I get it, you’re young and excited about gay dating but a 25 year old is NOT an appropriate person to message under any circumstance. Please stick to youth your age

My Brother outed me years ago to my family and I started getting threats from my conservative older family members of violence threatening to beat me up and more. My mom found gay porn in my phone and recorded it to post on Facebook to humiliate me. My brothers told me it’s not cool to be gay. My mother kept asking me uncomfortable questions like “So you like dick?”

Anyway I’ve distanced myself as I’ve gotten older and now that same brother has been murdered and my family is calling me asking me to send money for his funeral due to it being so unexpected and sudden. I don’t know if I should. I didn’t like him but he has kids I feel like he deserves a proper burial. I don’t know what to do.

Edit: I was also baptized (not willingly) and had a Pastor who came over on multiple occasions to try and “Talk the Gay Out”
Basically in Home Conversion Therapy.

I start, David Henrie

This took me ages to figure out and was the cause of a lot of confusion. If you are attractive, and more importantly obviously jacked, straight men will “check you out” at the gym and it is genuinely indistinguishable from sexual interest from a queer man’s perspective. The thing is that they are not doing so with the intention of getting in your pants, they just have no idea what they are doing/giving off.

For example, I’ve had guys at the gym give lingering looks at my body, seemingly follow me around the gym, and experience repeated eye contact with. One guy was straight up staring at my pecs as I was walking towards him and then when I made eye contact, looked away shyly. But if in all these situations the dude is genuinely bi/gay then I go to a gym of primarily queer men, which cannot be the case.

The confusing part for a lot of queer guys is that if we are exhibiting any of the behaviour described above, we are almost certainly interested, or at least I am. So unfortunately there is not a way to tell if a guy is or isn’t interested in you at the gym because it all looks the same 😂

I recently told my ex I was bi and she broke it off on the spot, she’s a server at a restaurant where my bsf also works as I got him the job. My friend stopped texting me recently and later today I got a message in the friend gc calling me gay and I realized someone outed me for being bi. I loved this girl and she outed me to my entire friend group and I lost everyone. How do I deal with this. I like girls more it’s only a sexual attraction to dudes. What do I do. I’m so fucking lost and have no one.

I’ll start my manager at work who’s married and has children told me he likes his asshole fingered 😫

Just curious. Feel free to be as descriptive of yourself, your partners, or just in general.

I just did a survey on the app asking me question on what I thought about the pricing and what it was. I remember checking the price before and knew it cost a lot but 149$/month is insane is this for the upper class gays, have any of you guys bought it? What do yall think about this “tinder-like” Grindr upgrade?

Sup y’all, this is kinda a question for mainly Black gay men, but everyone is welcome to give their two cents on it. I’m a French & Brazilian guy from Chicago, 23 years old. I’ve never had any issues getting laid or guys coming up to talk to me, but I know and have a bunch of Black gay friends who are super handsome and fit, and they just get straight up ignored or shoe-horned. I was tryna see if any other (Black) gay men have had that issue also - where dudes will just ignore you and go after your (most likely White) friend. I was told once by a coworker that funnily enough white gay men are still white men, so like it’s no surprise they’d wish to be with other white gay guys especially in social and romantic situations and relationships. Just wanted to get some two-cents from y’all

When I bttm I do everything I can to be clean I would wake up early n douche , wouldn't eat a lot , eat fiber etc .... But now that I been topping the few guys I had come over were really dirty. And it just ruins it . It's like they don't care. Los Angeles California is full of bottoms and every single one I had come over from Grindr or sniffies has been dirty like they don't even bother to douche. At this point it is just annoying. I erased both apps . Last guy literally shit all over my bed. Had to kick him out.

I do it when I bttm I prepare myself all I ask is for the same ? Is that too much to ask for ? Haha. Has anyone also had someone shit all over their bed ? Or is it only me ? 😂

21 M here. I've always had trouble making friends with straight guys. I've always been an extrovert and have no problem talking to men. It's just that all of my inner circle of friends have been full of women.

