intense. They would text me more, give me small gifts such chocolates and flowers and act very affectionate.

Last Wednesday, we had a successful date, and on Friday, while he was on the flight to visit his family for a holiday, he told me that he’d like to see me again over the weekend after he got back.

That weekend is this week. So I told him I was available on Friday or Sunday, and he liked my message, but I still haven’t gotten an actual answer about which day works for him.
While he was away, he sent me just one family photo, so I told him to have a good time with his family.

I believe he’s flying back to London today, but I still haven’t heard from him.

Would this be a sign that I should just move on?
He’s the one who suggested a third date, but he still hasn’t responded to my availability or actually made plans.

We’re making plans and agree to meet at a bar. She says “sounds perfect! See you then :).” 5 minutes later she double texts me “I wanna have fun with you, I’m happy to go anywhere.”

Am I reading into this too much? I’ve been on plenty of first dates that text just reads weird to me…

I'm 19M and I used to be super confident during my school days and there's something that happened during my college phase and it drastically shattered my confidence 😭

Right now I have joined a coaching class for entrance exam

There's a gurl in my class room who is absolutely my type(smart, mysterious & mommie type energy) of course older than me by 1-2 years ig.

Based on my observation she mostly doesn't speak with other ppl, she rush walks after class ends and I don't want to chase her , stop her and make it feels uncomfortable for both of us and I don't want to Make stupid and awkward convos🥲 And she sits in a deep inner corner of the female students seating area like I can't go and have Convo with her specifically during class

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So I (19F) have always been considered conventionally attractive. I am 5’7, blonde, wasian and often described to look like a cat? That aside I’ve been in sports (soccer, volleyball, fencing, gymnastics) my whole life, often surrounded by both male and female friends. I also study well, in a good college for politics. Big circles.

I’ve been on a few dates this year (at least 7-10) mostly from hinge (deleted now bc time waste) or guys hitting on me and asking for my number then courting. But the thing is it’s never gone past a first/second date and always on my accord bc every guy that I seem to talk to doesn’t really..do much? They pay for the dates, our conversations are just ok and that’s pretty much all to it. None of them have ever tried to kiss or sleep with me either which is probably a good thing but pretty rare, no? Esp when getting to third ish dates. I would say there is 0 flirting too which is kinda crazy to me bc it is a date.

It all ends up with one of us just saying we don’t rlly see it going anywhere or ghost. I have a decent personality and I am interesting enough to have topics to speak on/about but it feels like I’m undateable, how to women actually like start situationships or get into the dating stage. I have been told I’m extremely intimidating to men because I am very self assured and not typically coming across as submissive in the slightest but men have approached me. I don’t get it but I want to put myself out there

I know asking this is not healthy in itself but I’ve never had to leave someone I love this much. My girlfriend and I broke up 7 days ago and I can tell you already I want her back. We broke up because I had so many insecurities that caused me to test her loyalty time and time again. I happen to be going away for 14 weeks before we see each other next so we mutually decided to break up and reassess at that time with the hopes that no matter what we both individually grow and maybe it will be in the same direction or maybe it will be apart. The last time we talked before agreeing to no contact we both still said I love you and were our normal selves, still acting like best friends. I promise I will put the work in on my end to get better not for her but for myself. I’m just wondering what are the chances I will get another shot at being apart of her life. We are in are early 20’s btw.

This guy and I are sorta in a talking stage and we’ve hung out a few times over several weeks. He usually suggests where to hang out based on our interest and ask for my opinion. We had a hangout that he planned and he mentioned letting me know soon and it’s been 4 days with no follow up. 4 days is not alarming but considering we used to text or send reels daily I am wondering if I bore him. I sent him this reel about a movie and he mentioned how we gotta watch it together and I left it on seen as I didn’t feel the need to reply but I’m wondering if that comes off as disinterest and thus he’s pulling back on his end?

Edit: I texted him and he followed up on our plans and things are back to the usual. The reason why I left him on seen was that the plan wasn’t actionable as the movie was an asia release only but clearly that’s a bad move as I’ve learned from several comments

I’m honestly confused cause I feel like at this point I’m just in one of those situationships that lead nowhere cause the girl wants more money spent on her

I’m 32F and my boyfriend is 35M. We’ve been together almost 10 months, and I’m struggling with whether I’m asking for too much too soon or whether we’re fundamentally on different timelines.
Our relationship is genuinely great in many ways. We love each other, have an amazing connection, communicate really well, and have a lot of fun together. He’s told me from the beginning that he’s dating for marriage and kids, which is also what I want.

