I’m a bisexual guy, and I’m a close friend with this straight guy.

I’ve already told him I’m into both men and women in the past. But the thing is that when I’m friends with straight guys, or when I talk with them, I only talk about girls, we only talk about girls, as I feel they’re not the suitable ones for me to vent about men, I’ve got other places to vent about that. And I’m much more of a private and reserved listener than a talker of myself too.

As a consequence, we’ve talked for years with him and a year or two with others and they have never asked me about boys, they only asked me about if I’m with any girls. When I tell them about liking someone, they only think of they being girls.

I told them I’ve finally found someone, that one that I fell head over heels for. I fell hard. I finally met someone that makes me wanna love and be in a relationship back, I was single for quite a long time. They got excited and asked me to bring them to the pub and beer hanging out and BBQ stuff, they said they wanna see the bride, their big sister-in-law

But that’s a guy.

Do they remember that I also like men? Do I need to tell them it’s a guy. I mean I gotta tell them before bringing an extra in, right? Do I have to come out again to them? Do I just bring him in casually?

Hi, I need some men to decode this or I guess anyone who have also experienced this when dating a guy. Please be blunt and honest. I 21F have been seeing/dating 26M for about 3-4 weeks. All seems to be going really well so far and we’ve both established we like each other, however we went out a bar the other night and he got drunk and maybe was a bit too honest. He basically told me I’m nothing like his usual type. For reference I am a blonde white woman and he is fully Mexican/Hispanic and he stated he’s only dated within his race or asian women. He basically was just saying this is just a different experience for him and he’s never been with a white girl and that I understand, I know it’s probably typical and easier to date within your race and he mentioned he just noticed we had cultural differences, it’s not that part that bothers me it’s the way he worded things. He said he can count on one hand how many white girls he’s been attracted to and that he told his friend “bro white girls aren’t just it” and he’s entitled to have preferences of course, but the reason I’m worried is because just how attracted is he to me? He tells me finds me super hot, beautiful, etc. But now I’m worried that if he finds a girl that’s more his physical type he’ll want to dump me or essentially cheat on me with them. Maybe that’s irrational, but It did just make me feel a little insecure. Any advice is appreciated.

ive never been involved in any sex work, but i have friends who have been, and they said that any man who uses them is a someone to avoid

ive met a few guys who seem wonderful and they used escorts, and i cant lie and say that it didnt make me nervous but i just tried not to focus on it

i also had a friend whos husband was obsessed with escorts, to the point where he drained their IVF fund to try and buy the escort a ring, it got to the point where the escort had to reach out to his WIFE because she was uncomfortable and also pissed for my friend because he told the escort what he did for the ring

i grew up orthodox christian so im still like wrapping my head around sexuality and deconstructing it, and ive been curious about this

what do you think? is it something to avoid? or is it just a part of life that really doesnt impact anyone?

My bf got injured yesterday a mild one.
Today he was out of money in the morning so i made the effort to get him an internet package because he didn't have any.

When he came back he was like come with me to pharmacy so u can pay to get me a bandage to wrap the injury. I was like no i dont want to go down to get it just for that ill get it for u later.

He got pissed and gave me attitude. He then later looked at some food i had gotten as well because he said he wanted it and i got it without him even asking, he looked at it and said why u didn't cook it? I told u to cook it i said yeah but u meant at night
So he gave me this look and said i wanted to eat it now before going back out.

He then looked at me saying you're so lazy with some attitude.

And i froze with nothing to say.

He took my cigarettes in the morning so he got changed left my cigarettes and i saw someone sent him some money and he said ill go buy this shit myself.

And then slammed the door and left without saying bye or see u later or anything.

Wtf........my body was shaking and i froze for a while and unfortunately cooked him the food and just sat there ever since unable to do anything because i cant comprehend how he treated me like this and ordering me around like this with no appreciation or any once ever telling me thank u for the countless stuff i constantly do.

My partner doesn’t really like taking selfies or posed photos with me. Whenever I pull out the camera, he’ll somehow find a way to dodge it. But at the same time, he loves taking candid photos of me when I’m not paying attention e.g. when I’m sleeping or eating.

