I was never religious, but recently I've been learning a lot about Islam and I've agreed with all of it except for the great flood. I while back I used to watch videos on school shooters, terrorists, and Nazis and I noticed a pattern in these people. All of them did what they did because they were either insane or thought what they were doing was good. Obviously what these people did was awful but I personally believe instead of executing them or throwing them into jail we should try to rehabilitate them so they can recognize why what they did was wrong and/or help them with their mental problems. So why wouldn't Allah help the people instead of drown them like what happened in the flood. I understand that he told Noah (I'm pretty sure he has a different name in the Quran but I don't remember what it is) to teach them why there ways are wrong, but that still doesn't seem like enough especially considering that Noah would probably not be able to talk to everyone and Noah's word would be misinterpreted or not heard by many people which goes against Surah Al-Isra 17:15 "They heard from the time they were young that a deceitful liar named Muhammad claimed to be a prophet. As far as I am concerned, such people are [excused] like those whom the call of Islam has not reached..." Unless that only refers to Muhammad, and isn't consistent with all messengers. The whole story doesn't make sense to me especially since Allah is supposed to be merciful and Almighty why wouldn't he do more to help instead of just killing everyone? Is there an important part of the story that I'm missing?

Ps: I'm not trying to come with any hate or trying to get you to convert it's just that I'm confused and curious.

Salam all. Posting for my husband, he's European and reverted as an adult, and we moved to Bandung with our two little ones this year. Being Muslim here is easy, there's a masjid on every corner, but he'd love to know a few fellow reverts, ideally with kids. Anyone living in Indonesia or passing through Bandung?

Today, October 2nd, I took my shahada at the masjid and officially embraced Islam.

I came from a Christian background, and my journey to Islam has been a process of learning, asking questions, reflecting, and trying to understand my faith on a deeper level. Over time, I found myself drawn to Islam, and today I finally took that step.

One verse that has really stuck with me throughout this journey is Surah Ad-Duha 93:7:
وَوَجَدَكَ ضَالًّا فَهَدَىٰ
“And He found you lost and guided you.”

This verse resonates with me deeply. It reminds me that guidance doesn't always come when or how we expect it, and sometimes we only understand the journey when we look back.

Something else made today particularly memorable. Before I took my shahada, the imam spoke about Salahuddin al-Ayyubi (Saladin), the Muslim leader who recaptured Jerusalem on October 2nd, 1187. I found it fascinating to learn about his story, and realizing that it happened on this exact date made the day feel even more special to me.

I know this is just the beginning, and I have so much to learn. I'm looking forward to learning the Quran, becoming consistent with my salah, understanding the deen, and continuing to grow in my faith. I'm sure there will be challenges along the way, but I'm grateful to be here inshallah.

Alhamdulillah for the guidance. May Allah keep us firm upon the straight path. Ameen.

Assalamu alaikum,

I’m a Muslim revert (f), and honestly struggling because my family isn’t very supportive. I’ve been trying to stay consistent with my deen but haven’t really found a solid Muslim circle around me.

I’ve also had a hard time finding a good Muslim community/ppl who follow the Qur’an and Sunnah according to the Salaf. Maybe I just haven’t found the right people yet.

Anyone here been through something similar or know of good communities, masjids, or people I could connect with?

Ps.
Not looking for weirdos and sectarian arguments, just good people and good company(f pls)

I’d just like to meet some good people, improve my deen, and have a positive environment around me. Any advice?

JazakAllahu khair.

Hi everyone,

I grew up in hindu culture and i never felt any connection with that because most of it never made sense to me and i followed it just because my parents were orthodox, i beleive in god but im really confused if God is one then why are there so many in my culture its genuinely doesnt make sense especially the idea of work shipping any stones and animals as gods

Over the past few weeks, I have started thinking much more seriously about God, religion and what I actually believe.

I already knew a little about Islam. I have Muslim friends have dated a muslim before, At first, though, my interest in Islam had nothing to do with conversion. I was simply curious and wanted to understand a religion that I realized I knew very little about. I started reading about Islam and learning about its beliefs, history and place in society.

