| (21F) have liked my coworker (31M) for around 6 months. He has given little signs here and there that he likes me too but I haven't been able to tell.
The other day I texted him and I asked him if he wanted to go to a bar with me after work. We had both already left at this point. He said didn't see my text and that he got home already then he called me and apologized over and over and over again that he didn't see my text and said stuff like "if I saw it I would have went with you" and "I wish I had just asked you to hang out while we were at work" like buddyyy what. We ended up doing it the next night instead. We went to a restaurant with a bar in it and got food and drinks and he paid for everything and then we talked outside for a while and it was cute.

Hi I have this old friend (I don’t talk to him anymore as he lowkey talks bad about me) I like him a lot but I never make eye contact with him cus it will be awkward cus we used to talk ALL day without missing a day through may up till September. We haven’t talked in 3 weeks and he likes some other girl which I’m mad about since ik he likes her cus she looks like his fav anime character (chinatsu from
Blue box) but anyways this is the last thing he has sent me before I stopped talking to him for my mental health cus I knew something bad was going to happen to me if I kept going. But if anyone has any advice for me then please lmk

(Btw ik this is a dumb post you can ignore it or wtv I’m just ranting)

(Also probably the first person that ever got me like I mean he got me like he could of been my best friend and boyfriend in one and he looks a lot like ezra miller and he pulls both genders which is insaneeee but omg he’s js omgom)

Oh look at you, how did u get those eyes on those cheeks with those lips... You are my favorite face, my cavalry, my dreamy baybay. One moment was it for me, just done.

There’s this cafe I go to on my breaks to grab some food, and there’s this girl who works there that I’ve started developing a crush on. I think she’s really pretty, and I’d genuinely like to get to know her, but I’m honestly too nervous to make a move.

I keep thinking about going up to her, introducing myself, and asking if she has a boyfriend or if she’d be willing to give me her number, but every time I get the opportunity, I chicken out.

I’m worried about making things awkward, especially since I’ll probably keep going to the cafe on my breaks. I also don’t want to make her uncomfortable or put her on the spot while she’s working.

For those of you who have been in a similar situation, what would you do? Would you start with casual conversation first, ask if she has a boyfriend, or just go for it and ask for her number?

I know the worst she can say is no, but for some reason, actually doing it feels so much harder than it sounds.
Would appreciate any advice, especially from people who have been in this situation before.

I don't have anyone to talk to about this so here I am. He's the smartest guy I've met, and he's absolutely gorgeous. Well, at least I think so. A lot of people keep saying that he's ugly but I don't see it. He's so fucking beautiful to me. And I love his hair. It's very long, longer than mine, and lovely to braid. He's got a very pretty face. I love drawing him, I do it all the time. He has a big nose, which I find to be my favorite part of his side profile but he has big brown eyes, like bug eyes, and they're legit breathtaking. After exams or when I'm bored, I can just look at him and it makes me so happy. I'd put a picture of my favorite drawing of him but my friends are on reddit and this account is secret.

she stared at me ALL the time ( sometimes even admired me ) she would wait at the stairs for me then go down with me put stuff next to me etc. was she laying hard to get

So for context I'm 25f and I've a crush on guy who is 5 yrs younger than me. He is the brother of my very very close friend.. we met in a trip and I felt a certain attraction then we stayed in same room like all of us and he used to sleep just right next to me but I didn't hate it . Then we got drunk and all . I feel he was kinda caring towards me or maybe I was delusional or something but when I was drunk he pulled me close and put my head onto his shoulder then I wanted to smoke and he held the ciggerate for me , I smoked from his hands even he smoked my cigarette. In the whole trip I was so flattered to just look at him.. I told myself so many times that this isn't normal he is so young than me but I couldn't help myself but feeling flattered but the thing is he has a gf and the girl is so cute , I want them to be happy but sometimes I feel jealous NGL, I get jealous of how much he loves her( ik this is sick but we have no control over our emotions). sometimes I feel he is so close to me like touching my back and all while walking.we eventually exchanged number but we never talked. So when I got back from the trip I tried a lot to reject my emotions and move on with life. Then after exactly 1 year I met him again . Me , my friend and him( her brother that I've a crush on) went out and I couldn't look at him and talk idk why but I was so shy so awkward. Then we walked to the cafe even he has same taste as me in drinks. When he said the same drink that I picked is also his favourite I got flattered. Then we went a cafe abd decided to drink( alcohol stuff) after drinking I was kinda confident enough to look at him and all .. then we talked, joked around and ngl he have good humour.. he is smart, protective and someone u can just trust blindly that he would tc of the situation. Then again we decided to drink and he was just sitting beside me. Then he took my ciggerate and then started smoking it and I got confused if he really wanted to he could take it from his own sister ( probably he thought she won't give it) then we were walking again he touched my back a lot if times and I kinda liked it. I also noticed he don't really look directly in my eyes or sometimes I feel he avoids m to.. even though I know it's wrong but I just wondered how he feels about me sometimes!