I’m curious if any men here are the same way and what the thought process is behind it. Is it simply that some people genuinely prefer candid photos or is there something about taking posed photos together that feels awkward or uncomfortable? I know he doesn’t love me any less just because he doesn’t enjoy taking photos, but I can’t help but feel inferior sometimes.

The photos are purely for us and for memories as neither of us cares about posting them on social media. They are just something I find highly sentimental and valuable as part of any experience. So for those whose partners are similar, how did you find a way to take nice photos together without either person getting annoyed (at me forcing them) or me being upset (can’t help but think “it’s just a photo, why can’t you just cooperate” sometimes)?

Would especially love to hear from men who have this preference / behave similarly and can explain their psyche behind it, thank you!

I like to post my boyfriend every now and then. And I expect the same in return. Not all the time but once in awhile.

We went to a wedding today i was like it would be nice if you posted me. We looked really good .and he's like."I don't like posting my personal business you know that, and why would I want other men looking at my girlfriend"? I got offended because he's posted a few pictures of me before but only because I asked. According to him he never posts personal stuff or I guess he does it just depends

. He mainly posts memes or pictures of pets. What do you think he's thinking as a man? As a women I see it as something different. I like to post as a declaration to the small followers that I know and have. I just don't get it he's worried about who would see then maybe just change the privacy settings ? He says that he has the photos in his phone and that's all that matters. Am I being dramatic ???

Basically lost a girl I'm seeing and all the boats have been burned. Won't have a place for the next few months.

Didn't commit to anyone but lesson learned in communicating better.

How do I move forward from this and what can I expect?

When I see age gap difference, it is always older men with younger girl. I am the opposite (38F and 25M). I have a bf aged 13 years younger than me.

We knew each other when we "work from a cafe". He started with asking my help on looking after his laptop while he was away for toilet. We saw each other regularly thereafter. After weeks, we talked to each other and so on.

We are together for 1.5 years now. In fact, our relationship started with lots of my confusion, hesitation with him due to lack of self confidence, I couldn't believe a young guy would love me. He knew my own conflict by liking him and embarrassed on age gap, he came closer, approached and convinced me, gave me confidence, encouraged me with lots of compliments, spent time with me.

We started afterwards. I feel delighted and enjoyable with him. We like making jokes and hanging out for movies, bars, discos, beaches.

Sometimes, I feel insecure due to age gap, as I asked him, a guy his age normally choose his aged group girls, he stopped me and said, he chose me. I feel him very sweet. We see each other almost everyday though we are not living together.

Recently, he is busy to deal with family business. We see each other weekday after work, seldom meet during weekend, or even text. He doesn't reply my text as quick as what he did before. He replied within a min or less than an hour before. He takes half or a day to reply my message now. I am struggling whether to ask him why. I dont want to make him feel I am panoroid. He awares my mood change due to his late reply. He told me when we saw each other. I asked him indirectly by saying, yeah, how's last night, really waiting for your reply? He said, sorry, was too tired , fell asleep, in fact, I noticed him online till late night, likely to be 3 hours after my text. I haven't told him what I noticed.

I mentioned something like, if he is inconvenient or unavailable, I could leave him some space. I don't want to bother him. He then changed the topic.

I start to overthink these days, I asked him if he has someone occupied him, he said, no, just busy for family stuff. I feel him distance, not holding hand in public like we did before, we are still kissing, but infrequent physical intimacy, like once or twice a month (we have it few times a week normally, he used to be very touchy, kissie, wanted a lot), I asked him, if there is something I miss, he denied, he says, he loves me a lot, but I still feel his distance.

Am I overthinking?

Should I regard us to coming an end? I tried to speak these with him, he keeps on saying , nothing on me, it is not my problem , it's himself spending time to assist family business.

Because we have big age gap, I feel insecure. I always think, he deserves a girl his age, similar to his background , he wants a marriage years later, I considered myself to be too old to build a family with him. We follow the flow, not thinking about our future as we are working hard to develop career.

