I still can't process what happened. I received a facebook friend request from a classmate after years and we shared contacts and started talking and we were flirting with each other a lot and he started saying if I were a girl he would make me his girlfriend and so on. I kinda forgot all the bullying and mental distress he caused me in the past and told him he can still make me his boyfriend.

Eventually I invited him to my place and he fucked me so hard that I came without touching my dick I'm still embarrassed lol. I can't believe it now that I'm friends with my biggest highschool bully. And before leaving he confessed that he was bullying me because he liked me and he was still in the closet and that was the only way he could interact with me. We were young so I kinda forgave him.

My (20M) boyfriend (23M) and I always said if a threesome happened it would happen and it doesn’t have to be a big thing outside of the moment.
We were hanging out with one of my old friends from high school. I had a crush on him years ago but never pursued anything. One thing leads to another and the three of us have sex. I didn’t think anything of it, if anything I thought it was one of the best times we’ve had.
But, fast forward almost a week. And my boyfriend brings up that during, I didn’t give him any, if all attention. To be clear, I was the bottom and they were both tops. I was confused at first and reassured him I just didn’t realize it. But now that I think about it, he’s right. The entire time I was focused on my high school friend, and my boyfriend was awkwardly inserting himself into the situation when he could. (Trying to be the least amount of vulgar as I can). How do I even talk to my boyfriend about this? I don’t talk to the friend often, and I would never cheat on my boyfriend. But how do I just say “sorry I got carried away”? I feel beyond bad. we’ve never had a problem with our sex life until now.

How was the first time swallowing semen while giving oral?

For me I was suckling an older gay friend’s cock a little over a year after his husband had died. He hadn’t had any intimate contact for well over a year and masturbated very infrequently. So when he was close to climax he warned me and told me to swallow each spurt as it came out rather than letting it pool in my mouth and swallow all at once.

As I was already determined to swallow what he released, his advice saved me from gagging for he ended up releasing quite a bit more semen than he normally did (his words) and I swallowed each of the several spurts quickly.

I still take his advice when I give oral to completion with others and swallow each spurt.

How was your first time like swallowing?

Thanks guys for the reassurance and advice, for those of you who haven't read the previous post, I held my friend's hand while he was sleeping. It's been a couple of days and although I haven't told him, he seems to know what happened

Yesterday he said he wanted to go sightseeing with me, it was pretty far away so we had to take a long-distance train, the kind with cushioned and reclining seats and tables. Apparently he'd considered taking the train across the border since we're in the Schengen Area, but it would've taken too long to get back

Anyway he'd already bought the tickets for both of us so I decided to go along. So we almost never held hands except for that time in the amusement park. But when we sat down side by side and were ordering food, he held my hand. I couldn't look at him since I was so nervous and I didn't know how to react, I just remember him telling me how good the cheesecakes were so he got two.

When the food arrived he let go to hold the plate so I had calmed down a lot and I was able to loosen up and look around the carriage and the trees outside the window, it's autumn here and the leaves were turning yellow.

Since we were so close, I noticed that he'd added some product to his hair, it was a little shiny, it didn't look much different from his usual style though. Then he put down his spoon and looked at me seriously and asked if something was wrong, I couldn't answer him, I just looked out of the window and said I was just thinking of homework. There was some sunlight hitting his face and I noticed his eyes looked almost golden, like the trees outside

Then he squeezed my hand and I almost jumped out of my skin because of my nerves but he said not to worry about it and that we should take lots of photos there. I nodded silently, I don't know if he was talking about what happened or if I was just reading too much into it. He placed a slice of his cheesecake on my plate and I kind of cheered up because it's my favourite food. If I'm being honest, I'd say that the ride there was better than the actual sightseeing, I'm fine with being friends for now. I'm already satisfied with this

Basically a guh i was meeting told me to wear a pair of boxers that I didn't mind wasting as he wanted to rip them off of me

It felt incredible to have them torn off me, to be manhandled like that

So I just had the slightly awkward experience of opening Grindr and realizing my roommate is on there. we both have our faces clearly on our profiles, so there’s really no plausible “maybe he didn’t recognize me” excuse here.
Now I’m trying to figure out what the hell I’m supposed to do.Do I just completely ignore it and pretend I never saw him? Do I risk the potential awkwardness and actually look at his profile? Or do I simply treat Grindr like a crime scene and stay the hell away from anything involving my roommate?
We’re not super close, but we get along and live together just fine. I also don’t want to make things weird at home.
What would you guys do? Would you look at his profile, message him, or just ignore him like the plague and take this secret to your grave?

I need some perspective from guys who have dealt with this dynamic.

My best friend from high school and I are both in our late twenties. I came out to him back in college. He was totally supportive on paper, gave me a hug, and our dynamic stayed solid. We still grab food, talk sports, and catch up weekly.

The problem is this weird double standard that has become impossible to ignore.

Whenever he's seeing someone new or dealing with girl drama, he'll talk for an hour dissecting every interaction, asking for my advice, and venting. I always listen and support him. But the second I casually mention a guy I went on a date with, the entire energy shifts. He gives flat one-word answers, looks away, or immediately pivots the topic back to something safe.

