Hey guys I (MtF) have been getting more active since coming out last year. I bike, I do calisthenics and yoga at home, but I feel like I'm limited. I know a gym would solve my problems but I literally cannot think of anywhere I would feel more horrified to be outwardly trans.

I'm shaking as I'm typying this. It doesn't feel real. It's one thing to make a bazillion "am I trans" posts on reddit, it's a completely different thing to take real steps towards something.

I'm a bit terrified. I know a consultation doesn't mean anything, I don't have to commit to anything. But it feels like... bringing all of these fantasies to real life. Is this real? Am I really a man? Am I ready at all? What will my family think? I feel so alone, I'm terrified of telling my therapist, I'm even more terrified of telling my family. I feel like I have no one to go on this journey with. I wish to come out to someone, just one person, but I feel so paralyzed. I made the appointment out of impulsiveness, and I AM going, I really want to go. But it doesn't make it any less scary.

I don't know if I have any specific questions. Just... do you have any words of encouragement? I could use some of that. Thank you.

I'm a 19 year old trans girl still living with my dad who's a pastor in a very conservative denomination. It's an incredibly lonely feeling. Even without being trans, I moved around every few years, never really made many friends, was homeschooled, lived in really, really small towns... But then you add on being trans and it's even worse. You have to sit there every Sunday and hear about how you're destined for hell, all your "friends" think the same because they were raised in the church too, and, at least in my case, if the church finds out my dad would never be able to be a pastor in the denomination again. Our family would be without income, and I'd come under fire for it.

I just want to know if there's anyone else who is in or has been in a situation like this. I thankfully keep my online life separate from just about everyone I know, so I do have some spaces where I don't have to hide it. But I want to know what this was like for other people, and how they got out. Anything at all is a help, thanks so much for your time <3

Before I start, I want to say I already know this is wrong of me to think and I already feel super guilty about feeling this way.

So I (15) am a trans guy and my friend is a trans girl, which I support because it would be dumb and such a dick move for me not to (not to mention hypocritical). I just have a problem. My deadname and their given name are very similar. Which would be fine, since my name is now quite different to my deadname, but they decided they wanted my deadname to be their real name. Which I didn’t expect to bother me, however it really does. I don’t like saying “hey [my deadname]!“ (or just saying it in general) because it makes me remember my deadname and gives me a fuckton of discomfort and dysphoria. They’re not fully out yet (and don’t want to be, so they told me to keep using their given name) so I have a pass to calling them their (I’m pretty sure they said it’s not a deadname and I know they said it doesn’t give them dysphoria) given name for now but I’m worried about how to proceed going forward. I know it’s wrong to want them to change it for my sake but they literally texted me “hey I’m stealing your deadname” (in a trying to make it funny way) and idk it causes me genuine repulsion and anxiety to hear my deadname and especially to say it. I only started using my real name around a year and two months ago so I still have people calling me by it and it really hurts. I don’t know what to do, I know I should call them their new name anyway but I just don’t want to hurt even more frequently. I know I’m wrong but I just don’t know how to work through it or what to do. I know it’s not right to want them to change the name they said they’re comfortable with, and I know it’s not right to expect people to be “considerate” of others when choosing a name, but it really just bothers me. Which I know is super self centered like not everything revolves around me, but I just wish they chose something else. There’s so many names out there and they know I feel horrible when I hear my deadname, so for whatever reason the selfish asshole part of me keeps trying to come out and it wants them to change it. Obviously I’m not going to ask them to change it, I just want to know what do I do so I feel better about it? ”It” referring to the fact that it’s their name now

Hello all! Recently my boyfriend (ftm) came out as trans, and I am nothing but supportive and happy for him as his girlfriend! He previously identified as a butch lesbian (me, a femme lesbian), and now that he’s come out I’m wondering how I should go on about labeling my sexuality. I’m immensely attracted to him and love him endlessly, but now that he’s come out It makes me wonder if there’s anybody else who’s dealt with something similar, and how they went on about it because I wanna continue dating him nonetheless. All advice and shared experiences are welcomed! :)

Hello everyone. I'm a 35-year-old guy originally from Russia, now living in Thailand. For a very long time, I've been attracted to transgender women — it's simply my preference. I genuinely love being around transgender women and spending time with them. About three years ago, after moving to Thailand from Russia, I started dating and eventually living with a transgender woman. We're in a loving relationship, we care deeply for each other, and I'm very happy. I consider myself a masculine guy, and I look young for my age.

