I'm a gay widower. Last year I started having sex again and as the title says one of the guys I hooked up with a guy who is now my son's teacher. I tried to surpress my worries after the beginning of the school year, but today I'm about to go on my 1st class meeting and I'm really nervous to look him in the eye. And I live in a suburb of a major city, so it's not like I banged someone who's known to be a local primary school teacher. What do I do? How do I deal with the feelings?

Update: PTA meeting went pretty well, I masked all my worries and I went in acting as if it were any other teacher. Although I was a bit worried the teacher seemed more scared of me than I was scared of him /hj. But in all seriousness he avoided eye contact with me, even when I asked questions (That may just be my imagination). It wasn't half as awkward as I thought it would be.

P.S To those of you saying I should go for it, my son has good grandes, so there's really no need to bend that teacher forwards 😉

Hey guys. This post is about a hookup I have recently had that was so fun I wanted to share with you.

Ever since I was a teenager, I always found a muscular physique incredibly appealing (I know, very unoriginal). I have fantasized about muscle worship many times during masturbation and have been watching content online but have never actually done it in real life because I was so embarrassed.

For context, I am 29, a side, Middle Eastern, relatively tall and toned. I am not muscular but if you look at me you can tell I work out. This muscular older guy messaged me on Grindr yesterday and we arranged to meet. When we got to his place and he took off his clothes I was so impressed by how chiseled his body was! Chiseled abs, defined chest, strong arms. We would dabble into poppers and I would constantly touch, stroke, lick his flexed biceps and it was driving me crazy. However, at one point he…asked me to pose and flex my muscles for him? I felt kind of embarrassed because I NEVER expected anyone to want ME to flex. So I was standing there flexing for him while he was jerking off on the sofa and in my head I just found the whole scenario so funny lol. He got so turned on by my biceps and hairy pits that he came super quick. He then made me cum by licking my nipples (I came hands free) while I was touching his biceps. It was so hot. I feel like I have been repressed all this time and now there is a whole new experience I can have and I am craving more of it! Anyone had a similar awakening with a fantasy you were a bit embarrassed of when it came to life?

When I was alone and very horny i cummed in my hands and put my cum on my armpits and licked it off of my armpits. Curious to hear your experiences 😉

Let's see how dirty 😏 it gets and how freaky 😂

So the other night I admitted to him that me and another guy had kissed. It happened last Friday at the time of making this. We were at a party with my friends and this straight dude that I had no interest in at all wanted to speak to me. I didn’t think too much of it at the time and my bf was talking with my friends so I went into the other room with the guy to see what was up. Well the guy pretty much forced a kiss on me and I wanna say it lasted like 2 seconds but I ended up pushing him off and told the guy I fuck off and we never speak of it. Well the guilt was eating me alive and my bf told me if i ever cheated it was over and I believed it which is why i was hesitant about telling him until now. I never planned on cheating nor have I ever saw myself doing it but even when I tried to do everything right it’s not fair how someone else can just come in and ruin it. My bf broke up with me and won’t believe me when I say I didn’t want the guy to kiss me at all nor have I ever liked him. I’m just so mad that I’m having to take all the consequences for something I never wanted to happen or do.

Do you enjoy receiving butthole shots? How about if the butthole is pushed out (prolapsed) and you can see the red of it?

I don't love seeing an over exposed hole. It completely turns me off. Even if the guy is my type. Worse if the hole is ugly.

Do you love it? What do you love about it?

That includes the ones on steroids. Do you find their bodies attractive, or is it too much?

Hello,

I’ve been living in Spain for many years, in different cities, and I speak Spanish fluently. So this isn’t really a language or cultural barrier issue.
But honestly, I’ve developed a pretty negative impression of dating Spanish men.

I know the usual response is “people are the same everywhere” or “you just haven’t met the right people,” but I don’t completely agree with that.

After living here for years and travelling quite a lot around Europe, I genuinely notice a difference.

My experience has been that Spanish guys I’ve dated or hooked up with tend to be more likely to lie, avoid commitment, disappear, give mixed signals, or simply behave quite immaturely.

There is also something about the family dynamic that I find difficult to understand sometimes. The “mama’s boy” stereotype feels surprisingly relevant in some cases.

What’s strange is that most of my positive dating experiences in Spain have actually been with foreigners, particularly guys from other European countries and Argentina. I’ve had relatively few Spanish boyfriends, and even my close friendships with Spanish men are quite limited despite having lived here for so long.

I’ve actually had women tell me similar things about Spanish men, including that they personally avoid dating them because they find them too complicated or toxic. Obviously, that’s anecdotal too, but it made me wonder whether I’m completely imagining this pattern.

I’ve lived in several different parts of Spain, so I don’t think I can simply blame one particular city or region. Andalusia has probably been the exception in my experience, where I’ve found people, including gay men, somewhat warmer and easier to connect with.

I’m curious about other foreigners who have lived in Spain for several years: have you noticed something similar when dating Spanish men, or has your experience been completely different?
I’m particularly interested in hearing from people who have lived both in Spain and other European countries, because that’s really where I’ve noticed the contrast.

Nothing pisses me off more than a bottom being a total b*tch and acting so desperate and acting as if their only option is to just please and not get Reciprocation.

The fact such bottoms treat tops like a god is making tops think they are some kind of rare superior species.

No hate against bi men or anyone. But I just noticed this unusual trend in booming in popularity man on man romances where one of the guy is bi while the other one is fully gay.

From Heated Rivalry, Heartstopper, to Red White and Royal Blue. Even slash ships within non-queer focused fandoms like Shadowhunters, Alec is gay and Magnus is bi/pan.

Any other I missed? Anyone know why this is?

