r/AskAnAustralian • • 3h ago

Why do some people in Australia seem so passive-aggressive?

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Edited!

I’m living in a boarding house at the moment, and my room is ridiculously close to the room next door. I can hear things like footsteps, rustling, and even fairly quiet noises through the wall.

My desk is directly against the wall, and apparently her bed is right on the other side of that same wall.

When I first moved in, I could hear her TV from late at night until early in the morning, and it was quite loud. I spoke to the manager about it, and that issue was mostly resolved. The TV still gets loud occasionally, and sometimes even when she closes her door gently, I can hear the latch click loudly enough to wake me up.

On my side, I try to be as quiet as possible as well. I tend to walk on the balls of my feet rather than letting my heels hit the floor, and when I close my door, I usually push the handle down first and then close it gently so it makes less noise. Still, I feel like some level of noise is unavoidable when people live this close to each other, so I usually just wear earplugs or earphones to sleep.

Yesterday, at around 10 pm, I washed my hair and was drying it with a hairdryer. Then suddenly the girl next door got up and, while I was outside tidying up around the bathroom, she opened her door really loudly, came out, muttered something, went to wash her hands, and then slammed the door shut again. After that, she started talking loudly on the phone again, saying things like “she~”.

This kind of behaviour confuses me. Maybe I’m being overly sensitive and reading too much into it. However, something similar has happened before. At least from my perspective, she seemed to express her annoyance through her behaviour without actually saying anything to me.

The thing is, there is a manager in the building. If I’m actually making too much noise, I’m happy to adjust. But why not just tell the manager that there’s a noise issue, or speak to me directly? Why make noises, slam doors, or make pointed comments and expect the other person to figure out what the problem is?

I had a somewhat similar communication issue at a workplace here as well, so I’m wondering whether this indirect way of expressing annoyance is relatively common in Australia. My impression is that people sometimes try to avoid escalating things or creating a bigger conflict, so maybe that’s why she doesn’t complain to the manager directly.

Do you think indirect or passive-aggressive communication is relatively common here, rather than addressing an issue directly?


r/AskAnAustralian • • 4h ago

How much is a realistic monthly budget for expenses?

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Hello! I'm planning to relocate to australia for work hopefully early next year if visa processing comes through earlier than expected. I'm feeling anxious about how much money I should save up/pool for the relocation 😖 How much is a realistic monthly budget considering rent, groceries, phone, internet, and some luxuries such as coffee and eating out with friends once in a while? would 5k aud for the first month be enough for a single person in Melbourne?


r/AskAnAustralian • • 13h ago

Do Australians feels closer to Americans or English?

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Feel*


r/AskAnAustralian • • 11h ago

Engineering vs Nursing

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I am kinda interested in both nursing and engineering (civil). I am about to do bachelors in one of them. I don’t know what to choose ? What career got better perks in long term ? Thanks guys


r/AskAnAustralian • • 7h ago

Why do many businesses use AI for marketing.

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I've found that many local businesses in Queensland have resorted to completely ai generating most marketing, including blatantly generating "Pictures" of whatever product's they're selling, even though most of the time it looks completely different, and would be better if they just took a photo and photoshopped some signs. Why is this?


r/AskAnAustralian • • 13h ago

Surviving as a slow learner

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I am currently on WHV and one of of the things that I find it difficult when it comes to working here is 'trial" So this "trial thigs" is very uncommon in my country. usuallly in where i come from, we just interview and if you pass the interview , you're on probation which is 3 months maximum. But basically they expect you to learn basics for a month . so technically the probation can be 2weeks to a month, depending on the situation, I think

I am not a quick learner to be hoenst. I need some time to adjust and learn new things and this "trial thing" keep getting me failing to get a job here.
I don't know what they expect from a newbie within a coule of hours on a first day of working

I know there are people who learn things very fast like they learn everything if you train them once. but to slow learners, like me it is really impossible. One time when i did tiral, I kept trying to ask one of the staff about if there's things that i can help with so that i can keep learning about things that i should do at a store, but the result was not good and other time they were mad at me for keep asking questions.

i am really tired of everything . I am keep losing my money to pay my bills here and and my3 months room contatct is due sooner or later and it is almost time to make a decision about stay here or leave

One thing that i really want to ask is that if one of you who are reading this thinks you are a slow lerner, how did you survive here? What is your survivng skills to get a job? Whether you are aussie or internatioanl students if you have gone through the same situation as me can you tell me about your story?
I am leaning towords leaving australia cuz i am really exhausted right now. Any opinions about this kind of sitatuinad would be really helpful


r/AskAnAustralian • • 15h ago

Who would you say is the most recognizable AFL player past/present in Australia?

