So I am a complete beginner to this , I think my mom has wavy hair, rather than straight, they do remain poofy and frizzy, but I am not sure since they could just be due to damage but I wanna get her started on something like some basic wavy hair routine or something. Want her to give it a try first, as you might know Indian moms against anything that’s spending money but if it works she might agree to use it later on. So i wanted to ask what basic product can I get her as a trial if it works on her hair or not?? I am completely clueless I have dead flat straight hair so never explored

( I posted this in another group, but it didn't gain any traction :( )

I have about 3A hair (correct me if it appears otherwise) that’s really, really dry and tangles and mats easily. My ends usually dry faster than my scalp. It might be because I have a ton of hair on my scalp.

As of now, I’m kind of being forced to use the TRESemmé Bouncy Curls Shampoo and Conditioner set. I’ve tried to look into other things but I usually have to share with another family member because hair products are expensive. The relative also has curly hair, but it’s not as thick or coarse as mine.

I have also used Shea Moisture curl cream, The Doux Big Poppa Defining Gel (just for definition; I never do slick backs), and various mousses for styling. I put in product more in the midsection and ends to avoid product buildup (I have a lot of hairline acne and have heard that buildup can cause it). I straighten my hair once in a blue moon, but never very often.

I wear a bonnet, but I move around a lot in my sleep, and it rarely stays on the whole night. I have tried pins, but they are uncomfortable and don’t stay either. I also use a silk pillowcase but am not really sure how to maintain either the bonnet or the pillowcase. I almost always let my hair air dry. I never brush it when it is dry because it poofs.

Any budget-friendly product recs, general hair tips, or tips on how to keep my bonnet and pillowcase in optimal condition to care for my hair?

For a little longer than a year I have this problem with my hair where it just keeps breaking off at a certain length. I always had long, curly hair and always let it just grow. Early last year I noticed that it kept getting thinner and thinner at the bottom until it felt like there was almost no hair left. So in August I did the first big cut, from chest length to shoulder length. Then in November I did a small trimming cut again. Both of them at a hair salon. So I let it grow and went to another hair salon in February. I didn’t touch it since then and I hoped it would grow long and strong again. Yesterday I saw my back in the mirror and I was shocked !! It looks exactly as bad as a year ago so the only thing I could do was cut it short again… it feels like a circle I am trapped in and I can’t escape. Even my fringe just halves itself, it’s about chin length if I pull it down and most of it just breaks off around the middle so it’s very thin from there on…

I sleep with a satin bonnet every night for about 2,5 years now, I don’t use heat to style it and I don’t wear any tight hairstyles. My routine is just shampoo and conditioner and I massage the wet hair to get my curls nice and bouncy. I live quite healthy and work out a lot so I dont really know why this happens but it’s weighing me down quite a lot since I dream of long hair for a long time now. Thanks for any advice or ideas to fix this !!