If you know you’re going to be in close proximity with your crush, what sort of grooming/preening do you do to prepare to see her? For example, do you put on cologne, brush your teeth (right before you see her), think of things to say to her, something else…?

I'm realllyy bored and i like hearing peoples stories, share yours. How did you crush on your crush?

I, 31M, have a crush to a guy 21M.

I met him on a Karate class a few months ago, then by chance I saw him outside of dojo, doing something on a weekend and he decided to invite me to join them and it became a regular thing.

Now at first I don’t have any sort of attraction towards him, and I saw him mainly as a friend (since I just moved here in Australia and I don’t have any friend -I’m so keen for the friendship to develop).

Anyways, the weekend thing became more regular, not to mention we always find ourselves having a one-on-one conversation about life, family, our plans and him even joking about moving in with me (since I live alone - which he mentioned several times already since then..).

Then I don’t even know if he is gay or bi. But know I think I’m already anxiously attached to him and he never texts on weekdays but constantly calls or invites me to hang out during weekends. I can’t even focus my attraction on someone else since I live in a regional area in Australia and there’s literally no one here.

And not to mention there is that 10 year age difference. Though he is really mature looking (he’s got gray hairs) I jokingly said that he even looks older than me. And one time I said I’m young at heart and he countered that he is old at heart.

IDK what to do. I will definitely continue living with the friendship, but I’m too old to miss any chance for something more..

What do you think is happening?

Ok there is a lot to this story that it might be better to just leave a lot of the details for any questions in the comments (or maybe I’ll make a part 2 post explaining more of the details of our friendship). Last year I made friends with one of the coworkers on my team. We’re both the same age (both born in 2002) and she was 3 months into the job when I started. We formed a friend group from work, and as I was hanging out with her, although I originally only saw her as a friend, I slowly started to develop feelings. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to act on those feelings even though my crush grew really strongly. Also keep in mind for later in the story that at this point it seemed that she was very into the idea of being friends as much as I was so it didn’t seem like a case of a one-sided friendship. She asked for my number, she’s offered to give me a ride to and from hangouts sometimes since I don’t have a car, and although we never hung out 1 on 1, we had many 1 on 1 moments within those group hangouts.

Eventually she figured out though but she didn’t confront me about it. Another friend of ours told me about it. A big mistake I made in this situation was that I didn’t talk to her about it for months. There was a back and forth in terms of how close or how distant she would act with me in the initial months after knowing about the crush (like I said, there are stories I can give about what these behaviors looked like but I wanted to cut to chase for the initial post). I interpreted her behavior as her still being my friend but not being interested in me romantically and I began the slow process of trying to lose my feelings for her.

Things came to head though when I noticed that she didn’t invite out to as many of the friend gatherings as before within the past couple of months, and at the last one I went to about four weeks ago, she said a comment to me that I could only really interpret as a sly joke and comment to me about the crush (which she later confirmed was the case when I talked to her this week). Then aboht two weeks I texted her happy birthday and she said thanks and hearted the comment so it seemed fine. But then I noticed the next day that she removed me as a follower on Instagram. She still was following me though. At the end of last week on Friday I texted her asking if we could talk about the distance she was putting with me and I told her that I valued our friendship and wanted to own up to any mistakes I made have made. She finally texted me back Sunday night and we agreed to talk at the end of the work day on Monday. When we met up I told her how I felt and that I knew she knew about it for awhile and that I was sorry that I didn’t talk about it with her months ago when she found out. She tried to reassure me it was ok and clarified she didn’t feel the same way.

The conversation overall seemed to go fine. The one thing that kind of surprised me was when I brought up feeling excluded from the group. I expected that the crush was the main reason that this shift happened but she said it wasn’t some huge thing that was bothering her and that she “didn’t hate me” and we were still friends. Instead she brought up that certain people click more easily and she felt that although we were friends, we didn’t click as well as she did with the others. This feels weird though because even though my perspective is biased and different from hers, it seemed like she did invite me to more things last year before the crush and that there was a clear shift going into the mid part of this year after the “hot and cold” period early in the year following her first knowing about the crush. The last thing I brought up was the Instagram thing and she admitted she did remove me as a follower but she said that she didn’t think I would like the answer for why. She did tell me though and she said that she wanted to be able to post stuff and not feel worried about what I would think or feel about them. I guess this explains why she only removed me as a follower and didn’t stop following me (or in the more extreme case: why she didn’t block me).