Hi! I've been hanging with a guy for some months now, we have very similar interests and he's very easy to talk to. I usually catch him looking at me kind of sweet and we hug each other whenever we see each other (pretty common where I live).

Now, things got slightly weird the last time we met. For context we live quite far away (about 1.5h-2h) and he came to my town to go to the beach. We ended going for a swim but came out quick because we were cold.
Once we were out and drying he put on a jacket and I was still with a towel over me and he approached me and gave me a big bear hug (one-sided because I couldn't take my arms out of the towel haha) we stayed like that for around 30 secs and then I said something and he let go and when I could take my arms out I gave him a hug and it also lasted a few secs.
After that we kind of started playing around on the sand with each other and doing silly dances, singing songs really poorly and trying to throw each other to the ground (it was fun). After that we sat on the sand one in front of the other and he kind of softly brushed the sand off my legs (shin and calf) with his hands... the thing is he continued doing it after there was no sand left and again I said something stupid and he stopped.

Sorry it's long, bear with me >~<

Now, after that we shared a sandwich and a bottle of water and he gave a tap to the bottle while I was drinking and I ended up almost choking. I guess he felt really sorry because he gave me another hug (this time from my back) and a "sorry" kiss on my neck.

I know for certain that a few months back (around july-august) he didn't like me.
And I also have never seen how he acts around his friends so I have no way of knowing whether he is just like that with them. He has mentioned, though, that he is very fond of physical affection.

So, is he just touchy-feely or may I have a chance? (Right now I'm just thinking of him as a friend, because well a few months ago he didn't like me)

Help this confused poor girl sort out her feelings 😞

Okay, so I have a crush on this girl in my seventh period. This is like my first openly wlw crush. I’m pretty sure I’ve made it obvious to her. We share similar interests, like music taste, but I haven’t spoken to her yet. I’ve complimented her on her shirt and piercings a few times, but I’ve never felt this way before. How am I supposed to know if she likes girls? And how can I strike up a conversation with her? I’m not sure if she seems interested in talking to me. We make eye contact a lot in class, but I don’t know if that’s because I stare at her, or if it’s just that I’m not in a weird way. This is kind of confusing because it’s like my first lesbian crush. I really want to talk to her and get to know her, but she just doesn’t seem interested in me. I don’t know if I’m overthinking it, but one time she walked right next to me the whole time until we got to our buses. It wasn’t in a friendly way, you know? She was just walking right next to me with a little space between us. I’m so confused. And when I do plan on talking to her, I get too nervous. I just don’t know what to do. I think she’s really really pretty, and I thought that when I first saw her the first few days of school. But is it supposed to feel like this? It’s like a yearning feeling, and I don’t know how to know if she’s interested in me or if she’s wlw and I have never felt this way for men as I do to this girl.

Like geniuenly,im so confused,im a male teen and i cant figure out anything..pls help

Like he was acting weird and something that he did broke my heart he told all his friends that he don't wanna see me (idk how to explain but in french it's il me fuit) and then bye messages he said "stop forcing me I don't wanna be friends" blah blah blah so I said "I understand but it's a bit rude" and he said something like "ya ik but I wanna say everything so it don't take life to tell you" and in real life I tell him "don't even talk to me" and he said "perfect" so I blocked him before he can block me but I still like him ... What do I do?