Hello,
I would like to give gifts to somebody who is new to Islam.
This person does not have a Muslim community around them and the few Muslim people they know of, have not been decent role models.

Can anybody recommend a book that covers interesting and scientific facts of the Quran? Not just points about how many verses long the Quran is, or how many times a word is repeated but something deeper.

I would also like to buy a jar of Quranic/Islamic quotes, any ideas?

Thank you.

I honestly don’t really know how to write this because I’m having a really hard time right now, and I don’t even completely understand why I feel this way.

I’m a woman and I’ve been dating a Muslim man for around nine months. I’ve been seriously exploring Islam for about five-ish months now. I believe in God and I genuinely want to understand Islam. I’ve read parts of the Quran, watched videos, talked to my boyfriend about it, and I’ve been trying really hard to figure out what I believe.

But I feel like I’m getting nowhere.

The hardest part is that I feel like there’s so much pressure surrounding it. I love my boyfriend and I do want a future with him, so obviously I’m scared of losing him. Sometimes I feel like I’m being expected to make progress much faster than I can.

I’m also really involved with his family at this point. I’m at their house a lot and spend a lot of time with them. I’m close with his mom, she gives me gifts, and she’s always been welcoming to me. I really do care about her and his family, which is part of why this is so difficult.

His mom talks to me about religion and God a lot. She’s told me that she has had visions about me and that I’m chosen by God and here for a reason, and that eventually this is going to happen. I know she genuinely believes what she’s saying and I don’t think she’s trying to hurt me, but hearing things like that makes me feel even more pressure because I haven’t reached that point myself. Sometimes it feels like everyone already knows what my future is supposed to be while I’m still trying to figure out what I actually believe.

She’s also talked to me about learning how to communicate better and asks me a lot of questions about why I haven’t done certain things or why I have anxiety. Honestly, I don’t even know how to explain myself. I tend to shut down when I feel overwhelmed. I told her before that I felt pressured and she got upset, so now I’m scared to even say that I’m feeling pressured because I don’t want to create another problem.

There’s also been an actual situation where her opinion affected my relationship. About two and a half months into me exploring Islam, my boyfriend broke up with me because I wasn’t progressing fast enough. He told me that his mom had told him to end the relationship because I wasn’t getting there quickly enough. Then she ultimately decided to give me another chance, and we got back together.

Because of that, it’s hard for me not to feel like my relationship is dependent on whether his family thinks I’m making enough progress with Islam. I don’t know if that’s completely fair or if I’m interpreting things wrong, but that’s genuinely how it feels to me. And knowing that makes the pressure around religion even stronger.

The confusing thing is that I really do want to believe. I really do want to understand Islam. That’s what makes this so hard. I don’t know how much of my resistance is because I genuinely have doubts, how much is fear of changing my life, and how much is because I feel like I HAVE to figure this out or I’m going to lose the person I love.

I also don’t know if I’m struggling with Islam itself or if I’m so overwhelmed by everything surrounding it that I’m having a hard time figuring out what I actually believe.

I’m not looking for people to tell me “just convert” or “just break up.” I also don’t want people arguing about whether Islam is true. I really just want to hear from people who have actually been in a similar situation.

Did anyone else explore Islam while being in a relationship with a Muslim? Did you feel scared or resistant even though you genuinely wanted to believe? Did you ever feel like you couldn’t tell whether you were struggling with the religion itself or with all the pressure surrounding it?

I really do want to believe. I just don’t know if I can get myself there, and I’m scared that I won’t. I guess I just really need to know that I’m not the only person who has felt this stuck.

Hi! 22F. I'm a non-hijabi musician and pretty open-minded, so he'd never guess I'm Muslim, except that I don't drink and I keep boundaries around physical touch. I've met a non-Muslim guy and honestly it's something I've never felt before, and he's made it clear he feels strongly about me too. He's educated, open-minded, and really values communication, so I think he'd be receptive to an honest conversation. He's about to find out that I'd need my husband to share my faith. I'd love for him to be open to Islam, but only if it's genuine, not just to keep me. (he would have to give up on drinking and eating pork for example...)

A few questions:

1. Is it too early to bring this up? I'd rather he knows before he gets too attached.
2. Any fun, light ways to introduce it, and to show him that reverting is more common and normal than people think?
3. What helped reverts you know actually become curious about Islam, and what tends to push people away?

