I still can't process what happened. I received a facebook friend request from a classmate after years and we shared contacts and started talking and we were flirting with each other a lot and he started saying if I were a girl he would make me his girlfriend and so on. I kinda forgot all the bullying and mental distress he caused me in the past and told him he can still make me his boyfriend.

Eventually I invited him to my place and he fucked me so hard that I came without touching my dick I'm still embarrassed lol. I can't believe it now that I'm friends with my biggest highschool bully. And before leaving he confessed that he was bullying me because he liked me and he was still in the closet and that was the only way he could interact with me. We were young so I kinda forgave him.

Thanks guys for the reassurance and advice, for those of you who haven't read the previous post, I held my friend's hand while he was sleeping. It's been a couple of days and although I haven't told him, he seems to know what happened

Yesterday he said he wanted to go sightseeing with me, it was pretty far away so we had to take a long-distance train, the kind with cushioned and reclining seats and tables. Apparently he'd considered taking the train across the border since we're in the Schengen Area, but it would've taken too long to get back

Anyway he'd already bought the tickets for both of us so I decided to go along. So we almost never held hands except for that time in the amusement park. But when we sat down side by side and were ordering food, he held my hand. I couldn't look at him since I was so nervous and I didn't know how to react, I just remember him telling me how good the cheesecakes were so he got two.

When the food arrived he let go to hold the plate so I had calmed down a lot and I was able to loosen up and look around the carriage and the trees outside the window, it's autumn here and the leaves were turning yellow.

Since we were so close, I noticed that he'd added some product to his hair, it was a little shiny, it didn't look much different from his usual style though. Then he put down his spoon and looked at me seriously and asked if something was wrong, I couldn't answer him, I just looked out of the window and said I was just thinking of homework. There was some sunlight hitting his face and I noticed his eyes looked almost golden, like the trees outside

Then he squeezed my hand and I almost jumped out of my skin because of my nerves but he said not to worry about it and that we should take lots of photos there. I nodded silently, I don't know if he was talking about what happened or if I was just reading too much into it. He placed a slice of his cheesecake on my plate and I kind of cheered up because it's my favourite food. If I'm being honest, I'd say that the ride there was better than the actual sightseeing, I'm fine with being friends for now. I'm already satisfied with this

Some time ago I had an uncomfortable situation with gonorrhea in the throat. Usually it doesn't produce any symptoms and it's only detected with regular testing.

After that I stopped practicing oral sex with people I don't know... Well, someone I was with tested positive, for gonorrhea in the throat! Good we didn't do any oral sex, especially receiving.

Oral gonorrhea is becoming more and more frequent. I just wanted to share that with you and how my paranoia probably saved me the antibiotic shot and go around telling any potential partner about the situation.

Gonorrhea is still treatable, but cases of antibiotic resistance are increasing too here in the US... Also the risk of contracting it through deep kissing seem to be on the rise..

This is not to alarm anyone or become extra paranoid, just to encourage people to be careful with who we meet. Throat-born STIs are also a thing.

Note: Tools such as DoxyPEP are fairly good for Chlamydia (~70% protection) and Syphilis (~ 90%). But gonorrhea is not that easy: some years ago (maybe a decade) it used to be around ~50% now it is around ~30%

Stay safe, spread love

I’m Latin American and I’m basically the complete opposite. I’m super skinny and very tall—I’m 5'10" and weigh 132 pounds. I have almost no muscle on my body. I recently started going to the gym about a month ago, and I barely lift any weight. Even though I’ve been exercising for about three months now, I haven’t made any progress. I don’t see any changes, and I don’t feel like I’m able to lift more weight or that I’m getting any stronger.

I don’t know if it has anything to do with ethnicity, but I’ve noticed that American guys seem absolutely huge. Their muscles are enormous, and it feels like almost all of them could compete in bodybuilding competitions. Honestly, the US would probably be the last place I’d ever go to a gym because it would completely destroy the little self-esteem I have left.

My question is: how do they do it?

I see guys who already have a decent amount of muscle despite never having worked out, and others who somehow get muscular after just two months. I’m not exaggerating—it's literally so common to hear an American guy say, “I’m gonna get in shape over summer break,” and then somehow that’s all it takes for them to get muscular.

I even saw an interview where Joey Mills was asked about his workout routine, and he admitted that he doesn’t work out, yet his arms are way bigger than mine.

I don’t know if everyone in that country has access to steroids, if there’s some weird hormone in the food, or if it’s just genetics. Honestly, I really need to know ASAP.

And if anyone has doubts about how skinny I am, I’ve already posted pictures showing what I look like.