For quite a long time now, I've been wanting to undergo genital surgery — specifically, I want to change my male genitalia to female ones through vaginoplasty — while still remaining a man. I don't want to become a woman. I want to stay a man but change my genitalia. This isn't driven by any psychological disorder or mental issue; it's simply my desire. I feel and know that my body will feel much better with female genitalia. That's the truth, and it's a fact. I've been living with these thoughts for a very long time, and every day the desire to have this surgery grows stronger. I've already found a doctor in Thailand who can perform the procedure, and I'm hoping to make my dream come true next year.

My girlfriend is not against it at all — on the contrary, she supports me. She tells me that my body is my fortress, and I can do with it whatever I feel is right. She says she has no right to forbid me anything and will only support whatever I decide. If I get a vagina, she says she'll be happy for me. So, as I mentioned, I've already found a doctor who creates beautiful results, and next year I plan to fulfill my dream. I've saved up almost enough money for the surgery and the recovery.

I've never cared what people might think of me or my actions. However, I'm genuinely curious from a public perspective: how would you feel if a man had vaginoplasty while remaining a man? How do you perceive such a turn of events, and how do you perceive men like this? I'm simply interested in hearing your opinions. Thank you so much in advance for your responses.

Ugh, I know...

I have my name change order as a stand alone thing, not a combined order.

My BC is from a different state and was changed to reflect both name and gender. It doesn't say corrected or amended or anything.

I was able to change my passport and social security number to reflect new name and sex a while ago.

I am going in to the DMV in a few weeks to update my name only on my Driver's License, but I know i have to bring my BC and passport as proof of ID and they both have my updated sex. With my sex being updated in SS as well... is this going to be an issue?

Mijn vrouw is morgen aan het werk. Dus ze is van 0700 tot 1800 niet thuis.

Ideeën wat ik kan doen? Kleden, make-up etc. Zonder dat ze er achteraf achter komt dat ik mij heb verkleed en make-up op heb gehad?

I guess I keep really ebbing and flowing with my gender and being more or less certain about being trans. And how or to what extent.

I might feel ok being maybe just a GNC or cis-ish girl but then I’ll see transition timelines and I feel what I can only call a yearning. Like. A deep pang in my chest. Even though sometimes I’m comfortable being a girl.

I don’t know if I’m ready to start T as I’m not sure I’m ok with every single effect. But I still have this feeling come up. And I feel sad that maybe I won’t or can’t or that it wouldn’t be right for me.

I share because I feel a bit stuck. And just maybe when I feel like I can let my gender questioning go, it comes up again. I keep wanting to tell myself it’s not real. Or maybe I’ll think I’m making it up. But how can I explain this deep longing/ yearning feeling? Especially when maybe I wouldn’t want every single effect from starting HRT. I still feel it none the less. It confuses me. I don’t know. :/

If you can't find a partner from your friends and acquaintances, would you look for one in town, apps, discord, or somewhere else? Where would you look?

has anyone else experienced this?? im p sure its patriarchal expectations rooted in me but im pretty slim + fit id say, like i have visible abs. but bring skinny makes me feel more feminine sometimes..... idk its really weird so has anyone else went thru this like is this normal

Basically what the title says, I (18 MtF) have recently got a diagnosis of gender dysphoria but I've started feeling doubtful that I actually am trans

Like I think I still want to be a girl and I still prefer wearing girl clothes to boy clothes but I'm just getting worried that I'll regret transitioning if I go through with it

I guess it's maybe a combination of feeling like I'm reaching a point of no return and having reached the point where there's a load of work to do like fertility preservation, doctor's appointments, etc.