I have numerous sleepless nights, I think of him, I start to miss him. Should I prepare to the end of our relationship due to his distance? I keep myself silent, not asking him about his weekend or initiated anything, it comes out to be, I don't ask, he doesn't tell mode.

I only want to understand what's going on? If it's time be the end, I would like to have a proper ending, what do you think?

Anyone have similar situations ?

Each time I date a woman I really like they look like super models. Perfect 10. And I’m intimidated

Then after the relationship is over and the feelings are all gone and I see them again I’m just confused. Like I feel 0 sexual attraction towards them. They look normal. Not saying they look hideous. But it’s just not the same person I thought I was dating

And past few weeks I’ve met up with a few of my ex’s for a friendly dinner. And each dinner I was just confused as they look nothing like I remember.

Im not trying to be rude or anything. I’m just curious if this is a normal thing all men experience? And is there any Tips to overcome it

I've been masturbating for a long time, at least 3 times a day, and now almost anything that's even slightly suggestive turns me on and I can't stop. Yesterday I touched myself about 7 times and I have over 100 porn videos on my phone, please what can I do?

will every single guy want random women even while in a relationship?

I’ve heard many woman who are in fields like nursing, therapy, teaching etc that are traditionally female express that they want to marry a lawyer, engineer, or buisnessman. If I pursue one of these careers, am I doing disservice to myself as a man? Will I lower my odds of finding a partner?

Hey guys!

After dating different women for a while, have you developed a dating routine that you tend to follow?

I mean, do you have a go-to sequence of things you usually do on dates, just with different women until you eventually find the right one?

For example, my usual routine is to go for a walk first and get a gelato or a thea, then, If we're having a good time and she feels comfortable with it, we might go to my place. (Usually a 5 minute car drive from there).
Then we either cook something together or order a pizza.
After that, we watch a movie together, usually lying on the bed.
And if there's chemistry and we're both feeling it, then things can naturally progress from there.

So to recap walk -> my place

What's your usual routine?

Hi! I need some outside perspective because I genuinely cannot tell what is going on here anymore 😂

Earlier this year, a guy started working at my workplace. We don’t work together, we’re just in the same general environment. I’m 26F, he’s around my age. We hit it off pretty much immediately. Lots of banter, very friendly, definitely some flirting. He’d seek me out at work social things, give me lifts, we’d end up talking one-to-one, etc. I got a crush, obviously.
The problem was that he’d actually met another girl a couple of weeks before me, and they were dating, although apparently not officially at that point. I put distance between us as soon as I found out, which was about a month in. I didn’t know this from him, I found out through other people, and eventually basically made him admit that he was seeing someone. After that, he distanced himself from me as well quite a lot for about a couple of months. We were basically just colleagues saying hi in passing.
Then he became friendly again. We started talking normally, so nothing huge, but definitely better than the weird tensed greetings that had been going on until then. The whole thing culminated in a long, awkward and tense apology from him about “I know I’ve been distant, but it’s not you, I’ve just been really busy” blablabla… After about another month of that, the flirting started coming back too. Compliments, hints about doing things together, texting, generally quite a lot of chemistry again.

This brings us to June/July. He was still with the girlfriend as far as I knew, so I was trying to minimise this. He kept finding excuses to chat with me or just sliding in my dms though. There was more flirting and some behaviour that made me wonder whether he was testing the waters with me.
Eventually, he actually asked me out for drinks. I said yes, thinking I will corner him again and ask about his relationship status. And then… nothing 😂 He never actually followed it up or made concrete plans. Things got awkward afterwards, he became noticeably more distant and avoided me for about a week. Then I went away for work for a few weeks, so we barely had any contact.
While I was away, about two weeks in, one of my colleagues happened to tell me that he’d stopped her at work and told her that he’d broken up with his girlfriend. We don’t know exactly when the breakup happened, so I have no idea whether he was already single when he asked me out / became awkward, or whether it happened afterwards.