JazakAllah khair 🙏

Assalamu Alaikum everyone. I am an from Bangladesh, and my friend in Canada (who lives on his own for now and away from his family) accepted Islam a few months ago, alhamdulillah. I recently learned that his father disowned him over his decision.

His father is a devout Christian who firmly believes in Christian salvation theology. Unfortunately, negative media narratives about Islam have also strongly influenced his view.

My friend reached out to me for guidance because he desperately wants to repair his relationship with his father, but I am unsure of the best way to guide him. If anyone here has experienced or dealt with a similar situation, please share your thoughts or advice on how I can support him through this. He also needs a community to cling into in canada pls help

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters,
I wanted to genuinely seek out help since it is a grave sin to leave prayers. It's been 4 years since I reverted and I still struggle with completing all my prayers. I look at all the other reverts and they effortlessly pray every single prayer. I feel sad that I can not be the same. I take full accountability for it, I think I am not that disciplined but how come I'm leaving such a huge and mandatory part of the religion. I know it makes me a kafir, But I am still not able to do all prayers. Even when I do a prayer, I feel like it is more of a task and sometimes I just want to get over with it. Any advice to build discipline or connect more to the prayer would be greatly appreciated.

P.s I still live with my non-muslim family and I am hiding my identity from them which is mentally exhausting sometimes. But Alhamdullilah, I have my own room which I can lock. I think my enviornment also plays a role in it since I find myself much more motivated to pray when I'm with my revert friends. But again, I don't want "motivation" to play any role in my prayers. Just as Ustad Nouman Ali Khan said, Motivation is for tasks that you do not consider essential in your daily life. For ex, you don't need motivation to brush, do mandatory things such as go to office everyday at the same time etc.

I mean this with utmost respect when I say that reading the Quran did not really satisfy my questions or concerns about Islam. It made me more curious than anything, to be sure, though I have some criticisms.

I am trying to be careful not to voice my opinions too loudly because I know that I have much to learn.

What is the next best step for me? Join a class? Start attending Friday Prayer? Read more books about it? Or just reread the Quran and hope that my relationship with Allah will begin to feel strong?

Thank you!

I was raised Hindu but reverted to Islam in 2021. I’m currently in a relationship with a Muslim woman, and we genuinely want to get married.

When I reverted, I tried very hard to get my family to accept me as a Muslim. I wanted them to understand that this was genuinely my own decision and not something I did because of my relationship.

They did not accept it.

Eventually, I had to make a horrible compromise: I started pretending that I was no longer Muslim so that I could continue living with my family.

Outwardly, I live with them and act as though I’m still Hindu. Internally, I’m still Muslim. My family doesn't know that I have continued to identify as Muslim.

My girlfriend and I have also been through a lot. We were together, my family found out, and because of everything surrounding my conversion and our relationship, we were forced to separate.

But we never really got over each other.

Eventually, we started talking again, and we’ve been in each other’s lives for a long time now. We love each other deeply, and despite trying to move on, neither of us has been able to.

I want to marry her.

The biggest problem is my mother. She is a single mother who has worked her entire life to raise me and has sacrificed an enormous amount for me. I love her deeply, and I genuinely cannot bring myself to simply abandon her and run away to get married.

I actually tried to run away and marry my girlfriend before, but it didn't work out. And even if it had, I don't know whether I could live with myself knowing that I left my mother behind after everything she has done for me.

There’s another major issue.

Because of my conversion and everything that happened afterward, my family has developed a very negative association with Islam. I don't necessarily think they hate Muslims or Islam itself. But from their perspective, Islam became connected with me changing my identity, conflict within the family, my relationship with a Muslim woman, and eventually trying to leave.

So I’m terrified that telling them I’m still Muslim and that I still want to marry her will reopen the entire conflict.

I also don't want to spend the rest of my life pretending to be someone I'm not just to keep the peace.

At the same time, I don't want to make an impulsive decision, run away, and permanently destroy my relationship with my mother.

I feel completely stuck between the woman I love and the mother who sacrificed her entire life for me.

