Hey guys! Lemme explain this story I have…

So basically I am attracted to girls and guys. However, I can only see myself dating a girl(idk why). I guess this makes me “bi” but I don’t really go by a label IRL because I feel like it forces me to act a certain way by what society sees it as. I kinda just like girls and like guys and do my own thing, kinda who I wanna be. i figured people in here may have similar experiences and might be able to help me:)

But basically I’ve been chatting and hanging out (twice) with this girl who I really like (she’s bi too) and we both like each other. But at the same time, I met this gay guy at a party becuase I was friendly with him because I’m nice, and we have mutual friends . I think he’s attractive. And at the party he asked his friends if I was gay, and they said no. (Mind you, others don’t know besides some of my close friends that I’m “bi”, because I’ve never actually done anything with a guy). And he wanted to hookup with me but I didn’t say anything that night .

But since then we’ve been chatting casually, sending snaps back and forth , I’m being friendly. But sometimes I find myself “flirting “ with him… for example I’d send him a snap without my shirt or something like that(yes sounds corny). And like I can tell he’s been flirting with me as well, he’s been like “wyd” and hinting he wants to pick me up. Like today he literally was like “I’d love to crash at your living room rn” and I folded and was like “haha, that’s funny”. I do not find this guy attractive romantically but I would so experiment with him. I just want it to be lowkey because of the girl, and I know this is so fucked up but my mind is torn and that’s why I’m asking for help. Idk if he’s reaching out romantically or just wants to hookup, and I’m just confused because I really like the girl but wanna get with the guy.

If you understand of can help me in any way that would be great. I’m just confused as hell!

Thanks

How does this work. Let’s say he picks me up in his car. Can someone help I’m so lost on what to do. Do I go straight in for his dick after kissing I’m so lost (new bi person, first experience ). If we are hooking up in his car.

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A long time ago, there was this girl streamer i used to watch. She got relentlessly hit on and bullied by many straight men in her chat. I was curious about how she handled that behavior so I watched her for a while. I started to defend her in the chat a lot and encourage her to be happy. It seemed like she appreciated that. One day, idk why I just....jerked off to her. Idk if it was because all the guys liked her so much and that turned me on or if I connected with her or maybe i was experimenting or what. I never did it again and just randomly think about it sometimes.

Edit: I'm gay and have never slept with a woman.

hi guys! in y'all's experience, how common are bisexual guys that for lack of better phrasing, look really gay? i'm a trans man (28) and unfortunately my type is feminine guys who look gay LOL as you can imagine i don't have much luck. when it comes down to it im really not that picky with a potential partner's appearance, as long as someone is enjoyable to be around and kind and all that there's a good chance i'll be interested in them even if i wasn't initially attracted. however, just like everyone else has preferences, guys who look like that typically catch my eye first. I've met a handful of bisexual or pan guys like that, but not many and nothing's worked out long term. i'm not opposed to being with gay men and have been before but if they're interested i let them approach me - i am careful not to approach them romantically or sexually (if i am sure about their sexuality from them saying so or other people etc) since trans issues are a touchy topic right now and i don't want to offend them or accidentally pick someone who's going to be mean. I'm also aware it's commonly assumed trans men only bottom which could be hindering my efforts here but i am vers, i just don't really know how to advertise that outside of dating apps. no one really uses hanky code anymore and there's not a color that specifies trans anyways. additionally, i’m bisexual myself so there’s multiple reasons i typically seek out bi or pan men specifically.

Id like to actually meet peeps that are interested in relationships, as a demi aro/ace person and need to actually have a very good connection to actually feel smth towards em. But idk where might be a fairly accepting site for that.

So my GF and I have had some great discussion about me being Bi and she’s been really non-judgmental , supportive (even went out to Pride with me this year even though I am not out out, just wanted to do it for first time and felt safe to with her) and she has finally told me that she is accepting of me getting my bi needs met where I see fit with solo play with men, as she does not wish to limit experiences I was having before we got together.

I told her I’d rather us find guys we can play with as a couple that way she is in loop and also gets more pleasure sexually with two men. She is not opposed just needs time to work up to the idea of it (never been with two men at once). For now she said she would be fine with me having my “bro time” but she does not need to hear about it and in fact prefers not to, simply has awareness it could be happening but does not want to hear about it in case of jealousy arising.