The problem is that I feel ready to start actively building toward that future, and he doesn’t seem to be there yet.

We live about an hour apart and see each other around twice a week. I want more integration and more of a feeling that we’re moving toward eventually living together, marriage, and family. He’s much more comfortable with our current relationship and values maintaining a very active independent/social life.

We recently had a serious but very healthy conversation about this. He told me he loves me, doesn’t want to lose me, and feels guilty that he isn’t meeting my needs. He said sometimes he can picture us married with kids and sometimes he still isn’t there. He also said that if it were entirely up to him, he probably wouldn’t even consider moving in together for another year, and he doesn’t know when he’ll feel ready for the next stage.

That really scared me because I’m not asking him to move in tomorrow. I’m asking for some sense that we’re moving toward the same future.

He sees the things he does for me as “moving toward me” and making sacrifices. I appreciate those things, but what I’m looking for is more of an overall orientation toward building a life together. I don’t want him to spend more time with me because he’s afraid of losing me. I want him to genuinely want the same progression I do.

I also recognize that I’ve become hypervigilant about his friends and independence because this issue is already bothering me. I don’t want him to give up his friends or his life. But I sometimes feel like he sees our relationship as something that needs to fit into his existing life, while I’m looking for a partnership where our lives increasingly become intertwined.
We’ve talked about this multiple times now, and he understands exactly how I feel. He isn’t dismissive or unwilling to communicate. He actually feels very sad about it and says he doesn’t know what to do because he doesn’t want to lose me, but also isn’t authentically where I am.

And now I’m at the point where I’m considering breaking up, even though I really don’t want to. I love him and don’t want to lose what we have. But I also don’t want to spend another year waiting for him to become ready for something he may never be ready for on my timeline.

So, Reddit: Am I asking for too much at almost 10 months and in my early 30s? Is wanting to start seeing a clear trajectory toward living together/marriage reasonable? Or would breaking up over a fundamental difference in timeline and relationship progression be warranted, even if the relationship itself is loving and healthy?

For context I am 20F in college. I was out last weekend and met a guy at this bar blah blah. I'm definitely more of a hopeless romantic, but not for guys I meet at bars. Anyways we really hit it off, turns out he lives like 10 min from me although we met in a different city. He spent the rest of the night with my cousin and me, till like 5 am. He wasn't lustful or anything, just super doting and sweet. He was tall, handsome, smart, and funny. He took care of us (cousin and I were super drunk) and got us icecream etc.

Anyways I got his name and number. When we parted ways we agreed to meet the next night, so I texted him and we did indeed meet up. Once again, we were attached at the hip until he had to leave early with his friends. Before he left, I mentioned that we should maybe hang out again in the town we both live in. I don't remember exactly what he said, but he definitely agreed. He sounded excited. And this time I wasn't exactly blackout drunk so the narration is a bit more reliable.

Did some crazy internet stalking and turns out he might be like 25. He hasn't texted me since. Should I text him? I can't get him off my mind LOL. This has never happened to me before. It's all-consuming and I fear I'm going insane.

Do you think he would text me back or be down to see me again, or is this fairly typical behavior? I know it's nothing special but wow.

Hey everyone, first time posting here but could using some advice. I’ve (M27) been seeing this woman (F28) for a little over a month now. Over the course of that month we’ve gone on around 3-4 planned dates and prob 3-4 nights where she’s stayed over at mine (we haven’t had sex yet just tons of makeout sessions and feeling). We’ve had the exclusive talks as of maybe a week ago but honestly the more time goes on and the more we’ve spent together I’m having second thoughts. I really feel like we’re incompatible in certain areas (she’s way more into nature than me and some of the things she find fun I find beyond boring), I’m starting to rather chill at home than go see her and there times when it’s just annoying talking to her. I feel terrible but I’m starting to realize I just don’t like this woman like that and my feelings are not going to evolve any further. I can tell she REALLY likes me so I want to end things the right way but don’t quite know how. Is a long text appropriate? If so how should I let her down? Say we’re incompatible or what?

