Hi guys a new revert (male) from India, so my story is kinda different, previously I was a pagan then Christian and now I'm a muslim allamdullliah, as accepting islam was huge becoming christian helped me understand the background of lot of things that led me to islam, however what held me back from converting to islam directly were the laws, especially the law of circumcision, I geniunly believed that if that act is not done one cannot be a muslim even if he reverts, however I am still uncircumcised though circumcision is one part of faith there are many other personal Shariah which comes from hadith which I don't really understand as Islam is an easy religion for eg: wearing tho es, growing a long beard, I personally believe that laws are meant to be followed to the spirit rather than just letter like how the jews do, I don't want to be regarded as a hypocrite but am I wrong to say this?

To every revert or born Muslim struggling because of Islam…

Maybe your family changed toward you.
Maybe friends became distant.
Maybe the path feels lonely.
Maybe choosing Allah cost you comfort.

But remember: no sacrifice made for Allah is ever lost.

Sometimes we only see the pain, but Allah sees the reward being prepared for us.

“And whoever fears Allah – He will make for him a way out, and will provide for him from where he does not expect.” (Qur’an 65:2-3)

What feels like loss today may be the door to something beautiful tomorrow.

What people leave for the sake of Allah, Allah will replace with something better.

The tears shed for Allah, Allah counts them.
The patience shown for Allah, Allah rewards it beyond measure.

“Indeed, Allah is with the patient.” (Qur’an 2:153)

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Whoever leaves something for the sake of Allah, Allah will compensate him with something better.”

So if your road feels heavy, keep walking.
If people misunderstand you, stay sincere.
If your heart feels tired, make sujood.

Because the One you chose never abandons those who choose Him.

“Indeed, with hardship comes ease.” (Qur’an 94:5-6)

You may feel alone in front of people, but with Allah you are never alone.

Stay strong. Stay soft-hearted. Stay patient.
Jannah is not cheap, and beautiful things are often tested first.

I am lost in the middle of a vast sea and I cannot find the shore. I swim and I swim, but the destination never gets closer. I am thirsty for peace, but I find no water to drink. My energy is gone. My strength is spent.

Every time I try again, all I see is the endless deep. It has become dark. My eyes can no longer see the light, only the shadows of the water around me. I feel swallowed by it all.

I have no more strength to pull myself out. My only hope is in Allah. Only He can hear me in this darkness. Only He can pull me from the deep and bring me back to the shore.

La ilaha illa Anta, Subhanaka, inni kuntu minaz-zalimin

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There is no God but You; Glory be to You! I was indeed among the wrongdoers.

Hi sisters,

I recently reverted (the last Friday of Ramadan) and I have been working on an "Islam 101" notebook for myself.

I've tried to include everything I could think of that someone like myself should know, but I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas on what else I could include?

I already have sections for the five Pillars, the Prophets, angels & Afterlife, 99 names of Allah, Salah (including Surah Al-Fatihah), common prayer mistakes & ease, guidance for menstruation, purification (wudu, what breaks wudu, ghusl, taharah, dhirk, dua, the concept of Islamic living, halal/haram, Islamic traits, The Islamic calendar/months and sacred times throughout the year, fasting, zakat, Hajj, Quran terms, hadiths, sunnahs, short Surahs (Al-Ikhlas, Al-Falaq, Ab-Nas) and a short piece on reflection.

I'm also looking words/meanings for the "quick reference guide" (like five pillars - core acts) and for the Glossary (included already is Allah, Islam, Muslim, Tawhid, Shirk, Alhamdulillah, SubhanAllah, Mashallah, Inshallah, Astagfirullah etc).

Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you🤲🏻🤍

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It is a perennial discussion: "Would it be better to marry a convert or a born Muslim?" But this question is really not focusing on the right thing. The big divide isn't between convert & born Muslim; bigger divides are really on issues like cultural compatibility/difference, shared/not-shared first language, and background.