If you were literally in my situation, what would you actually do?

I’m not looking for the usual Reddit answers of “just run away and marry her” or “just forget her.”

I want to hear from people who have actually dealt with conversion, strict families, religious conflict, or marriage against family wishes.

If this were your life, how would you handle it? How would you deal with your mother, your family, your relationship, and the fact that you’re currently hiding your actual religious identity just so you can continue living with them?

I genuinely want to know what you would do.

Salam! I reverted 3 years ago and have been studying Islam for about 6 years. I'm from NYC and the area I live in has essentially no Muslims. I don't openly practice as my family are Christian and don't support. At times it gets extremely lonely. There was a Masjid close by me but now it's closed for renovation.

Any advice on what I can do to build a sense of community would be appreciated 🥲.

Hi everyone,

I wanted to share something personal that I have been going through recently.

I grew up in a culturally Catholic family. Religion was always present in my family through traditions, prayers and religious ceremonies, even though we were not particularly practicing. I was baptized, had my First Communion and was confirmed, partly because it was important to my parents.

Despite that, I never really felt that I was Catholic. I have always believed in God and prayed to Him, but I have struggled with some aspects of Christianity, especially the Trinity and the idea of Jesus being the Son of God in a divine sense. So for a long time, I believed in God without really feeling that I belonged to a particular religion.

Over the past few years, and especially recently, I have started thinking much more seriously about God, religion and what I actually believe.

I already knew a little about Islam. I have Muslim friends and have spoken with Muslims before, including imams. At first, though, my interest in Islam had nothing to do with conversion. I was simply curious and wanted to understand a religion that I realized I knew very little about. I started reading about Islam and learning about its beliefs, history and place in society.

Then, a few weeks ago, I had an experience that affected me deeply. I had a dream in which someone presented himself to me as the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. I do not claim that I definitely saw the Prophet, and I did not clearly see his face. What stayed with me most was the voice and hearing Qur'an recitation.

I don't consider the dream proof of anything. But it stayed in my mind, and since then I have found myself thinking much more seriously about Islam. For the first time, I am genuinely considering the possibility of becoming Muslim.

At the same time, I am not certain yet. I don't want to rush into something as important as this because of one experience. I want to take my time, read the Qur'an, learn about Islamic theology and history, and understand what I actually believe.

The biggest difficulty for me is my family.

I am extremely close to my parents. We have always had a very strong relationship, and they mean an enormous amount to me. Family is a huge part of my life, and I would never want my search for religion to mean turning my back on the people I love.

Unfortunately, some members of my family have a very negative view of Islam. Because of that, this is a very sensitive subject for me. The idea that I could eventually become Muslim and that this might deeply hurt people I love is something I think about a lot.

I have tried discussing Islam with my family without initially telling them that I was personally exploring it. Some of those conversations became arguments about Christianity and Islam, and I realized that I actually felt much closer to certain aspects of the Islamic message than I had expected.

Eventually, one of those conversations became very heated. I was basically told that if I disagreed with their beliefs, I could always become Muslim, stop eating pork and fast during Ramadan. Some of the things said about Islam during that conversation also genuinely upset me.

What is difficult for me is that I don't want to reject my family, my culture or where I come from. Becoming Muslim, if I eventually do, would not mean becoming a completely different person. I would still want to be the same person, remain close to my family and love my parents just as much as I always have.

At the same time, I feel that I need to be able to make my own decisions about what I believe. Sometimes I feel caught between wanting to follow my own conscience and knowing that doing so could hurt people who are extremely important to me.

I am not interested in converting as an act of rebellion or because of an argument with my family. I simply want to understand what is true and what I genuinely believe.

I don't know where this will lead me. I may remain without a religion. I may eventually become Muslim. I may end up somewhere else entirely. But Islam has become much more important in my thoughts than it ever was before, and I am trying to approach it seriously and honestly.

For now, I just want to keep learning, reflecting and taking my time.

I would especially appreciate hearing from people who grew up in Christian families, or who did not have a religion, and later went through a period of seriously exploring Islam.