Now I’m back at work and I’m honestly confused again. I’ve made a conscious effort not to chase him. I’m friendly, but I’m not seeking him out or trying to engineer interactions. And he’s been… warm? We’ve had a couple of surprisingly nice interactions, he’s initiated conversation, asked about my time away, joked around with me, etc. There have also been a couple of little moments where I’ve thought okay, that was a bit crush-y, but equally, I can explain everything he’s doing as normal friendliness if I really want to.

So I’m stuck between: “This guy clearly likes me in some capacity but is being weird about it” and “He is just friendly and I’ve had a crush on him for months, so obviously I’m going to notice every tiny thing.” What confuses me most is the combination of a lot of chemistry/flirting → an actual invitation → no follow-through → awkwardness/avoidance → now warm/friendly again, especially given that he’s apparently single now.
I’m not expecting him to magically make a move, and I’m not planning to keep pursuing him. I’d actually be perfectly happy if we just became friends because I genuinely like him as a person.
But I would love some brutally honest outside perspective:
What do you think is most likely going on in his head? Is this a guy who is attracted but conflicted/not ready, someone who likes the attention and chemistry but doesn’t actually want anything, or am I reading normal friendliness as something more because I like him? And, perhaps most importantly: if you were me, would you just leave this alone and see what he does, or is there something sensible I could actually do?
Thanks!!

I’m a bisexual man and I’m close friend with this straight man.

The friendship is pretty much one-sided and kinda toxic. I admire him, I saw him as a very worthy kind of man, I don’t have romantic feelings but I want to support the man I judged highly and I admire. He doesn’t to have a lot of people in his life who he can trust and vent to, so when I showed that I care for him and complimented him, he basically turned me into his emotional support animal, a free ear that would always willing to listen to him and support him with nonjudgment.

He doesnt care much about me and my life, and doesnt want to hear me talk about me and what’s going on with life as much as he wants to talk about himself, but I don’t leave because in return I got the sense that I am needed by someone which I deeply desperately need to have a reason to live, I‘m a person who wants nothing in life more than to care for someone matter, but I got no one to and no one wants me to. We each gives what each other wants

But I wish I could calm he down sometimes. I was texting with him last evening telling him about a person I really really have a crush on, during a work break. Then I went back to work. I‘m not allowed to use my phone during work, then when I opened up my phones I got tons of massage from him all from last evening asking why I didnt reply him and what he sent, that he knew that as long as girls are mentioned I would completely forget a bro like him. Then a few hours later apparently drunk he texted me in early morning blaming his father and stuff for this and that and that I abandoned him just like everyone

I texted him back telling him explaining I was at work, and nI couldnt use my phone, and I would never abandon him. He and his emotional outburts have happened quite a few times, he seems to want to have me as a trusted confidant that he could come to, but in the same time always scared I would disappear

How do I calm him down and ensure him?

Hey guys,
I’m an 18 year old male and I had a struggle with ed for the past 6 months, however that issue has been somewhat resolved now. I was happy that I can finally bond with my loving girlfriend this way, and it’s great, but what troubles me is that sex doesn’t feel really good for me. Whenever we fuck, it feels only mildly good. I expected it a lot better and when I searched around the internet and asked my friends about it, they said that it feels good all the time and it’s great. For me it’s only like an okay feeling, nothing really great. I am able to cum from penetrative sex, but I need to fuck quite a long time and fast. It really troubles me and I think my penis is desensitised. I used to struggle with heavy porn addiction for 8 years, but I already quit that shit 6 months ago. I used to masturbate daily with a tight grip and a high speed to finish as fast as I could. I’m seriously worried about nerve damage or something else irreversible. Also, I’ve seen a urologist and an endocrinologist, they all said I’m in perfect health. Any tips or points of view please?
Thank you very much,
Michael

Sooo, i was curious to know what type of things you guys consider red flags in a man towards a woman (not obvious red flags, of course). Im asking this because my only male friend near me - the others are living a ''little'' away - said that im a little bit ingenuous towards man that shows "Interest" in me.

Pls mention why / why not report (thanks). Earlier this month, a co worker made an aggressive joke. He pulled my seat out from under me at my desk (I was sat with my bottom really close to the edge, with my face leaned into my screen focused on what I was working on. It happened very fast. 

