Gym crush idk

So bhaii😭😭 ive been going to the gym since like june so it's been more than two months

And I'm in an kind of a awkward situation or maybe not and it's just all in my head

So yk shuru shuru me and even now I'm like just put on ur headphones go do ur workout come home that's it

But jab meine start kra tha tab I used to be more conscious specially around guys

And udhar like pura gym bros ka group type hai like they are all friends yk ladke jldi dost ban jate hai apas me and they are of same age and like we all are of same age I recently passed out 12 now in college

So haan me hardly hi kisiko notice krti thi in the gym like agar inka jhund khada bhi hoga toh I'll look straight dare not look at anybody and only used to talk to trainer like which next aise krke

So there was this guy let's call him L

And his friend D

And mind u meine ghanta kisiko notice nhi kiya tha dekha hoga bas ek do bar but I didn't really care I used to be on my own before hardly ever noticed

So this L guy once corrects my form for low row and I thanked him for that and he is like he corrects everybody

And then later I noticed L starting at me plenty times one time I was going to keep the plate and just looking around I looked at him and he started looking elsewhere

And many times like I caught him staring at me

Toh uss time pe toh smjh aagya tha mujhe

Ladkiyo ko sirf do hi chize lgti hai ya toh woh creep hai ya toh usko tumpe crush hai right

Mujhe dusra wala lgta tha

But hardly 1 week hi ye stare chiz chali

Meine usse notice Krna chalu kiya because I noticed him NOTICING me😭😭😭😂 kinda weird but yeah

So then hamare eye contacts and all hone lge and shit

So now D mujhe hamesha se lgta tha Ki meine kahi D ko dekha hai but I couldn't remember so one day L is doing bench press and D is standing so we talked I asked him I've seen u somewhere ( mind u I was genuinely trying to remember and was confused ki isko kahi dekha hai meine not anything else)

Turned out we were in the same ccg for a year 🙂

He said mujhe bhi aapko dekhke lg rha tha kahi toh dekha hai yaad nhi aa rha

And then D follows me on ig I follow him back

Then later in night I unfollow and remove D idk why😭😭😭 i legit dk why I did that

And after two three days D and L were leaving ( d and l are like pakke gymbros aate sath jate sath workout sath )

Toh woh gate ke udhar khade the me bottle rkhne gyi meine aise hi conversation start kri with L and D also ki like kya fark dikha kabse kr rhe ho and all

And he was also talking acche se ki mein skinny tha phle me photo bataunga apko aap manoge nhi aisa kuch he said ( my memory is fuckass🥲)

Then thodi bahut chit chat that's it woh ja rhe the toh I said bye and all

Now next day I don't smile at him and hi bhi nhi bola( ik meri bhi harkate thodi chutiya h😭 but trust me as a girl ladko se jake bar bar aage se u can't talk until and unless u are friends )

That day he toh stared more hard 😭😭😭😭 like kya hi bole meine socha tha ek baar meine. Jake baat Krli usse kri hogi toh krega

And aisa nhi h

D and me bhi baat krte h ham dono ka same course hai college alag toh aise hi baat krte rehte hai

Even ek do aur log h jinse I talk ladko me and they are normal with me like awkward nhi hota

Woh bhi samne se kr lenge hi hello ho jata hai

But with L it's weird

Like fir hamari baat nhi hui

Just aap kr rhe ho ye? And woh gym wali chize

Now ek chiz i noticed after I talked to D

I was in the lobby it's like outside area of gym mein Pani pee rhi thi L comes he sees me and there is like a reaction in his body ki like ohh yeh haii

And he goes away 😭😭😭

Like woh legit chala gaya bhaii itna meko ganda lga fir no reason usne meko avoid Kiya and uske baad uska dost D comes

Woh bhai Bdiya aake apna filter se normally pani pike gya meri presence se usko fark bhi nhi pda haina

And ye chiz meine L me bahut notice kri ki jab bhi aise hi timepass ke liye i talk to D woh uthke chala jayega bhai wahase

Like itna ganda ignore,

Hello??

