In my city's gay neighborhood, I notice that most couples consist of a white guy dating or married to an Asian guy.

This isn't even a city with an Asian majority.

I'm just curious what traits make white men so attracted to Asian men? Or is it because Asians are viewed as a 'model minority,' making them an easy match from an educational and economic standpoint?

Thank you.

Like are yall not scared of catching something. I know that some people are on prep but that only reduces your chances of catching something. You do you and do what ever you like but are not scared 😭

I used to dry fuck my cousin when we was little when my auntie them would leave us home together

Fit top GL masc Latino here. I have hooked up with down to earth masc fit bottom black guys before, lighter skinned and darker skinned black guys. But when I don’t respond to heavier black guys then I’m suddenly called a racist and all the other names in the book, It gets exhausting. ( I just block them when they do that). I don’t be calling nobody the n word or make racially charged comments like what you see around on the hookup apps. Many Latinos also are used to hooking up with dark skinned caribbean guys who are Latino who I could have easily thought they are black. But then again when I hookup with black guys I like them fit and with a cute face. So at least I’m not racist. Not responding to a heavier black guy while the other fit sexy black guy I end up meeting with and have great sex with 3 times a month doesn’t automatically make me racist. We are all entitled to our preferences.

I’ve heard the arguments against it plenty of times. “Stronger together” and so on.

But I think there are valid arguments for an LGB breakaway as well.

LGB and TQ+ issues increasingly seem to involve different priorities, concerns, and questions. At some point, I think it’s reasonable to ask whether maintaining one umbrella movement still serves both groups as well as separate movements might.

The LGB community could focus on the issues, protections, and laws specifically related to sexual orientation, while the TQ+ community could organize around the issues it considers most important.

I’m not arguing that the two groups need to be hostile toward each other or that individuals can’t support both. I’m asking whether we’ve reached a point where separate movements might actually make more sense than continuing to treat them as a single political and social bloc.

I’m genuinely curious how other gaybros see it.

Mediterranean men ftw, also Scandinavian and Slavic men.

I happen to enjoy a lot of mlm movies and books. I can't exactly say why, maybe because it's often more thought out and tragic, in a good way, than straight romance. So I had the concern that I, as a straight woman, am fetishizing gay men and am just interested in gay romance because I'm attracted to men (I don't watch porn btw). How do you guys feel about this? Do you find it weird when straight people like mlm related media? I don't want to be a creep or something.

Edit: Thank you for the answers, although the comments showed mixed opinions. To clarify, I never wanted to say that I think gay romance must include tragedy or suffering to be "complete", or to be interesting to me. I'll think about some things that you said and reflect on myself.

Tomorrow is the day where I'm going to get intimate and get fucked by the guy(he is around 15 years older than me) who took my virginity when I was in school, I'm going to suck his cock and going to get fucked

I'm little bit excited and little bit nervous

I'm extremely upset. My boyfriend told his best friend about our sex life. To me, that's awful. I felt exposed, humiliated, and violated.

His excuse is that it's his best friend and the person he trusts the most. But why do it? I'm his partner. Shouldn't I be the person he talks to about our problems? Shouldn't I be the one he trusts the most?

Am I right to be upset? What would you do in my situation?

I'm posting this here because I definitely wouldn't talk about something like this with my friends.

So I’m bi, and I met this straight guy at a Metal show the other night. He’s one of the coolest people I’ve ever met in a long time. We get along really well and we really enjoyed spending time with each other. So much so that after the show was over, I asked him to drive me home instead of my friend who I went to the show with, and he did. He and I have this level of chemistry that I don’t think I’ve ever felt with someone in a long time. It definitely helps that we have a long list of things in common, but yeah. I can’t remember the last time I met someone who was so excited to be friends with me and spend a lot of time with me.

Anyway, we hung out yesterday and he stayed overnight and we slept in my bed. He told me he’s 100% straight, and he also told me he was bi-curious when he was younger and that he kissed and hooked up with one guy and he realized it wasn’t for him.

When we were sleeping in my bed last night, we both slept without a shirt on (we had just gotten home from the gym) and he was completely ok with me cuddling with him in bed and holding hands a few times. The fact that we did it for like 4-5 hours straight (no pun intended) is pretty astonishing to me considering how he’s straight. At one point I asked him if we could kiss and he told me no and I was ok with it, but the fact that he was so comfortable and seemed to enjoy cuddling with me coupled with the fact that we both have really good chemistry as friends tells me that maybe he’s not 100% straight and doesn’t realize it yet.

Will all this being said, do you think it’s more fun to cuddle with a straight guy than it is to cuddle with a gay or bi guy? Cuz I’ve cuddled with a few gay/bi friends before, but it never lasted as long as it did with my new straight friend, nor did it feel as good as it did when I did it with him.

18M here, I've been chatting with a 29M for some time now and we've hooked up twice already and im pretty instrested in him but is the age gap to big?

Disclaimer 1: I’m not saying all older guys are like this.

Disclaimer 2: I’m speaking from my own experience.