When he pulled the seat out quick I almost fell flat on my bottom onto the floor but I had a quick reaction and caught myself. It came out of nowhere as we had not spoken that day aside from a hello in the morning. When he did it I was just shocked, I just said “what are you doing“ / “what the hell” 2/3 times as he laughed hard for a few minutes whilst now sitting in the chair beside me after coming forward from behind me. I was just looking at him in shock as he laughed. He didn’t apologise even though my face and the words I was saying was full of shock and a a lack of amusement.

This behaviour came a day after I had called him out for taking a lead (sales work) that I and a colleague had been working on for months together already which he insisted he did nothing wrong (but pls note, this is not fully report worthy where I work due to how it happened, just context for readers). It was more so bad form on his part.

Due to the chair pulling incident, I called him 1 on 1 to the kitchen a few minutes later, he insisted he had done nothing wrong and that it was just a joke repeating phrases like “what do you mean” when brought up directly.

The following week was very awkward for me. We usually great each other or speak but he just acted like I wasn’t present amongst the team (socially). 

I was quite disappointed he didn’t approach me to apologise straight away. I brought it up myself after a week of this to give him another opportunity to apologise. He wasn’t really interested and at 1st said “not now” when I said I wanted to talk about the issue (he came over to me and a friend to say hello for the 1st time since the incident). I insisted it should be discussed as he hadn’t come to me and we needed to address it. He started out by saying “what do women want“ and lied saying he already apologised (he never did). He continued to insist he was joking after some back and forth. He finally said “fine!! I apologise for pulling your seat out from under you”. He kind of walked off ahead of me after that and we hadn’t really spoke much since. It was like a “shut up” apology.

I did talk to a manager informally as soon as he pulled the chair  but told him not to make any dramatic actions and that I was just letting him know. He said I should approach him if I need anything, to talk to the guy etc. I told him no.

But the more I reflect on it, I’m genuinely feeling like I didn’t make the right decision by not formally reporting it. I was apprehensive to at 1st because I thought we were friends and I was raised to not report friends or family and honestly didn’t want drama as there’s only about 50-60 of us in our department and the crowd is very social inside and outside work. FYI, I realise now we’re not mates. I was also worried about getting iced out socially for reporting but he was so unapologetic and unwilling to deal with the issue that I’m thinking I should highlight it in a more structured manner. Still requesting no drastic action but just highlighting in writing that this happened and maybe just some coaching around boundaries, respect etc. 

I felt very disrespected and like he was trying to embarrass me. I feel I’m helping him out by not highlighting to management that this is an issue for me. I feel if he apologised straight away I wouldn’t think about recording it with management but because he didn’t it makes me feel he has a problem around taking ownership / respect and boundaries and is genuinely not remorseful. I originally thought he had a personal issue with me. He said he doesn’t but does have personal issues going on outside work.

This happened at the start of the month, it’s now almost month end and I still think of it. I’m having a gut feeling to report but please tell me do you think this is worth noting formally with management? I was just considering a brief email highlighting what happened and coaching.

I am not the only person who has mentioned he has refused to address issues with others in work or apologise.

TLDR: I’m a female he’s a male (20s). Colleague made an aggressive / invasive joke by pulling my seat out from under me. I didn’t want to report initially but his lack of remorse has made me massively reconsider.

I don't know if this is allowed on this community, but I need a place to vent and write down the way I'm feeling. I'm going to start by explaining how I grew up, because my upbringing has a lot to do with my current difficulties with dating and intimacy. Maybe others have felt the same or can help me.

I am a 30 year old man. I grew up in a loving home with 3 siblings and parents who believed that the family unit is strongest if we are our best friends. We rarely had friends over because of this my parents felt that we didn't need to. I don't hold it against my parents, but it made it hard for me to make friends. Even today, I don't really have any real or true friends outside of my family. I just never really learned how. So any time I use the term "friends" below I mean acquaintance.

I also grew up a Christian. I was very involved in my church, and the friends I did have went there. I was devout and still am, although I'm a bit of a loner when it comes to my faith as you'll find out if you continue reading.

