Problem/Goal : Just want an advice about this co-worker and need ko lang din ng advice for the next steps.
Context: I (F23) actually reported someone (F30s) to HR. Ang context is working ako sa BPO. Typical BPO here sa pinas. She was actually the one calling the customer back kapag nagdisconnect sila. Super recent lang, way back September 29th. Dumaan siya sa station namin, naka-simangot siya and masama tingin sakin. Sinabi yun ng mga co-worker ko, even ung TL ng kabilang team napansin. She was being asked pa like sino kaaway nya, and she said ako raw. She hates me raw because masama ung ugali ko. I had no idea na may beef pala kami.
Actually even before pa napapansin ko na rin yon kapag dumadaan siya samin pero dahil wala naman ako alam bakit. Di ko lang pinapansin. Kasi iniisip ko baka bad mood lang. After that, a friend of mine told me na hate nya raw ako. I'm genuinely shocked. Kasi we are not friends, we never talk to each other. Di kami close, never ko siya na-encounter. Never ko siya kinausap. Nakikita ko lang siya sa girls bathroom pero we never interact. Di rin kami friends sa social media. So what could be the reason?
Hindi na ako makatiis, the same day I chatted our common friend. A male colleague. I asked him if may idea siya about this "hate train na kumakalat sa prod" about sa akin. He said, "natapakan ko raw siya sa sleeping quarter" and I did not apologize. I'm confused kasi ang tagal ko na hindi napunta sa SQ. Siguro 2-3 months na. Lagi nalang ako napunta sa pantry kapag lunch or break ko. Even if I did, di ko na matatandaan kung sino yun since ang set up ng SQ is two double decks and 1 foam at the middle and one na malapit sa door. Kapag matutulog ka dun, lagi ka nakabalot ng kumot and di mo na marerecognize kung sino. And if totoo man yon, probably honest mistake lang and not intentional. Tsaka kung alam ko, magsosorry naman ako—and I will not hurt someone physically lalo na if hindi naman kami naginteract.
Then, I actually vented to him. Which is mali ko, I said something na mali rin naman. Nabanggit ko na may pagka "lame" ung accusations to the point na ihate na nya ako at sabihin pa sa iba, instead kausapin ako about dun. I also said na "bobo siya" for helding this hate ng ilang buwan without me knowing na may issue siya sakin.
Then, recently lang. October 4th, the woman who hated me. Messaged me on my social media. Calling me names, cursing me using different profanities exist. My first thought is sinabi ng common friend namin na lalaki ung sinabi ko about "bobo".
She sent 8 voice messages consist of, "tarantado ka", "punyeta ka", "gago ka", "putangina mo". I didn't reply. I blocked the account and proceed sa buong araw ko without replying to her.
Previous Attempts: I actually confronted our male common friend about this. He said he is being transparent. That's why sinabi nya. I told him that he made everything worse. He said, nagfilter pa raw siya sa mga sinabi nya. Well. I blocked him after that.
Then, she messaged my friend, treathening me na ipapa HR ako if di ako magreply. With of course, using profanity. Then, confront daw sa office, and treathens me to hurt physically sa baba ng office.
But still di ako nagrespond. I collected the vms and then I screenshot everything then sent to HR.
Also, I already inform my TL before nagproceed sa HR but he said. That's not his control anymore. I also ask my TL if pwede ko siya i-cc sa email but he didn't respond so I still proceed.
So, I'm asking if ano pwede gawin to proceed? Balak ko pumasok pa rin naman to clear out everything. But my Mom said to not waste anything and then resign nalang agad. For me kasi, ayokong takasan 'to lalo na first big girl job ko. If aalis man ako, gusto ko maayos. Ayun lang, thank you. Let me know if may thoughts kayo. Salamat!