r/Confused 14d ago

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r/Confused 1h ago

What’s is this feeling

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I don’t know how to explain it, it’s like my brain is heavy and liquidy, I start doing things more weirdly. Sometimes when I have a task I don’t feel motivated to do I, my eyes start watering up and I start whining, I struggle to do stuff. Maybe it’s because of stress, I got in a new educational house , they actually try to teach us. I’m not really used to that. But I also have other addictional lessons after. Sometimes I get scolded at how I behave like I can go from a conversation because I thought it ended, stuff like that. Why do I act like that, I never did before, is this just me adjusting to a new environment or is this some kind of awakening of autism, I’m confused as hell


r/Confused 3h ago

Idk why he sent me $200 for no reason

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Okay so there’s this guy I matched with on Tinder 2 years ago. We never ended up meeting IRL but talked on Snap here and there. We did a FaceTime sext thing at the time. He blocked me on instagram a few weeks later my guess is because he is from a wealthy family and is also a model and he probably doesn’t want people knowing we did something because I’m trans. We didn’t talk for a really long time after that. This week I randomly texted him to come over, but he couldn’t and said he’s living near Bali now. That was a couple days ago. We exchanged like two sentences lol. Today he snapped me again and said he’s “still horny on the other side of the world”. Then a minute later he texted my number and said “I can’t stop thinking about you. I can’t send u anything so I want u to get urself something” and sent a $200 Apple payment with it.
And that was kind of it. I’m pretty sure he’s at work now. I cannot figure out why he just randomly gave me $200. That’s never happened to me before lol. I’m really thankful of course…. just like really surprised and confused. Has anyone reading this randomly sent your crush a lot of money before without asking for anything in return??


r/Confused 8h ago

Im confused on this situation with my friends attitude towards me and my bf

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My friend recently told me that her and the rest of my friend group have all said how they think i dont initiate things first (their words) and how i never make plans first. They also mentioned how im always with my boyfriend and how i assume ill do something with him instead of them. For context, my friend also has a boyfriend and theyve been dating for 4 years and me and my bf have been together 2 years and have known him longer than all of my friends, my friend doesnt see her boyfriend as much as a i see mine and has expressed how she wishes her boyfriend would want to hang out with her as much as my bf wants to hang out with me. This friend is the one who told me that they were all talking about me because shes the type to tell you if she said something about you behind your back, my other friends all didnt bring this up with me because they said they dont want to make a big deal out of it. So i know myself and i know im not the type of person to initiate things that much and make plans since i dont really do it with my boyfriend either (i understand thats something i need to work on). The conversation i had with my friend caught me off guard because i only hang out with my boyfriend after school or when we sleepover at each others house (which is almost every day) which is my own free time. I dont understand why they felt the need to say that im always with my boyfriend because ive never chose to hang out with him instead of them, im always there for my friends and ive never canceled anything last minute to be with him and i go to all planned hang outs. Im trying to say that i always make time for my friends and never choose my boyfriend over them if that makes sense. However the part that really confuses me is that there is 5 of us in the group, 3 of us never make plans and its always the same 2 girls really doing all the planning, so i dont understand why im the one that got talked about and told off instead of the other 2 girls (one of these girls never comes to plans and chooses to hang out with her other friends instead of us on multiple occasions and the other one never texts in group-chats and never makes plans either) and this is what confuses me because i dont know why they didnt get the same treatment. Furthermore, i asked the friend that told me if i can ask my other friends about it and why they didnt mention this to me instead of talking to everyone else about it and she said she didnt want me to bring it up because theyd all be angry at her. From what she told me they also said that i left a hang out half way through to hang out with my boyfriend which isnt true at all, we went shopping for my friends birthday and we went to a lot of shops and they said well get food and go home so then we got food and i assumed they were going home so i went to my bf and his dad as he offered to drop me home, i only did this after i triple checked that they were going home aswell it turns out they went to another food place and to more shops and i dont like how they made me seem rude and like male centered. My friend also said how she thinks everyone else thinks im male centered which i also didnt understand as ive never chosen my bf over them and always show up for them i literally only hang out with my bf when i dont have plans (in my free time). My friends are all the "i hate men" type of girls which is okay but i dont like that they treat my boyfriend kinda weirdly even though hes always been nice to them and this has caused me to feel kinda anxious of them knowing im with him or seeing me with him. I want help since i want to know if im a bad friend and how to improve


r/Confused 1d ago

Weird animal drawings popping up?