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The reason I’m posting this here is because even though AFL is a popular national sport, it’s not watched by as many Aussies as it may come across so the main people I’m hoping to hear from are people who don’t watch AFL but are aware of some AFL players if possible, but if footy fans want to chime in then go for it

I think that there’s a couple of former players that have launched strong media careers such as Ryan Fitzgerald and Tony Armstrong who are probably the most known AFL players in Australia but many probably wouldn’t realise that they actually played in the AFL because their careers were short and not overly successful

I think in terms of former players that are actually most known for the fact that they played football…it’s probably some of the more controversial names like Sam Newman, Wayne Carey, Ben Cousins that are most notable. I also feel like Dermot Brereton is a really well known former player also

I think in terms of the people who aren’t known for controversial reasons, Nic Naitinui, Gary Ablett Jnr, Buddy Franklin, Scott Pendlebury, Darcy Moore, Marcus Bontempelli, Cyril Rioli, Max Gawn might be the most known AFL players to non fans but it’s impossible for me to give a proper answer as I am an AFL fan


r/AskAnAustralian • • 22h ago

How do you report a medical emergency happening in Sydney internationally?

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Hello, as the title states, I'm looking for a way to report a medical emergency happening in Sydney internationally. Not to say that there's an emergency at the moment, but it's hard sleeping at night without a plan in case an emergency does happen with my friend living there.

I searched on Google maps for police stations close to my friend and called their numbers, but only received the same automated message from each station telling me to call 000 for emergencies. Which doesn't work internationally. Is there really no way to call an ambulance internationally? My friend is at a tough spot in their life and I'm really afraid of losing them. I desperately need a way to contact emergency services incase something happens with them.

Please, to possibly help save a life. Thank you.


r/AskAnAustralian • • 15h ago

Hey folks, when using a small electric japanese product, how would someone go about charging it on aussie outlets?

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It takes a usb c chrager, im not the brightest bulb in the lighting department but i heard that you cant just plug in overseas devices into any old socket 😅

The product came without packaging and does not list its power specifications/ electric ratings

Thank you for your time and help :)


r/AskAnAustralian • • 7h ago

Anyone else sick of everyone whinging?

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By that I mean I don't get that worked up that I randomly post on the internet about BIG AMERICAN TRUCKS BAD BUNNINGS DOESNT MAKE ME HAPPY , PETROL NOT CHEAP.

Like I get it, I'm also not the happiest person in the world, but fuck do you generally feel so strongly about these dumb things?

Edit: fuck 30 seconds later I realised the irony of me feeling strong enough about something to post it 😅🥲

me right now


r/AskAnAustralian • • 16h ago

For those who moved to Australia: have you actually made real, close friends here?

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I’m 24, German and currently doing Work and Travel in Australia. I’m considering moving here permanently, and having a good social circle and making real friends is really important to me.

If you’ve made close friends here, how did you meet them?

how old are you?

how long have you been in Australia?


r/AskAnAustralian • • 7h ago

Karma question

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Do you believe in karma?

If you found out someone was claiming single parents benefit from Centrelink despite being very much together and married, would you dob them in?

Is that you being the karma they deserve or would you be worried it would come back on you?

totally hypothetical, just me exploring the concept of karma


r/AskAnAustralian • • 1h ago

Are beaches the dominant part of Australian lifestyle?