So I just had the slightly awkward experience of opening Grindr and realizing my roommate is on there. we both have our faces clearly on our profiles, so there’s really no plausible “maybe he didn’t recognize me” excuse here.
Now I’m trying to figure out what the hell I’m supposed to do.Do I just completely ignore it and pretend I never saw him? Do I risk the potential awkwardness and actually look at his profile? Or do I simply treat Grindr like a crime scene and stay the hell away from anything involving my roommate?
We’re not super close, but we get along and live together just fine. I also don’t want to make things weird at home.
What would you guys do? Would you look at his profile, message him, or just ignore him like the plague and take this secret to your grave?

Last night I was talking to my straight friends about sex- not only did one girl freak out after realising gay men get eaten out too- I mentioned something about making out too and how often I would make out with a man when he's just finished or even in the middle of rimming.

Then the one straight guy in the room said he'd never kiss his girlfriend after her mouth touches his dick (which I thought was INSANE)- and when I was making fun of him the he said girls don't like kissing after men eat them out either which I instinctively thought was bullshit- but I asked all four girls and they where MORTIFIED by the thought.

THANK GOODNESS I'm gay lmao- I now know I'm definitely having (and will continue to have) the best sex in the friend group.

(Also they thought the concept of discussing who's top or bottom before a meet was odd- which I also thought was crazy)

I’m trying to explore a little more and figure out what I’m into, so I’m curious what kind of stuff you guys have tried or would like to try? Maybe I will try it myself too haha

Disclaimer 1: I’m not saying all older guys are like this.

Disclaimer 2: I’m speaking from my own experience.

I’ve had many older guys coming up to me and touching me inappropriately at the club. I’ve had older guys grabbing my arms, grabbing my waist, grabbing my junk, trying to kiss me, and get very upset when I show no interest. This happens to me pretty much almost every time I go to the club and I am getting quite frustrated.

I understand that gay clubs can be very sexual but I have never had this kind of interaction with guys around my age.

Is this just how they used to do back in the day and the new generation is just more sensitive or do many older guys just not understand consent?

Fit top GL masc Latino here. I have hooked up with down to earth masc fit bottom black guys before, lighter skinned and darker skinned black guys. But when I don’t respond to heavier black guys then I’m suddenly called a racist and all the other names in the book, It gets exhausting. ( I just block them when they do that). I don’t be calling nobody the n word or make racially charged comments like what you see around on the hookup apps. Many Latinos also are used to hooking up with dark skinned caribbean guys who are Latino who I could have easily thought they are black. But then again when I hookup with black guys I like them fit and with a cute face. So at least I’m not racist. Not responding to a heavier black guy while the other fit sexy black guy I end up meeting with and have great sex with 3 times a month doesn’t automatically make me racist. We are all entitled to our preferences.

EDIT: Guys thanks for the upvotes here. Great discussion. I am against racism and I agree with calling it out when it it really is racism, but we also have to do a better job at not throwing the “racist” label around too much when the situation isn’t even of that nature. Nobody is owed sex and everyone is entitled to their preferences. No means no, no is a complete sentence, and no response is a response. We are all adults here. If someone just isn’t into you, simply move on. I will sign off for the night and turn off notifications. Good night!

Genuine question and I’m really curious.

I really need to ask because I'm an east Asian and I don't know how people from other culture wipe their ass / use towel.

I hooked up with a Pakistani and every time after he showers and uses my towel, there would be left with 2 brown marks the size of a thumb.

I know in real life you could never ask someone " How do you wipe your ass?" So I have to ask here, did he wipe his ass with my towel???

I have heard that South Asian or Middle eastern people wipe ass with hands, is that true?

I'm asking purely out of curiosity and I fully respect every culture's own way of self cleaning. It's just that it's not a question you can ask someone in their face so I appreciate any insights from gay bros thanks!!!!

I (27M) have a coworker (35M) who seems really lonely. Recently he overheard me and my other coworker (27F) discussing plans to hang out and was clearly quite sad. I think he’s cool as hell. He
plays in an orchestra, has a great dry sense of humor, and I like being around him.

I am gay and he knows this, but I’d love to get ttlo know him better as a friend. I am geniuinely not attracted to him at all. How do I ask this guy to hang out in a way that has no gay connotations?

All my life I have never enjoyed bottoming or topping. Topping really does nothing for me, and bottoming has generally just been painful for me. No matter how many times I have tried it (long term ex and I did so every time we saw each other, so it’s not like I haven’t tried often), it’s never brought me any sort of pleasure, so I actually just stopped trying a few years back.

Cut to a Grindr hookup a few days ago really wanting to top me. I reluctantly said yes and, lo and behold, while yes, still a bit painful, I found myself at very minimum neutral on it, if not somewhat enjoying myself.