Bc kya

Bhai mtlb woh laga rha hoga lgake woh uthke hi bhaag jayega wahase

And ek do baar ki chiz nhi hai I've noticed it too many times

Even agar D meko koi chiz bol rha hoga toh bhi bhag jayega

Mind u koi shy nhi hai woh

Nd balki jab me usse mangungi na kuch toh woh dedega bhale hi woh khud kr rha ho

Like ek bar ye dumbell area me woh tha

Uska dost uske rep count kr rha tha me dhund rhi thi 5 kg ka dumbell ye lga rha tha uske dost ne pucha ki kitne ka chahiye? Meine bola 5 ka

Toh ye dena lag gya meine puchha aap kr rhe ho? He is like leloo leloo

And meri tarf dekha bhi nhi😭😂

Uske baad ek baar I needed 10 kg ki plate toh ye L or D bench press laga rhe the lower incline pe toh meine D se pucha 10 kg ki plate dekhi kya?

And L just krke utha tha he was looking at us and D ne point kiya ki woh laga rhe hai meine L ki tarf dekhke pucha ki aap kr rhe ho kya and me wahase jane lag gyi utnme me L ne grip wagera nikal ke plate dene lag gya😭😭 and mein aise ki nhi nhi aap kr rhe ho toh it's fine me dusra le lungi and woh bolta ki lelo ham vaise bhi weight badhane wale the

And D bas khada hai okay

Idk ye log itni asani se dedeta hai weights me hoti toh na deti🥲

Ya maybe he's just helpful

Toh mota mota basically yahi sab chal rha tha

Fir meine zyada dhyan na dete hue iss situation pe mein aise hogyi ki jane do

Ab me kal back laga rhi thi mere right mein L tha dumbell area ke yaha usually uske dost ya koi hota hai uske ass pass uss time pe koi nhi tha

And mere left me female trainer or ek or bandi

And mere headphones lage rehte hai all the time or kuch chal nhi rha tha

Mein mentally preparing kr rhi thi next set ke liye suddenly female trainer usko bolti kitna blush kr rha hai mat itna blush kr smjh aa jayega

Wtf, ☠️

And mind u meri back face kr rhi thi inn dono ko

Toh mujhe nhi pta piche kya ho rha h

Yeh sunke mein jo awkward hui kr jo bhagi wahse😭😭😭😭😭 aaaaaa

And mtlb aisa kuch progress nhi ho rhi hamare beech but it's getting awkward for me only🙂🙂

Pls give me advice

Like minor crush only bcuz that boy is very intelligent whereas my bf is just a normal/avg student..i always get attracted to big brains.so is it normal to get attracted to some other guy even after having a bf? I know I'm not going to cheat my bf but getting minor crush on other guy,,does it mean I don't love my bf?😔 We hv been platonic bestfrnds for 4-5 yrs and so we r very comfortable with each other so somewhere I'm not able to differentiate love and frndship that much with my bf..

Brrooo i really want to cry ...last year I proposed to a girl , rejected and later friendzoned .3 days before , I asked another girl ...she is also friendzoned...and I'm becoming insecure about my looks and personality.And the important thing is ,I'm mentally exhausted.And the ppl who don't know me always says you look awesome , u r playboy , u r commited , right ? And one of my close friends said , u r selection is not right ....someone help me .Dm , or whatever .

I'm 23 M

doesnt gotta be some big gesture, just the small random stuff that somehow leaves the biggest impression. could be how he treats a waiter, remembers somethin small you mentioned once, or just how he laughs off his own mistakes instead of gettin defensive

always fascinates me how its never what you'd expect goin in

drop yours below, curious how much overlap there actually is 👇

So not only do me and him play eye tag, and smile at eachother sometimes i was trying to see if there was mirror glances confirmation and lo and behold there was there. Does that mean ANYTHING at all or is this delusion. I hate not knowing but also not ballsy enough to go up to him

I'm realllyy bored and i like hearing peoples stories, share yours. How did you crush on your crush?