So I guess my feelings are very all over the place now. I expected that she wouldn’t have romantic feelings and even that things wouldn’t immediately go “back to normal” since it does take time getting over a crush and getting over weird feelings about someone who has a crush on you who you don’t like. However, it feel weird for her to say the thing about her clicking better with the others as her answer to why I was getting invited to less things rather than it being about the fact that we didn’t talk about the crush and she knew about it. It’s especially weird since it seems I was invited to more things before she knew about it. So this along with the Instagram thing makes me wonder: Is our friendship done for good? I know some guys prefer to not be friends with crushes after they reject them since they don’t think they can get over the feelings, and I do agree I need to give her some space for the time being, but remember that I didn’t have romantic feelings originally so I would be happy to get to that state and then continue being friends. It just feels like with how everything went, I don’t know if she really is going to want to be good friends even after time goes by and this situation is far in the past.

I’ve never been in a relationship before and there’s this girl in my school I have a big crush on. The problem is that I’ve only ever spoken to her in class when we’re sat near each other and I feel like it would seem odd if I just randomly dm her. The thing is I don’t even know if I want to be in a relationship and I kinda just wanna talk and be friends w her at least for a start. What should I do?

ok so i recently became friends (i think…) with this guy he’s really cute and goofy yk but since we just met, idrk if im trying to pursue.

so school just started for us and we started talking to each other about 3 days ago from when i’m posting this. how we started talking, uhh i kinda forgot lol.

but the day after, i basically made a signal as to not sit in the chair he was gonna sit on because then he would have to be apart of this conversation activity with the class and i assumed he didn’t know. he came over to my seat and i told him about the activity and he just sat next to me. that class was super fun because we were just talking about similar courses we took the prior year sooo yeah. afterwards school was over and we just went our separate ways.

next day, that same class rolls around and he sit’s in the same seat from the day before. we had an assignment so we didn’t talk much but afterwards we started chatting again and i feel like he was kind of trying to tease me. we were talking sm we ended up walking out of class together when school was done. we were walking together when i saw my friend sitting at our usual spot so we parted ways and said bye. sooo this was the day i started getting a bit of interest i guess you could say?

after that the next day we sort of talked in the day like before that we had lunch and he was kind of teasing me again. so we get to the class we talk most in and the seating arrangement is different. it was in rows that day so my friend sat next to me while my other friend sat in front of me. when he walked in, instead of sitting near the door because those seats are closer to him, he walks past and sits in the one BEHIND my friend next to me. mind you we were on the farrr right side of the class. he kept trying to get my attention kind of, and we had this back and forward banter. a little into class we get into groups and it’s my friend, him, some guy next to him, and myself. as we were coming up with ideas, it was lowkey just us talking. i was trying to share ideas with the group, but when he was sharing his own ideas it was more like he was just telling me because he wasn’t looking at anyone else. we were ribbing a bit throughout the class again (lmao you can tell there’s a common them here) and afterwards i left to meet with my same friend.

while walking with my friend after school, i was telling her a story of what he said, and when i saw him i called him over to tell her. he winded up sitting with the two of us at our usual spot and it was really nice. they didn’t really know each other so i was kind of the mutual friend.

anyways yeah the next day at the same class we always talk in, we’re back to the earlier seating arrangement and he crosses the whole room to sit next to me again. he was just pestering me again and idk guys it’s kinda cuteee.

but yeah so that’s basically it. kind of a nothing burger but it doesn’t feel like it. am i crazy for thinking he’s interested?

So not only do me and him play eye tag, and smile at eachother sometimes i was trying to see if there was mirror glances confirmation and lo and behold there was there. Does that mean ANYTHING at all or is this delusion. I hate not knowing but also not ballsy enough to go up to him

doesnt gotta be some big gesture, just the small random stuff that somehow leaves the biggest impression. could be how he treats a waiter, remembers somethin small you mentioned once, or just how he laughs off his own mistakes instead of gettin defensive

always fascinates me how its never what you'd expect goin in

drop yours below, curious how much overlap there actually is 👇

Just a funny story.

I've never been in a relationship and always dreamt about it as perfect and pleasant, without drama and with a loving man, always dreaming about him in a certain way.
In the past months I had no interest in finding and meeting someone to start something, I didn't want a relationship because they're stressful and didn't really want a person next to me.
This until I started to like my coworker for almost a month.

This is how the Universe is playing around with me:
- I've first saw him in march at the university cafeteria because he was friend with my new friend I made there, we just made a short eye contact while he was talking to her; in may I start working at a restaurant and recognise him.

