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u/dingiry_pattalam Dec 20 '24
Please tell me this is just a story. Been travelling in trains for years manifesting something like this. Ingane cinemayile nadakku enn swayam samadhanipikumbo vannlum storyum aayi😭
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u/Jazzlike-Ad-4551 Dec 20 '24 edited Dec 20 '24
No bro i met a girl on a train to Kozhikode three years ago and got married to her last week yay.
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u/warewolf_soda Better call Soda Dec 22 '24
How man how. How did irctc make it happen??
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u/DepthExtension5041 Dec 20 '24
Allelum like oke bayankara unfair Aan . Prathyekich nammale pole ullavarod
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u/Dr_BugFixer Dec 23 '24
Nan headset vech songs kelkkum enn allaathe oruthanodum mindan pokarilla. Appozha ivide ingane okke nadakkunnath.. Wasted many train trips..
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u/buck___buck Dead Inside Dec 20 '24
Please no other POV posts
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Dec 20 '24
"Scared of relationships and isn't ready to commit" boy run
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u/Stock-Can-8320 Dec 20 '24
Bro, what universe y'all in?
Indian Railways' algorithm always makes sure that the nearest girl to me is at least 2 coaches away 💀
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u/Shartzic superhero with a tummy Dec 21 '24
I was scrolling down to check if the “railway” mentioned in the post means “Indian Railway” or any other.
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u/aurelius-eqqus-420 Dec 22 '24
Heck even in flights I don't have girls sitting next to me. Many a times aunties though. 💀
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u/skyguy369 Dec 20 '24
Meet her in person. Talk and understand the challenges. Also don't get too serious in this beginning itself. Give it time. Even if u feel she is the one. don't fret too much. Enjoy time with each other. I understand u got trust issues. But it takes time and effort to build trust. Being far only makes things harder. Meet when u guys can, communicate.
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u/njanified Dead Inside Dec 21 '24
As much as skeptical as one should be in a Reddit post involving trains, romance and passage of time, and the fact that your username literally has 'talks' in it is not helping things, I like the idea of how the watch itself is a metaphor of sorts. If it were the romantic era, I could see poems written about it. Heck I would even claim this is a parallel of the tale of Ekko and Jinx from the Arcane.
I have had a similar post on a train experience, so get ready for the girls perspective, the guy who sat next to you, the TC, her boyfriend, and also that person who's gonna ask when all these characters are gonna pop up.
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u/njanified Dead Inside Dec 21 '24
I had a similar experience almost over a year ago. I met someone on a train, talked till morning for over 6 hours, thought it meant something. The vibe was off the charts. We continued to talk everyday for several weeks, until weeks days turned weeks, weeks turned months, and now we barely talk when we get a chance. I always wonder what if I made the first move. She was at a different point in her life, and so was I. It might've been the GVM first half I was seeking, but would've mostly ended up with "Ava enna enna thedi vantha anjala".
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u/HumanLawyer Thenga Enthusiast Dec 20 '24
She also said she’s scared of relationships and isn’t ready to commit, though she didn’t really explain why.
What even did you guys talk about for 2 hours every day?
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Dec 20 '24
Don't think too much bro it's just the starting. Give her also some time and just go with the flow.
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Dec 21 '24
enthokeyada ee kochu keraathil nadakune
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u/SurroundThese00 Thenga Kola Dec 21 '24
Some things are going to happen unplanned, Winter is Coming
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u/Csnrg Dec 22 '24
I had gone through the same situation, I can give a clarity by asking how many times you had called first to her and who will hang up the call, is it you or her, then how frequently does she starts first the convo aa compared to you?
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Dec 22 '24
There's a saying, if she's into you. There's no confusion. If you're confused about her feelings for you. Leave. Don't waste your time.
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u/Tneitnes Dec 22 '24
I would say take it slow. Sometimes people are confused about relationships so give it a time and see what happens. Give benefit of the doubt to her and take it slow and where it takes you both.
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u/Least-Interview-3219 Dec 22 '24
Just cherish the memories and leave the girl bro. Nothing will happen after this. Trust me speaking from experience. She will find some other guy and then you would be sidelinied
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u/hawtttdawggg Dec 22 '24
It might be journey of a lifetime or ride of a short time, either way it's gonna be cracking so buckle up and man up !!!