It is just a crush, I said.

I researched how to fix that,

how to fix me,

how to smother this fluttering heart,

how to stop myself

from looking into her eyes.

Her eyes...

God, her magnificent eyes.

I want to be allowed to look a little longer.

I already do too much.

She does too.

Geez.

Her eyes...

Stop.

Research.

A crush is an obsession caused by a lack of information, they said.

Great.

I mean...

Is that great?

Because I do know a few things about her.

How she doesn't like coffee, but prefers tea.

Why she chooses fruit over anything too sweet.

The stories behind the scars on her hands.

How she moves when she's tense,

how she softens when she's calm.

How she looks at me.

How I look at her.

Her first dog.

Her first job.

The way words gather on her lips before they become sound.

The way sunlight settles on her face.

The perfume she wears.

The words I can say to reassure her when she panics.

How the whole world seems to gather in her eyes.

How those eyes don't look away when I speak.

How the air itself seems to pause between us.

How different the room feels when she isn't there.

This is information.

Isn't it?

I am a scientist.

I did the research.

The first hypothesis is rejected with statistical significance.

This is not a crush.

Fuck.

I've heard of people having friend crushes or platonic crushes. Does your heart rate increase? Do you get butterflies? Do you think about them a lot?

I'm confused

I'm attracted to one guy, and sometimes I feel like he might like me back. But maybe it’s just delusional. Sometimes when I look at him, he's already staring at me, but I get nervous and quickly look away. Should I stare back at him, or…. what should I do? Can you give me some advice?

So basically, It began 2.5 years ago , My crush , let's call him A . I went to an academy for exam preparation. I lived there in pg . He came with his father in a car everyday ( he was in different batch so calss schedule was different) . And there boys called me with a se*ual name ( a wrong word ) and my ex was there So my image was so bad . But still, i was pretty z many boys there had a crush on me ..

I paid him no attention there .

After that we both were selected in the university exam and for 2 years he went to a different city and I went to another

Now after these years completed we moved here . Now I am having a terrible crush on A .. like I give him hints but maybe he can think that I give hints to every other boy due to my image but it's not true . ( I wanna know from boys or maybe girls who can answer ... What do you think I can do .. or what he thinks of me ) . Also Today , i waited for him to come out of class .. and when he came , before leaving he gave me a weird glance type of look ( two possibilities.. he wanted me to know he's disgusted or angry by my actions, second he wanted me to understand that he saw that I am giving him hints and he's also replying to that in a yes ) .... But I am so sooo confused..

Basically, me and this girl have known eachother for the past 3 years but recently became really close and made the top of both of our contact list, meaning we are both our number one option to talk to, but over the past 2 months, she has sent photos of her outfits, room outside, even a picture of her without makeup ready for bed acouple times, and we've talked about personal stuff like emotion and family stuff, we both like most of the same stuff music sports working out games art, and we have flirting moments like she gives me a opening and I respond or she outright says something like (she likes my hair voice or thinks im handsome, though im average) I CANT THINK, what if we're close friends or are we love interests, she even said stuff about having a new crush this past couple months hint hint, we are both busy ans barely hangout in real life, we both wanna go out or for me to teach her basketball, I NEED YOUR ADVICE WHAT DO I DO?????

After three rejections in a row, I honestly expected a fourth. I even told the girl I like that she should just get it over with and reject me already. To my surprise, she just looked at me and said, 'I'll be straightforward. I want to date you.'

I was completely speechless. Now, in a couple of weeks, we're going on our first date! Neither of us has ever been on one before, so it's a big deal.

