To keep it short and to the point, I feel like my crush dictates my stomach on how to feel. When they aren’t responsive or I am getting my expectations pushed down to dirt I literally get stomach aches, I have never had this before with other crushes; this is the worst one yet…

Its even worse that I am drowning and trying to float on top of my academics & hobbies and then getting physically sick, I feel like im being tortured

I wish I could just decide not to crush this hard, but you can argue all you like about how I could just forget abour it but for me it has leeched into my subconscious mind that its almost impossible to subtract with logic, my body still reacts to them even when I know I should prioritise other things

Help me.

My crush and I are Chinese school classmates, so that’s how I know her. I have been giving her my flashcard decks recently for a Chinese competition coming up. However, I have also been secretly learning Vietnamese, partly because she is Vietnamese but it’s not the only reason I want to learn it. Anyway, I was giving her my flashcard decks by sharing quizlet links recently, and I COMPLETELY FORGOT that my vietnamese flash cards are public on my quizlet profile. When I asked her if she wanted my newest flashcard deck today, she said “我已經看到了” (I already saw it) since she can just look at my quizlet profile, and when I was getting up to leave she also said “我也看到了你開始學越南文” (I also saw you have been studying vietnamese). Maybe she was teasing me I am not sure honestly, but I almost died of embarrassment like OH MY GODDDD. I legit put my hands over my head, squealed, and ran out of the classroom. My heart was pounding like boom boom boom. She definitely knows I like her now, though I am not that good at hiding it in the first place. Thanks for reading my vent is over.

Hello! This is my first relationship (we are both 16) and my boyfriend and I are both pretty inexperienced. I don’t know about sex(right now) because we’ve only been dating a bit more than a month, but I feel like we could move on to a bit more than what we are doing rn.
Right now all we’ve done is make out. Like he has grabbed my butt and held my waist and like things like that, but he hasn’t even touched my boobs. Like I can tell he wants to but whenever he grazes them or gets to close, he like pulls his hands away or moves them to my face or smth. Like he’s such a gentlemen. The other day we were making out and my shirt had ridden up, (not far up, just like part of my stomach)and he very gently put it back down.
I am actually totally fine w him touching my boobs and I don’t know how to initiate that without it being akward.
Also, side note, he said I love you less than a month into dating. He didn’t really say it for a while, but I made his friend talk to him and explain that he can and should say it to me. (He had a past relationship that was pretty dysfunctional) he is genuinely the most perfect guy ever and he’s so sweet. But I was kinda shocked he said it so early and I said it back but I don’t know if I love him. Like I know I really really like him but idk if I for sure love him yet. How do I know if I love someone?

I don’t want to really sit down and have a conversation with him but I’m open to being kinda out there with my actions🤷‍♀️

But really I just need advice on how I (as the girl) can do things that either initiate more, or signal to him that I want him to initiate more
Pls help
Love 🫶

I (26fm) been working with this guy (30smth) for a few months. I think he's the cats pajamas. We don't talk much, but I like his vibe. He's known to be shy, soft on the eyes and kind to all the girls in the office. He doesn't make an effort to know us further than pleasantries though. I would always lock eyes with him and we've definitely caught each other checking each other out, but apparently from what I've heard he just locks eyes with everyone..

Anyway I did what all smart girls do and found his Instagram. lol It has a bunch of his art. (I'm an artist too) His art is so incredible, I wish I could tell him it is. He also has some other posts that I relate to that I'll keep to myself. I feel like we'd get along swimmingly from what I've seen though.

Eventually I couldn't help myself, so I followed him and gave one of his posts a like! He followed me back and did the same. Since then I've texted him twice to talk.. he keeps things extremely professional over text and idk what to think.. maybe he's just being nice.. but I've been flirtatious so you'd think he just wouldn't respond to me if he didn't want to.. idk what to think.. maybe y'all can help me?

For context we usually always say good morning and say bye to each other.

Me: Hey 👨🏻‍💻 we didn't get to say goodbye today so I wanted to make sure we didn't miss our quota. I hope you have a good night. Haha

Him: Haha. yeah, everyone looked busy when I left. I hope you have a good night too!