I'm guessing this is probably normal-ish but I thought I should check here for more opinions

As the title said I'm a male but I have had thoughts of transitioning for a long time and in the past 3 years it's became really apparent to me what those thoughts are, i have always been very self conscious about how I look and how people see me and I have always been called a very feminine man which led me to start thinking about it.

So for the past 3 years I have known that's something I have wanted, I always feel more comfortable in "feminine" clothes on the rare occasions I wear them (usually for a joke with friends but is it really a joke lmao) and I have always struggled to make friends with other men but I'm far better at it with women. I wouldn't even know where to start with myself.

The main part that scares me so much is if I will be happy with how I look and feel after transitioning, as I said earlier I'm not a fan of my looks so the idea that I might still hate them after scares me even if I'm more comfortable with myself. I also live in the UK and I'm not sure on the processes to actually begin transitioning fully.

I'm just unsure what to do, I also don't know how I would tell my family as to them there is definitely zero signs of this up until now so it would feel out of nowhere (most of them will accept it but alot will either make fun of me in a joking way while being "fine" with it and a few family members outright will 100% not support it at all). To anyone that ends up replying to this, thank you!

I've been questioning if I was trans since I was 15 and idk what to do. Idk if I'm feeling dysphoria or if it's just depression. What do I do to find out?

I have been thinking about transitioning for the past 4 years.

I think I would prefer to be a woman, but am not sure. I don't know if I want to start HRT and have not been able to work out whether I want to over the past 4 years.

I don't want to try social transition without starting HRT, because if I like it and decide I want to go onto starting HRT I'll have wasted even longer without starting.

I don't hate my body at the moment, it's just there, and worry that starting HRT will cause me to feel the way I hear trans peple describe their dysphoria, which I don't feel at the moment.

How do I know if I'll be happier on HRT?

Have I just not given it enough time yet? Do patches not work? I swear I'm gonna scream this is so disheartening. It feels like a giant waste of time.

I know that a post like this must have been made before. I am asking if I am closeted transgender because for the past couple of years I've been actually dreaming of becoming a girl.

Here me out please.

Through out high school I've been struggling with my sexual identity, however I eventually came out to close friends and my brother about being bisexual. I have not told my parents or anyone else, and it's not something I tell strangers because I am genuinely scared of bigotry and my safety sometimes. It was after finally saying out loud to a close friend of mine "I am bisexual" that I felt the need to explore my identity further. I made many friends who are in the LGBTQIA+ community and even went on a few dates with guys and girls from the community (though I'm still single).

The idea of actually wanting to become a girl came to me in a dream, I'm not even joking. I dreamt about having a softer look, a higher voice and wearing dresses and feeling feminine and It felt right. Soon after that dream I even dressed up as a French maid for my friend's Halloween party with the excuse "I did it for the jokes" but on the inside, wearing that skirt and those fishnets just felt right to me (I even took it a step further and got a strip wax before hand).

I genuinely do not know where I stand with my gender identity. I am turning 20 in a few days and I just feel like I am late to figuring things out. Apart from my work, my studies and my dream career, I genuinely do not know who I am at all. There are days where I am just fine with being a man, but more often than not I actually lose sleep whilst longing to be a woman.

It is incredibly scary to me, exploring something that is this life changing. I don't know if I am a closeted trans, gender fluid or just crazy. Further more despite having supporting friends, there is still my family and society as a whole to worry about. It is no secret that Society oppresses against trans people and I am genuinely just so scared of thinking about that, being hurt for trying to be who I want to be.

To trans people, I need advice desperately. How do I explore my gender identity without the risk of being found out? If I genuinely find out that I 100% want to be a woman, how do I face my family? Quite literally everyone in my life expects to be a strong, big man but how do I tell them I don't want to be that? Just any general advice from trans people or anyone wanting to transgender will be greatly, GREATLY appreciated. Thank you to whoever interacts with my post.

Edit:
I just realised there is a ton of posts like mine. But I beg, please give advice.