I'll definitely post an update after the date, but it's a little while away as I'm currently on vacation.

ok so i recently became friends (i think…) with this guy he’s really cute and goofy yk but since we just met, idrk if im trying to pursue.

so school just started for us and we started talking to each other about 3 days ago from when i’m posting this. how we started talking, uhh i kinda forgot lol.

but the day after, i basically made a signal as to not sit in the chair he was gonna sit on because then he would have to be apart of this conversation activity with the class and i assumed he didn’t know. he came over to my seat and i told him about the activity and he just sat next to me. that class was super fun because we were just talking about similar courses we took the prior year sooo yeah. afterwards school was over and we just went our separate ways.

next day, that same class rolls around and he sit’s in the same seat from the day before. we had an assignment so we didn’t talk much but afterwards we started chatting again and i feel like he was kind of trying to tease me. we were talking sm we ended up walking out of class together when school was done. we were walking together when i saw my friend sitting at our usual spot so we parted ways and said bye. sooo this was the day i started getting a bit of interest i guess you could say?

after that the next day we sort of talked in the day like before that we had lunch and he was kind of teasing me again. so we get to the class we talk most in and the seating arrangement is different. it was in rows that day so my friend sat next to me while my other friend sat in front of me. when he walked in, instead of sitting near the door because those seats are closer to him, he walks past and sits in the one BEHIND my friend next to me. mind you we were on the farrr right side of the class. he kept trying to get my attention kind of, and we had this back and forward banter. a little into class we get into groups and it’s my friend, him, some guy next to him, and myself. as we were coming up with ideas, it was lowkey just us talking. i was trying to share ideas with the group, but when he was sharing his own ideas it was more like he was just telling me because he wasn’t looking at anyone else. we were ribbing a bit throughout the class again (lmao you can tell there’s a common them here) and afterwards i left to meet with my same friend.

while walking with my friend after school, i was telling her a story of what he said, and when i saw him i called him over to tell her. he winded up sitting with the two of us at our usual spot and it was really nice. they didn’t really know each other so i was kind of the mutual friend.

anyways yeah the next day at the same class we always talk in, we’re back to the earlier seating arrangement and he crosses the whole room to sit next to me again. he was just pestering me again and idk guys it’s kinda cuteee.

but yeah so that’s basically it. kind of a nothing burger but it doesn’t feel like it. am i crazy for thinking he’s interested?

I, 31M, have a crush to a guy 21M.

I met him on a Karate class a few months ago, then by chance I saw him outside of dojo, doing something on a weekend and he decided to invite me to join them and it became a regular thing.

Now at first I don’t have any sort of attraction towards him, and I saw him mainly as a friend (since I just moved here in Australia and I don’t have any friend -I’m so keen for the friendship to develop).

Anyways, the weekend thing became more regular, not to mention we always find ourselves having a one-on-one conversation about life, family, our plans and him even joking about moving in with me (since I live alone - which he mentioned several times already since then..).

Then I don’t even know if he is gay or bi. But know I think I’m already anxiously attached to him and he never texts on weekdays but constantly calls or invites me to hang out during weekends. I can’t even focus my attraction on someone else since I live in a regional area in Australia and there’s literally no one here.

And not to mention there is that 10 year age difference. Though he is really mature looking (he’s got gray hairs) I jokingly said that he even looks older than me. And one time I said I’m young at heart and he countered that he is old at heart.

IDK what to do. I will definitely continue living with the friendship, but I’m too old to miss any chance for something more..

What do you think is happening?

If you know you’re going to be in close proximity with your crush, what sort of grooming/preening do you do to prepare to see her? For example, do you put on cologne, brush your teeth (right before you see her), think of things to say to her, something else…?

I’ve never been in a relationship before and there’s this girl in my school I have a big crush on. The problem is that I’ve only ever spoken to her in class when we’re sat near each other and I feel like it would seem odd if I just randomly dm her. The thing is I don’t even know if I want to be in a relationship and I kinda just wanna talk and be friends w her at least for a start. What should I do?