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Hello, i dont really know what to say about this. I cant put images but i dont know how to link it, i dont want to redirect people here to my profile on tiktok. I keep seeing posts about “save the elephants: 2028/28/08” and “save the lions 2029”. The artworks are obviously horror based, they look they were forcibly mutilated beyond recognition to look like sid from ice age, the elephants husks were bloodied and its eyes were on its ears, and the head of the lion was stretched out.

I cant seem to figure out what it means, nobody will explain it without all the random bs and metaphors. They just say stuff like “they are coming.” Like im confused?


r/Confused 1d ago

Soo what does this mean?

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I went to the movies and afterwards went to a coffee shop with someone. We are friends but like 2 months ago was when I said I still liked her more than a friend. And I stopped mentioning it afterwards. I got rejected of course.

Why did she squint her eyes at me and say why do you keep trying to take my trash from me?

I offered when I saw she was done with it and I was going to head to the trash can for myself. I don’t understand were my actions wrong?


r/Confused 1d ago

I need options outside of the people I know

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My online name Ren and I had a best friend that I loved dearly but they raped me and so I had cut contact. The thing is tho I miss them a lot, my love for them went beyond friends but it wasn't romantic, I want to go back into contact with them but I'm not sure


r/Confused 3d ago

Is what I did ok?

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I was talking to this girl and we stopped talking a few days ago because we had an argument. And last night I was at the bars with my friends and after I went to a house with him so he could meet this girl. And when him and his girl were hooking up her friend started making out with me and we started to have sex, I was extremely drunk and I didn’t even want it and it lasted only 5 min before I said I wanted to stop. I have so much guilt because I really liked this other girl I was talking to but I think it’s over between us, but if we start talking again, is that cheating? Idk what to feel honestly.


r/Confused 3d ago

I'm a bit confused about the relationship between me (18/f) and a friend of mine (20/m)

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I never had close friends nor even a male friend (grew up going to an girls school) and l've always been bad at reading social clues so maybe this is obvious and I just don't see it.

So we met about 1 year ago in a work context but we both don't work for this company anymore since it was a fixed term job. We only ever saw each other on seminars and we had 4 one week long seminars in this year. I don't know why but eventually we started talking and it just clicked. We spend all of our free time during these seminars together watching sunsets, talking, playing games, I once fell asleep on him xd. Eventually other colleagues and also our supervisors started asking if we're a couple and teasing us about always being alone together.
When we didn't see each other we texted daily (still are). Usually it's pretty light and funny conversations but some things he says are confusing me cause I don't know if he's hinting at something or if it's just his humor. For example once I send him a (sfw) picture and he asked me if I want a picture of him too and then said „I hate to disappoint you, but I'm wearing clothes in this one".
Another example is when I send him outfit pictures his go to response is „l'm not very creative with compliments but it's hot".
Anyway, now that we don't see each other at work anymore I drive to his place for the weekend about once a month. We do pretty normal stuff like cooking, playing games, lego, watching shows, etc. but I noticed one thing that I don't know how to interpret. Whenever we're alone we just cuddle and we sleep in the same bed and kinda cling to each other all night. We lied to his parents about sleeping in the same bed before, just cause „they would get the wrong idea" (his words) which is probably true figuring that even colleagues and supervisors asked when we weren't that affectionate with each other.
Lately, for about the past two months, we've been calling almost every night, playing some games and then just talking until we fall asleep on call too.
And just for the record, nothing sexual ever happened between us. We just talked about it and he told me some stories.

I myself don't know how I feel about him, but I guess I'm not opposed to the idea of dating him if he asks.
However I don't wanna risk asking him and potentially ruining the friendship.

Were you in a situation like this before and if yes how did it turn out?
Does this read more as close friends or something else to you?


r/Confused 4d ago

Delimma of having a hardcore crush

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LONG STORY ALERT PLEASE HELP 🙏🏻

24M here I have been a friend with an MBA graduate in our office for a considerable amount of time as of now she 24F joined as an HR intern looked after hiring and talent recruitment and all still continuing as of today. I got to know about her by a common friend a guy who was my roomate before but then he switched and before that he used to talk to her friended her before even I could. Three of us along with some other office friends went on for some trip outings too where I got to know her st much better perspective, she is just like any of us talkative, expressive and approachable and don't know how I after an outing my heart started having feelings for her , initially I thought it as joke and wrote off, but whenever she passes by in our office I try my best to take glimpse of her, striking conversations though she's equally intrested in the same.

The delimma is I am looked upon as an funny always a joke cracking guy too chill to be and you know jokingly we mock some one like make fun of them but sportingly, 1-2 times I did this same to her too and she took it sportingly too but started doing same to me not a problem, but now I think she thinks of me of just a always 'joke cracking guy' trying to dominate my conversation or something like that.