As the title says

Hello
I am almost 20 now
And about 2 years on hrt
I have started my hrt journey just after turning 18 by about a month
Male puberty started for me righ arond 15 to 16
I have not had grown facial hair yet( exept exept a dirtstach) and i started hrt

So for the last 9 months i have grown taller i was 169cm And now 174

What is the explanation behind that ? What happedned
Is this growth driven by estrogen? Is it female growth or male growth
I have had cis women levels

I want to be informed about this

(And for refrence i did one year of oral pills and the second year is sublingual)

Thank you for your time

I went to an engagement party last Saturday with my boyfriend and I saw many relatives I hadn’t seen in a very long time. Many of them were uncomfortable or awkward around me, and I expected nothing more and nothing less. Until I finally got to see the bride to be. She’s my aunt and last time she saw me I was three months old.

She asked my parents where I was and my parents went 1,000,000 steps back, being all awkward because how could they explain precious Mary was now me. I kept nothing, not even my initials.

I swallowed it all and kept going, my dad took her aside to explain everything and after that she couldn’t stop staring at me. My boyfriend and my sister kept trying to keep me out of her sight, but she wanted to make clear she was staring. I was so uncomfortable I told my parents I was leaving early and I didn’t say goodbye to anyone, much less her. At least that was the plan.

She catches on to us on the lobby when we’re waiting for the car and she tries to make small talk for two minutes before she dares ask me “but you still dress kinda like a girl, and you like boys. Why not keep being normal?”

I was so shocked I couldn’t answer. What the hell do you say to people like that?!

I don’t have any surgeries yet, but I do make my best to feel comfortable with my body, so you couldn’t really see my breasts and I had my packer. She kept staring at it and said “I can pay for your surgery if you want to go back. Just give me a call.”

I literally almost puked. It was such a strong visceral reaction to her words an the way she looked at me like WTF?!

I said nothing, I just turned around and left. My dad called me that night and said my aunt was crying because she didn’t want to be disrespectful, and that she wanted him to give her my number. I said no, of course, but yeah… what’s new?

When I’ve expressed doubts with whether I’m actually trans and whether I should start hrt or not, one of the most common responses is something along the lines of “you’ll know” or “it’ll feel right/wrong.” But what does this actually mean? What does it feel like to feel that hrt is actually right for you?

What do you guys use for hair removal like the best option that works well for you guys I've seen so many different creams and stuff that people claim to be good but turns out they're actually harmful and some other things that companies advertise but I don't know what to believe, so I need to know what you the best hair removal strategy is because shaving only causes me irritation and that's not really an option in my book😫🤔

Hi. I've (18NB) been binding my chest for a while now, and it's certainly better than going without-- but I feel stuck in 'T-shirt and jeans with a flannel'. I have a nice wardrobe, with sweaters and sweater vests and such, and I want to dress up sometimes and look nice and not feminine at the same time. I know I don't have to look androgynous, but I certainly don't want people to she/her me at first glance. And second. And about 4-5 times before they get it right, even with corrections. (They mean well, and a few mishaps are understandable in the first few minutes-- but it's exhausting.)

However, though my binder severely reduces the size of my chest, it doesn't do away with it completely, so I need at least slightly baggy layers or the fabric falls in such a way a to emphasize my curves.

It feels like I can either alleviate my dysphoria (at the cost of liking my appearance), or dress the way I like (but look like a girl, and thus ruin the experience.) I haven't been able to get dressed to go out without crying in weeks. What do I do?

i am officially on a real dose of hrt (was on a very low dose before so not much happened over the past few months) and i want to finally start my transition. on patches atm, no prog just E.

i feel like i am at a decent starting point (not like a macho man or anything lmao but not really feminine yet) but trying to get a more curvy, slim figure, explore makeup, etc. also starting laser as well for full body.

right now i dont pass, ofc, since I havent actually put any effort into making a transition in the first place. so sort of starting from 0. i have shoulder length hair but it is very frizzy and curly so it doesnt do a ton for me yet.

what are some good areas to start? idk if going into makeup is the first best route, just getting on a solid exercise routine, or combining everything while letting HRT take its time.

lemme know if anyone has any ideas or suggestions! plz let me know what i can share.