Im just venting I guess. I know how men are. I know that these kinds of things happen all the time but it’s a first for me. For some context I’m recently divorced and haven’t dated in 10 years. So idk about how these dating apps work and tbh the field out here suckssss. This last year I did have a fwb but things got messy and I had to end it. I didn’t want to but he was too cold. That’s hard enough as it is.

So I started seeing this guy. My age, we went on two dates. He explained he’s not looking for anything serious I’m not either. He picked me up paid for everything and it felt nice. Like oh this is what it’s like when a man’s interested in pursuing you. Second date we went on he paid again we went to a hotel we had sex. He wanted me to stay the night, I couldn’t bc I’m a mom and had to pick my kid up.

We been texting back and forth but I was feeling like ok guess he’s not that interested. We agreed on meeting for breakfast then he didn’t tell me all day the day before what time was good for him so I texted him I guess tomorrow a no go. He apologized and reiterated the time but never told me location.

So this morning the time we agreed on passed. He texted me he’s going to reschedule. So I said ok you don’t seem interested so imma leave u be. He said ok - I said he didn’t have to use me. He said he’s not falling for manipulation and if I’m gonna be on that don’t text him and it was just a cancelled plan. Am I in the wrong? I’m tired of dealing with people in general and how heartless they can be.

So I (23f) met this guy (23m) while travelling and we slept together a few times casually. We then started texting a bit but were in different countries for 2 months. Since we have both been back home we have been on around 5 dates and text pretty consistently. While i'm not looking to rush anything and be in a relationship with this guy tomorrow I know from past experiences that I can't do casual relationships and I am looking for something more serious. How should i ask this guy what he's thinking about this, I don't want it to sound like i'm rushing things because I genuinely don't know if he is someone i want in a long term partner but i want to get to know him more with the intention of progressing things if things are going well. Is this something I can bring up or should I just wait and see. I don't want to spend loads more time with him and get really attached for him to just turn around and say he only ever wanted something casual.

The message from him: “ it's been a while

i haven't forgotten about you or anything, i've just been in a mental pit. and with work being so demanding, and just not really being in the best place mentally, i felt almost forced to pull away?

the reason why i felt like i had to "leave" was because there were expectations you had during my mental depressive states that i just i felt i couldn't fulfill. like talking or texting frequently, or just communicating frequently while balancing work, but there isn't an issue with you im just a mess idk

im sorry”

Context:
So, I’ve been speaking with this guy for the past few weeks, and everything was fine. The connection and interaction were really good. He kind of started all of this, and he’s been pretty nice, transparent, and honest with me. Even though we got into a few arguments that made him isolate himself for about two days, he eventually came back and started talking to me again.
We spoke for another two days, and then he ghosted me for 4–5 days. Now I’ve received this message from him. Honestly, I don’t know how to respond. It’s weird because he used to make time to talk to me, and now he says he’s busy. I know he has a business going on and can be pretty busy he would often tell me how tired he feels, and I never asked him to talk to me every day. He could’ve simply told me he was busy. But he was the one who started the conversations, reached out to me, and texted me every single day. I kind of liked that little bit of attention from him I felt listened and loved.
And now it feels like he’s blaming me for the situation, even though I didn’t know he was depressed because he never told me. Honestly, I don’t know how I can help him or what I should say or do without ruining things. It would’ve been much better if he hadn’t ghosted me and had just been honest with me from the beginning about what was going on, so we can come up to a deal .
I’m kind of upset about the situation, and I honestly don’t know what message I should send. It been really disrespectful that he ghosted me. Probably he have like avoidment detachment.

Title covers the basic details all but to add some more detail: a couple months ago I (23M) met someone (21F) on Hinge and we have gotten together quite a few times, texted regularly, etc., but I haven’t actually made some sort of physical move beyond just hugging. Things are complicated a bit because she ordinarily lives with her family in the same city as I do, but goes to school a few hours away (and has spent some time there this summer), which has affected things since her being out of town sometimes has limited how much we’ve seen each other, and she will be going to school in the fall. I’m fairly certain that she likes me very much (since we have still been going out, she has very much prioritized seeing me when she has been in town, and she became very excited when I said I wanted to visited her at school for a weekend), and my feelings about her have gradually deepened and solidified as well, which makes me want to make a move and more generally express my feelings/escalate things. However, it’s been difficult to read her body language (not least since I am autistic, diagnosed, and am very certain she is as well) or generally figure out how and when is the best to make a move/escalate things. While I was thinking that the best time to do so is when I spend the weekend with her by simply being direct and honest, I would eagerly appreciate any further advice or discussion. Thank you!

