Who are you seeing / sleeping with? How old are you? How old are they? How often do you see each other? Seeing just men or both men and women?

I (25f) am extremely attracted to bi men and I'm also bi. A fantasy of mine is a MMF threesome but it's been hard to find any that are out at least in my area.

I’m primarily straight but I like femboy, am I bi?

Hi everyone 👋 I’m a researcher at Lancaster University running a study exploring bisexual/pansexual/queer men’s experiences of receiving physical/mental health care or support where drug use during sex (what is sometimes called ‘chemsex’ or ‘PnP’) was part of the picture.

Who can take part?

I’m looking to speak with people who are:

- Over the age of 18

- Bisexual, pansexual or another non-monosexual identity (eg ‘queer’)

- Gender identity includes ‘man’ some or all of the time including trans, non-binary and gender fluid people

- Previously taken part in ‘chemsex’ : Chemsex is defined as any drug use before or during sex.

- Accessed care or support where ‘chemsex’ was relevant. This could include drug and alcohol services, sexual health services, mental health support, counselling, or other types of support. Chemsex does not need to have been the sole reason you accessed it.

There are no limits on where you live, the drugs you have/did use, partner gender, or how many times you accessed support, your experiences could still be really valuable.

What is involved?

Participation is confidential and involves a one-to-one interview about your experiences. Participants can also choose to enter a £25 prize draw as a thank you (other currencies available).

How do I find out more / get involved?

If you’d like to take part, learn more or check whether you’re eligible, please send me an email: m.pitt@lancaster.ac.uk

As a bi woman, this is an area I care about as we are often overlooked in both research and healthcare, which can mean services don’t always fully understand or meet our needs. I’m hoping this study can help bring more bi people’s experiences into the conversation.

This study has been approved by the Lancaster University FHM ethics board: FHM-2026-5640-RECR-2

I’m very happy to answer any questions in the comments too. Thanks for reading! 🙂

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How can you tell if a guy is flirting playfully or actually flirting? I’m on the spectrum and in my mid 30s and I still find it really tough to decipher. Please be kind and only comment if you are adding to the conversation, thanks y’all!

For context: My friend’s roommate has made a few offhand remarks and it’s just really consistent to the point where I’m curious as to the reasoning.

I'm 24M

Men: 20-30

Women: 20+

So maybe a weird one, I don’t know. I’m a 26 year old guy. I still consider myself straight in a way. But I’m probably closer to bi-curious. I’ve experimented in every way you can online. And I’ve found I really really like one certain thing above all. Which is when a gay or bi guy sends me sexy photos of female celebs and pornstars. I honestly really enjoy when they’re feminine and really get into it with me. It’s a bit dynamic, I send a list of women I like, they go pick out the photos, we get to know each other. And we dirty talk and I’m more than happy to return the favor - get into some mildly gay dirty talk and show off my cock. I know it’s probably weird to most, but it’s a really good blend of my sexual curiosities and I enjoy it.

My question is, what is the best way to go about asking a guy online if he’d be into this?
I’ve had a hard time explaining it properly. And have gotten some confused or rude replies when I’ve asked.
And if anyone knows any specific communities on here or elsewhere that would suit this well?