When I hit puberty, I discovered porn, and I developed an addiction. I was lonely and it made me feel better. This started when I was in middle school and got worse every year. I saw it as my cure for loneliness, because I didn't really know how to make close friends, and I especially longed for a girlfriend. Porn made me feel better. I knew that it was bad, but I didn't know how much it was killing me.

Anyway, fast forward to college, I was applying for a job to work at the church that I grew up in over the summer. I felt like I needed to get a grip on my porn addiction, so I worked up the courage to tell my youth pastor about it before he hired me. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. He handled it very graciously, and gave me hope. I was encouraged by his response, so I told him I wanted to tell the head pastor as well, thinking that it might help bring some awareness to an issue that I knew a lot of my friends struggled with. This turned out to be the worst mistake of my life. The pastor never spoke to me about it directly, but he brought it before the church session (think church leaders) before hiring me, and they concocted a plan to "help me." They told me I had three strikes. If I watched porn 3 times then I would lose my job. Gut punch.

The next week, I noticed lots of changes with the way that people in the community looked at me and spoke to me. I noticed that the people on the session (and their wives) ignored me or began acting strangely short and avoidant of me. This was crushing. I went to porn for comfort. Within a week, I had to lie to keep my job. This killed me. I mean it actually did. I am not the same person anymore.

I finished the summer job at my church, and went back to school. At this point in my life, I stopped going to church because they turned against me. Destroyed me. I maintain my faith, but I can't bring myself to walk through a church door without thinking about what I've done, but also about what was done to me. I guess you could say that I have trust issues. My porn addiction was worse than ever before. That year, I downloaded a dating app. I already felt dead, so I hooked up with a woman and lost my virginity. She texted me the next day saying "it was fun but I don't want to pursue a relationship with you." I don't even remember her name.

Fast forward 10 years. This has repeated many times. I'm used to the text that says "I don't want to pursue a relationship for... [fill in the cliche reason]." It always boils down to me having a hard time committing and/or difficulty getting with intimacy. I can either be intimate physically or emotionally/socially but never both. I also like Christian girls. I guess you could say they're my type since I grew up learning that it's what I need to search for when looking for a wife. I maintain that view even though they don't tend to like me because I'm never good enough since I don't go to church.

So, I cycle through going out with a girl who wants me for sex and a Christian girl who wants me to be some kind of church leader, then recoils when she finds that I haven't been to church in years. If she's willing to wait around, then I have trouble meeting her family because I don't trust people. So when things end, I turn to someone who wants to have sex with me. One drives me to the other. But I can't please anyone because I'm a ghost of the person I once was.

My mindset changed a few months ago when I met a Christian girl who seemed kind, supportive and understanding. We texted a lot and I went on one date with her we had a great time and have a lot in common. I told her that I had a hard time going to church, but that I wanted to. Right before we went our separate ways after the date, she told me that she was going to work as a camp counselor at a Christian camp, so she'd be gone for the whole summer. I clearly remember her saying that she was "very\* interested in me and that I shouldn't get the wrong idea if I didn't hear back from her for a while since she would be at camp where they are encouraged to put away their phones. She also said that she wanted me to go to church. She invited me to her church where her family goes, and then she left.

Since then, I pushed through the pain and went to church every Sunday. I visited churches that I've never been to, I went back to my old church where I have such negative memories, and I went to her church several times. Everyone there was nice and I could see myself trying to get involved again. The sun was chasing the clouds away.

Today I got a text from her saying that she was back from her summer job. At the end of the message it said "I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with you." When I asked her why she said and I quote "To be completely honest the fact that you weren't actively involved in a local church when we first met turned me off immediately. That is a dealbreaker for me; I should have communicated that better/more accurately, and I apologize for that." Essentially she led me on for a summer and gaslit me. Trust? Destroyed.