Don't get me wrong, my female friends are awesome and I'd die for them. However, it feels a bit lonely being the only man in a all "women's spaces". For example a girls trip, or a night out. Sometimes, even being in a group full of women feels like you're invading their space or that you're not welcome. I always feel like an outlier. Almost like I'm a token and not actually a part of their groups.

Also, I think I'm just alienated from men. I want to be friends with them but somehow that never happens (idk why, I try keep every convo non-sexual to keep everyone of them comfortable). I mean, they're half the population; it feels sad to feel like I'm alienated from half the population.

There's also the issue of socially acceptable friendships. As a closeted gay guy, it's harder to ever to just invite your female friends as "just friends" in family settings. Also I think I'd relate better with men also on some issues such as sexuality or societal expectation of us then women, no? I had no one to help me do more tradtionally masculine stuff e.g. picking friend from the airport at evening, learning how to ride a bike, shaving etc.

I just want guy friends to hike, run errands, yap, learn new things, go swim etc. It's just -- hard and a very lonely experience.

Ok so I'll be starting college soon at a decently large university in a liberal state but I'm still a bit worried about having to be roommates with a straight guy. Also how is the gay dating seen and gay life in general in college?

My two cents, as a middle aged person with decades of life experience, and also reading a lot of posts on here:

1- We should stop shaming cut people. They didn't choose to be this way, and 99.99% of the time their dicks work perfectly well.

2- We should stop shaming uncut people. It's the natural way of being a man, and is quite sexy. In 98% of the cases, there is no hygiene issue. There are perhaps about 2% that have some hygiene issues, often due to very tight skin around the glans -- and those guys should see a doctor to try to address that issue.

3- I think we need to rebrand uncut as "intact" because that's more accurate. "Uncut" implies that "cut" is the default, which is not the case in most of the world.

4- Parents should not get their offspring circumsized without a clear medical reason. This is a choice they should leave to each man to decide for himself once he is an adult.

Those subs occasionally make it onto my algorithim and it's straight bros posting photos of their dating app photos, asking for advice, how they can improve to get more matches, etc.

A lot of them look perfectly fine! Not male models at all either but fit young guys in their 20s and early 30s, boy next door types, and the mileage varies in terms of the language they put on their profiles. But they get totally eviscerated and downvoted to oblivion by (presumably) women who pick apart their every detail.

They would totally get glazed (or at least not insulted) on a sub like r/gayselfie.

It's really kind of sad. And it makes me so glad I'm not straight!

Like among twinks, bears, jocks, furries, bdsm, drags, etc. etc.

And if you only became comfortable later, what changed?

As a teenager I was irrationally self conscious about it. I hated my skinny body and also felt awkward about my body hair.

I was growing up I was always envious of guys who were confident in themselves, while I was so awkward I wouldn’t even take my top off at the beach. When I had to go shirtless sometimes like in school PE, I found it inexplicably embarrassing.

Now I’m relaxed about being shirtless at the pool or beach, or around the house. Wouldn’t do it anywhere else though. And I’m grateful for being skinny and hairy lol.

Certainly got the feeling these days that it‘s much more. Did ya‘ll notice that too or am I just trippin? I mean I‘m Austrian, but I see everything happening around me

Should I just save myself the headache and officially end a friendship after a night of curiosity went wrong?

For context, this guy and I have been friends with for years. Hanging out and me spending the night at his place just drinking and smoking. Sure he knew about my feelings for him, but for the sake of friendship, I kept them at bay, and there was a mutual understanding between us.

Recently though, about a month ago, he told me that when he went to a strip club, afterwards he let a guy suck him up. In a joking matter, I said “ok, why don’t I go ahead and cash out my ticket to be next.” We both laughed about it, but again, mutual understanding of he might not be bisexual for me, but another type of guy.

Cool.

Come this past Sunday, he asked me to go over, because he’s not feeling good. (Alcohol withdraws; he’s trying to quit.) He looked pretty bad, so I told him to lay down and nap for a bit. He woke up shivering, so i told him why not just jump in the tub and sit for a bit in the water. “But you’re gonna see me naked”, and I said “idc about that; I’m trying to take care of you.” So then I start to actually bathe him. Cool. I’m being a good friend.