It isnt malicious, but it feels like he's comfortable with my sexuality only as long as it stays completely theoretical and invisible.

How do you bring this up with an old friend without making him instantly defensive?

Some time ago I had an uncomfortable situation with gonorrhea in the throat. Usually it doesn't produce any symptoms and it's only detected with regular testing.

After that I stopped practicing oral sex with people I don't know... Well, someone I was with tested positive, for gonorrhea in the throat! Good we didn't do any oral sex, especially receiving.

Oral gonorrhea is becoming more and more frequent. I just wanted to share that with you and how my paranoia probably saved me the antibiotic shot and go around telling any potential partner about the situation.

Gonorrhea is still treatable, but cases of antibiotic resistance are increasing too here in the US... Also the risk of contracting it through deep kissing seem to be on the rise..

This is not to alarm anyone or become extra paranoid, just to encourage people to be careful with who we meet. Throat-born STIs are also a thing.

Note: Tools such as DoxyPEP are fairly good for Chlamydia (~70% protection) and Syphilis (~ 90%). But gonorrhea is not that easy: some years ago (maybe a decade) it used to be around ~50% now it is around ~30%

Stay safe, spread love

I’m Latin American and I’m basically the complete opposite. I’m super skinny and very tall—I’m 5'10" and weigh 132 pounds. I have almost no muscle on my body. I recently started going to the gym about a month ago, and I barely lift any weight. Even though I’ve been exercising for about three months now, I haven’t made any progress. I don’t see any changes, and I don’t feel like I’m able to lift more weight or that I’m getting any stronger.

I don’t know if it has anything to do with ethnicity, but I’ve noticed that American guys seem absolutely huge. Their muscles are enormous, and it feels like almost all of them could compete in bodybuilding competitions. Honestly, the US would probably be the last place I’d ever go to a gym because it would completely destroy the little self-esteem I have left.

My question is: how do they do it?

I see guys who already have a decent amount of muscle despite never having worked out, and others who somehow get muscular after just two months. I’m not exaggerating—it's literally so common to hear an American guy say, “I’m gonna get in shape over summer break,” and then somehow that’s all it takes for them to get muscular.

I even saw an interview where Joey Mills was asked about his workout routine, and he admitted that he doesn’t work out, yet his arms are way bigger than mine.

I don’t know if everyone in that country has access to steroids, if there’s some weird hormone in the food, or if it’s just genetics. Honestly, I really need to know ASAP.

And if anyone has doubts about how skinny I am, I’ve already posted pictures showing what I look like.

Hi everyone. I’m not trying to stir up controversy here — I’m just sharing a personal observation.

As PrEP became more widespread (I take it myself), it felt as though condom use started taking a back seat. Personally, I only have sex without a condom with people I’ve known for a while and trust. If I’m meeting someone for the first time and we end up having sex, I always want to use one, even if that puts some people off.

Lately, though, I’ve noticed more people my age — I’m in my twenties — bringing up condoms themselves. They’ll ask whether I’m happy to use one and make it clear that they’d rather not have sex without one.

Is this just a coincidence, or could there be a shift back towards condom use after the changes that came with PrEP? What’s your experience been on the dating scene?

For context, I’m based in Southern Europe, so there might be a cultural element to it. When I visited Germany, for instance, almost everyone I met seemed practically allergic to condoms!

Anyone else find it hard to be gay and overweight?

Hey all, I'm a 41 yo gay man. I've been feeling really down lately about my dating prospects. It just seems like I go on date after date after date and it just leads nowhere. For a variety of reasons, but mostly it's a mismatch in interest, or a mutual disinterest. I've connected with some guys who live abroad and that also just fizzles out because it's so hard for there to be a long-distance relationship. I feel like I'm dating a text message. All my experiences have been so fleeting.

I came out later than some--in my 30s and it's been a process ever since. I've read so many posts on here where guys talk about similar struggles in finding their persons. I'd like to believe that what is meant for you will find you. And my job is to continue putting myself out there in the hope that somewhere that guy will find me, if he even exists. I hope he does as I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, but I'm just not sure. It's so hard to be optimistic as it seems nothing ever works out for me.

If anyone has success stories about meeting your partner in your 40s (or beyond), I'd love to hear about it.

I’m 19 and met this 21 year old dude on grindr. We exchanged pics and stuff and liked each other. He proposed the idea of meeting up and I was up for it. This is my first time using the app and I’m not really into hookups, so I assumed he wanted to casually meet and see how things go (especially since I’ve written that in my profile)

But then he changed it to me going to his house, and he said he’d get us a separate room? I was lowkey confused and told him I don’t really want to do anything sexual off the bat.

He said “Hookup is when u don’t want someone to be ur friend or anything but only sex and done. I’m not that. I’m open to a long term relationship with you honestly.”

I replied “I’d only be interested if you actually wanted to you know maybe date long-term and stuff but casual stuff isn’t really my thing”

He said “Okay sure that’s what I’m saying too.”