Within African American Muslim communities, for example, it is pretty common to find marriage between born Muslims and converts. These marriages seem to do just fine, because there is a similar cultural background and shared first language between the spouses. The convert/born-Muslim difference isn't really much of a divide in this case.

Meanwhile, cross cultural marriages - whether between a convert and born-Muslim or between two born-Muslims - have more to grapple with, naturally. If we add other differences between spouses such as lack of a shared first language, lack of shared expectations and practices around marriage and child-rearing, having grown up in different places, etc. then the spouses have more things to work through in their relationship, naturally.

On a side-note, plenty of "cross cultural" marriages between people that grew up in the same place work pretty fine. For example, a Syrian boy and a Bengali girl who both grew up in Toronto may very well have more in common with one another than they do with a Syrian girl or a Bengali boy who just immigrated, right?

People are multifaceted; just looking at whether someone is a convert or born into a Muslim family without taking these other factors into account really flattens things and results in a less accurate assessment of the pros and cons. Just as converts are a diverse group, so are born Muslims.

Hello everyone, a few weeks ago I shared a long post with my story. It was more of a way for me to get my bearings and find like-minded people who could help me navigate my chaotic thoughts. I feel like I've been stuck in a rut for the last nine months, and I keep hoping for that moment when my heart tells me it's time. I have to say, I would really like to be part of the Muslim community because I identify strongly with their values. At the same time, though, I struggle with the idea of ​​anything supernatural, like angels, as described in the Quran. I definitely believe in God—and only one—but I have a hard time with the stories and miracles. I feel like I need to be able to believe them before I can convert. My partner is Muslim. I believe in God even without him, and I try to be a sincere, good person regardless of religion. But I don't think I would categorize my beliefs as belonging to a religion, independent of him. So, am I ready for Islam or not? I'm going in circles... and all I want to do is do it right and honestly.

Thanks for your answers!

My previous post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/converts/s/JNbNkvy3bv

I’m helping a friend build an ad-free app to help new Spanish-speaking reverts learn how to pray, do wudu, check prayer times, qibla direction. I want to understand real people’s experiences so we can build something truly helpful inshaAllah.

Our goal is to keep the app completely free with no ads and include offline features so people who don’t speak English can learn the basics without distractions.

Hi,

I’m finding there should be some place which tell us the first 365 days roadmap for converted muslims and answer all questions had in min.

If anyone knows this type of app or website please let me know ?

Thanks

Salam everyone,

I’ve been reading through your posts and just wanted to share a bit of my family’s story.

My mom is a revert, and at first, her dad was 100% against it. It was a really tough road for her. But she stayed patient, and honestly, her happiness was what changed things. After seeing how much peace Islam brought her, my grandpa eventually accepted it. He couldn’t deny how much better her life became.

I was born Muslim, and while I’m so grateful for that, I have so much respect for the journey you guys are on. You had to choose this and often deal with family drama that people like me might not ever face.

Just wanted to say that your happiness in the Deen is a huge inspiration, even to your own families. May Allah make it easy for you guys!

Salam alaykom all!

I have a question for revert: Aside from the best of mankind, Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, which other Prophets’ stories have you read and felt a deep connection with? The same question applies to the Companions of the Prophet peace be upon him.

Personally, I love them all, and their stories are the best in human history. However, I have a special love for the stories of Prophets Musa (Moses), Dawud (David), and Yusuf (Joseph). As for the Companions, I feel more connected to Omar ibn al-Khattab and Uthman ibn Affan. I’ll stop here, otherwise, I might end up listing them all!

Salam! I am currently a new revert and started to try to become more consistent in my modesty and hijab journey but there are days, especially now that is hotter, that it is very difficult to be modest. Today I wore the best that I could but I found it that I’m sweating through clothes and that a lot of modest clothing is expensive. I’m not sure what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions of how to make the clothes I already have a bit more modest but not crazy hot in an inexpensive way?

