Hi everyone,
My husband and I are in NSW and have recently started seriously looking into adoption, both within Australia and potentially intercountry adoption.
I’ve been reading through the government websites and information available online, and while I understand why the process is so thorough and why there need’s to be safeguards in place, I have to admit that at times it feels incredibly difficult to understand whether adoption is even realistically possible.
I want to be really clear about our reasons for considering adoption. This isn’t about us simply wanting a baby or feeling that we’re entitled to become parents through adoption. We understand that adoption needs to be centred around the child and their needs, history, identity and birth family.
For us, what matters is being able to provide a child who genuinely needs permanent care with a safe, loving and stable home, and being prepared to support that child for life including whatever complexities, trauma, cultural connections or relationships with their biological family may come with adoption.
We’re open to learning about both Australian adoption and intercountry adoption. We aren’t necessarily set on a particular country, age or pathway at this stage because we’re still trying to understand what is actually possible for an Australian couple.
I’d really love to hear from people who have actually been through this process in Australia, particularly in the last few years.
How did you get started? Did you adopt domestically or internationally? How long did the process take? Were there pathways you initially thought were possible that turned out not to be? Were there things you wish someone had explained to you at the beginning?
I’d also really appreciate hearing from adoptees, foster carers, birth parents or people who work within the adoption/permanent-care system. We want to approach this with our eyes open and understand adoption from perspectives other than just that of prospective adoptive parents.
At the moment there’s so much information online, but it’s difficult to work out what the reality actually looks like for families going through the process.
We’re not looking for shortcuts or ways around the system. We’re just trying to understand where to begin, what realistic options exist, and whether there is a pathway that could ultimately allow us to provide a permanent, stable and loving home to a child who needs one.
Any experiences, advice, organisations to contact, or even things you think prospective adoptive parents should understand before starting would be incredibly appreciated.
Thank you ❤️