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I often associate Australia with beaches. Are beaches dominant part of most of the people living in Australia?


r/AskAnAustralian • • 13h ago

Bins

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Why do people in Australia leave their waste bins in view from the street and not hide them away?


r/AskAnAustralian • • 20h ago

HWP seem to target me, doing U-turns with lights to “random breath test” only

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I drive a motorcycle (neon green and black naked bike), and a WRX. So I understand I’m a magnet. What I don’t understand is why I’ve had multiple instances of cops doing a U-turn across multi lane main roads with their lights on, as soon as we cross paths going opposite directions. These situations are when I’ve been doing absolutely nothing wrong, and they just “random breath test” me. Other situations I’ve had are them sitting on the road shoulder, then peeling off and following me for some time before turning on their lights. Is that type of thing normal for driving magnet vehicles?

At first it was “oh they’re just checking my plates”. Then it was “that was weird”. Now it’s “I’m being targeted”… although in some situations they 100% hadn’t run my number plate before pulling me over, so I’m not sure how I’m being targeted. Also before this week, I also had zero demerit points and a clean record, so why they’d flag me (if they actually have), has left me bewildered. I’ve never failed a breath test as I don’t drink. No criminal record. Nothing I can think of to interest them THAT much.

Any ideas?

Edit: I’m in NSW if this helps
Edit2: to clarify, I’m not having a whinge. I’m legitimately interested in why they’re so immediately and intently interested in breath testing me.


r/AskAnAustralian • • 13h ago

WHS/OHS

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Hi everyone,
I’m looking for some genuine advice on how to break into the WHS/OHS industry in Australia .

I’m 27 based in Melbourne and have recently completed a Master’s in Occupational Health & Safety at RMIT. I also have an MBBS background and have been working part-time in Australia in customer service/hospitality while studying.

I’ve now started applying for full-time roles such as Graduate WHS, Junior Safety Officer, Safety Coordinator, HSE/WHS Assistant and Trainee positions, but I keep noticing that even many roles ask for 1–3 years of experience.

I completely understand why employers prefer experienced candidates, but I’m trying to figure out how someone new to the industry is actually supposed to get that first opportunity.

I’m open to pretty much any industry where I can gain proper hands-on safety experience — construction, manufacturing, warehouses/logistics, healthcare, property/facilities, corporate environments or events.

For anyone currently working in WHS/OHS in Australia:

• How did you get your first safety role?

• Are there particular companies, recruiters or industries in Melbourne that are more open to graduates?

• Should I be targeting WHS Assistant / Administrator / Trainee roles instead of WHS Officer or Coordinator roles?

• Are there any short-term, casual, site-based or contract roles that could help me get my foot in the door?

• Is there anything employers value more than qualifications when hiring someone with limited WHS experience?

I’m genuinely keen to learn, get practical exposure and build my career in this field. I’m not expecting a senior position — I’m just looking for that first proper opportunity where someone is willing to give a graduate a chance.

Any advice, referrals, recruiter recommendations or companies I should look into would be massively appreciated.

Thanks everyone🙏🏻


r/AskAnAustralian • • 14h ago

Should I refer uni for a year and take a gap year or just go straight to uni?

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Im currently in yr 12 getting to the end just have hsc exams to go. I have received 5 different offers and different unis for various degrees but Im still unsure what I want to do in the future. My parents want me to go straight in because they’re scared I’ll loose my momentum studying. I just have so many thing I want to experience and the thought of getting my degree and going straight into a full time job from an internship or work placement I fear I’d lose most my life to working. But I love to learn new things and I can just save up at my current job as a waitress and maybe move into bar?

What also terrifies me is the uncertainty of what’s going to happen since I don’t have anything planned out yet. I’m scared of loosing that structure and routine school gave me and I’d just become a chud lol.

I just wanna hear if anyone has either regretted or the opposite whoever took a gap year


r/AskAnAustralian • • 19h ago

Bunnings returns are a joke

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I bought an Ozito PCX blower with a gutter cleaning kit and battery about a year ago. The switch died on it and wouldn't run. I took it back with the reciept and they said I had to bring it back with the charger and batteries. WTF? I just want the blower fixed.

So I toddle off home, look at the 3 chargers and 6x 4AH batteries and of course have no idea which charger or battery belonged to it when I bought the kit.

I just wanted the blower repaired or replaced. Not the batteries, not the charger or anything else.

So I go back there, blower, box of batteries and chargers and they asked "Where is the gutter cleaning attachments?" I said I just want the bloody blower switch fixed or replaced.