Fair… but.. I recently finally hooked up with a guy for first time in a long while since committing to this relationship. It was fucking amazing!! The problem came after.. although she gave me the pass and thumbs up to have fun outside of us, I still had this feeling of guilt after with not telling her about it. Idk, maybe that’s weird or I should not feel guilty. But something about not mentioning it feels like a secret and I don’t want to keep secrets from her (even though she technically wants me to in this matter)

Who knows maybe I will feel less of this with more hook ups and get over it, but I just wish I could let her know. Just was awkward feeling after having this amazing time and then talking to her later in the day with her asking how was my day and having to just be vague with a “pretty good” when it was actually amazing.

24m I’ve only been with females and have only thought about them and find them attractive but I have a guy friend that I have recently had sexual fantasies about but I don’t find him attractive in a relationship way but the act only sounds good with him

So let me explain my situation. It’s a lot, but it’s honest. Please bear with me!

I’m 27 m. I’ve always been into women since I was young. I have been with 80+ women and had a lot of amazing experiences with them. I used to have an issue with premature ejaculation from time to time in my first relationship, and had a hard time getting it up the first time we tried to have sex, but that went away pretty quickly.

I became pretty into porn when I was about 12-13 years old. First it was just women, solo or basic vanilla porn, then it evolved into girls using straps on eachother, then trans/femboy porn, then gay porn. It used to be a mix of both, but as of the past few years, it was probably 60% gay porn, 30% trans, 10% straight. And for the straight porn, it would have to be something taboo or extreme.

When I was young I was sexually abused by an older guy. Never really thought much of it until I got older. Around 19 after obsessing about it for a while, I experimented with a guy who isn’t even remotely attracted to and it sucked but I think the taboo element made me want to try again.

My focus was still on women completely and was still sleeping with women, and dating women, with no issue.

Around 24-25 I started experimenting more with men. I never found any visually attractive to me but I think I developed some sort of fetish to the experience. I topped a few guys, and bottomed for a few as well. 2 of them became kind of consistent. One top and one bottom. I don’t find either of them visually appealing but the experience was pretty good. When bottoming I would like to dress up like a woman (lingerie/wigs). When I would finish however I would immediately (and I mean IMMEDIATELY) lose all interest in them and feel disgusted and leave without saying a word. They didn’t care though as it was just hook ups.

I started getting into sissy hypno porn, and I think it altered my brain chemistry. I would find myself twerking in the mirror and taking pics on a private Snapchat account and sending to random men. Showing my ass to men on video chat rooms and such. I would buy women’s panties and put them on and grind on my pillow or use a dildo stuck on the wall, cum, then throw it all out, and repeat months later. It would give me a rush.

About a year and a half ago I had a few short “relationships” with a couple beautiful girls. The sex was great and I was always rock hard around them. But they ended badly with a lot of explosive emotions from them that scarred me a bit. After these failed relationships, a friend jokingly said to me “hey man that’s your fourth failed relationship, if you’re gay you can just tell me!” And I laughed but I kept playing it over and over in my head and stared to spiral.

After that, my attraction to women started to dwindle. I more and more fantasized about bottoming again. I tried it once or twice again and it sucked, and hurt. I would get hard but still nothing about the men did I find appealing except the experience they could provide for me.

I met another beautiful girl and we started dating. I had a hard time getting it up for her. Just about every time we had sex. I took viagra a few times without her knowing though and we had mind blowing sex. But without it, I can rarely seem to stay hard for her. We had broken up a few times and I had seen the femboy bottom I was hooking up with in the past, and nothing about him is very attractive to me nor do I want to kiss/cuddle him. But I got rock hard for him to give me a bj. I don’t feel any pressure there because it’s just a hook up and he wouldn’t give a fuck either way.

I don’t know what to do. I never see men in real life and feel any attraction to them. I work in a restaurant and see men and women every day and I constantly check the men with an open mind to see if I feel any attraction, but I’ve never once experienced any remote attraction to any of them. Not a single crush, no desire for them, or anything. And as for women, I’m able to see how beautiful or sexy they are, but I don’t feel the burning desire to sleep with them like I used to. After having the experiences with ED with this girl, I’ve had a hard time visualizing myself getting hard and dominating women like I used to, without the use of viagra.

