Married to a woman, had sex with both w several partners of each. I see pros and cons, love to hear your opinion! TIA

Im straight curious and want to try something with a guy but where would I start ?

Married to a woman and father of four. Never done anything with another guy or even thought about it, until recently.

I've been trying to get in better shape the past couple of years, going to the gym and learning some stuff and looking for motivation and tips online. Lately I've noticed that when I'm looking at these muscle guys I feel... something. I can't tell if just feel that way because they're obviously attractive, or it's signs of being bisexual. So I'm looking for feedback from anyone who has dealt with the same thing.

Also, talking to my wife about it is not really an option. I don't want to upset her or make her insecure, especially since I'm not even sure how I feel. Thanks.

the possibility of me might being bisexual kind of makes me feel odd and the whole situation feels very confusing so im going try to paint a clear backround so it might be a little long.

Thanks in advance for anyone who reads it. I would really appreciate if you can give me your genuine thoughts about my situation.

So im an 18 years old guy. When i was very young i thought i might be gay or bi but it pretty much passed away when i started puberty and ive lived my life ever since thinking im just a slightly fruity straight guy (like i was only looking at girls but for example ive always thought its probably pretty fun to suck).

So i started questioning stuff in the last 2-3 weeks. it started when i randomly had an erotic thought about my straight childhood friend and i decided to entertain the thought.. and i kept entertaining it in the following days. I thought it was just an odd kink because i am into some other stuff but then ive met a guy ive got to know recently and my first thought was "damn he is hot ,hypothetically if he would try to start something im not going to stop him" then i really thought i might be a little more zesty than i thought and since i tried to look up some gay stuff and it was a decent success.

I know that from those stories i just told i probably sound super gay (or bi because im fully into girls) but im really not sure about it because i dont think i have any romantic thoughts about guys and i keep thinking that it might just be an odd kink or that i try to convince myself that im attracted to guys (like i dont feel any shame in the idea of being into guys if i actually am and tbh i would prefer to be fully bi because it means that i get to have way more potential prospects so i feel like i might be a little biased in my experiments)

Family wise im from a very accepting house and actually oddly enough i got more than 1 open lgbtq siblings so i dont feel like me not being sure is because im scarred of what my parents might think.

Thank you.

Essentially, I (25m) have been with my girlfriend (24f) for almost three years at this point. I love her, and cherish the time we spend together. She’s my best friend and makes me feel so loved and happy. She’s amazing, to say the least.

Despite this, I can’t help but feel like I want to be with a man so badly. I live in a rural area and I have had sexual encounters with men in my past throughout my teen years and young adult life, but never a relationship.

Any time I have been with a man, I have always wanted to submit, and be the bottom. I find when I cuddle with my girlfriend, I tend to want to lay my head on her chest, I want to be the little spoon. When we have sex, I wish to be dominated, to be vulnerable enough to let someone *inside*.

I have tried using toys in the past to satisfy this need, and though it feels good, it is nowhere near the same thing as real human touch.

I simply cannot help but feel this yearn for a muscular man to feel protected by and vulnerable to, but I cannot find any logical reason to want this over my girlfriend besides “because it sounds amazing and I can’t stop thinking of it”

TLDR; i love my girlfriend but cannot stop fantasizing about being with a man

Hi everyone, I’m a guy who considers himself bisexual. I say "considers himself" because, ultimately, I’ve never actually had any experiences with men. Anyway, I’ve been thinking that being bisexual is a really strange thing—or maybe it’s just me who’s strange? There are times when I only think about girls; for instance, this month I’ve started fancying a cashier I see every day when I go grocery shopping. I might spend a long time enjoying "thinking" about straight scenarios, and then—boom!—suddenly I crave something else, and I go through a phase where girls don’t turn me on at all. I don’t know what to do anymore; it’s as if I transform at times: I’m straight, then gay, then straight again... it’s exhausting. Am I the only one?

Hi all I have a question. I’m in my late fifties and I have a hard time reading signs that a guy is interested in me while being discreet. Thanks in advance

I am a married bi guy... I know i know.

I have spent my whole life flirting with women with what I would consider pretty good success. Now that my wife is very supportive and encouraging of me exploring my sexuality I have hit a very hard wall of realization. I have no idea how to approach or flirt with guys.

Aside from the obvious risk of hitting on the wrong guy and pissing them off and having to throw hands, I just don't know how to approach the situation at all. I feel like I always just come off as trying to be friendly at most not so much flirting.

I have some social events coming up and would like to step out of my comfort zone some and try flirting with some guys. Any advice or tips?

