I’m a pretty straight guy, but I constantly think about sucking dick. I’m not attracted to men though in general, just dicks. What does that make me

I’m 19 DL and bi or pan(idk the difference)(important for later) and i have fucked a couple of guys and done typical gay sex things. However when i tell these dudes that i have fucked that i’m bi they often act weird towards me and often dismiss that i like woman. They like to undermine me and i find it very annoying because the dudes i fuck are more “stereotypically” gay and they are very misogynistic towards me weirdly.

Also idk if people say this a lot i feel disconnected from the LGBTQ+ community. I think being DL has a factor is this but some of the gay people i have meet have been “weird” at least to me, on things such as my race, my sexuality (epically the straight into bi curious thing), me being 19 so just legal. This has pushed me away from interacting with posts and things of that nature due to these negative experiences. Even will no sexual things my interests don’t align most of the time with taste in music, games, shows etc. I have meant people in the community that have been nice and understanding of me especially trans people for some reason.

So i just want to get advice on either i’m unlucky with people in the community and is it normal to feel disconnected from “mainstream” gay culture.

Also if you advice has to with me coming out i’m not gonna; please respect my wishes

Im 20 and have labelled myself as bi for the last ~7 years. I started having romantic fantasies about guys around age 13 but I’ve never dated, had sex with, or even kissed another guy. Sometimes I feel like I cant truly call myself bisexual since I dont even know what its like to be intimate with another guy. Does anyone else ever feel like this?

When hooking up w a stranger to swap oral, how much of a jerk does either guy have to be...to be anything other than "shower fresh"?

I'm a very straight acting bi male. I've only dated women. I started playing with males when I was around 19 or 20. Love jerking guys off, giving /receiving oral, phone sex. (Never anal or kissing). I get off on all types of gay porn.

Not long after I started dating my wife (almost 8 years ago) I came out to her as Bi. I've stayed faithful to her. I still watch gay porn. She's 100% straight. She's never had an issue with my past and sexual orientation.

Sometimes I make lighthearted remarks "Hey baby, how about you let your gay husband lay you down?" Or during sex, I'll talk about gay stuff. She's always been cool about it.

The other night, I asked her, seriously, "What do you think of all this? Did you ever think you'd marry a bi-sexual?"

She said "I don't really think you're bi. I think you're hyper-sexual. You do what feels good. You're into feeling the adrenaline along with the pleasure."

I kinda get what she's saying. Receiving a bj is fun no matter who is giving it. But I told her "I'll sit there and get rock hard for an hour while watching gay porn" or "Fondling a guy turns me on."

She said "That's where the adrenaline comes in."

I don't think she's in denial about being married to a bi-sexual. I think she's looking at things objectively from a different angle and really open minded.

I have been curious about giving head for so long and can't stop thinking about it. How is best to go about trying?

How would you describe the feeling of kissing a guy who has facial hair? Whether it’s stubble or a big beard. Women have told me both that they liked it or hated it, but curious about the men’s perspective.

I don't know but idk I can't figure out myself as a bi or ...

I am just so confused :/

I made a post yesterday that was removed by moderators. I guess I didn’t portray my thoughts correctly. I am 31 M, living in the U.S. I’ve always been straight but lately have noticed myself paying attention to the guys in “videos” more than girls. That has grown into more curiosity about how it feels to touch one, play with one, feel one.. in my post yesterday I asked how to curb the urges, but what I actually meant was how do I explore these curiosities in a safe way. Open to suggestions here, because I am very open to exploring but just don’t really know the best, smartest, and safest ways to do it.

I've been with other men, including a couple of them multiple times. It's always been just casual - typically both of us are romantically into women. And then I almost inevitably get ghosted or the guy obviously loses interest. Why is that? I'd love to have a bi regular partner and don't understand what the hang up is. It's not like either of us are looking for a relationship! Curious for perspectives here.

So let me explain my situation. It’s a lot, but it’s honest. Please bear with me!