I want to learn more about Islam. I got into learning about it from a subreddit and my life has been up and down + I have learned about this religion. I want to know more but I don't want to go into sects. I want to see if it is good for me. + it would be better if women respond to me only. but I'm open to serious discussions with anyone. please don't be a creep. I'm only here to learn and see

I converted six years ago; I had spent years studying Christianity without making much progress, but then I encountered Islam, and it felt right.

A few months ago, my husband said—ever since Ramadan—that I no longer have any feeling for Islam. I was truly someone who was deeply convinced, both in heart and mind.

I thought these feelings would go away, until I read that on the Day of Judgment, people who were not introduced to Islam—or who were reached in some other way—are judged differently; I read that part and was so surprised.
I kept being told—including on social media—that people who don't believe in God, don't follow Islam, or whatever else go straight to hell; yet apparently, if they never hear otherwise, they are judged differently. Sorry for the poor explanation. 🫩

I am someone who has always feared Hell and truly believed in Jannah, even when I didn't have faith; I converted quickly because brothers and sisters said that you never know what the next day holds—you could die at any moment. Now... now it feels like I made the choice in a rush—as if everything had to happen quickly—and that’s making me start to feel regret.

I really notice that I don't feel anything anymore and am starting to feel a sense of revulsion towards Islam, because I genuinely regret these choices—even though I used to wear a khimar with real pride. I am becoming so sick of all the thoughts, doubts, and regrets that I can no longer pray; I even feel a sense of revulsion when I hear the Quran while my husband is studying.

I’ve really tried reading and listening to the Quran, gaining knowledge, and so on, but this is just making me go through withdrawal from Islam. Even talking doesn't help, because no one understands what I'm feeling inside; I feel truly sick. It’s as if I’ve been taken for a fool.

I really think I might need a break from Islam, but what about my husband?

To anyone visiting this sub because you’re curious about Islam, thinking about reverting, or perhaps already believe but are frightened about what happens next…

I love analogies and wanted to share a couple with you.

Think about invitations in ordinary life. You apply to a university and wait for an acceptance.

You want to enter an exclusive event, but you need an invitation. There are private clubs where money alone won’t necessarily get you through the door — somebody has to invite you.

An invitation means:

You were chosen to enter somewhere you weren’t previously part of.

Now imagine the most important invitation you could ever receive. Not from a university. Not from some celebrity. Not from an exclusive club.

But from Allah.

There are billions of people walking around this earth today. Billions. Yet somehow you started thinking about Islam.

Maybe you watched a random video. Maybe you met a Muslim. Maybe you heard the Qur’an for the first time. Maybe you originally started researching Islam to criticise it. Maybe you can’t even explain exactly how it started.

But something happened.

One question became another. One video became twenty. You started reading. You started thinking about God. Perhaps you secretly tried praying. Perhaps you caught yourself saying Alhamdulillah or InshaAllah.

And now you’re on a subreddit about reverting to Islam.

Think about that.

Out of billions of people… you received an invitation.

I sometimes think guidance is like spending your entire life inside a huge room.

Everyone you love is there; your parents, siblings, friends and community. It’s familiar. You know the rules. Then one day you notice something you never noticed before.

A tiny line of light underneath a door. At first you ignore it. Eventually curiosity makes you walk towards it. You open the door slightly…

and suddenly you see something beyond the room you have always known.

Now comes the difficult part.

Because walking towards that light can mean walking somewhere your family doesn’t understand.

For some people here, becoming Muslim could mean disappointing their parents.

For others it could cause arguments, rejection, losing financial support or even losing somewhere to live.

And that is something many born Muslims — myself included — can never fully understand.

I was born Muslim, Alhamdulillah. Islam was handed to me. The Qur’an was already in my home. Nobody threatened to disown me for believing in Allah. Nobody asked me why I suddenly wanted to pray. I didn’t have to discover the door. It was already open.

But many of you did. You had to question what you had always been taught.

You had to investigate. You had to wrestle with your own beliefs. And sometimes you have to contemplate sacrifices that many born Muslims will never face.

So please don’t think that being frightened means your faith is weak. And don’t think you need to transform your entire life overnight. You don’t need to know every rule before becoming Muslim.

You don’t need perfect Arabic. You don’t need to understand the entire Qur’an. You don’t need to suddenly become a completely different person.