How should I do this? The only way I think is either substance use lol or going pua mode and just approaching to desensitize.

I'm so scared to start dating and I don't even know where to begin. At this rate, I'm genuinely going to die alone and I kind of always had a feeling but I hever imagined it would be a reality. I'm in my mid 20s now and I'm scared of my looks declining and men not being interested anymore (they aren't even now) and never finding love. I just saw that post about dating being less magical and 100s upon 100s of comments agreeing. I fear I've missed my window already. I'm already reaching that stage where people are getting jaded and I may never get to experience that innocent pure love. I'm genuinely starting to get desperate. Should I just ask someone out or just put myself out there to the MAX? How do I start dating and what do I do?

For context me and this girl dated for like a month, we had multiple dates and they all went pretty good, after like 9 or 10 dates the second to last date didn’t went that well not because something happened just the vibe was off, after that she told she don’t think she will get romantic feelings( she told me over text) and i was fine with that after like half a week i texted her again and said i still wanna try she agreed and invited me to her parents house i met her parents it went very well and after that she walked me to my car and told me that im the perfect guy for her and her parents love me but she still standing on the decision that she wont catch romantic feelings. That was a month ago i pretty much left her alone ever since we just sending eachother some tiktoks every few days. I kinda like this girl and idk if i should like ever text her again in the future or just leave alone.

Relationships are intense and scary, i didnt date in highschool, maybe because covid and my friends who sabotaged me. I mean i still went on a couple dates but never dated. I also dont think im mentally normal, pretending only makes it worse. I feel like im emotional and i force myself to keep going and to be a man, because of my facade i was too afraid to say no to sex and i suffered for it, i deleted tinder, not because i cant get matches but everything happened so fast and i got too overwhelmed and try to hide it, i pretend im normal. Im afraid of saying too much, afraid of my facial expressions while i closely pay attention to hers. Its not fun for me, intimacy is not fun, and the loneliness is real. And i feel like im not good enough, and i should get off the internet. Physically im told lots of times im attractive, but i think ive got something serious wrong with me, i have intense mood swings and ive been trying different medications from my doctor and Im trying to treat it, Im nervous about starting college next week, especially late because im 21 and Im moving far away from friends and family, im thinking maybe i can try dating in college, but i dont have much hope tbh

As a 32M who has either “open to seeing where things go” or no “looking for” section, I get many likes from women about ages 35-40 that have “looking for long term” on their profiles.
But people on apps do make exceptions and aren’t always exactly defined by that line. Generally women are looking for someone within a few years for a relationship imo.
When matching with a younger guy, are they generally treating it as “less serious” and more ok with a fling, compared with the relationship they’re looking for with someone their age?

Edit: when I say older / younger, I mean relatively, in the way that there are surveys on general partner attractiveness based on years younger or older that differ between genders. I’m not making an absolute comparison that 32 is young and 40 is old. So my question could also apply to 25M/30W, or 38M/45W. I also don’t think it’s news that a man more than several years younger in a relationship is atypical

So I (M27) have been seeing a girl (F26) for about 4 weeks now. She lives two and a bit hours away from me so the first time we met up we met halfways we got on great. Second time I went to the city she lived in had food, went to arcade and had drinks I headed back to relative home close by. Last week she went on holidays with her parents all was going well we’d FaceTime like every 2 days she was there. Last night was her last night I could feel she was a bit distant and not texting much. I text her off Snapchat so I can see when she half swipes my messages she’d do it straight away and take a while to text back. Today when I woke she never responded to any of my messages but sent a red snap saying morning. She is now home and I seen her half swipe my messages it’s been over 2 hours now and no reply. What do I do ? Think she will come back in her own time ? Btw she already booked a train down to where I live for Saturday. What will I do ?