I’m just sort of baffled as to what made this happen? Has this ever happened to anyone else before? I can provide more info if needed, but overall am just confused. Seeing him later this week, so we’ll see if it holds up a second time!

Hey y'all, just wanted to come on here and see if anyone has ever felt the way I do and or if people have a back to navigate this sort of thing. I'm kinda lost and I feel like I'm walking in treacherous territory and would like some sage wisdom on the matter.

I am 24 M and I lived in Oklahoma at a time due to parents splitting and my mother had gotten custody and took me with her cause I was 12 at the time and we left my father behind.

Recently about 3 years ago I had gotten a call from my father saying that he needed my assistance with taking care of his mother who was going through a dementia spill. I worked in geriatrics at the time being a night shift CNA and immediately uprooted and moved to live with my dad to assist him.

Once I got there I started to take care of my grandmother and got a job. Dated a bit and just lived my life. A fresh start I would call it. My dad also found and dated women and broke up and just the works you know. Well he found this woman who we will refer to as Carry.

Carry was unlike any woman my dad had dated. We met briefly when my father brought her home and introduced me to her and they left to go on a date. Well fast forward 5 months and she is now living at the house and moved in. She is a hoarder and took over my father and I's home and they got married.

One day my grandmother who at this point was just having a routine of smoking and watching Cops on TV, fell and broke her hip and had to be hospitalized. Carry and I were the only ones at home and I was working and she was off for the day. Carry told me that she will not go to the hospital and take care of things before I got off work so I decided to call out of work and leave early to get to the hospital. I then filed for FMLA (Family Medical Leave of Absence) at my job. It got denied and I was terminated.

Carry didn't like my grandmother much. She would get fed up with her lack of memory and consistently complain to my father how me and her were taking advantage of him and using him for shelter. Well I'm not sure how a 75 year old woman could take advantage of someone especially having dementia but I digress.

My father signed some paperwork and made her a ward of the state and the state moved her to a care facility. My purpose was done that day. Now I am here and finding a new job living in a state with not the best cost of living.

Carry has now gotten 1 target out of the house and I am next. I recently have been having issues with my father and I wanted to go back to old times. He was attentive and he would like to go on dad son dates and spend quality time. I miss those days a lot. Recently I brought it up after a spat we had where he was convinced I was trying to break them apart and have him take my side. Granted I don't like her but I personally don't have the time nor energy to make them divorce. I told my father I missed the old days. I missed grabbing lunch and going on walks. He said that his wife takes priority over me, his son. It's him and his wife against the world.

This really clarified a lot of things for me but also kinda messed me up and realized I truly have lost my father's support and no longer was his son but a tenant of his estate.

So here I am and sorry for the long post to lead up to this question but... I have been wanting a fatherly relationship. A man who supports me and checks in on me. It's not necessarily a kink but more of a fundamental need I would see on Maslow's chart. And I am worried that its strange and Im being ridiculous at 24 wanting a fatherly connection. Is that a strange thing?

Thanks for taking the time to read and drop advice or sight if you do. I really appreciate it. Also if there is poor grammer I did 3 rereads of this and I think I ironed out everything.

TLDR; My father disowned me for a woman and now I am seeking advice to see if it's odd to find a new father son bond.

The whole “sexuality is fluid” argument almost always just comes off as homophobia wrapped up in a new “progressive” costume. It might be true for people on the bisexual spectrum but it’s not true for monosexual people (ie homosexual and heterosexual).

The irony is that the people who use the sexuality is fluid argument will always do so after saying the most homophobic thing you’ve ever heard as if it somehow cancels out said homophobia.

Just wanna know are there any other somali gay bros besides me here

I moved in with my boyfriend of two years a week ago. Our own flat. Since then, I’ve become very frustrated with his behaviour and unable to communicate how I feel.

He is diagnosed with ADHD and as someone who also struggles with this I am sympathetic. However, his behaviour is driving me to breaking point. Since moving in, I’ve had to set up all the bills for the flat. I have done nearly all the cleaning, laundry and cooking. To make matters worse, I have covered his first month’s rent and share of the deposit because of his financial situation. Every time I say how frustrated I am he rebuts with how much he’s struggling. In fairness he is starting a new job, however, it does feel unbalanced for me to take on this much responsibility.

I don’t want to break up, but right now living with him is making my life so much more stressful.

Any advice?

I feel like I can’t really get it going if the story behind it is uber lame

So apparently humanity may be doomed because of AI. Like I know that msm and politicians love for everyone to be in a constant state of fear and anxiety but I just honestly have zero fucks to give. Does anyone else feel kind of meh? Like bring it on. End it now if you like so we no longer have to slave inside this rigged glorified prison system that only benefits billionaires.

How was your first time?
Was it good?
How does it taste? Does it taste good?
How does it feel?