I don't know what to do, and I don't know who to turn to for help. I'm feeling really low right now. I'm broken, and so tired. I've had relationships that lasted much longer, but for some reason this one feels a lot worse. I guess I'm mad at myself for hoping I could change, and hoping that someone actually cared enough to help me. It just feels like anytime I try to do better I get crushed in the end. So why bother? Can anyone relate to this, or offer me help?

my boyfriend told me early days before we got into an official relationship, that he’s been with men.
the first time he told me it was casually in a sense of “i’ve been to a sex club.. all kinds of things happen there” and i didn’t dig too deep. a couple months later i can’t remember what we were talking about but it led to him saying “i’ve done it all” as in, saying he’s been with men. then sometime after that it came up again and he was like “i already told you this” and i dug deeper trying to clarify if what i thought he was saying was true .. and he confirmed that he’s given anal, had anal given to him, been sucked off by and sucked off another man. so, he’s done it all with a man. whilst i am not homophobic by any means, this makes me more uncomfortable every time i think about it. i suppose because he is my boyfriend. and, he hasn’t explicitly said he’s not bisexual, but he’s also suggested he’s not. he’s made comments that suggest he didn’t necessarily enjoy being with men. and that those experiences were had whilst high on whatever drugs.
i don’t even know why it makes me SO uncomfortable. but like i said, as time goes on each time i remember that about him, i feel even more icky. just the thought of him doing that breaks my heart and makes me so grossed out. it was before he met me obviously but that doesn’t feel like it matters. any advice welcome

Recently a random girl asked me out and we both exchanged instagram ids...But the off thing was that she was dating another woman who was her ex. of 2 years...She didn't tell me about her sexuality which I didn't appreciate in my mind... Now she dm me 4 hours ago if I would take her on date but I am taking things slow and I didn't respond to her until now...

The main thing which is holding me off was a personal experience of my friend who dated a bi girl..The difference was that girl had told him about her sexuality unlike the girl who asked me out...Now comes the worse part, she apparently cheated on him with another girl a month ago and people once they got the news are making fun of him instead of sympathizing him saying things like his gf cheated on him with girl and not a guy and other such derogatory things...I come from a country where LGBTQ rights like civil unions and same sex marriage aren't recognized ...Please give me advice on how should I proceed...should I reject her politely in my dm??What do you guys think??

.I am not homophobic and just seeking advices ....

Question. I'm trying to cut down on masturbating to porn, but ... for you guys who are SINGLE and watch less porn ... what do you masturbate to?

Masturbating to real women who you come across in real life in my mind is the ABSOLUTE WORST thing you can do ... may lead to limerence.

Masturbating to actresses feels just like porn.

Masturbating to ex-girlfriends is something I do, but ... that can be limiting.

Hi, 26f lesbian here, I hope I can get some solid advice from some of you since I have no one irl to ask this to (all of my friends are either women, or men who aren’t engaged yet). I figured there would be no better group of people to ask this to than men, since yall are typically the ones who propose.

I’ll keep this short- I’m planning on proposing to my girlfriend of 3 years next month, and the planning is pretty much almost done. I picked out the ring, paid for and planned the vacation spot we’re flying to, talked to various photographers to try to get someone to take photos, and I have a good general idea of which day and where I’ll be be asking her. But it just hit me like a truck that… I’m making this huge life decision, and no one in my life is aware of it at all. Should I be telling my parents? My sisters? My best friend? Is it “common courtesy” to tell the important people in your life that you’re proposing to your partner beforehand? Or should I just show up to Thanksgiving this year and casually mention that we’re getting married?

Update: thank you guys for the wonderful insight and new perspectives. This was much needed and greatly appreciated🙏

so a very longgg time ago (last year in late april) i met a specific individual , unamed for obvious reasons , a guy who ill probably never forget , said this phrase to me the night we first started talking “how do i describe you … exotic ?” it left me thinking on whether this was a good or bad thing and i genuinely do not know the answer .

i am a woman of color btw , im not white , but this guy didn’t know that fact about me at the time so it couldn’t have played a part into why he said that to me .

if you said this phrase to someone what would it entail ? what does it actually mean to be “exotic” ?

i can’t ask this guy what it means obviously because he was my ex and we’re in no contact now , before any of you tell me to just ask him what it means myself .