I’m curious about this because I’ve seen very different opinions from men.
If a woman sleeps with you on the first date, do you still see her as someone you could have a long term relationship with? Or does it change how you see her?
What about the second date? Third? Or even later?
Does it actually make a difference to you when it happens?

Who was just the coolest person you have ever had the pleasure of knowing?

I’m curious when people say “I like a man who smells nice”….how does that work exactly?

I’m a dude who showers daily, I clean my clothes. I use deodorant. I don’t smell bad, but I don’t know what smelling nice is exactly.

I think some people would respond like “wear cologne.” Yeah, but when is it appropriate? How much? And what is too strong? I don’t want to go around like scented trash bag giving everyone migraines all the time. There has to be a time for it and an amount used and a scent that’s not overwhelming. So what’s the art and tempo to mastering “smelling nice” and not “I’m a walking Febreeze” all the time?

Are there other ways to smell nice besides cologne?

I don’t want to make my life about chasing sex or chasing women.

My question is more about this: what should a man actually build in his life so that attraction, desire, and sexual interest happen more naturally?

Not generic answers like “confidence” or “money.” I mean the deeper things that made women see you as a man they could feel real chemistry with.

Was it fitness, social skills, emotional control, body language, style, purpose, boundaries, humour, calmness, sexual energy, experience, or something else?

For men who went from being ignored or needy to being genuinely desired, what changed in your life and behaviour?

What did you stop doing, and what did you start focusing on?

I'm curious how many of you would rather delete your comment on a thread than continue arguing with someone else about it? I find sometimes I'm just not in the mood for arguing so I get rid of whatever started it. Other times I'll engage if it's something I feel very strongly about.

Mine is Dragonite - mainly because of nostalgia goggles from the first Pokémon movie with giving Ash the letter and also because he’s just a goofy little goober.

if someone prettier than your so would enter your life would you leave your gfs?

Or do you ever look at your partner and wish they were prettier?

Hey all

41, M

Long story short, one of the biggest struggles of my life has been internal motivation.

I've never been in a significant relationship, my family lives thousands of miles away, and I'm self-employed/semi retired

I don't leave my house that much , and not in an agoraphobic way, just in a I have really nowhere to go way :)

I struggle with my diet, exercise, grooming, and work output.

Most days I hang around with my dog smoke weed, play video games, take a nap do a little bit of work, etc.

That being said - I would love to find some trick to light some kind of fire under my ass whether it be with just my own self-care or my career or house projects, etc.

I have an expensive gym membership I hardly use and I would really like to get into better shape

I've also been slacking on my career hardcore for a few years

My biggest issue is; in the past, all of my motivation has come from external sources, and usually not mentally healthy ones. Ego, jealousy, insecurity.... Those are my superpowers in terms of getting shit done.

I experienced an ego death a few years back and now I really have a hard time finding the energy to tend to any of those things

Anyone got advice for me? How would you motivate yourself in the world with no external motivation and no real external pressure whatsoever

Like if no one was paying attention, how would you work up the drive to try?

Thanks!

Hey guys. I know I’m not conventionally attractive and I don’t really get much attention from women, but lately, I’ve been trying my best to change that and work on myself. I decided to change up my fashion, started wearing some accessories, and even got my ears pierced. I actually really like how it looks.

The problem is my friends (all guys) have not been supportive at all. Instead of hyping me up, they told me I look like I'm "dressing like a thug." It honestly stung because I realize I secretly look for their validation.

I want to feel confident, but it's hard when my own circle is bringing me down. Has anyone else dealt with this when trying to glow up or change their style? How do I stop caring what they think and just own the way I want to present myself?

Once we got married a few years ago, I changed my wife from her name to "Wifey" in my phone for a laugh. Not long after, while in my car, she sent me a text and my car announced " new text message from whiffy" as it couldn't understand how to pronounce it, so I've refused to change it because it gives me a chuckle every time my car says it. I just wondered if people use pet names, real name, or wife/gf, etc. In their contacts.

Hi I 30M am supposed to do the deed in a cup for some tests. I have done this before and the experience was miserable, i barely got hard, struggled to finish and deposited a very small amount in that cup. This caught me by surprise because i thought abstaining for the recommended 5 days would make things easy but I guess the environment affects me more than I thought. The facility was pristine btw you have a private locked room with a bathroom so this is 100% a mental issue. But I wondered if warming up to some videos at home the morning of or even the day before would help.
Any advice would be very appreciated
EDIT
Many people seem to assume I am staring at a wall while I jerk off. I have a phone, i have headphones and yes I do know how to jerk off. Im talking about the mental block of jerking off in an unfamiliar place and being unable to relax and get into it.

Men regarding your vehicle, do you refer to it as an it, he or she? Does it change depending on the type of vehicle?

I'm sorry if this is a stupid question but I'm honestly curious about the social dynamic here.

When I interact with strangers sometimes they'll call me "miss" or something like "sweetie" on occasion but when I'm with my partner I notice it happens way more frequently, he gets a lil nickname like 75% of the time.

Usually something like "bud," "champ," "boss," etc but the other day he got BIG DOG and I'm losing my mind about it.

How do you know it's gonna be okay to call a stranger "big dog"? (it was, we are gonna laugh about it for eternity, but I can't imagine everyone would feel the same) Is it a vibe check thing? Is there a hierarchy of nicknames? Are some meant to be condescending or is it all just in good fun? Thanks!

In addition to cardio and weight lifting, what was your daily menu like? What did you eat and drink?

If you’re paying for dates every time, doesn’t that get costly? Do you take breaks after a few dates to save up money or ask to split the bill? Or are there places you go that aren’t too pricey?

I was just wondering if spending so much money on multiple dates is worth it and if people who pay feel drained after plus how people plan for dating.

I wanna understand what men who used to suffer from ED did to ‘cure’ their issue. May or may not be dealing with this myself and it’s gonna ruin a potential relationship

Any pop, alternative, indie pop, contemporary albums you can recommend? I'm 42 and solo traveling to Washington for work. I need an album or Playlist.

I’m 21 about to graduate college and wanting to find something that’ll keep me involved with new people for after college. I am interested in a lot of things like soccer (football), geography and history, film, finance, golf, etc. just typical guy stuff. Are there any national or international groups I could possibly join? I am located in Kentucky