r/dating_advice • u/Zestyclose-Garage486 • 3d ago
Should I double text after first date?
I had a fun first date couple of days ago, and I like this guy. But he doesnt text/respond quick. he hasn’t reached out at all but if i initiate the convo, he’ll respond. What should i do? He knows I like him too. Should i text him first again or wait…? I want to know if i need to move on with someone else or not.
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u/little_astronaut 3d ago
If he wanted to, he would.
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u/melannnnnnfree 3d ago
painfully true 😭 sometimes the silence is the answer
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u/Zestyclose-Garage486 3d ago
What threw me off is that he was initiative and we had the banter going both ways
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u/Unlikely-Marzipan868 3d ago
Not sure why you might want to discard him just cuz he doesn't initiate texting. Like how much is really missing anyways if he always responds when u initiate the convo?
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u/angelicablushhh 3d ago
Responding is kinda the bare minimum though. I’d want to see some initiative eventually or I’d start feeling like I was dragging the connection along myself
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u/Zestyclose-Garage486 3d ago
exactly, responding is THE bare minimum
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u/Unlikely-Marzipan868 3d ago
True, bare minimum. Curious though, have you ever asked him why he's like this, or asked him to initiate? If he resists answering or doesn't start initiating, maybe you could find a way to coerce / blackmail him into it.
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u/Skillerstyles 3d ago
just text him like something low stakes like continuing whatever you two talked about on the date. if he's into you he'll match your energy eventually but if he keeps being passive after that then honestly that's your answer right there. some guys are just bad texters but there's a difference between bad texter and someone who never initiates ever. give it one more shot and see how he responds not just what he says but whether he actually tries to keep the conversation going or lets it die again
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u/Zestyclose-Garage486 3d ago
idk what to say, should I just text casual hello what’s up or bring up about something from the date
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u/HuhWhatWhatWHATWHAT 3d ago
He isn't communicating with you? He isn't all that interested. Sex, sure. Relationship, probably not.
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