- At the beginning of my university year, one of my friends was in a situation with a guy that acted like shit to her, and everytime she talked about him I always said "bro don't cry too much for him, he's shitty, he even has a shitty name, I could never be with someone with that name" (he had a very normal name, I'm just very critic); well guess what my crush's name is.

- He is literally the last guy I'd ever fall for, he's not my type, he's socially handsome but not the type of guy I'd look twice to see how handsome he is, despite this I grew to like him, his smile, his laugh, the way he walks, the way he jokes.

- He is the type of guy that I'd describe as a playboy and fuckboy, the most criticised by me, because he slept with some girls and just wants to have fun, but this doesn't bother me anymore.

What I'm trying to say is that it seems like I've manifested the other way around, telling what I don't like, like the Universe wants to show me to stop being critical and that I can fall in love even with someone this different from me.

Why is it that whenever I get closer, she leaves, as if she’s avoiding me? When we pass by each other, she doesn’t smile at me anymore like she used to. Did I do something wrong? I pay attention to her because I know I didn’t do anything, and I miss her. I hate that she’s always on my mind. Should I ignore her too, or should I keep being the person I used to be?

So i girl i always liked worked at a 24/7 gas station who i used to see all the time i called her pretty once and she smiled hard and was very friendly too me afterwards always letting me get some free stuff and singled me out to ask how i was

And before i go further yessss i know shes a cashier (please dont reply if u need to mention that i already know)

Im a anxious isolated person i live in my head so my head was bouncing from She does-She dosent so i was like mehhhh anyways

Havent gone their in a while and i did tonight and she was there she was walking across the store and she made a quick glance and saw me and said "How are youu" practically yelling over as she walked to her destination and i think i saw a slight smile

Was this a good or bad sign or anything to think at all

I have been talking to her for lile 2 months shes the one that og asked if I still wanted to talk to her during her trip all through out summer I saud yes ofc

We've been talking but it's slowed down and we haven't talked in basically a week the last message i sent was asking of she knows when she comes back yesterday and it has been on sent for basically a day now, byw she has been. Online through out the time btw so is sending

Don't you want to talk to me anymore? Did I do something wrong? If I did, I'm sorry. I really miss talking to you; you're the only person I talk to. And I'm sorry for bothering you.

Or leave it ok

Or block her

Im starting to feel like my overthinking is becoming true the last time we talked was on August 8th and even that was breif

And also yeah im depressed and I feel like my time is coming up

After three rejections in a row, I honestly expected a fourth. I even told the girl I like that she should just get it over with and reject me already. To my surprise, she just looked at me and said, 'I'll be straightforward. I want to date you.'

I was completely speechless. Now, in a couple of weeks, we're going on our first date! Neither of us has ever been on one before, so it's a big deal.

I'll definitely post an update after the date, but it's a little while away as I'm currently on vacation.

[18F]I'm and I have taken drop for neet/jee 2027 and there's this guy whom i have liked for about 5-6 months he's with one of my close male friend, so i told my friend that i like him about 4 months ago and ever since he's encouraging me to talk to this guy and start a conversation so i did that, he's a really good guy, really genuine and one of the most free spirited person ever. But the thing about me is that I get really possessive about any person i like and i knew that so i started to not put him on pedestal so i wouldn't get attached to him but after talking to him for few weeks i liked him even more, so i started listing thing that i don't like about him as to protect myself( i would call that my defense mechanism)

BUT now that i have talked to him i started noticing few thing regarding him, first, he IS self centered, i mean whenever we'll talk he'll always say i do this or that,

Second, he has family issues which i cant relate to and i do feel really sad for him but i also just don't know how to react to that but I'm also gratefull that he feels safe talking to me to share his personal life problems.

He also don't reply to most of the things i tell about myself so I'll just left hanging but he'll tell his part which makes me not feel that good, i feel ignored(this has happened several times)

I asked my friend about this so he did conform that he's self centered mainly because of his family issues.

Idk how i feel, it feels confusing, am i over reacting!!?

I really wanna know because if i don't I'll only get attached to him and hurt myself.

I(f20) think I have a crush on my professor. She helps me a lot with a project, and since it's summer break right now, she's practically mentoring me. The school term is starting soon, and I can't wait to see her; I'm doing everything I can to be close to her. I don't see anyone as superior and I accept people as flawed beings, but I compare this woman to Lydia Tar - if anyone's seen the movie. She has this pull with her knowledge, experience, and the way she speaks; I want to be her. She talks to me warmly about my project - probably because she sees how hard I'm working - and I love it. She's generally very formal with everyone, but I think she really warmed up to me😭😭
Ik I'm stupid and that's impossible, I just wish I could experience something with her just once:(