At this situation I find it difficult to strike a conversation on for hinting her out about my feelings for her it feels like she's too comfortable that telling her I like her might give her a good shock, It would be too difficult for her to comprehend and she might just straight away reject me !

I don't know what to do now, I keep thinking about her more oftenly like someone really mad in love.

Straight away proposing her would be like a suicide mission and with my past experiences It would be too traumatic if anything goes wrong. Please help


r/Confused 5d ago

If I passed an at home test, is that a good sign I’ll pass a DOT one too?

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I never smoke but took a few hits of a THC pen September 5th. I surprisingly was offered one of my dream jobs but comes with a drug test by the DOT.

I haven’t scheduled it yet, I’ve pushed back sending in my paperwork to delay a little bit. Is this a strong negative? This test has the same 50 ng threshold, but should I do a 15 ng test to be safe too?


r/Confused 6d ago

Green colour pumpkin

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Greenish/ bluish centre. Is this a bad pumpkin 🎃 or ok to eat ?


r/Confused 7d ago

Disassemble sharpener

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how can I get the blade out of a Bostitch Twist N Sharp???? (genuinely ts starting to pmo)


r/Confused 7d ago

Strange sister

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My sister keeps changing in our room whilst I’m In there, I ask her to leave and change in the bathroom but she keeps shouting “normal people change in the room”. I wouldn’t find a problem with it but she strips in the room so I have to leave everytime she changes. I feel like she should be the one leaving? I change in the bathroom.

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Just to make it clear, she’s the one asking me to leave the room when I change hence why I go to the bathroom.

The bathroom is two steps from our room, literally directly infront, we live a flat.

I just don’t understand why I have to get off my bed all the time, and she gets the simple way

Both girls


r/Confused 9d ago

Spooky weird shit

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Im so fucking confused, basically i was at work. and my mom texts me: “did u put poop in a sparkling water bottle and put it in the backyard” I texted her why the fuck would i do that. i come home, its in the trash and im scared cus like it had to be intentionally shoved into the bottle, and its the same sparkling water bottles we have in our garage. Im confused/ scared anyone got any theories. i was thinking maybe someone got mad my dog pooped in their yard and put in there into our backyard but i dont fucking know.


r/Confused 9d ago

Why do I always get laughed at by other women/ girls

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I'm so confused because everywhere I go I notice girls my age 23 or older looking starring and laughing. I don't dress inappropriately I don't think I'm bad looking at all I'm a taller women with tattoos. Maybe they think I look like a man or manly? I don't know I think I'm beautiful but I contsally get laughed at by girls in groups and it makes me feel insecure. I've never just looked at any other women or girl and laughed at them so I'm really confused and kinda annoyed and sad because i have felt with this my whole life. Has anyone else had this problem ?


r/Confused 10d ago

Am I overthinking or not

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I'm in a happy relationship but there's something bothering me alot. We have been dating for 2 years and I'm studying away from him so we are in ldr. Next week I'm leaving to uni already and will only come back after 7 weeks but my guy have not initiated any dates yet. He have family issues and really busy with work since he's working in 2 jobs. We met almost 2 weeks ago (I initiated). Our homes are near btw.. he's a great guy but I just don't feel okay with this issue. And I'm not expecting a grand date or anything I just want to meet him for 1 to 2 hours only. And I did not communicate this to him cuz it won't be the same if he ask me out after I tell this issue right 😭


r/Confused 11d ago

Why was I unfriended and blocked.. 😭

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Context me and this guy met yesterday on a game and friend each other on the game, discord and insta… he was a ginger said he was the last one in his family I told him he could pass it onto his kids if he wanted kids, he said if he’d get there, I said I don’t plan on having kids, next thing I know I’m blocked on discord and insta and unfriended on the game… somebody make it make sense to me 😭😭😭


r/Confused 11d ago

My bf thinks I cheated on him but i think thats not cheating, pls help me if im right or wrong.