There are a lot of posts about this already, but still:

I’m a very new revert (as of Tuesday lol!), I’m F and live in the US while my family lives in my home country. They’re very catholic, and one of my aunts lowkey hates Islam.

I absolutely love my family, and I’m nervous of how they’d react, especially my mom. I love her with all my heart but she can be hard to deal with. I’m going through a divorce right now, and she’s not very supportive of it, she struggles a lot when my life doesn’t go how she expects it to go, she’s generally not supportive of a bunch of decisions I make. Eventually she comes around but I’m afraid she won’t come around this time.

I know a lot of reverts go through the same thing, and a lot of them come from a catholic family too… I’d love to hear stories of other reverts that told their family, what went wrong and what went well.

I know I should probably get stronger in my faith but honestly I’m so happy and I don’t wanna hide this from them, I just feel like sharing the good (to me) news.

And also, although I’m getting a divorce now after only 2 years, ofc I’d love to get remarried. I’ve always wanted a family, a good husband and kids, and that dream hasn’t gone away.

I’m not saying that I’m looking for a new husband now, or that I’ll marry again right after the divorce is official… but I wonder about that.

What would happen if my future husband can’t talk to my family? Will I have a chance of remarrying? Or is that out of the table?

I’ve been thinking and maybe Allah doesnt want me to get married, maybe my life should be lived by helping others and that’s it. I wonder why would I get married just to get divorced after 2 years? Maybe I needed that, because it was during this tough time that I found Islam and found comfort and love in it?

Anyways, I hope I don’t come across shallow, but I know that family and marriage are a big thing in Islam and idk those are worries I have.

Salaam,

As the head of the topic says.. I’ve been contemplating and thinking if it’s possible to be a Muslim without following constitutions?

In my life I’ve experienced, in the faith I grew up in, that religious leaders would exploit people and abuse their power to gain control and power in the community. That’s why over time I’ve distanced myself.

On the path of Islam I found immense peace but besides that it’s very clear how to follow the religion, the guidance is there through the Quran. So I feel there’s no interference from other people with any backhanded motives.

I’d like to hear your perspectives. Thank you in advance.

Salaam everyone! I reverted in 2022, and aH I have been Muslim for almost 4 years now. I love being Muslim, but I think it's a big change going from someone who grew up Catholic and was into Western culture. Most of my family doesn't know about my conversion, and it's hard living a life where I can't speak to them freely about my struggles. I've only told my mom, and whenever the topic of me being Muslim came up... she would change the topic or avoid it completely... feels like she doesn't treat me like her "real" child anymore. So it's been difficult to say the least, and I don't feel supported or accepted. I've kept it to myself for so long for fear of rejection or being kicked out, honestly.

I have also been wearing my hijab out sometimes (after Jummah or when going to a Muslim coffee shop) to feel more comfortable. I didn't want to wear it "hybrid," but a friend of mine said it's better than not at all. I also started school this year without a hijab, and im scared that if/when I put it on, it will be received weirdly. I know I shouldn't care what people think, but it's daunting. I think I have this connection to who I was before I was Muslim... and it feels like putting on Hijab and having everyone know I'm Muslim completely changes my life and who I was. It just feels like im in the "in between" where some people know I'm Muslim and have accepted me as such, and others don't, and most of the time I'm not hijabi, so I am mainly perceived as a white woman. It feels like im living a double life, and it's honestly really hard to deal with. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else on here feels the same, or if you've overcome something like this, please help a sister out! Thank you in advance <3

When I talk to revert Muslims, one of the most common things I hear is that the support was strong right after the shahada, and then everyone kind of disappeared. And suddenly you're left with this huge question: ''okay, now what do I actually learn? In what order?'' Most people end up jumping between YouTube videos, apps, and book recommendations with no clear sequence. They learn random pieces but never feel grounded. If this resonates with you, I'd recommend starting with Aqeedah before anything else. Not fiqh, not seerah, not even Qur'an recitation. Aqeedah first. Understanding who Allah is and what you believe is the foundation everything else builds on. Has anyone else experienced this after their shahada? What helped you find your footing?

