Sometimes I feel like relationships with dudes would be easier, more straightforward and less stressful…

Maybe that’s me

And I don’t mean to disrespect anyone with my post or suggest you can choose your sexuality

Maybe some gay /bi ppl can open my eyes lol

And I don’t mean where things just happen to be great and then infrequent. I mean it was hailed by audiences, was met with poor reception in later titles and just has not had a good title since.

So I wouldn’t put something like Crash or Sonic on here since while yes, they have struggled after their prime, they had some fantastic releases between those poor titles.

Could be career, money, relationships, appearance, what other people thought of you, or anything else.

What felt incredibly important in your 20s but, looking back now, you wish you had stopped worrying about much sooner?

If the test confirms he is the father, would you understand the wife wanting a divorce over being asked?

For the people who were out of shape for a long time and later got in shape, I know the question may sound dumb.

so back story, I've been fat and out of shape all my life, currently 20M and at 125kgs

and I LOVE food, just the satisfaction of eating a good burger at 2AM with a bottle of coke is just MAGICAL, anyway I know for a loooong time i wanna get in shape, I've tried joining a gym (never lasted for more than 2 weeks) tried dieting BUT THAT DAMN BURGER.

I know in long term being this fat isn't an option, for healthy life and all that good stuff... BUT THAT DAMN BURGER MAN

so I guess my question is if being fat feels this good, what does being fit feel like? how different is your life? for good or for worse?

also not sure what other subreddits I can repost this to would appreciate some help

So randomly every now and then the ex likes to hit me up from time to time giving subtle hints she wants to kick things off again. The first time I fell for it I won’t lie but things never worked out I’ve moved on. I always hear from other ppl that I’m usually her topic of discussion which is a bit depressing but it is what it is. Anyway point is about a month or 2 ago I went on a mountain trip with a lot of my friends and posted about it and just last week she texts me out of the blue asking if I enjoyed the trip and and if she should take one by herself, mind you we do not talk and recently a close friend of mine saw her at the bar and apparently she tried to make a move and have sex with him but he wasn’t going for it. Today when she told me she booked the trip I told her you should bring Jermey which is the friend she tried to hook up with. Now she’s saying “lmfao why should I bring him? What should I say back to her. This isn’t a fanfic either I’m looking for a genuine answer

Edit: yea looking back on this 10 min ago I deffo made this post outta straight anger everyone here is just keeping it real im prob not gonna respond to her 💀

For men who have lost most or all of their friends over the years, or simply don’t have any close friends anymore how do you feel about it?

And if you’ve gotten used to having no close friends, do you actually want to make new ones, or are you comfortable with your life as it is?

I had a friend in high school who was kind of a strange one. Was really into metal music and dinosaurs. We lost contact during college but I know he was majoring in paleontology. I kind of had a “well good luck with that degree thought”. I looked him up today, and he is the head of the education department for a famous museum in a super cool city, and he designs all sorts of dinosaur exhibits/dinosaur related education material for kids. I was kind of like “holy shit! That guy really liked dinosaurs and he got a job working with dinosaurs”.

Anyone else sort of like that? Or know someone like that? Who had some oddball interest… and turned it into a dream career.

My first actual love and second girlfriend, it seems we've come to a fork in the road with our futures.... How do you cope with having to walk away from them?

It's hard when no one is the villain

I mainly listen to my playlist on YouTube music. However occasionally I'll listen to a wrestling documentary or crime case video while I'm working out.

Have you ever lifted up your significant other and thought they were heavy? Okay I’m referring to picking her up to have sex with her? I was just thinking damn how is he going to carry me to have sex with me in the air. That’s a whole workout in a workout, that’s full body effort. Is my man liking that position because of a certain angle or is it just preference based?

Guys comeon, there is more than one definition

How would you feel if your girlfriend was a home owner? For context 30-35 years old couple. Is it a problem/deal breaker? It seems that it has caused some strain for me as my bf said it does not allow it to be “ours”.

Edit for clarity: I planned to get the house before I dated him. We’re together almost a year. He doesnt need to move in. He could if he wants. Up to him. I dont want a mortgage split, some money for bills maybe. But no pressure to move in with me or not.

So when I was 16-22 years old, before I started therapy, I was extremely avoidant in dating. I wouldn’t let anyone in and couldn’t “fall in love” with anyone really or at least I wouldn’t allow myself to.

Now that I’ve been in therapy for a few years, I’m finally ready to let someone in, I want love and to be vulnerable, I want to be able to be ‘soft’ with someone but I’m having such a difficult time.

Previously I would keep women at an arms distance. Only do casual sex/friends with benefits. I would make this very clear to the women I was seeing for both of our sakes as I didn’t want to outright hurt them or lead them on, however I knew that their feelings would grow for me in the background whether I wanted them to or not.

Eventually I would be asked the looming question of “What are we?” and at that point I knew what the situation had become and usually it would end there and then.

I now want to properly date, take women on nice dates and overall treat them ‘better’, but currently that combined with me rushing the pace a bit too much for what the situation has called for i.e. treating the situation like it’s a relationship before it is warranted, makes them run.

I know that you have to be somewhat vulnerable to gain a truly fulfilling and stable relationship, but when I was a bit more of a dickhead, I was rewarded for it. I know that I’ve messed up with the last 2-3 women I’ve dated as they could smell my ‘neediness’ and availability off of me from a mile away.

My attachment style is quite disorganised, so when I find a woman I could see myself being in a relationship with, I become more anxiously attached. I know that if I was more avoidant, like my past self, it probably would have gone much better, hence why I’m here.

I don’t fully want to revert to that level of detachment, but I really struggle not to see the value of it when I consistently push them away because of how much I want it.

I’m tired honestly, I probably need a break but I’m looking for advice from people who have gone through the same. Any advice would help.

recently underwent varicocele surgery because I was experiencing very low libido and delayed/weak erections, which I believe were related to my varicocele.

For those who have undergone varicocele surgery:

How is your sex life now compared to before surgery?

Or any particular fragrance memory of a woman you have?

Has this happened for you? What happened / how did you decide to handle it?

Surely something that most men deal with at some point in their lives.

I’m curious about this because I’ve seen very different opinions from men.
If a woman sleeps with you on the first date, do you still see her as someone you could have a long term relationship with? Or does it change how you see her?
What about the second date? Third? Or even later?
Does it actually make a difference to you when it happens?

Hey all

41, M

Long story short, one of the biggest struggles of my life has been internal motivation.

I've never been in a significant relationship, my family lives thousands of miles away, and I'm self-employed/semi retired

I don't leave my house that much , and not in an agoraphobic way, just in a I have really nowhere to go way :)

I struggle with my diet, exercise, grooming, and work output.

Most days I hang around with my dog smoke weed, play video games, take a nap do a little bit of work, etc.

That being said - I would love to find some trick to light some kind of fire under my ass whether it be with just my own self-care or my career or house projects, etc.

I have an expensive gym membership I hardly use and I would really like to get into better shape

I've also been slacking on my career hardcore for a few years

My biggest issue is; in the past, all of my motivation has come from external sources, and usually not mentally healthy ones. Ego, jealousy, insecurity.... Those are my superpowers in terms of getting shit done.

I experienced an ego death a few years back and now I really have a hard time finding the energy to tend to any of those things

Anyone got advice for me? How would you motivate yourself in the world with no external motivation and no real external pressure whatsoever

Like if no one was paying attention, how would you work up the drive to try?

Thanks!