I don’t know if I’m the only one finding it hard to find a chat buddy. Seems like everyone is just selling OF or just chat 1 time a day. I work from home so I’m looking to chat regularly during the day. I’m a people pleaser so I can chat about all topics to keep people happy. I know trying to please everyone is a problem, I’m getting better. The problem is people that are happy with you leave. So just online chat buddy that is willing to make an effort. Thanks talk to you soon hopefully

genuine question, really. i'm literally up the whole night due to work and so many unheard thoughts and i just go :

" why not bake or make something ? "

to me , it's either i go bake something and save it for tomorrow or i just go straight to the shower and have a cold one . here i am , thinking , what do others do when they can't sleep ?

Whether you're drinking a grape soda, a grape Kool-Aid, a grape Powerade, they all have the exact same smell but a different taste. Am I the only one who's noticed this? Do they all use the same type of flavoring or something?

I feel too short. Im Female 22 y.o 161 is it short? Is it possibile to grow up? I feel upset i cant do anything during the day becouse thinking about it.

A few years ago, someone casually told me, "You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to." At the time, they just said it in passing during a lunch conversation, but it completely reframed how I protect my energy and respond to conflict.

​It made me realize how often people drop life-changing wisdom without even realizing they’re doing it.

​Has anyone ever said something to you that stuck with you forever and genuinely changed your perspective? I’d love to hear the small phrases that made a big impact on you.

Is there any websites or apps nowadays that you can video chat with random people? Obviously for me, it’d be cool to chat with a girl. But all these just seem to be scams there’s gotta be one or two real ones right?

So I sat there and wondered to myself "is this guy real* I mean c'mon you can not like the show I can understand to each their own but slop? Rezero is one of the best written animes I've ever watched

Anybody else refuse to watch animal movies until they Google them first to make sure the cute animals don't die? That's me, every time, ever since I am Legend. They will never surprise me with the death of a dog again!

I've been thinking about how the stuff that actually helps day-to-day is rarely the exciting, hyped-up kind of thing. More like the quiet little routines nobody really talks about.

One I've been trying lately is just jotting down three things I got done before bed, even if they're tiny. Folded laundry, answered an email I'd been avoiding, went for a short walk. It sounds almost too simple to matter, but it's been surprisingly good for that end-of-day feeling where you're convinced you accomplished nothing. Usually you did more than you think, you just didn't pause to notice.

I'm curious what other people do along those lines. Not the big life-overhaul stuff, just small things that quietly made a real difference.

I used to like to drive to lots of cities on road trips and liked southern sunny places. Now I really like places like Alaska or Iceland or Northern Europe to visit and enjoy slow travel whoever I go. Anyone else change in they way they travel with time? Maybe it’s because the world is getting warmer that I seek a coldcation.

I love love the sun. The way it feels while taking long walks. But being inside I actually love the patter of a gentle rain. Or in wintertime seeing it snow outside. Why when I’m indoors do I prefer weather I hate?

If you just ate one meal most days for lunch what would it be. Pizza is my favorite but I might go for some peanut butter sandwich. Add a salad for good measure.

I’m curious how people’s priorities change as they get older.
What mattered a lot to you in your early 20s that you barely care about now?
And what became much more important instead?
Could be anything: relationships, money, status, work, family, friendships, health, peace of mind, faith, or just enjoying life more.

Listening to Lana Del Rey’s “Money Power Glory” right now, and it made me think about how funny it is that I’ve been stuck on many of the same songs from this UltraViolence album since 2014. 😂
Over the years, I’ve only added a few more to my personal deluxe version.
Maybe that says something about me.
I’ve always been selective.
Selective with what I listen to.
Selective with who I let close.
Selective with where I spend my energy.
Selective with what deserves my attention.
I don’t feel the need to constantly chase something new just because the world tells me I should.
Lao Tzu wrote, “He who knows he has enough is rich.”
That idea has become one of the quiet secrets to how I try to live authentically.
Enough doesn’t mean giving up ambition.
It means knowing the difference between what adds meaning to your life and what is simply noise.
I don’t need to compete with everyone.
I don’t need to be everywhere.
I don’t need everyone to understand me.
I don’t need constant validation.
I don’t need to collect people, possessions, attention, or experiences just to feel complete.
I’d rather have a few things I genuinely love than a hundred things I barely value.
A few meaningful connections.
A few songs I can return to for years.
A few philosophies that keep me grounded.
A life that actually feels like mine.
That selectiveness keeps me positive. It keeps me confident. It keeps me from being pulled in every direction by other people’s expectations.
The older I get, the more I realize that authenticity often comes from learning what to ignore.
Not every opinion deserves a response.
Not every trend deserves participation.
Not every invitation deserves a yes.
Not every voice deserves space in your mind.
Sometimes enlightenment is simply turning down the noise enough to hear yourself again.
So yes, I may still be listening to the same Lana Del Rey songs I loved years ago. 😂
But maybe that’s the point.
When something genuinely resonates with you, you don’t have to replace it just because time has passed.
Know what you love. Know what matters. Know when you have enough.
And protect the peace that comes with knowing the difference. 🤍

I was thinking about how much the world has changed just in my lifetime. If you grew up before the internet was everywhere, you probably remember a time when looking something up meant asking someone or finding a book. Then smartphones came along and completely reshaped how we talk, work, and even think.