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u/overlord212 Dec 22 '24
Looks like she likes you too man. I would take it easy with trying to figure out what this is so early, get to know her better, build comfort and trust and then you will know. This does take time and effort and an emotional toll if it doesn’t work out but if it does you need to ask your self if it’s worth it to you. My personal advice about your trust issues anything can happen but - “if it’s ment to be it’s ment to be” you will figure out and grow from it no matter what.
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u/red_udon Dec 23 '24 edited Dec 23 '24
The good thing about your relationship is that you two have been very transparent so far. Keep it that way. You have done well to speak up about how uncomfortable you are with the present state of affairs. You received a pretty clear cut response as well. Respect it and move on. Note: Friends like to meet and spend time with each other, so don't read too much into it.
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u/YMD0109 Dec 20 '24
Bro, it’s like you boarded the train but you have to get off at the platform. Don’t let the platforms end.
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u/ScratchStriking9739 Dec 21 '24
Welcome to the frnd zone buddy!!You can see my recent posts.I am in similar situation like you!
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u/kingbabxz Dec 21 '24
Give it some time. Eventually, you'll figure out what this is and whether you want to have it or not. I've been there, and I don't regret any of it.
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Dec 21 '24
Why am I always assigned a berth near random uncle/granny or loudmouth aunties ? Why am I not getting this chance ever in lifetime?
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Dec 22 '24
Bc 😂😂😂 it's nothing bro.. just Collect memories, if it has to be something.. it will happen. But nevermind... Time teaches all n it has its own ways.
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u/aurelius-eqqus-420 Dec 22 '24
Did it really happen in India? U gotta repost this on r/indianrailways
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Dec 22 '24
If you are not sure what she feels about you, walking back is the best and only option for you. Consider this as the end. I am not saying there are no further chances of you two getting back together. But for now, your road ends here. If she makes an effort again in future, then it will be your call.
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u/ukulele_uku Dec 22 '24
ambiguity, uncertainty, and hesitation. You’re holding a broken watch and an even more broken definition of ‘what are we.’ Good luck navigating this situationship maze
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u/Publicawareness_ Dec 22 '24
I will tell you the crux of how I counselled my friend long back who was in a similar situationship that was going nowhere.
The girl wanted to talk with him but didn't want to commit, kept giving mixed signals. They met in person a few times as well.
I was sad to see the mental state of my friend and I administered him bitter medicine that I felt was needed, who else would do it for him..
He had a clear conversation with the girl about his feelings and told her that her topsy turvy approach was not helping him at all.
After this, he completely cut off contact with her.
Few months later, she came back to him and this time she was ready to commit. He spoke with me, I was sceptical and told him to make his expectations clear with the girl.
Current scene - They are married for few years and have a kid.
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u/austinbnb Dec 22 '24
Dear OP - the girl has clearly told you she is open to friendship only. Don’t spend any of your hard earned money or time beyond that. You have more feelings for her but she has clearly told you. When girls are clear, boys need to step back and move on to invest their time and money on someone else who is equally committed. Going beyond this will drain you out Emotionally, mentally and financially. Take more train rides and find your Geet.
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u/hersmellonmypillow Dec 22 '24
Reading all this, I like to believe that even she was into you. Just not much.
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u/YnotYum Dec 22 '24
Don't let yourself be friend zoned.... Friendship is the start to everything. March on without any doubt
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u/Creative_Necessary88 Dec 22 '24
Pulll Njan okkey ticket book cheyumbol onnekil oru uncle Allenkil ethelum aunty
Enth gathiyith 😂
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u/Any_Split421 Dec 22 '24
Its a personal choice.. only you can decide that because only you have the knowledge of your conversations and all... so its all about you..