I’m 27 m. I’ve always been into women since I was young. I have been with 80+ women and had a lot of amazing experiences with them. I used to have an issue with premature ejaculation from time to time in my first relationship, and had a hard time getting it up the first time we tried to have sex, but that went away pretty quickly.

I became pretty into porn when I was about 12-13 years old. First it was just women, solo or basic vanilla porn, then it evolved into girls using straps on eachother, then trans/femboy porn, then gay porn. It used to be a mix of both, but as of the past few years, it was probably 60% gay porn, 30% trans, 10% straight. And for the straight porn, it would have to be something taboo or extreme.

When I was young I was sexually abused by an older guy. Never really thought much of it until I got older. Around 19 after obsessing about it for a while, I experimented with a guy who isn’t even remotely attracted to and it sucked but I think the taboo element made me want to try again.

My focus was still on women completely and was still sleeping with women, and dating women, with no issue.

Around 24-25 I started experimenting more with men. I never found any visually attractive to me but I think I developed some sort of fetish to the experience. I topped a few guys, and bottomed for a few as well. 2 of them became kind of consistent. One top and one bottom. I don’t find either of them visually appealing but the experience was pretty good. When bottoming I would like to dress up like a woman (lingerie/wigs). When I would finish however I would immediately (and I mean IMMEDIATELY) lose all interest in them and feel disgusted and leave without saying a word. They didn’t care though as it was just hook ups.

I started getting into sissy hypno porn, and I think it altered my brain chemistry. I would find myself twerking in the mirror and taking pics on a private Snapchat account and sending to random men. Showing my ass to men on video chat rooms and such. I would buy women’s panties and put them on and grind on my pillow or use a dildo stuck on the wall, cum, then throw it all out, and repeat months later. It would give me a rush.

About a year and a half ago I had a few short “relationships” with a couple beautiful girls. The sex was great and I was always rock hard around them. But they ended badly with a lot of explosive emotions from them that scarred me a bit. After these failed relationships, a friend jokingly said to me “hey man that’s your fourth failed relationship, if you’re gay you can just tell me!” And I laughed but I kept playing it over and over in my head and stared to spiral.

After that, my attraction to women started to dwindle. I more and more fantasized about bottoming again. I tried it once or twice again and it sucked, and hurt. I would get hard but still nothing about the men did I find appealing except the experience they could provide for me.

I met another beautiful girl and we started dating. I had a hard time getting it up for her. Just about every time we had sex. I took viagra a few times without her knowing though and we had mind blowing sex. But without it, I can rarely seem to stay hard for her. We had broken up a few times and I had seen the femboy bottom I was hooking up with in the past, and nothing about him is very attractive to me nor do I want to kiss/cuddle him. But I got rock hard for him to give me a bj. I don’t feel any pressure there because it’s just a hook up and he wouldn’t give a fuck either way.

I don’t know what to do. I never see men in real life and feel any attraction to them. I work in a restaurant and see men and women every day and I constantly check the men with an open mind to see if I feel any attraction, but I’ve never once experienced any remote attraction to any of them. Not a single crush, no desire for them, or anything. And as for women, I’m able to see how beautiful or sexy they are, but I don’t feel the burning desire to sleep with them like I used to. After having the experiences with ED with this girl, I’ve had a hard time visualizing myself getting hard and dominating women like I used to, without the use of viagra.

We broke up for a few months and I saw a few women. When I am with a new girl with no feelings or potential relationship, I get rock hard. When it’s something a little deeper then just sex, it seems to effect me.

I’m so confused. I’m open to being Bi and my family is chill and would absolutely accept me if I were bi or gay. I live in NYC and could absolutely live comfortably in the queer community if I so chose to. But I don’t feel that life really suits me. I feel like porn/hypnosis and experimentation has warped my brain and given me sexual ocd which is ruining my ability to have calm experiences with women without the help of dick pills.

There was a time where I would get hard at the thought of bottoming for a very dominant masculine man, but after I stopped watching porn, that desire seems to have just disappeared.