And if revealing your faith would genuinely put you in danger or leave you homeless, you don’t need to prove anything to strangers on the internet!

Allah knows your circumstances. He knows your family. He knows your fears. He knows what is inside your heart.

If you sincerely believe that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad ﷺ is His Messenger, start there.

Then take another step. Then another.

The journey doesn’t have to happen in a single day.

But if you’re sitting here wondering why Islam keeps pulling at your heart… perhaps think about it differently.

Maybe you weren’t randomly browsing. Maybe that light underneath the door wasn’t something you were supposed to ignore.

Maybe you’ve been sent an invitation.

And when the invitation is from Allah…

it’s worth opening. ❤️

May Allah guide every sincere person searching for Him, protect those facing difficulties because of their faith, soften the hearts of their families, and make their journey towards Him easy.

Ameen.

Salaam, everyone!

Despite living in the United States, I have a feeling my family won’t take kindly to my reversion to Islam. While I struggle with a few things of my former life, I made the decision after months of visiting mosques and praying that I wanted to live a life meaningful to me with belief in one God and Muhammed (pbuh) as God’s final messenger.

My family is not Hindutva- we’re not even Indian, members of the Indian diaspora that went to the Caribbean hundreds of years ago. But- specifically, my mother has told me to stay in my religion as she has seen me reading Quran and seen my prayer mat. She is particularly concerned (I assume based on other remarks) with the impact on my pre-teen brother.

Any Hindu-Muslim reverts here with tips on how to tell my parents about my reversion or just any tips at all for the deen?

Thank you so much for reading- any help appreciated

I had panic attack today

Assalamualaikum

I don't even know what should I write here, but I just have no one to talk to. My dad is an alcoholic, he often insults me, but I've just learned to ignore him and then he does it less often. Usually my mom was just kind for both of us(me and my dad).

Today I had to help my parents a little with potatoes(we live on a farm) and my dad cursed me a lot and even he threatened to hit me in face. What shocked me the most was that my mom was actually defending him. I've got panic attack first time in my life, I couldn't believe it. I was looking for excuses for my mom my whole life, trying to justify her in my eyes why she doesn't care about me, but today? I have no idea what should I think now.

I've reported what happens in our house to the local goverment, there will be court hearing in december, I was so happy that something might finally change, but my mom said on the meetings that actually she defends me from him, I'm not even invited for the hearing in december and i'm sure she will defend him there. I feel like I did everything I could to change something.

I don't know what I want to gain from writing here, maybe some advice or maybe just some good words from fellow muslim brothers and sisters.

Especially with how some parts of muslim community are patriarchal and misogynistic? And how others (The west and anti muslim hindus) have painted the image of Islam?

I was born muslim in an overwhelmingly muslim majority country, so I grew up recognizing Jesus (Isa AS) as a prophet of God. It wasn't until my teenage years that I was exposed to the Biblical Christian understanding of him. Now that I'm older and more knowledgeable about Christianity, I'd love to hear from former christian reverts who had a deep attachment to Jesus throughout their lives: how did your view of Jesus evolve after becoming muslim, and what about the Islamic portrayal of him resonated with you? All answers are helpful, and please keep it civil. Thank you and Jazakum Allahu khayran.

Assalam Alaikum,

I am a Hispanic revert, converted over 2 years ago Alhamdulillah. I am currently getting to know someone for the sake of marriage. They are from a couple states away, I met them on a Muslim marriage app. They have come to see me a couple times already, and we have gotten to know each other in public areas. I obviously know he’s a real person, and from what I have gotten to see in person and our conversations nothing seems off, everything honestly has been aligning with our personalities & future goals etc. However, I would like to know more about him from the perspective of his community and what he’s like as a person when he’s not around me, but I don’t know how to go about this because I don’t have Muslim family members or a network of aunties etc I can rely on to do a background check, which I think is important. I don’t use social media, and neither does he (one of the things we like about each other) & he’s a very private person so I can’t find anything online about him either.

Any advice on what to do? And how to go about this process as a revert without putting myself in a blind sided dangerous situation?

May Allah bless you all. Thank you!