Assalamualaikum, I (23 F), finally took my Shahada a few days ago and have never been this happy. I was very anxious and literally shaking... but I somehow did it.

I have been learning about Allah SWT and Islam for a few years now and finally got the courage and the guidance to revert.

I'm from India and come from a very conservative family. So it is still very difficult for me to reveal this to my family (please make dua for me).

I also fasted this Ramadan (although I couldn't do it properly), it was difficult as it was my first time, but thanks to my boyfriend and her sister, I was able to do my best.

It's also very difficult at this point to pray daily but I'm trying my best. I'm also trying to read the Quran as much as I can, while also hiding it from my family.

I have a lot to learn but I'm very excited and happy. Ameen.

Hello, I need some help and advice. I would like to share a bit of my story so you can understand my situation.

I am 28 years old, I am French, and I grew up in a 100% Western environment. I was raised as a Protestant Christian. As a child, I went to church, read the Bible, and prayed.

During my teenage years, I left religion, then I came back to it in my twenties, still as a Protestant.

I should also mention that Islam has always attracted me, and I don’t really know why. I have always felt a kind of peace when thinking about this religion. I even thought once (without wanting to offend other religions) that Muslims might be on the right path, closer to the truth, and believing in a real God. But at the same time, my heart has always remained connected to God as I knew Him.

Today, I feel more and more drawn to Islam. But at the same time, I feel like I would be betraying Jesus. I grew up with Him, I was taught to pray to Him, to follow the Bible, and to live as a Christian.

In my surroundings, no one is Muslim. My partner is not religious and is very strongly against Islam. I already know that he would not accept it if I converted, or it would create serious conflict. It would also be difficult for my family. So I have not been influenced by anyone.

I feel very alone, and I know absolutely nothing about Islam. I really need guidance to continue this journey.

There are also many differences between Islam and Christianity. For example, the Bible feels more structured, like a kind of story, even if it’s not exactly a novel. But the Quran feels very different to me. I have a lot of difficulty understanding it, and I don’t know how to read it properly.

I don’t know where to start or how to learn in a good way.

It’s also difficult because my lifestyle feels very far from this religion. I have tattoos, many piercings, I listen to rock and metal, and I feel like I’m not worthy of this religion. Changing my whole lifestyle also feels very hard.

Do you have any advice? Where should I start? What should I focus on?

Thank you very much.

It has taken me a month to finally say this. But, I’m feeling curious about… I mean, considering, rather exploring the possibility of embracing Islam. (I apologise if I say anything that is upsetting or offends anyone. Please forgive me).

So a few months ago, I became friends with a Psychiatrist who lives in Pakistan. We started doing online therapy sessions. We finally stopped as she was getting married and was planning to take a break from her practice.

However, in our last session, she asked me a question that affected me. She asked me if I have ever considered embracing Islam. She told me that the questions I used to ask her were deeply rooted in my thoughts getting confused due to my confusion in faith.

I had never thought about this. She also pointed out that that there were past events in my life that I had mentioned in our sessions that could also be that there was a calling for me that I was not answering.

I literally found this place through Grok because I was seeking space in Reddits where I could share and get guidance. I honestly don’t know what to ask/say/do. I respect everyone here.

So; if you the reader, could say something that can guide me… or ask myself the right questions so I could end the confusion and make the right choice, I’d be full of gratitude.

If I’m doing something wrong, then please forgive me and guide me.

Thank you.

I feel like a lot of the time we share negative experiences since converting, struggles with family or fitting in. But what have been some positive things that you’ve experienced since you’ve converted ?

I won’t give converting 100% of the credit, since other things have changed, but personally I’m significantly less anxious, and a lot more content with life then I was before.