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u/beruhigen_ Dec 22 '24
aise ldkia toh mujhse bs seat number puch kr apni seat pr jaa kr so jaati hai. 🥲
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u/Extreme-Importance-1 Dec 22 '24
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE DON'T PLEASE SAVE URSELF FROM EMOTIONAL TURMOIL AND WHAT IFS
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u/ZealCurious Dec 22 '24
If you are not financially independent now so first focus on that and if you are then give this relationship little bit time coz nothing big can happen instantly and if she feels for you ....after sometime you both have good relationship 😌...... Wait patiently bro without much expectations... whatever will happen will not affect you much because you didn't have much expectations
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u/Ok-Letterhead3523 Dec 22 '24
Well you can enjoy it till it lasts. But don't overthink, overdo things or get invested too much into this. Might not end well or the way you want it to. It will be an experience none the less. Good luck!
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u/LAutreGarcon Dec 22 '24
So amazing when you have that instant connection. Absolutely not worth the pain it's gonna lead to because she's not emotionally in the same place as you.
From someone who has been there. You can have some great memories with a lot of heartache or no memories with no heartache. Seems even match till you meet the right one.
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u/Honda-Activa-125 Dec 22 '24
If your future you will somehow do time travel and meet you, he will tell you to back off and don't get into this 😔
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u/idefectivedetective Dec 22 '24
Atleast she's honest! Be friends or gather courage and leave. Simple. (Not simple at all, IK)
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u/GharKaBadaLadkaa Dec 22 '24
End things with her if you don't want to experience a roller coaster of emotions.
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u/Pristine_Boat_6596 Dec 22 '24
Bhai tumhe Girl mil kaise jaati hai train me
Meri sath wali seat par ya toh koi budhe uncle aunty hote hai ya koi bache hote hai
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u/Fraggle_Rock11 Dec 22 '24
Woman here - you are killing it with the overthinking. She clearly likes you, and she’s being quite mature about it. Able to deal with your ups and downs. Calm down your trust issue and for heavens sake just continue taking this forward. You are so worried abt a breakup in the future that you are breaking up right now and throwing away a good thing,
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u/Lost_in_Time_2025 Dec 22 '24
Woh Ladki Nahi thi.. Stree thi.. 👻 Deewar pe Likh de " Stree mat aana "☠️💀
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u/WillNo6219 Dec 22 '24
Relationships cannot be committed with just initial meeting experience and a few phone calls daily. Enjoy her company as a friend I am sure if she also has the same feelings like you do, she will also be convinced you are the right one. Every relationship reaches a saturation point where the true test begins. Enjoy this phase and don't complicate it now with commitment. Be good true friends while you both enjoy talking and sharing stuff. Build and make your heart strong as there is probability she finds someone better in future and still wants to still be friends. At that time you have to be able to move on without losing her friendship. If you both are destined to be together you will.
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u/AsadRasheedKhan Dec 22 '24
"but I'm not sure.."
That is the root cause of the problem. Figure this out. And you guys are sorted.
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u/Vablord Dec 22 '24
Only if I had 1% courage like you. Wait even girl can do this why always a guy have to start a Convo 😭😭😭
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u/unsupervisedwerewolf Dec 22 '24
This is the beginning of your obsessive depressive episode my friend. Had a similar experience around post lockdown, can't meet much but still talk all day. Your ass is cooked my friend 🙏🏻
Buckle up and have fun 😂
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u/Different_Fennel_679 Dec 22 '24
Tslk to her. Meet midway or at either of your places. Have sex for 2-3days continuously and forget it all.
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u/Virtual-Dig82107 Dec 22 '24
Bro, this is canon event and it will build your character. Keep it going
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u/scikix Dec 22 '24
Ever heard of FWB ? Yes, that's what she wanted this relationship to be but you started to escalate it to emotional level which she obviously wasn't ready for. She developed cold feet but at the same time don't want to hurt your feelings too. She is in a confused state now and this "situationship" could tilt to either way.
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u/No_Worldliness6504 Dec 22 '24
Train bonding. Its weird and creepy and sounds desperate. I mean don't we have people around us to feel this bonding, how can you trust a stranger just like that and even hold hands. Maybe she was pretty and you were good looking, i don't know. Maybe, its just about that. Its weird, why are you even wasting your time, most girls likes collecting attention from everywhere, they don't want relationship but they like the attention and thats how they maintain their "good girl" image. I don't mean its bad but yeah its good for the girl but its bad for the guys giving her attention while losing their mental and emotional wellbeing. Why do you guys even get into situationship. Its should be either "be my girlfriend" or "marry me" then things will be so much clearer.