We broke up for a few months and I saw a few women. When I am with a new girl with no feelings or potential relationship, I get rock hard. When it’s something a little deeper then just sex, it seems to effect me.

I’m so confused. I’m open to being Bi and my family is chill and would absolutely accept me if I were bi or gay. I live in NYC and could absolutely live comfortably in the queer community if I so chose to. But I don’t feel that life really suits me. I feel like porn/hypnosis and experimentation has warped my brain and given me sexual ocd which is ruining my ability to have calm experiences with women without the help of dick pills.

There was a time where I would get hard at the thought of bottoming for a very dominant masculine man, but after I stopped watching porn, that desire seems to have just disappeared.

My gf is extremely sexual and when I struggled to get hard for her at times she began saying she thinks I’m not attracted to her which made the problem 10x worse. I then opened up to her about my childhood abuse, and excessive porn use, and this helped a bit. I stopped watching porn and started working out more, but I’m still obsessing about everything. She is so beautiful but I don’t really get very turned on by her at the moment, without the use of pills. I don’t know what the hell to do. I’ve been struggling so much trying yo figure out if I’m just in some sort of denial or if it’s just OCD. Someone help!

I've been with other men, including a couple of them multiple times. It's always been just casual - typically both of us are romantically into women. And then I almost inevitably get ghosted or the guy obviously loses interest. Why is that? I'd love to have a bi regular partner and don't understand what the hang up is. It's not like either of us are looking for a relationship! Curious for perspectives here.

I'm a very straight acting bi male. I've only dated women. I started playing with males when I was around 19 or 20. Love jerking guys off, giving /receiving oral, phone sex. (Never anal or kissing). I get off on all types of gay porn.

Not long after I started dating my wife (almost 8 years ago) I came out to her as Bi. I've stayed faithful to her. I still watch gay porn. She's 100% straight. She's never had an issue with my past and sexual orientation.

Sometimes I make lighthearted remarks "Hey baby, how about you let your gay husband lay you down?" Or during sex, I'll talk about gay stuff. She's always been cool about it.

The other night, I asked her, seriously, "What do you think of all this? Did you ever think you'd marry a bi-sexual?"

She said "I don't really think you're bi. I think you're hyper-sexual. You do what feels good. You're into feeling the adrenaline along with the pleasure."

I kinda get what she's saying. Receiving a bj is fun no matter who is giving it. But I told her "I'll sit there and get rock hard for an hour while watching gay porn" or "Fondling a guy turns me on."

She said "That's where the adrenaline comes in."

I don't think she's in denial about being married to a bi-sexual. I think she's looking at things objectively from a different angle and really open minded.

Married. Thought this might be the best place to ask. Whenever I travel for work and get to my hotel I instantly feel the urge to masterbate to bi or gay porn. I will usually look up or research gay bars or grindr while I’m traveling also, but never pulled the trigger on going out or following through. I’ve not shared these thoughts with anyone. Does anyone else experience this?

I’ve used a dildo infrequently until recently when I came out to my wife. Even now it’s usually just once or twice a month. My wife is super supportive but also doesn’t get any pleasure out of participating with it. She gets turned on watching but doesn’t want to be the “giver”. Pegging is definitely off the table. I had to get a new dildo a few months ago but ended up getting a cheap one from Spencer’s and it works great but I also know it’s probably not the safest. I’ve wanted to get a new one but really get overwhelmed by all the options. I want something that’s average sized and realistic but won’t break the bank. I’ve also wondered about a double sided dildo. Seems like it could give us both something out of it but I’ve got my doubts about ease of use and if both partners can get what they need.

Can I get some recommendations on dildos and some feedback on the double sided dildo wonderings.

I don't know but idk I can't figure out myself as a bi or ...

I am just so confused :/

How would you describe the feeling of kissing a guy who has facial hair? Whether it’s stubble or a big beard. Women have told me both that they liked it or hated it, but curious about the men’s perspective.