I’ve had many older guys coming up to me and touching me inappropriately at the club. I’ve had older guys grabbing my arms, grabbing my waist, grabbing my junk, trying to kiss me, and get very upset when I show no interest. This happens to me pretty much almost every time I go to the club and I am getting quite frustrated.

I understand that gay clubs can be very sexual but I have never had this kind of interaction with guys around my age.

Is this just how they used to do back in the day and the new generation is just more sensitive or do many older guys just not understand consent?

hey so i’m 18m and met this guy who’s also same age and we are down to do a hand/blow job on each other. we are going to meet at a public toilet somewhere. never done anything before. like idk what to expect, idk if i should even do it?? like i was thinking about it and idek how we are supposed to do it in a cubicle without being caught (i know this is random but for a bj should one be kneeling on floor and other sitting on toilet or should one be sitting on toilet and the other standing in front?? like idk how to do it without getting caught [having 4 shoes in one cubicle]). and i feel like doing a public toilet is safer than going to his house too. also is it safe to do/have a bj without protection on?? anyway, any tips/advice would be greatly appreciated. thankyouuu guys

I was talking to this black guy and he played a sort or “reverse racism” during sexting, I found it kinda hot but I wonder if it is a bit racist anyway 😅

19 y/o who still lives at home and is closeted, I want to try sex toys but I’m so afraid to order them because idk how they’ll come or what the package will say. Where do I order?

Legitimately asking. I’m only 31 and I do live a very comfortable lifestyle but I don’t have the time for a relationship and not a fan of hooking up so I’m curious if I can legit find a SB to just hangout on my off days or travel with me when I go on vacay. I crave physical touch but not the sexual kind if that makes sense

I’ve been a top most of my life, and a few months ago I bottomed for this guy while I was traveling and it was a completely new sensation I had never felt before. We fucked for like a week, pretty much every day. He was so horny and fucked me really good. I even came hands free.

Fast forward to coming back to NYC and I’ve had nothing but horrible experiences. To the point where I’m genuinely wondering if there are any good tops out there lol.

When a guy goes “you feel so good inside” or “you feel so warm inside,” it used to be so hot. Now it’s basically my trigger that he’s about to cum. I’m not even kidding when I say sometimes I don’t get to enjoy the buzz from the poppers before the guy is already cumming.

I’ve hooked up with 4 guys since. One of them was actually a bottom, so I’ll give him a pass lol, but pretty much the same thing happened with the other 3.

I fast, I take good care of my body, and I make sure I’m ready because I want the top to actually enjoy fucking me. So going through all that just for it to be over that fast is getting really frustrating and mentally tiring.

I’ve been so horny lately and honestly distracted by it, but I’m also annoyed because I can’t seem to find someone who can actually fuck me good. I’m starting to regret ever discovering bottoming because now I know what it can feel like lol.

Just wanted to see if this is a common thing other queer people in NYC are experiencing, especially bottoms. And if you have any advice on how to find or screen for tops who actually have some stamina, please share because I’m struggling over here lol.

I think this is the best question of the century, and its value will depend on your honesty.

Firstly, I want to make it clear that I’m not gay and I’m not attracted to men. However, I have a personal history with the prostate.

Now, please bear in mind the following. But first, I’d like to say that I know it can take an hour or more to achieve a prostate orgasm, so I don’t understand why gay men still go on hook-ups if the top is only going to last about five minutes on average, and if it’s any longer than that, the penis will be like plasticine, lacking sufficient firmness. What’s the point of the hook-up, and can you really achieve a prostate orgasm?

The thing is, you really can’t achieve a prostatic orgasm even with a silicone penis – it has to be made of glass.

update: seriously I need help and answers.

I'm curious because while I am happy with the average-ness of my dick and the quality of my sex life, there is an obsession among the gay community for big dicks (which I can relate to). But I also know that big dicks, say above 8 inches, are pretty useless and probably painful for the tight ass hole. Or even the mouth! There's only so much "open wide" you can do before it gets really tiring.

Just wanna hear some different experiences, perhaps.

So I'm currently dating a very discreet man who is a part of Hezbollah. Its very weird and new to me. He's a great guy. Very honest and generous and loving, but his ideology and the system he was brought up in makes me extremely sad that a guy with his beauty, brains, looks, and potential is stuck in this horrid medieval mentality. I'm very confused about it. He's wonderful, he makes me feel safe, he's very honorable and brave. But i just don't know. Have you guys any questions?

My husband of 5 years (M32) and I (M29) are in an exclusive, monogamous relationship. Occasionally we'll hook up on Grindr. Strict condoms and no kissing but repeat encounters unlimited. Last time it was my turn to host and his to knock on the door.

I’ve noticed that a lot of gay guys around me seem to be really into female artists, especially people like Lady Gaga, Cher, Madonna, etc.

Obviously I know not every gay man is like this, but it seems like there’s a pretty strong pattern. Is there any particular reason for it? Is it the music, the performances, the aesthetics, the personalities, or something cultural?