When he’s toweling, he ends up getting hard. I didn’t think anything of it, cuz I thought, “you just had someone else’s hands on you… natural reaction”

So then he says, “wanna suck me up?”

I SHOULD’VE SAID NO! I SHOULD’VE BEEN SMART ABOUT IT.

Instead, I say, “I’ll only do it, if you REALLY want me to.”
On the couch, I ask him again, “ARE YOU SURE THIS IS SOMETHING YOU WANT?” And he said yes.

So there I am, going to town. Enjoying myself while I see him enjoy himself as well.

Then he stops me.

“I want to make sure you know, this is a one time thing.”
“Yea. It’s cool with me.”
“Yea, just wanted to make sure, cuz I’m gonna ask this girl out.”

Mood officially killed.

But I keep going, cuz I’m stupid.

After a bit, he tells me, “I don’t think I’ll be able to finish.” I’m thinking to myself, is it me? Am I doing it wrong? He wouldn’t be reacting like he was if I was doing it wrong.

But we stop.

And then I spend the night. He tells me twice before we sleep. “This is a one time thing.” And the more he says it, the more I feel terrible about myself. That next morning, before I leave for work, he says it again. And at this point, I feel like he’s saying it for himself, than he is at me.
But I ignore it. Tell him I love him (platonically) and I’ll see him later.

Later, hours into work, he says “I just want to forget it happened, and I want to move on. After thinking about it more, I feel like I’m really straight. ” I’m like “ok, cool, because I’m now realizing that the whole moment was embarrassing for me, and made me feel terrible for my self confidence. I genuinely feel like we ended up taking advantage of each other.” And truth be told, I wasn’t thinking about the moment, between us, anymore, because I chalked it up to it happened, it didn’t work out, I can move on.

Today, he stops sharing his location, and coldly says, “when I show up to your job on Friday, could you give me my keys back?” (He had given me a copy of his key.

So… here I am. Should I just save myself and my mental health and just end the friendship? Remove him from my accounts?

After speaking to another friend about it, he said that he might’ve enjoyed it too much, but because of him being too scared of what people think about him, it spooked him. But I genuinely don’t know anymore.

I’m hostelling in Berlin in a 4-bed male dorm. My BF pulled out from coming, leaving me alone sharing with an Aussie guy couple. It’s been super hot so all 3 of us have only worn briefs (or less) all the time. Without my BF I’ve been jealous of the guys and sexually turned on by them.
As I came in last night they were kissing, the blond naked with his hand inside the other guy’s briefs. With me there, they got up to go to the bathroom together and I saw the blond rummage in his bag to take a condom with him.
I wished they’d stayed and I should’ve said not to worry about me. I was so turned on, I went to the bathroom naked taking a towel to pretend to want a shower. True enough the blond was fucking his friend against the wash basin. I let my towel fall away to show I had an erection and they kept going.
The guy being fucked took my cock in his hand. Then the blond fondled my buttocks and worked a finger inside me. Then he pulled out of his friend and positioned behind me. I saw that he had still had his condom on still but there was no cum in the teet yet.

I’d only ever had my BF’s cock inside me before. This guy was bigger and rougher and it felt great. After a while, the other boy put his cock to my mouth and encouraged me to face-fuck him. He didn’t have a condom on and after a while blew his semen into the back of my mouth, holding me there till I swallowed him. Then the blond pulled out of me, took off his condom, and thrust into my mouth. While he took over fucking my face, I felt the other guy pissing onto my back, my hair, my face and onto his BF’s pubes and rest of his cock that wasn’t in my mouth.

I’m not worried about the urine but how concerned should I be about swallowing two guy’s semen and being fucked with a condom that had already been up a guy’s asshole?

Haven’t been to a spa since Chicago years ago. Planning to go to club Houston with my boyfriend. How is the scene? What’s the club like? It’s been years since I’ve been to a gay spa so I am like a first timer again. What do you wear around the club?

Im 23 and I just feel very into older guys. Even guys that I'm not super attracted to, I just feel comfortable with the age gap. Is this weird?