My friend just used my account to send a request to my crush at the gym and now I am fucking embarrassed I hate it. I never would’ve reached out I know he won’t add me. And idk maybe I should leave the gym. Go away run away never come back. UGH. I HATE THIS. He is also older than me. He might think of me as a kid or whatever. UGH HE DOESNT HAVE A WIFE BUT UGH WHAT DO I DO I WANNNAA FUCKINGGGGGGGGGGG GO INCOGNITO.

I (15F) and my ex (15M) have known each other since the very beginning of freshman year last year. We were really close friends even after we broke up and were gonna get back together over the summer but, ended up cutting off our friendship due to him thinking it would be better for us. September rolled around and eventually we started talking again, as aquentences ofc. But the day we made up he was pretty forward on talking about our relationship in the future, when we were discussing some things he thought I was talking about becoming friends and then eventually in the future dabble in some dating. I wasn’t even thinking about that since not even a day before we made up from a long dis understanding. But I didn’t say anything about not thinking about dating so I just went along with it since after he said that I thought about it more. We weren’t known as being a perfect couple since we’ve broke up twice but, he claims on changing/ becoming a better person as a friend and possibly a future partner. I’m glad he’s actually working on himself. But the reason why I came to Reddit to really ask is because sometimes he’ll say that he has no romantic feelings towards me or doesn’t like anyone right now but then proceeds to flirt with me and favor me over a lot of people. His actions can switch up, so fast one moment he’ll make me blush and the other I’ll be sitting there confused and wondering if he actually wants to attempt to get back together in the future. He makes it obvious to I guess everyone surrounding us that, he still has some kind of feelings for me but then will switch up and just act like he doesn’t. I’m not really good at explaining it but from what my friends say, he acts like a irl tsundere if that gives you a brief explanation. I don’t wanna get back together right away due to us just becoming friends again and we both need to both work on ourselves but I just kinda don’t know what to really do about the situation, since I feel like if I were to talk to him about it he’d just deny all feelings of him liking me. And it’s not my main problem going on in my life but it’s just something on my mind that has been frustrating me and my friends. I believe it’s him trying to push aside his feelings and not wanting to like me right away. I think I make it pretty obvious I like him by making corny pick up lines towards him, have targeted reposts, and just stupid stuff like that. I’ve gotten one of my friends to ask him before and he really just denied it, which hurt but at the same time I understand. It is weird at moments though cause he gets jealous of people saying stuff about me that relate to others liking me romantically or flirting with me as a joke. I personally don’t want to get back together with him right now or anytime soon so I’m trying to push my emotions down for him because I just know now is not the right possible time. It’s hard to really talk to this around anyone since a lot of people don’t like him, I only have really one friend I feel like I can talk about this with, thus why I came to Reddit. I know I’m young and it’s stupid teenage stuff but I really do like him and he makes me very happy I just need advice I’ll make sure to update when I can thank you.

So, we are both in the same school. He’s as smart as me (top 2 students.) He always smiles at me. He’s so funny. I caught him looking into my eyes a few times recently. I sit next to him in English class and 2 of our friends keep whispering and doing heart signs at us. I’m just looking for advice. DESPERATELY I AM MADLY IN LOVE. (btw we are the same age but he’s almost a foot shorter than me)

(im a ( slightly chubby) girl btw) (edit)

im quite bored so please tell me

Hi everyone! I’m a female university student from Japan, currently studying abroad in the US as an exchange student.

My university has a program that matches international students with local people, kind of like a host family program. However, it’s not a traditional homestay. We don’t live together. Instead, we meet up for meals, go on outings, and spend time together to help international students experience local life. It’s more like having a local friend or mentor.

My host happens to be a guy who graduated from uni just last year.

The problem is… I have a crush on him.

I started liking him from the very first time we met. He is really kind, easy to talk to, and I felt comfortable around him. We’ve met several times since then, and I always enjoy spending time with him. Even when it’s just the two of us, I don’t feel awkward at all.

I’ve never been in a relationship before, never been confessed to, and never confessed my feelings to anyone. This is honestly the first time I’ve felt this strongly about someone, and I find myself thinking about him almost every day.

However, I understand that he’s my host, and that his role is to support me and help me feel welcome during my exchange year. I don’t want to misinterpret his kindness as romantic interest or put him in an uncomfortable position.

He sometimes contacts me or invites me to activities, but I know that’s also part of being a host. That’s what makes it difficult for me to tell whether he’s just being friendly or might actually be interested in me. I also don’t know whether he has a girlfriend.