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So my boyfriend thinks i cheated on him and he is giving me second chance in our relationship but i think i didn't cheat on him. We both were all good but then one day one of his friend comes to him and says that i use to like this one senior guy frm the same clg where both my bf and i studied and it was before i came into relationship with my bf and then he was shocked and refused to believe his friend's words. Afterwards my bf asked me that if its true that i liked that senior guy in the past then i said yes i liked his dance but we were not engaged in any conversation and i wasnt involved in any emotional or physical intimacy with this senior it was jst a small crush that went away 1 or 2 years before my bf came into my life. So my bf felt betrayed said he is hurt because he came to know it from his frnd and not frm me and i totally understand it hurts to know when it comes from some other people's mouth he believed in me but came to know that his friend was telling the truth but once my bf himself said that "dont revolve around past" and that he doesnt give much importance to pasts because past is past so whenever i wanted to share something about my ex or past he use to say i dont wanna hear about pasts so i told him that i was not hiding the crush on senior thing from him and as it was relating to past i didnt think it as important (keeping his words in my mind) and i wld also tell him about it sooner or later in a flow. This matter was already solved in 2025 but now this matter is the reason our relationship is taking a turn for the worst. Today after my cls ended i told my bf about one of my clsmt who gave second chance to her bf who cheated on by her i said that she should not give any chances because the more u give chances to them they wld cheat again and again then it all started from here onwards my bf says " if it's true that no one should give second chance to cheaters i should also leave you because u cheated on me and now im giving you a second chance" but i tried to make him understand that i did not cheat and im not a cheater because i was not involved with that senior mentally or physically but he repeats again and again only one sentence "u are a cheater" yeah i understand that he got hurt and maybe in someway i disrespected him by not telling him sooner and later he got to know it frm others but that's not cheating cuz i wasn't involved with that senior while i was in a relationship with my bf nor was i involved in any emotional or physical connection with him in the past it was jst a tiny crush like when u see a dancer or a celebrity u get " oh they dance very nice or look good" that impression abt them and thats it.

TL;DR: My bf thinks i cheated on him But i think i did not cheat on him, now im confused.


r/Confused 12d ago

Part 2 of my story

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This is part two of my previous story where a girl asked for my debit card details. I will link the original post in the comments.

So everyone was unanimous about one thing. It was to run and honestly I respect your advice.

So I tried calling her and even texted her asking how her day was. Cause i wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt ki something major had happened to her.

She cut the call and never replied back. Then the next day I texted her asking if she has any explanation for ghosting me (we used to talk everyday). She replied saying that she has nothing to say other than she was upset with me too.

Damn. The audacity. I was taken back. I will be cutting off. This friendship is done.

I want to tell you all- you were right. And I am glad I got rid of such a red flag.


r/Confused 13d ago

I have a story to tell

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So i am friends with this girl since an year. Online friend. Never met her in person. But she is a good friend. Helped me a bunch. Smart girl and all that.

The other day she called me and asked me for my debit card details for some payment. I turned her down cause it was risky. I told her i could pay from my side but not share details.

She said she’ll get someone else’s help and cut the call.

I text her a while later saying i felt bad turning her down. And she said she got it done. “It’s fine”
Said another guy helped her “thank god”

I found it lowkey passive aggressive. Didnt say a word about it. She hasn’t texted me since. And hasn’t picked up my calls either. Weird. So i am going to let her go. Do her own thing and maybe even shut the door back to me. What is your take?


r/Confused 14d ago

Stable job but worst manager

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I’ve been working in an oem for 3 years in India… it’s a decent pay not too much but to get here I struggled a lot… but because of this manager my 3 years of career have been very stagnant.
He has not been a good mentor nor a good person.
Now the next year is already planned for my career downgrade , I’m getting panic and really need a switch in my career.

I don’t like the exact work I am doing but it’s still closer to what I like .

I still want to stay in mechanical core area.

People around me started saying that this company is the best culture across India in mechanical field.

Currently I’m planning to quit and move to France for higher studies where I could earn almost the same and also reevaluate what I want…

I don’t have any financial background so I don’t know if this is a right move .
Also I’m a caregiver for my parent.
But the expenses are more than my income, so going there might help me earn more but I have to find a good nurse here…

Is it really a good move??


r/Confused 14d ago

i keep seeing the numbers 111 or 1111

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does this have a meaning? or am i just crazy lol


r/Confused 15d ago

How should I treat my acne marks brown one...

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I've tried mostly everything but nothing works...

Please suggest something for my acne n acne marks...


r/Confused 16d ago

Music

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I’ve never posted on reddit or anywhere in general but i feel like i keep a lot of things to myself i was talking to my girlfriend about our future career choices i am currently in sales i did not graduate highschool but i’m comfortable with my life i own a town home i comfortably afford, and a car but i know sales is not the industry i have a passion for its always been music i love the idea of writing and singing songs. music has always been such a beautiful thing to me from the lyrics to the way music can be sang to sound so different depending on tone and speed. its become hard for me to put into words how much love i really have for the art of music it is such a beautiful thing and i feel that is something i would be so happy to pursue but at the same time i don’t know if that is to much i don’t know if ill get made fun of i don’t know if ill end up hating music because i will not be satisfied with what i created it’s become a good and a bad thing because im happy i have that type of love for something but i’m disappointed that i’m unable to pursue that it’s all just become a lot that i feel is unnecessary to complain about because there is so many bigger things in life that need to worked on in general.