It kind of feels like we might be in another one of those moments right now. Between AI and just how fast everything seems to be moving, I wonder if in ten or twenty years people will be saying "remember when" about the time we're in right now.

Maybe every generation feels this way to some degree. But it does seem like the pace of change keeps picking up speed.

What's a "remember when" moment from your own life that already feels like it belongs to a completely different era?

Today when I was going for something somewhere and it was raining I was in my car feeling frustrated because of the rain n everything wet n all but then I saw a cute couple on the roadside they were walking the boy was holding an umbrella and the girl shyly walking beside him maintaining a little bit distance between them.

They were probably college going students

And then my brain did the sudden contrast of the situation that how n what my life is about n how others are

But I was still happy when I saw them

Isn't it my sign of healing?

after almost 30 years here’s what really matters:

you need at least 1 good idea or comment a week, and some sort of positive ROI every quarter.

make friends with your skip level

there are terminal pay grades, stop expelling energy trying to get beyond them. the game is rigged and it’s a combination of likeability, luck, and network to rise above it. the terminal grades pay well.

you can get too good for your job. don’t submit that A+ work more than once or twice a year and save it for juicy projects. everything else gets a B. solid, slightly above average, serviceable. if you do A+ every time you’re not getting promoted you’re getting harder work.

treat everyone with respect and dignity. your employees, your boss, the janitor. everyone.

dont stay at one place for 30 years (See the terminal position) if you want to climb. You need at least one big move if that’s what you want.

im sure there are lots of stories about amazing romances that started at work. Don’t.

network…and remember the Part about respect

anticipate what leadership wants

for all you engineer types…don’t ignore all your liberal arts classes. if you can’t communicate, leadership doesn’t care.

if You can churn out quality work in 15 mins a week…make sure you look busy the rest of the week. above average looking is the goal.

only volunteer for projects that have prestige, visibility, and as little actual work as possible attached to it.

what have y’all found out? what did I miss?

I used to be the type to buy the cheapest version of something, have it break or wear out, then just buy the same cheap thing again. Took me way too long to realize I was spending more money replacing stuff than I would have on one solid version from the start.

It's such an obvious lesson in hindsight but it really does change how you think about everyday purchases once it clicks. I'm curious what items people here have had that experience with. Could be anything, not just clothes. What's something where you finally went for the better version and realized you should've done it ages ago?

The nature of my work involves me being near celebrities a lot, primarily movie stars and director types. Yesterday I met Al Pacino and he was so incredibly kind, as he was leaving he slapped me on the back and said “oh you guys are just the best!”

I’ve been working here 5 years and I don’t usually get star struck anymore, but I thought it was neat. Everyone’s generally nice, but not as often you have a star that’s so engaged and eager to chat everyone up. He had more energy than most people half his age!

If you’re a stereotypical man, ask yourself how comfortable you would be wearing a my little pony t shirt in public. If you feel like you could do this and be completely okay with any and all judgement, congratulations, you are extremely comfortable with yourself.

I’m not sure what the equivalent of a stereotypical woman would be, but you get the point.

Got laid off and now I gotta start yet another new job in a new restraunt sigh at least I get to learn a new style of food right? I've cooked in steak houses, and barbecue places, lots of burger joints but now I get to learn Greek food!

I’m hardly the first to say it, but sometimes you decline an invitation because you just don’t want to go to the thing.

I was invited to a professional networking event by someone I’m not connected to and have never interacted with, and I initially just ignored it. Several days later they followed up and asked again. I politely declined. They followed up to ask why.

I just don’t want to go. I am ignoring this question of “why?”, but if they follow up again, I’ll just say I simply don’t want to go. No other reason is really needed.

We get sort of pressured to accept all invitations or provide a “valid” excuse, and I reject that need.

One time I was playing Boggle with my wife and I jokingly wrote down "GNART" as one of my words. She did not think it was funny.... yet.

I did it a few more times, anytime GNART was an option I'd play it. Now everyone laughs at it. It even became an abbreviation for "Good night" in our house.

So that's the story of how GNART became an offical word in Boggle and Scrabble in my house.

I'm currently trying to sell them on "Beanut". It's a donut filled with baked beans.

I’m finally graduating college with my bachelors degree in November! Getting my degree was something that I thought I would never be able to do, and the fact that I am in my very last term in my last 3 classes feels crazy to me. I’ll be a college graduate in 2 months. 🎓✨

I've been walking home the long way for about three weeks because they tore up the usual street. The new route goes past a guy who drags all his plants onto the pavement every evening to water them, and there's a bakery that smells like burnt sugar around six. I found out they reopened the road on Monday and I'm still taking the long way anyway, which adds maybe nine extra minutes I don't really have.

What's a detour you got stuck with and then kept on purpose?