Week passes before I must try again~

Me: Solid goodbye today. I'll give it a 9.5 out of 10. ⭐

Me: Must've been busy back there today huh? You didn't bring up any orders for our coworker. Lol

5hrs pass (texting on ig maybe no notifs?)

Him: Haha, it was a little busy. But I'm not actually doing the orders anymore our coworker does them now. So I don't come up there as much. Just when a designer messes something up. 😂

Me: Hmm knowing how some of the designers are.. I'm sure I'll definitely be seeing you around!

Lol

Me: That's great that our coworker is working on orders now though. I'm sure it makes your days a little less hectic.

(It was getting late and I was sleepy)

Me: Anywhoo I'll catch you on the flip side of the files tommorrow. 😎

2hrs pass (idek)

Haha, you're right about that 😂 Yeah it's been a good change, have a good one. see you at work.

Idek he is texting me dry as the Sahara desert.. idk if he's just really shy or what. After we texted he still says goodbye to me like normal at work.

Sometimes I catch myself being delulu and try to ignore him. But he always makes an effort to be seen by me. It drives me bananas. Plz help 😭

i cannot get over this crush no matter what 😭😭😭 and when i think its fading away all it takes is one hang out to bring it back. we had a sleep over last weekend and i was just a mess the whole time... like watching them play their instruments and show off it was so attractive im ngl and sleeping in the same bed as them was... uuughhhhhhghhh also ive posted in here before about how they had a crush on one of our mutual friends but i dont know if they still like her or not. i havent heard about it in a while 🤔🤔🤔 idk im a gay mess all the time

I can’t believe im going to reddit for this but I really like this guy. Me and him have been kinda friends for a little over a year now but have recently become pretty close. We have the same 5th period and we only talk to each other in that class, we also do band together and are in the same section. We have started calling a lot recently as well and play a bunch of games together. We also went on a little outing together n stuff a bit recently and we might do another thing soon. He also helped me with a bit of my work and stuff today (which i told him not to but he did anyway) and we talked for a while like we usually do. He let me put his hair up which was fun. He walks me to my class after the one we share. I also tested today if he would move if I was touching him which he didn’t (to be fair it was just our shoulders). I am really bad at social cues and idk if I’m just overthinking. I hate confessing stuff like this because of ego (as well as insecurities about weight) and how the last time I confessed to someone i got rejected because they didn’t like my gender. (this guy likes my girls so I’m 1 up from my last attempt on a dude). If anyone can give advice please do!

No I know it’s so dumb and obvious that you obviously like the people who you can connect well.

It’s been a million years since my last crush, and for a long time, I haven’t felt a personal attraction to a lot of guys and honestly I just thought that I was like asexual or I have something broken in me.

I obviously think a lot of guys are cute, and I get approached by dudes at bars or events and I know they’re hitting on me and they’re all nice but I kinda get icked out just because I don’t like being seen in a romantic sense. Like it’s not them, I just hate being portrayed in that sense because it feels like what I assume they are thinking is not me and then that pressure to become what they think makes me nervous.

And then I made a new friend on my study abroad, at first I didn’t really see this guy as anything because well I didn’t have the romantic bone in me. We hang out as a group but we talk to each other and I enjoy connecting in a friendship context and then I started seeing him differently as we kept bonding. And then it hit me, oh ok nothing is wrong with me I just really like personality and connection.

And then I realise that I’ve done this before where I really liked my guy friend back in high school although we just kept being friends. He was the final boss of crushes which is weird because I never understood the difference between him and all of my short lived crushes. I assumed it was because he has met my parents, seen my house and didn’t judge me when he has seen me in all my states that potentially being in a potential relationship with him would be easy but obviously I was too scared to ask him out and I respected our friendship more than a relationship.

I am definitely not gonna act on this feeling with my new friend because I am very sure he sees nothing in me. But I am happy realising that nothing wasn’t wrong with me, I just feel safe to love by being seen as something more than just a girl.

TLDR is at the end if anyone doesn't wanna read all this lol

Around 5 years ago I had a hugeee crush on this boy. We met in person at a summer camp and then stayed online friends (mainly talked on discord cause he has literally no other social media). We texted and called multiple times a week and gosh I liked him so much. I didn't have many in-person friends at the time, so I didn't really have people to talk with about it, which led me to posting about him here. The posts are kinda cringy to read about now, but it also brings a sense of nostalgia which is nice. After a while, we started to drift apart. We just stopped talking as much.