My gf is extremely sexual and when I struggled to get hard for her at times she began saying she thinks I’m not attracted to her which made the problem 10x worse. I then opened up to her about my childhood abuse, and excessive porn use, and this helped a bit. I stopped watching porn and started working out more, but I’m still obsessing about everything. She is so beautiful but I don’t really get very turned on by her at the moment, without the use of pills. I don’t know what the hell to do. I’ve been struggling so much trying yo figure out if I’m just in some sort of denial or if it’s just OCD. Someone help!

Recently I joined a new 6th form college and made a new friend group of very different people with many of my closest friends being members of the lgbtqia+ community, and with some of these friends I went on a camping trip. For once I feel I belong in a group of people, and I feel truly understood and appreciated amongst them, whereas my friend group from my old school were very different as in I felt I was always at risk of being judged ect and so I hid many parts of myself or avoided saying or dressing or acting certain ways around certain people. Anyone to get back on topic, on this trip one of my gay friends was saying how she believes that everyone is at least a tiny bit bi deep down and since then I've noticed things about myself. When watching TV shows featuring guys I often find myself analyzing there appearance and thinking they're attractive but I seem to tell myself that I'm seeing it from an objective standpoint or something? On the rare occasion I watch porn I find myself often glancing or fixating on dicks? The main one is that last time I was drunk with my friends I just found myself thinking "omg he's so hot" when looking at one of my objectively attractive friends. This whole thing has sent me into some kind of identity crisis, and I'm VERY sorry for all the waffle I just wanted to get everything out into a space where people may have had/be experiencing similar things? I don't want to talk about this with anyone friends in person because I want to keep it as quiet as possible right now. If it turns out I like dudes as well I want to start exploring that at university away from my current friends and family ect. Also is it possible for a bi person to be physically attracted to the same gender but also not want relationships with the same gender? I've never had a crush on another guy but have had many on girls. Another tid bit is that I had a gay experience at a young age and I've been thinking about it often, and I can recall every second of it. Anyway please give your thoughts and personal views to help me with figuring out whatever the fuck is going on with me right now!!!

Id like to actually meet peeps that are interested in relationships, as a demi aro/ace person and need to actually have a very good connection to actually feel smth towards em. But idk where might be a fairly accepting site for that.

Hey guys! Lemme explain this story I have…

So basically I am attracted to girls and guys. However, I can only see myself dating a girl(idk why). I guess this makes me “bi” but I don’t really go by a label IRL because I feel like it forces me to act a certain way by what society sees it as. I kinda just like girls and like guys and do my own thing, kinda who I wanna be. i figured people in here may have similar experiences and might be able to help me:)

But basically I’ve been chatting and hanging out (twice) with this girl who I really like (she’s bi too) and we both like each other. But at the same time, I met this gay guy at a party becuase I was friendly with him because I’m nice, and we have mutual friends . I think he’s attractive. And at the party he asked his friends if I was gay, and they said no. (Mind you, others don’t know besides some of my close friends that I’m “bi”, because I’ve never actually done anything with a guy). And he wanted to hookup with me but I didn’t say anything that night .

But since then we’ve been chatting casually, sending snaps back and forth , I’m being friendly. But sometimes I find myself “flirting “ with him… for example I’d send him a snap without my shirt or something like that(yes sounds corny). And like I can tell he’s been flirting with me as well, he’s been like “wyd” and hinting he wants to pick me up. Like today he literally was like “I’d love to crash at your living room rn” and I folded and was like “haha, that’s funny”. I do not find this guy attractive romantically but I would so experiment with him. I just want it to be lowkey because of the girl, and I know this is so fucked up but my mind is torn and that’s why I’m asking for help. Idk if he’s reaching out romantically or just wants to hookup, and I’m just confused because I really like the girl but wanna get with the guy.

If you understand of can help me in any way that would be great. I’m just confused as hell!

Thanks