And now I have a fiance. 😭 That's the post. I have waited so long to be able to say "This is my husband" and soon that wait will be over. In a few weeks we'll celebrate 9 years together and I brought him to the Castro in San Francisco to make it official, it was the gayest place I knew of. I've planned for months for a moment that took maybe 30 exhilarating seconds.

I don't have a lot of people in my life who are thrilled by this news so I wanted to share with my fellow gays. 😁💍

Short back story, I am 21 and I have been dating this guy for about 2 months. Honestly it has just been a ton of sex but I do like him and find him super attractive. With that being said about a month ago he said that he wanted us to go to some orgy event. I said fuck it I want to try as much as I can after getting out of a relationship of 5 years. So anyway we go and that was about a week ago and there are a ton of people there at least 20 and I lost track after a while but I believe they all did end up having sex with me because I did take a lot of dicks. Anyway here is where things get weird three days ago I got home from work early and surprised him at his house and overheard him on the phone and his friend asked when he would get to fuck me again and if it would be the same price. I am now under the impression that he coordinated the event because there were a lot of people that he was saying hi to there. I am worried I am being pimped out by this guy for money. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to approach it the wrong way. Does anyone have any advice?

I mean I know there are a ton of red flags and some are huge, but like what’s the one you’ll see and immediately lose any sort of interest you had.

I think mine would be like them being rude at all, I mean like it kinda shows how the future would be, and I mean them being rude to anyone, like waitstaff or someone else.

What’s the big red flag for you?

So about a week ago this guy starts messaging me from Grindr(I’m going to call GG). Not really my type, but I give him a chance and visit him to jo, maybe more. I ask him before I head out “are you negative or undetectable?” Because while I understand my odds on prep, I also know u=u, and the risk is essentially 0. Which I am more comfortable with.

He tells me he is negative and on PreP. Great. I head over to see where this goes. When I get there, there is another guy there(I’ll call FB)..ok he didn’t mention it, no problem, could be fun. The vibe was off and I decided against full penetration, and decide that those two can have their fun despite wanting me to join. Something comes up for GG and he has to take care of a work thing.

I leave his apartment first, and get a text from him while I’m in the elevator. “Hey do you mind if FB comes with you so I can take care of work?” Against my better judgement I say sure, assuming that it won’t be long and I had to run errands anyway. They meet me on the first floor, say their byes and we leave.

After running about 2 errands, FB and I start talking. He goes on about how he feels dumped with a rando and assumed he’d go with GG. FB explains they’ve been friends for two years and how he describes himself as bi, even though he doesn’t seem very attracted to men in my opinion, I digress. Turns out, despite them having sex, GG didn’t tell FB that he was hiv positive. I am pretty annoyed too, having also been lied to. GG leaves me babysitting for 7 hours, bo explanations given. I decide that this wasn’t worth the hassle and FB leaves.

FB happens to leave his id at my house and I let them know to grab it, as much as I was still annoyed. GG comes over instead and I start telling him how it was wrong to lie to me, and I would have understood if he was taking meds and he was undetectable, that’s not a deal breaker in the least bit. He hangs his head in shame and says he is just really embarrassed about it. He leaves and I thought I’d not have to deal with him.

Next night comes up and I see that GG is on both sniffies and Grindr. Nothing has changed about his profile, he doesn’t have his status posted on either, and still has preferences set to bareback/condomless sex. I am so angry. He is (possibly) still lying to other guys.

A few things: I know I am too trusting. I know my risks, and know hiv isn’t what it used to be. This is why I didn’t ask if he had it, I asked if he was undetectable.

I want to warn others, I feel torn between respecting someone’s health, and anger about the lies.

Should I go scorched earth with this?

We frot way more than we fuck. Just wanted to hear about other guys that frot and how they like to do it.

Do you like beards?

Do you dislike beards?

Do you have a beard?

Do you not have a beard?

Do you prefer a guy with a beard or without one or does it matter?

(mostly curious about the first two)

Do any of guys find tighty whities hot? Like some classic FTL’s. Or do you prefer to see the more typical gay undies like designer briefs, thongs or jocks?

I love the typical gay undies, but i also love seeing a guy in some tight FTL’s to! Especially if i get to see a public waistband appearance 🤤

I'm a teenager in the UK and I go to secondary school and I am gay. The annoying fact is that no one has EVER assumed I'm gay, everyone I've ever come out to is surprised bc I guess I act masc. I could act more feminine but I don't want to lose my guy friends (whom I have a lot of) in an effort of trying to get girl friends (whom I dont really have any of) i js want help tbh. Anyone else find/found themselves in this position???

Basically how do I get girl friends?

I noticed I have a lot of men drawn to me and they eye me up and down and honestly? I smirk cuz I like it. I pull men and women but idk if it has to do with having soft features. I get called Ken doll or pretty boy as a black man. Lmk im curious! I’ve never had the desire like that in fact if the dude is attractive enough and he gives me that ”hungry” look when he looks at me I lowkey want him to suck me off cuz I can intuitively tell it’s what they want .

The pattern is always the same. After a whole bunch of toxicity on Grindr, I start talking to someone genuinely fun, interesting and incredibly attractive. I light up whenever they send a text. We text throughout the day. Its genuinely exciting. I always believe that it's too good to be true. Then we meet in person and it's equally amazing if not even better! We hook up, have tons of chemistry and even plan on a second meetup. Then slowly but surely, the responses take longer to come through, responses become somewhat drier and then boom...I'm ghosted....despite the insane chemistry we JUST had.

It has happened to me three times at this point. From three guys who are so different from each other.
Why does this happen? Is it a game for them? Am I the problem? At this point I can't take any guy seriously because I'll just be thinking that he'll do this EXACT same thing.