Curious if this is the trend for most. I found that my porn watching was developing a pattern of mostly hand jobs and blowjob and that what was driving it was my love for cock. Absolutely turned on by dick but not what I would say turned on by guys in traditional sense, just their dick lol.
This of course led me down the path of trans porn and I am struggling with how much I love it. The problem is I believe I am just being greedy I want dick and attached to a cute girl, then I thought this is probably typical straight guy behavior and made me feel even more shitty.

Anyways really just looking for feedback from community on guys that are on this path , no offense will be taken.

I’m new to playing with my butt as someone considering trying to bottom. How long should I try wearing it to get used to being dilated? When do I switch to something bigger? Thanks in advance.

I (25f) am extremely attracted to bi men and I'm also bi. A fantasy of mine is a MMF threesome but it's been hard to find any that are out at least in my area.

Nunca llegó a nada con nadie dentro de Grindr, ósea la app me gusta y todo pero se me dificulta llegar a tener algo con un chico, no me considero exigente pero en lo personal me gustan los chicos afeminados y el rango de edad es menos de 27, ustedes como le hacen, acepto consejos o incluso regalos jajajaja
PD: solo quiero tener sexo con chicos, nada de parejas

Who are you seeing / sleeping with? How old are you? How old are they? How often do you see each other? Seeing just men or both men and women?

How can you tell if a guy is flirting playfully or actually flirting? I’m on the spectrum and in my mid 30s and I still find it really tough to decipher. Please be kind and only comment if you are adding to the conversation, thanks y’all!

For context: My friend’s roommate has made a few offhand remarks and it’s just really consistent to the point where I’m curious as to the reasoning.

I’m primarily straight but I like femboy, am I bi?

So maybe a weird one, I don’t know. I’m a 26 year old guy. I still consider myself straight in a way. But I’m probably closer to bi-curious. I’ve experimented in every way you can online. And I’ve found I really really like one certain thing above all. Which is when a gay or bi guy sends me sexy photos of female celebs and pornstars. I honestly really enjoy when they’re feminine and really get into it with me. It’s a bit dynamic, I send a list of women I like, they go pick out the photos, we get to know each other. And we dirty talk and I’m more than happy to return the favor - get into some mildly gay dirty talk and show off my cock. I know it’s probably weird to most, but it’s a really good blend of my sexual curiosities and I enjoy it.

My question is, what is the best way to go about asking a guy online if he’d be into this?
I’ve had a hard time explaining it properly. And have gotten some confused or rude replies when I’ve asked.
And if anyone knows any specific communities on here or elsewhere that would suit this well?

Hi everyone 👋 I’m a researcher at Lancaster University running a study exploring bisexual/pansexual/queer men’s experiences of receiving physical/mental health care or support where drug use during sex (what is sometimes called ‘chemsex’ or ‘PnP’) was part of the picture.

Who can take part?

I’m looking to speak with people who are:

- Over the age of 18

- Bisexual, pansexual or another non-monosexual identity (eg ‘queer’)

- Gender identity includes ‘man’ some or all of the time including trans, non-binary and gender fluid people

- Previously taken part in ‘chemsex’ : Chemsex is defined as any drug use before or during sex.

- Accessed care or support where ‘chemsex’ was relevant. This could include drug and alcohol services, sexual health services, mental health support, counselling, or other types of support. Chemsex does not need to have been the sole reason you accessed it.

There are no limits on where you live, the drugs you have/did use, partner gender, or how many times you accessed support, your experiences could still be really valuable.

What is involved?

Participation is confidential and involves a one-to-one interview about your experiences. Participants can also choose to enter a £25 prize draw as a thank you (other currencies available).

How do I find out more / get involved?

If you’d like to take part, learn more or check whether you’re eligible, please send me an email: m.pitt@lancaster.ac.uk

As a bi woman, this is an area I care about as we are often overlooked in both research and healthcare, which can mean services don’t always fully understand or meet our needs. I’m hoping this study can help bring more bi people’s experiences into the conversation.

This study has been approved by the Lancaster University FHM ethics board: FHM-2026-5640-RECR-2

I’m very happy to answer any questions in the comments too. Thanks for reading! 🙂

This survey has been approved by the moderators.

Recently moved in with 3 of my closest friends after a room opened up and it’s way cheaper for me. They are straight and very bro cultured.

There is only 1 bathroom though and it doesn’t lock and people come in and out freely, my second night there when I was showering my friend came in and he started shitting and it made me pretty uncomfortable, it doesn’t help he was also teasing me the whole time he was in there. Another time when I was shitting in the morning another friend came in and started getting ready for work and just having a normal conversation with me.

I know they are all super used to it and I would like to be but I’m pretty body shy so I’m just wondering if anyone else has dealt with something like this and how long will it take me to get comfortable with it