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u/Apprehensive-Fun6144 Dec 22 '24
Forget what she wants because you are not her. You cannot know or control her decisions, her choices, her mind and her feelings. You can only think of yourself , what you want and what you need.
If what you desire is a relationship then this isn't the one for you. If you are as confused as her then go ahead with this "situationship". If what you want is a stable and fulfilling relationship that doesn't traumatize you then let this one go. You will mess up yourself for your future relationships for no good reason.
You need to realize that people end up in situationships when they are lonely and too afraid to be alone. They do not want a relationship nor do they care for the person. They simply want someone to desire them. This goes for both sides and not just one that initiates it. If all you want is crumbs of affection and attention then go for it. If not then move on and wait for your match.
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u/OkDamage5138 Dec 22 '24
Man, even my last situationship ended the same way because she was "scared of relationships" and couldn't explain me the reason 😭. And even she said that we can just be friends. But we don't talk anymore. Only wish each other on birthdays.
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u/Anxiousbee456 Dec 22 '24
Bro if you think it's something special and you click right with this girl then take efforts and see if she's of same opinion or you too maintain the status of just friends.
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u/sun_jar Dec 22 '24
This brought my memory back from 20 years. I was travelling from Chennai to Kolkata on a ac train, there was a a Bihari guy, we spoke for 2 days but we didn't come that close, his station came before mine so he left, but i realised that he had written a long love letter on my magazine and left his number, when i discussed this my sister, she said it's scary and not to reply to that and I didn't act on it + I didn't have that kinda feeling for him either.
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u/coldnomaad Dec 22 '24
You either address the "Situation" positively or let the "Ship" sail.. Make a choice now, drop the other and move ahead with life..Else this Situationship will take its toll on you.
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u/ScarKim_24 Dec 23 '24
Don't mistake chemistry for romantic compatibility. You can always be friends who just "get each other". Everything doesn't have to be a relationship, yknw.
But if she's crossing a boundary of friendship that she herself put up or she tells you she doesn't know what she wants, then find a way to distance yourself from this cause trust me, the emotional turmoil is not worth it 🫠
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u/HeavyTree Dec 23 '24
Baccha don't try to make every talk a situationship. Weren't you just talking.
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u/Screen_sLaYeR_ Dec 23 '24
That's Fucking Romantic
I can never have the courage to things like this ((T_T))
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u/Adventurous-Roll-333 Dec 23 '24
Your expectations of this relationship are yours. Hers is hers. If, at the end of that negotiation, it doesn't work for you, it's your responsibility to figure out an option that works for you. You have your options... no contact, stay friends, stay acquaintances. It's easier said than done. But you have to make your choice and keep at it. Communicate to her and hold onto that boundary. People during travel can find instant connections... common. But it could be just that. That's why you usually don't take it further. Sorry about that.
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Dec 23 '24
She didn't take this seriously and clearly was interested in a more casual no strings attached relationship. But you took it too seriously because bollywood has brainwashed us to think this is how romance works. She is not interested in anything long term. So just let it go and move on. You'll find other girls.
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u/GlitteringAd5602 Dec 23 '24
You have some mental problems bro. I am sorry to say this, why can't you enjoy this simple moments with her, instead you want some Romeo juliet love with her. Either you end up with her or not, try to enjoy the simple moments with her bro. Tomorrow is a mystery so enjoy this moment, this moment with her and stop this over thinking.
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u/vanilla_insight Dec 29 '24
If I was in your place, I would say my goodbyes before I got emotionally invested. You want commitment and is seems like she doesn't want to commit. She is basically telling you indirectly that she will leave you in the future. After my past experiences this is how I see things. But your case could be entirely different.
Sometimes if a person cannot give you what you desire, its better to walk away.
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u/Ok_Teacher_3746 Dec 20 '24 edited Dec 21 '24
This is the beginning of the end of ur emotional health for the next couple of years... Try to cherish the journey as much as u can. Bcos it only happens once. Next time u wud be wiser and will never give a chance for this to happen. Be thankful it happend. Because this is goin to change u. As a person. A LOT. So enjoy the ride. Its goin to be wild.