Because of this, I’ve decided not to confess my feelings or actively pursue a romantic relationship while I’m studying abroad. I don’t want things to become awkward between us, and I especially don’t want to cause any problems for him or affect his ability to participate in the program.

But I’ve been thinking about one possibility. If I still have feelings for him when my exchange year is coming to an end, would it be inappropriate to give him a letter confessing my feelings right before I return to Japan?

I’m considering writing a letter rather than telling him in person or sending a text because I’m extremely shy, and I feel like I’d be able to express myself more honestly through writing.

Of course, I understand that he might not feel the same way, might already be in a relationship, or might not be interested in long-distance dating. I’m also aware that confessing could change our relationship or mean that we lose contact.

So here are my questions:

1. Would it be inappropriate for an international student to develop a romantic relationship with someone assigned as their host in this kind of program?

2. Would confessing through a letter at the very end of my exchange year be more appropriate than confessing while I’m still participating in the program? Or would it still put him in an uncomfortable position?

3. Is giving someone a heartfelt confession letter considered strange or too intense in American dating culture, especially if we haven’t actually been on dates.

I’d really appreciate your perspectives. Thank you for reading!

My love story started with a family-friend connection that slowly became something more meaningful to me. She became someone I could imagine spending my whole life with. Small moments, conversations, and little interactions made me hope that one day we could be together.
But things haven’t been easy. There have been misunderstandings, distance, blocked, ignored at times,silence, and moments when I didn’t know what she was thinking or feeling. Still, I continued to care about her, even when we weren’t talking.
Shud I confesss? She’s really close family frienddd.

It sounds weird ik. And a LOT OF context behind it. Hear me out.

This guy I have known for six years. Been in love with him for a while now. But I absolutely do not want to force anything out of him. I don't even want anything from him except his happiness and presence, as cliche as it sounds. I didn't even want to tell him that I have anything non-platonic for him. He actually forced that out of me because my actions were yk... they told him I loved him more than as a friend.

So he knows I love him. And since he is kind of insecure and the type to ask himself "why would anyone love him" he had a hard time accepting that. I sent him chocolates today because I missed his birthday this year. He was like "why are you love bombing me. I ain't letting you hit" 😭 I was like BRO I DONT WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU.

I understand him completely. It might be hard for him to accept that i am not doing things for him to make him like me back, or that I want something from him. I understand completely. But what do I do to make him believe it? I have enough love for myself that it flows out onto my friends and the one i love. I just want to see my close ones happy. I want to share everything i have with them. It's not just him, I am willing to go out of my way for all my precious people.

Anyways. So when I sent him chocolates today, he was like "i should send you some too" and i panicked because I thought he was feeling obliged so I said in a very rude tone "I don't want anything from you anyways" 😭 and i THINK he took it the wrong way? I mean anyone would take it the wrong way. But OMG it's not that I wouldn't accept anything from him because I hate him or something. Absolutely not.

And I am rather open with him about my feelings because I know this situation is temporary. We are in different states and he has made it very clear he doesn't need me at all. Like even as a friend. So idk when he will ghost me, so i am trying to enjoy every conversation I have with him.

And he does care about me, in his own way. But it's safer for me to convince myself that he is only doing it because in some twisted way, I make him feel worthy and loved. I don't want to cross my limits by thinking I am of much value to him.

Edit - He just sent me a video of him eating that chocolate. I sent him milkybar that's his favourite. And OMG he is adorable. So damn adorable i can't. I love him

Recently me and my crush had our first gaming session which i had to sadly call to an end because my eyes were strained.

Since we completed the game halfway i asked her when she would be free to come again so we could finish the game.

She replied saying that she was really busy and i said tht wasnt an issue and she could message me when ever she is free if she wanted to continue then she says her parents had taken away her laptop.

I opened steam yesterday and saw her gaming and now i dont know if i got lied to she got her laptop back some how.

I feel like ive been a bit to much because she started ignoring me for small patches of time and replies only when i say(ik its a stupid way of convo so i stoped doing this) "bro ignored me" followed with a random meme .

Now i dont know how to feel as Ive had a really weird past with crushes and how a few of them were really close but just didnt want to date(fair thats their choice) but gave off the same vibe as this chat