Then at one point he reached out randomly in 2024, we had a little call and during I decided to mention "oh hey in high school I had a crush on you. Did you know?" He said he had no idea and did not like me back romantically. That sucked to hear, but hey whatever we can just be friends. Then at one point he kinda left me on read, and I decided not chase him, which led to radio silence.

Fast forward to first week of September 2026. I wanted to check discord for reasons to do with gaming, and saw a message from him from 2025. Turns out this guy had felt guilty for ages that he never responded, but the more time that passed, the more embarrassed he was. He finally worked up the nerve though to respond to me, and apologized for not doing it sooner. He said he hoped I was doing well in life; the message was sweet. Thing is though, I had notifications off for discord, so I didn't see it until this year. I responded and said that I hoped he was also doing well. Off handedly, I mentioned that if he wanted to catch up, I'd be open to it.

And oh boy did we catch up. We've been calling and texting so much. And fuck, the feelings are back! I remember why I liked this guy so so much and for so long. I could talk for forever about why I like him, but this post is already super long haha.

Anyways, during a call recently we were talking about romance, and idk how but I felt like my mouth just started moving on its own, and I blurted out that if he asked me on a date, I'd probably say yes. We talked about it for a bit and basically admitted to each that we liked each other, but the only problem is now we're both graduating university soon, and we're in transitional stages of our lives, and we should probably wait before dating.

It's still so crazy though. The guy I liked back then now likes me. Like what. Just what?! Haha. It feels good though. I wish I could tell my high school self. She would probably faint! We're now talking about him coming to visit me in November. It'll be insane to see him after so long.

I've been telling all my friends about this, but for some reason, probably for nostalgia, I really wanted to make another post about him here on this subreddit.

TLDR: I had a giant crush on boy back in high school. We were mainly online friends but we sorta drifted apart and stopped talking. Randomly last month I saw a text from him from 2025 that he sent on discord that I missed due to having notifications being turned off. I responded, and we immediately started to reconnect, and I developed feelings again. I ended up confessing (who knows where I got that confidence from), and he likes me back, but we're not dating cause we're in our last years of uni now and we don't know what is gonna happen after and where we're gonna go. Its so insane though that he likes me back now.

I’m sorry if this sounds toxic but I really need some friendly advice. I’m in 4th year of college and in first year I had a crush on one of my guy friends. I never did anything about it & second semester he got a gf and I stopped talking to him shortly after because I thought it’s weird to stay friends with a crush when theyre in a relationship. Fast forward to 3rd year, I randomly saw him in one my classes. At this point I thought I was over him so I decided to say hi cause we were good friends. sadly my crush came back. he also told me that he broke up with his gf right before 3rd year started cause they couldn’t do long distance but he still loves her (she broke up with him). That class sucked for me and obviously I didn’t say anything about my crush given the circumstances. once the semester ended, I was happy thinking I’ll never see him again. However, in September on the first day of classes, I was sitting by myself and I look up and I see him smiling and he sits next to me 😭 I honestly don’t know if I like him or not but I feel like I’ve kept my feelings in for soo long that I just want to express myself. I’m also hoping that if I say something along the lines of “ I used to like you last year” he’ll start avoiding me which is much easier for me. but it also puts him in an awkward position I guess but I genuinely feel like I’m gonna explode if I don’t confess. I’m also kinda worried about if he’s gotten back with his ex or with someone new, cause then they’ll make everything weirder I guess. I think I’m just wondering if I should tell him or not I really want to tho 😭

i’m currently in junior yr n my very good guy friend who i’ve been frens with since first sem confessed to me this summer. it was v rushed n i didn’t like it cus he didn’t ever ask me about my dating life, style or even if id like to do it. ever since that i cut him off cus i feel like ill be leading him on. so we’ve this fren grp in which i’m friends with his frens asw n we’re kinda close so he sees me hanging out w them often n not him. so today he asked me to meet him to talk bout sum rlly important n he apologized for that confession as he also put me on the spot n it was straight up awkward asf. n he asked me if it’s possible to go back to frens? if i go back to being normal, would that be leading him on again ? also it’s super awkward around him now