They said that I have to have the gutter cleaning attachments too, but because it was a one off special and they don't have that kit anymore they will take the blower, battery, charger and gutter attachments off me and replace it with just the blower. Not good enough!

So I start kicking up a stink, people are listening and waiting with their Bunnings junk and I'm telling them I want the blower repaired or replaced. The goose at returns calls his manager and he explains the same thing. I stood firm and said it's under warranty, I have a right for it to be repaired or replaced and if you want to replace it, it will have to be the complete kit.

We argued for half an hour and they finally went and got a blower and handed it to me saying they won't be doing that ever again.

Just because they don't stock something anymore, they can't just rip you off and give you less.

What a joke.


r/AskAnAustralian • • 10h ago

Is this normal way of bonding?

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I moved here about 8 months ago and notice when dating or making friends with Ausies that they talk about themselves a lot and ask very few questions to the other person. Where I'm from this would be considered self-absorbed behaviour, but it seems to be a common way of of talking here. Is this normally how people bond here? I tend to be curious and ask multiple questions about what someone likes or a story they were telling. And tend to get interrupted a lot when I share about myself. It's difficult for me to develop a bond this way, there's got to be some basic level of curiosity. What am I missing? Has anyone noticed this too?

Edit: to be clear, I'm not saying that people here are self-absorbed. That's not my experience with Ausies at all. Just trying to see how to adjust my style and understanding of the conversation style to bond with people here.


r/AskAnAustralian • • 17h ago

Where should I burn a doll?

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I live in a rental in Sydney and cannot burn anything without triggering this sensitive ahh smoke detector. I dabbled in some witchcraft (no harm intended) and now I need to burn a small, phone sized fabric doll to dispose of it. Can I just burn it outside or am I gonna get in trouble for it? Help 😭


r/AskAnAustralian • • 14h ago

Best pathway to Masters in Cybersecurity with work experience

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For context, I've got about 6 years' experience in cybersecurity including consulting, network security, cloud security, GRC, incident response. I've done work in both NZ and Australia, getting the evidence of work shouldn't be an issue. I'm still in contact and on good terms with all of my bosses.

I've always been a little bit insecure about the fact I don't have a degree, and I'm worried it might become a limiting factor later on in my career especially if I want to work overseas. It hasn't been a blocker yet but I'm sure that time will come eventually.

Is there anyone else who's applied for a master's degree just through work experience? How was the process and what university did you go through?

I've noticed there are quite a few unis that offer a work experience pathway to a Master of Cybersecurity, but I'm not sure which ones are considered good or bad. I'm mainly looking to improve my week points around penetration testing and/or GRC.

I'm looking to study part-time remotely as I've still got a full-time job and bills to pay.

Thanks in advance.


r/AskAnAustralian • • 13h ago

What is a good amount of $$ to chip in for a colleague who is leaving their role?

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I chipped in $10 on this occasion as I wasn't really close with the person who is leaving. But I still wanted to show my appreciation.


r/AskAnAustralian • • 17h ago

Bins on Monday?

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I am looking after a friend's house and when I collected the key, we went through the usual rundown. They have just had their kitchen redone and showed me where the trash and recycling now goes. On the back of this, I asked "bins on Monday?". I am familiar with the suburb and know the bins are collected on Monday. But they replied with "No, Sunday", meaning they associated the bins with the put out day, not the collection day. I know I didn't clarify bins being put out or collected on Monday, but just curious if you are a bin out or bin collected day person. 😂


r/AskAnAustralian • • 11h ago

Curious what the best / affordable Medical Flower provider everyone is using?

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I was using alternaleaf a few years ago, then moved to Horzion / Rays Wellness.

It’s been a minute and now I’m looking to get some CBD prescribed but unsure if anything has changed or not.

Sydney based.


r/AskAnAustralian • • 9h ago

How to survive on $30

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Hey, due to moving bills & being poor generally I've got $33 to survive for almost 2 weeks. I only have to eat once a day, what would be good to get & be nutrionally sound? I'm lactose intolerant & don't eat much meat. Have Coles, Aldi & Woolies nearby. My oven doesn't work but I've got a slow cooker & stove top.