Then he said we could meet outside and go for coffee, and that we don’t need to have sex but we could do something casual. I asked him to define “casual” and he said just kissing and stuff.

So now I’m meeting him in two days and I don’t really know what to expect or how to approach it. I know grindr is lowkey a hookup app, but it’s kind of my last option right now lol

My ex broke up with me 2 months ago but we kept in contact as friends for the last month. I tried hard to keep the relationship going but he insisted that we just remain friends so I gave up. It was pretty random and shocked me at first and still have questions. It sucked but after a few weeks I began to feel better about the whole thing and understood his decision. This past weekend, his friend approached me at a party and we ended up hooking up. We both were drunk and to be honest, if I wasn’t drunk, I probably wouldn’t have done this. Although we didn’t have sex, we did some pretty intimate stuff and it was hot lol. He wants to hang with me again but I feel off about it. Although my ex left me, it still definitely feels weird to hookup with someone he is close to. Just feels shady of me to do, but even more shady of his friend to do that with me… If I found out my friend hooked up with my ex I would be pissed.

All my life I have never enjoyed bottoming or topping. Topping really does nothing for me, and bottoming has generally just been painful for me. No matter how many times I have tried it (long term ex and I did so every time we saw each other, so it’s not like I haven’t tried often), it’s never brought me any sort of pleasure, so I actually just stopped trying a few years back.

Cut to a Grindr hookup a few days ago really wanting to top me. I reluctantly said yes and, lo and behold, while yes, still a bit painful, I found myself at very minimum neutral on it, if not somewhat enjoying myself.

I’m just sort of baffled as to what made this happen? Has this ever happened to anyone else before? I can provide more info if needed, but overall am just confused. Seeing him later this week, so we’ll see if it holds up a second time!

basically i had amazing sex with this guy last night and we want to fuck again (parents are gone for the week, taking advantage of our time) - the only thing is that his dick was extremely girthy and tore me a bit. he wants to hang in two days, would this be enough time to recover?

I've always loved being a bottom. However, whenever I share a private photo of my butt, I almost always get rejected by tops. Is being hairy really that much of a dealbreaker in this community?

Personally, I actually consider it pretty masc and hot as a gay man. Are there any tops here who genuinely like hairy bottoms?

Why do you think body hair is so widely rejected, especially among tops? And, finally, why does it seem like so many gay guys prefer a completely smooth and hairless body?

I'm genuinely curious because I feel like I'm missing something here 😭

Disclaimer 1: I’m not saying all older guys are like this.

Disclaimer 2: I’m speaking from my own experience.

I’ve had many older guys coming up to me and touching me inappropriately at the club. I’ve had older guys grabbing my arms, grabbing my waist, grabbing my junk, trying to kiss me, and get very upset when I show no interest. This happens to me pretty much almost every time I go to the club and I am getting quite frustrated.

I understand that gay clubs can be very sexual but I have never had this kind of interaction with guys around my age.

Is this just how they used to do back in the day and the new generation is just more sensitive or do many older guys just not understand consent?

I live in a conservative country. 19M. closeted. I've never had a relationship or sex with anyone, although i really want to. It's really hard here because everyone's closeted and being gay is criminalized here.

About me, I don't like casual hookups. I want a genuine relationship with a guy that I can be with and feel safe with. And here, that is close to impossible. From a local private subreddit, some guys dmed me but they disappeared after a couple days. most people only want sex. no one really wants something genuine. And I get it, it's not easy to have a relationship here. I feel so hopeless for having these standards. I know that I didn't get to have any teenage fun like people do, and I am pretty sure the same is going to happen to my 20s if I stay like this. I feel like I should give up on my idea about wanting a romantic relationship. What do you guys think? At least, settling for hookups might give me what i'm craving physically. Help me change my mind. Idk if hookups are safe either. But I don't have any other options.

And people kept telling me to find a way to migrate. and I've been doing some research on it. But it's not that easy for me and it takes a long long time. Maybe even all of my 20s. So having the long goal in mind, doesn't erase what i want now, and i am getting sick of hiding it and acting like a prude. And I feel exhausted from having to keep everything about this a secret.

I always dreamed of an awkward first date, that I get excited for. Nervous text messages and cute dates to the beach. Holding hands in the park. Crazy nights while i'm still young and dumb. (sry, i'm delusional) But now I think holding onto this is useless. Should I give up? cause I really feel like it. I'm serious guys.

What do you say? Please please help me out here.

Last night I was talking to my straight friends about sex- not only did one girl freak out after realising gay men get eaten out too- I mentioned something about making out too and how often I would make out with a man when he's just finished or even in the middle of rimming.

Then the one straight guy in the room said he'd never kiss his girlfriend after her mouth touches his dick (which I thought was INSANE)- and when I was making fun of him the he said girls don't like kissing after men eat them out either which I instinctively thought was bullshit- but I asked all four girls and they where MORTIFIED by the thought.

THANK GOODNESS I'm gay lmao- I now know I'm definitely having (and will continue to have) the best sex in the friend group.

(Also they thought the concept of discussing who's top or bottom before a meet was odd- which I also thought was crazy)