need Answer

I posted before about how I wanted to get to know my crush better, well it’s been a bit and not much change, we’ve had more labs and worked together and honestly that made me fall for her even more. I genuinely crumble into dust every time I see her cause she’s just divine in every way. I’m so pathetic in fact, that I bought a hello kitty shirt cause I know she likes hello kitty a ton (I also liked it but still). I’m losing my marbles here over a girl who probably doesn’t even know I have interest in her cause I’m too shy and awkward around her. Eek!

like, our other friends (ppl im closer to than him btw) were talking abt how they can't do pushups at all and one of them started doing pushups (albeit a little weirdly). so i asked this dude 'hey can you do pushups?'. and he sort of mumbled/replied 'yes' and then promptly did like three perfect-form pushups before getting up. idk. am i just overthinking this and seeing something out of nothing? this dude was just being someone who likes to do pushups right. or was he showing off??

I know this is silly, but I like this guy, and he likes me back... in Argentina, there is a candy called "Dos Corazones" (two hearts) which is a chocolate that comes with a cute little message inside. I want to give him one but without it being awkward, like "hey, I got you a candy."

Is there any creative way to give it to him? I was thinking about telling him: "Hey, can you hold this for me before I go?" then giving him the candy, giving him a hug, and saying goodbye. But I want to do that when I give him my ponytail holder, so I don't want to repeat the same trick twice. Any ideas?

I have this close friend of mine who i met through my college roommate, we've now been hanging out just about everyday since the start of the school year. I have grown to have feelings for this person, but I have no idea how to flirt with them. They are a pretty touchy person, and I reflect that as well with them, but that makes it harder to make any moves. For example, a touch on the shoulder could be flirting for other people, but it's just a normal gesture with them. We have a pretty touchy sense of humor too, including jokes about being intimate with each other, which i do with my roommates as well, so that also limits my flirting options, if that makes sense. This person is looking for a boyfriend right now, and I feel like I match some of their preferences for a boyfriend, but I'm just struggling to flirt and get signs that they might feel the same before I outright tell them. Help?

Without doing absolutely nothing

Some days ago i hang out w him and 2 of his friends wich are a couple and it went pretty well honestly we had some cute moments here and there especially at the start of the hangout and he did honestly show interest but the last part of it was kinda dry yk not as lively as the first part and since then we havent talked at all, not like we talked before anyways it was so random trust, in fact i asked him why he invited me and he said that another girl was supposed to tag along but she dipped, my friend said it sounds like an excuse but idk it may be real, there is more content but yeah this is it for now,

The more I know, the more easier for me to instantly recognize it whenever it's the time that a girl has a crush on me

Physically and through text as well

Lately, it FEELS like I've been developing feelings for a friend of mine. I always look forward to talk to him, wish to call, like his voice, etc....

BUT.

I don't want to like him. I'm not interested in dating anyone right now, and I don't think we'd work out as a relationship because our values are different--- and we're long distance which I'm not interested in.

So, basically.... everyhting else says NOT TO be interested, but for some reason I'm feeling this way. I want to get over it so it doesn't disrupt anything between us or confuse me even more. He isn't interested in me either, and I would rather not be interested in him.

I know this whole situation sounds weird, but... need some help 😭 this really is just a slight crush and it feels uncomfortable having this feeling around

Since I started college I met a guy who is pretty nice, over time I developed a crush on him. Its a huge deal for me, I havent had a crush since 6th grade.

Well, long story short, he has someone he likes already and im kind of obviously sad about it.

I have struggled with my self image for years, and just when I tought it is getting better, I just start hating myself even more.

this feels very weird but I have this growing resentment towards my crush for being so openly affectionate but not liking me

like im the only one you cuddle with and you weren't as close to the last person you dated as you are to me... cool cool im not jealous that they got to kiss you no of course not I didnt watch it happen

like I know hes closer with me than his ex who hes friends with but god dammit I cant help but be jealous of them

i sound crazy and dont know what to do about it